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Olamsoh: Correct guy �� 4 Likes |
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I'm not sure if any woman has an idea what feminism 'means', seeing as it's nuanced in meaning. What use is the designation when every self-identifying feminist gives a different definition of what it means to them. Men are not mind readers and so adopting an automatic defensive stance or hostility when they disagree on meaning, is frankly speaking - self-defeating. Rather than educate, such hostility on the part of the woman will antagonize both the woman and the man, thus nothing meaningful is achieved but wasted time and energy. 1 Like 2 Shares |
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nairalee: I �% agree with you. Who gives someone that level of intimate business access and expects them not to exploit it in one way or another - even if it is more indirect. It's as if some of these people think history is there solely for entertainment. 4 Likes |
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DisGuy: Why not try Money Matters Hotels - https://hotels.moneymatters.com.ng You can't go wrong Cc. Zehner |
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presidency: How credible is this source? Is it bluff/propaganda? You know, the whole "fake it to you make it" ish. This could be true, but there are several reasons as to why it may be false. Foreign investment sentiment for Nigeria has been low throughout Buhari's tenure; moreover many are tentatively on the sidelines waiting to see how the elections will turn out before committing. For what it's worth, World Bank data for the period 1991-2015 had demonstrated a year-on-year loss; in other words Nigeria, according to the data, has been paying more out to investors than it has received. Such losses aren't sustainable. There has been mooted investment in Oil and other areas but $66 billion is questionable to say the least. In any case these investments seldom translate into job opportunities for Nigerians; even where they do, such jobs are inherently unstable, as can be seen with Jumia job cuts etc. |
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GoodFaith: Correct! that will teach him a lesson! People must be held accountable for their actions, come hell or highwater! 1 Like |
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BecomeALandLord: Great write up. I think there are more relatives guilty of this in Nigeria than not. In many cases the driving force is western material goods and/or laziness to hustle. Laziness and rent-seeking mentality is endemic. Whilst I don't believe in karma, these family members are playing themselves in the long-run. The strong irony is that many will ask "oh naija which way o, which way", not realising that they're a part of the problem. 1 Like |
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sbashir10: Precisely |
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neoOduduwa: Ok very interesting report, but Oga Osinbajo et al, would do well to reveal the annual investment outflow(s) for this year. Maybe, just maybe you'll observe a net loss; something which is unsustainable but absent from this report. Hmmmm.... CC. Zehner |
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Adamsberlin: Yeah and it's pretty ironic that they're using Islamic/sharia-compliant financing for it. |
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Dzjerri: I know you can apply for membership to the institute of bankers and there are other minor banking qualifications, but in my opinion you may want to consider more technical qualifications like ACCA/CIMA which are accounting-based, or CFA (Chartered Financial Analyst) which is banking/finance-based, and will enable you to value financial instruments among other things. Put it like this, there are so many people trying to take the 'easy' way out. It's better to be stronger than your potential competition, and the above qualifications will better position you. I work in this industry presently and most of the retail banks, I believe, will look at automating operations over the next few years which will reduce the number of jobs. Therefore, those with technical qualifications will be stronger than those without. I wish you well. 2 Likes 1 Share |
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Sholaqe: I think you have posed a great question. Definitions of intelligence include quick thinking, deep knowledge of a number of areas of life, wit, humour and mental speed, among others. I'd say that it can be looked at a number of ways, but in brief here are some of the categories that said people may fall into: - Superficial intelligence: In my own experiences, many ladies I've spoken to from different backgrounds and different views on life, tend to be attracted to a guy being articulate/knowing how to speak 'well', and knowing one or two token facts, or pretending to be a deep-thinker. On the latter, almost all girls I know have rarely seen through this facade - Worldly knowledge: This can appear in many different forms, and it may be someone demonstrating pretty useless facts like when the British Empire began colonising countries etc., or when the federal reserve started. Once he or she starts using big grammar like "the ideological tilt was permeable, thus avoiding contemporaneous ambiguity", or "unrelenting peregrination pursuant to peripatetic philosophy", this is enough to have their bf/gf salivating - common sense: I personally think it is a minority of people who truly appreciate this; if there were more that were appreciative of this, many front page posts would no longer appear there. In any case, it's someone who is mostly rationale, not quick to anger, resolving arguments/disagreements amicably, being solution-oriented etc. when one receives a setback in life. I hope the above helps give you an idea of what people mean by 'intelligence'. The truth is that many seeking 'intelligence' in a bf/gf, are unable to recognise it when it is staring them in the face. It's up to you OP to select what form(s) of intelligence you truly appreciate. |
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wallace1: It's a good question but it depends on what part of the country you're based in. If you say so, or the locations that you're considering, I can offer an insight. |
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rinzaugustine: Thank you for your kind words, God bless. 2 Likes |
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DanXplore: Guy first and foremost, well done on getting the scholarship offer. Secondly, you definitely have a dilemma on your hands, but on the balance of things I'd recommend you go to the UK and study the MSc. From reading your write-up, I'm personally confident you could get similar jobs in Nigeria to what you currently have, upon graduation. Furthermore, you may even secure a better position, courtesy of your additional degree. On the subject of the UK, I am a janded Nigerian, born and mostly bred there. If you want to be able to stay in the UK through a sponsored-visa after your degree, you will absolutely have to use style: If I was you, I'd search on different companies that work in chemical engineering. I would then contact them and offer to work for them for free. You use the opportunity to increase your exposure to the work, even if you have to do some errands that you'd rather not do, like making tea, grabbing lunch for Oga etc. If your attitude is good, they may offer part-time paid employment after a short while during your course, and at which point they are pretty likely to sponsor you. Furthermore, once you find a gig initially, whether paid or unpaid, you can simultaneously seek paid work with other firms, as you're not just bringing them experience, but you're also demonstrating commitment and integrity by working for the first employer for free. My advice will be to really analyse their operations in depth, understand the processes, and if possible, identify some shortcomings. This will likely result in them seeing you as a valuable member of their team. When you gist with them on lunch/recreational breaks, ensure you build a rapport; ask questions about 'UK' culture, find common ground subjects to discuss. Initially you may want to eavesdrop on casual conversations and this will help you in building healthy relationships with your colleagues. The reason I say this is because 'Brexit' is an ongoing issue, and the main reason for it is white poor and average people are angry with the UK powers, they feel marginalised, and so their vote last June was like a collective tantrum; just one done by adults. They are irrational scared of black people 'stealing' non-existent jobs (to believe this is true requires real imagination) and by you expressing an interest in their 'culture', they'll begin to see you as one of them. When it comes to seeking visa sponsorship after graduation, it becomes easier when you have a number of colleagues, particularly oyibo ones, rooting for you. If you gain the exposure from working paid or unpaid, depending on how hard you work, you may be able to build a consultancy service for potential clients, producing reports/research and being paid fees in a self-employed capacity. This is another potential way of securing an entrepreneur visa. I hope you can see the potential from what I've shared. Trust me either approach you take may be valuable, but it's the manner in which you approach either opportunity which is what counts most. I wish you well with your eventual decision and if you want to ask any further questions, feel free to PM me etc. 5 Likes 2 Shares |
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EmekaBlue: A woman who genuinely believes in you and is not out for a 'chop belle clean mouth' situation, may be good for a sportsman. In football, intelligent coaches and managers used to tell young players who had recently secured a contract and were playing good football to find a wife. The rationale behind this was that you're more likely to start a family earlier, so this will help increase the likelihood that you'll make smarter decisions like not getting involved in alcoholism, recreational drug use, gambling, sleeping around (limited time and energy), and you're more likely to invest your money wisely; going over and above to ensure that your investments pay off, well after your career is finished. Unfortunately, the above advice is outdated/anachronistic, in my opinion. The reason for this is that globally speaking, people are more materialistic, and so the women who successful sportsmen are likely to attract, will be out to help you spend your money on useless, transient needs that she'll get sick of quickly, all the while destroying her home and potentially compromising her children's future in the longer-run. After all in recent times, we've heard of women sacrificing school fees for the sake of buying Brazilian weaves, and this is recent times; this occurred even when the husband didn't have anything near 'bastard' money; imagine the potential damage that could've been sustained if he did. Speaking from experience, if you're coming up, or close to coming up, the majority of girls you'll attract have an agenda which often diverges from the man's best interests (gold-digging in crude terms). Ironically, she'll distract you, giving your competitors' an advantage, and will then lose her attraction for you, as the same thing which brought her to you, is no more. Meanwhile, she'll be too engrossed in fulfilling her agenda, and in the course of doing so, not realise the damage she has caused. AJ has the right thoughts in mind and I wish him well. Ps. in case anyone is offended, the above was not meant to paint women in a negative light, but rather to offer a pragmatic insight into the dilemmas many sportmen face. CC. Zehner 3 Likes 2 Shares |
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Shelloween: Na so o. It's like they derive an orgasm/sexual pleasure from insults, especially calling others illiterate. Usually when you see their facial expression, there's so much passion evident. Let's not forget that after stealing, insulting people is Nigeria's No. 2 national sport. Cc. Zehner |
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Youngadvocate: Nice write-up; pretty insightful but there's things I'd like to share if you'd permit me. First and foremost, I think we can agree that your write-up is largely based on personal experiences which I respect. However, and in the nicest way possible, the name issue you cited is not nailed on fact; there are a great many Igbos in the diaspora with 'foreign/english names'. To fully appreciate this point, there is a need to delineate what is meant as 'diaspora'. I'm not going to go into the myriad diaspora theories, but by consensus, diaspora can be applied to Igbos that recently moved to the likes of the UK/US/Canada/Republic of Ireland etc., those that are third generation Igbos from the aforementioned group, those who are the descendants of enslaved Igbos who moved to Port Harcourt, Owerri, Arochukwu etc. in the late 1800s, as well as Igbos in Brazil, Jamaica, Trinidad, Haiti, and Barbados among others who still practice their own Igbo sub-culture. Anyone can feel free to disagree with the above, but based on my own worldview, I will aggressively assert that all of my sisters and brothers in the groups above, have as much a claim to Igbo heritage as anyone else, including the Nigerian-based colonisers of Igbo culture. On the subject of the 'Igbo' identity, please keep in mind that our group, in the context of modern history (circa 300 years) is very, very new. Prior to British influence and their super-imposition of identity politics (a curse which is every present today), we had many, many subgroups such as: - Anioma - Agbo - Aro - Edda - Ekpeye - Etche - Ezza - Ika - Ikwerre - Ikwo - Ishielu - Izzi - Mbaise - Mgbo - Ngwa - Nkalu - Nri-Igbo - Ogba - Ohafia - Ohuhu - Omuma - Onitsha - Oratta - Ubani - Ukwani And a few others. To fully appreciate the above, the amalgamation of 'subgroups' into the contemporary three major ethnic groups, is greatly influenced by Frederick Lugard and his colleagues in their quest to subjugate the people we now refer to as Nigerians. For further vivid examples, we have the Ijeshas, Oyos, Ijebus, Egbas, Aworis etc., that became the monolith that we now know as the Yoruba ethnic group. Furthermore, the 'hausas' also had their own groups such as the bazazzage (modern day Kano) and bakatsine (present day Katsina) to name two of many, and these people spent time killing themselves despite being Muslims, before the colonisers came in and forced them to become one 'Northern Nigeria', foreshadowing a programme of 'Northernisation', which included converting many non-Muslims in the North and middlebelt, to Islam in fairly recent times (circa last 60 years). Things get even more messier when you consider the Muslim Igbos in the Kano during the 1953/54 slaughters, and again in 1966, many of these men took hausa wives, raised their children as hausa, and even adopted variegated names like: 'Mallam Abdullahi Chucks', 'Muhammad Anyanwu' etc, and even assumed a hausa identity. They did not live in the sabon Gari quarters, but in the Kano old town and were accepted as Hausas, thus avoiding slaughter and theft of their personal effects/assets. I as an igbo in the diaspora (UK first generation), often have my identity called into question by many other 'insecure' igbos with a deep discontentment with their identity (and joblessness), trying to put me down as a means of feeling better about themselves, albeit momentarily. Ironically, as you can see from the above, I know more about the roots of the Igbo group than many of them, but for the sake of expediency, I keep schtum; after all if their partial ignorance helps them to sleep better at night then so be it. Please forgive the long write-up, but I felt compelled to contribute. Ps. Adamu, is not exclusively a hausa name. You have Yorubas, Igbo muslims, and other middle belters (both Christians and Muslims) that bear this name. CC. Zehner 2 Likes 2 Shares |
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fuckingAyaya: She may still be claiming "men are scum" after the fact. Yeye woman 6 Likes |
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Bishops10: The word "Bachelor' comes from the Latin word baccalareus' 1 Like |
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Keneking: Not all UK-based pikin are the offspring of politicians. It may not be intentional, but please don't spread untruths for bitter and ignorant folk who no get work, to jump onto. After all some of these people worship the ground that oyinbo/Asians/Lebanese etc. walk on, even though many of them come to plunder the country, but reserve their bitterness for people who look like them (and may have more to offer than being targets for amateur yahoo tricks) but have janded/yankee etc. accents. The irony is that janded/yankee etc. Nigerians are more likely to be of assistance to other Nigerians (whether in business or otherwise) than the hungry foreigners arriving on Nigerian shores, such as the Chinese/Lebanese/Indians who physically/verbally abuse Nigerians, or the oyinbo people that tell Nigerians to shut up when they're enjoying themselves in a Lounge. This may not apply to you personally, but for those that it applies to, I urge you to shed the slave-mentality. For what it is worth, the applicants that apply will most likely be recent grads with no money that are willing to take a risk and gain the exposure that comes with the opportunity. It is more common than you think and it is not due to their parents/significant others being able to foot their living expenses, but rather a calculated risk. CC. Zehner 1 Like 1 Share |
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skarlett: Hi, I hope you're good. To summarise what you've read, businesses and individual people that have money to invest, want the best return. Rather than keeping their money in a (restricted) savings accounts, it is better to purchase short-term debt issued by the government (or in some cases responsible big businesses). Once this debt has expired (usually 3 months), the people and businesses that have invested their money will get a better return than keeping their money in a savings account. I hope that makes sense. CC. Zehner 4 Likes 2 Shares |
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Husty: *BBW: 'Big beautiful women' |
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Khallyella: Aww this hadorable |
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mmb: Interesting comments on this thread, including the one about him being a coward for abandoning his people. I'm not sure if I would have used that term, but based on the events of history, it's impossible for me to argue against this. What people aren't taking into account are the real imperatives for the initial Biafra secession attempt. Whilst the slaughters/programs of 1953 and then 1966 as retribution for the unsuccessful coup attempt by Chukwuma kaduna nzeogwu underscored the need for a safe haven for igbos from the North, there are other factors which often aren't covered: Ojukwu as many know, was raised in the North and had hausa orientation; similar to Nzeogwu. Such was his orientation, he was well acquainted with their women, reportedly even fathering a hausa/igbo hybrid daughter. Furthermore, he was ajebutter and schooled at Kings College in Lagos, Epsom College in the UK (just outside of London and with very expensive school fees) and then from there attended the renown Oxford University (Lincoln college to be precise). As you can see from this, it is understandable why many questioned his igbo credentials. Now this fact may be a little less known, but Ojukwu's father was Louis Odimegwu Ojukwu who was a very wealthy man and the founder of the Nigerian Stock Exchange. When you consider that oil was found in Ologbiri LGA - in present day Bayelsa state (circa 1956), which incidentally was part of the original Biafran territory, you can see the 'delicious' opportunities that this presented for the Ojukwu family, especially when you consider all the oil blocks in this region which would have been theirs in the event of a successful secession. In considering all of the above, keep in mind that Ojukwu was educated to Master's level in the 1950s (unheard of for most Nigerians or people in general at that time), he was a very strategic and intelligent man, and there's no doubt that there would have been other key considerations beyond securing a safe haven for vulnerable igbos based in other parts of Nigeria. There's more to the above, but let's park it here for now. With regards to Nnamdi Kanu, I hate to say this but I am sceptical about his true motivations for the contemporary Biafran agitation. For one, he has made a number of aimless, provocative ramblings; perhaps this is to test his level of influence, then again who knows. However, would-be Biafrans should ask themselves what he has to offer them before throwing their weight behind him. What sound or remotely sensible economic policies has he proposed?? Meanwhile people are working themselves up into a frenzy, all in the name of identity politics. All I'll say is that make sure you know what you're getting in exchange for supporting him and my advice is to avoid being a 'political chess piece'; you're better than that. In closing, wars and civil unrests are ALWAYS about securing resources for the victors. If you consider British efforts in the early 19th century to secure Nigeria as a constituent part of the British empire, they were able to neutralise the Northerners, yorubas/midwesterners and the easterners (including Rivers/Bayelsa and Cross Rivers/Akwa Ibom before identity politics led to them assuming a 'south-south' identity) because of the more sophisticated weapons they produced in South London, UK (Woolwich Arsenal to be precise and their workers who manufactured the weapons were the first players for the team we now know as 'Arsenal'), and the motive was resource control. If we look at Ojukwu's efforts, this was motivated by resource control; any civil war (particularly in Africa) or colonial expansion recorded in the last 300 years, has always, always been about resource control. A new Biafra wouldn't bring about peace, but rather it would foreshadow more bloodshed and war; just take a cursory glance at the recently-created South Sudan and it becomes clearer what I'm referring to. CC. Zehner 9 Likes 3 Shares |
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celestialdamsel: This debate has come up a few times on a number of different mediums. I am not necessarily siding with guys that seek sex as "payment in kind" for providing a loan to a lady. However, the (female) borrower in question needs to keep something in mind: there's a thing called "quid-pro-quo" and realistically speaking as a decent rule of thumb, "there's no such thing as a free lunch"; in other words it is very uncommon for someone to help another person without something in return. Anyone that genuinely thinks it's sustainable to continually seek favours and never offer something (not necessarily sex) in return, genuinely and as a matter of priority, needs to have a serious rethink. If people are genuinely honest with themselves, such debates may recede or stop altogether. Let's keep the bigger picture in mind as much as possible. CC. Zehner 6 Likes 2 Shares |
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olatunjithomas: Guys are on the prowl for 'meat' wey dey chop with peppersoup. Wakaholic 's inbox will be flooded with DMs. Filled up and runneth over ![]() ![]() 1 Like 1 Share |
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HappyNigerian: This guy should take a good look at himself. Don't get me wrong he posts some thought-provoking content, but very, very recently he tried to yab ladies who show too much cleavage in their wedding gowns. I'm sure that showing off his torso is worse. Talk about trying to remove the spec out of brides' eyes when he has a beam in his own eye. CC. Zehner 2 Likes 2 Shares |
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