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Romance / Re: My Husband Cheated On Me by hurtin(f): 1:20pm On Feb 27, 2009 |
yemo777: Thank You. It's nice to hear some encouraging words since I said I'm going to continue my marriage with my husband. I do believe I'm a good Wife, as I'm fairly traditional (especially for a westerner), I do all the cleaning, cooking, washing, ironing, etc & hold down a full time (40hr) job. Iranoladun: My husband is fairly eager to start a family, But I asked him to wait a little while do to lack of funds, permanent work, etc. I've been to Nigeria 4 times and have met all his family, (I promise you he does NOT have another Wife / Child there). We send money home quite frequently due to his father passing after we got married, and his mum isn't really working much, or not getting paid enough to support herself and her 4 other children. I have no problems with taking care of "his" family, as they are my family now too My next task is to learn Igbo, so I can talk to all off them better I will however been enforcing less clubbing once we have our own children at home. Until then I'll have to start going with him every once in a while, as I wont be stopping him from going on his own. As to be fair he normally comes home to me every night, and doesn't really stop out all night or sleep over at a friends when he goes out clubbing. To All of you who have suggested my husband isn't getting enough "Nookie" in the bedroom please be fully aware that, that particular role is more that satisfied by me. So I won't be needing to step up my game in that department - |
Romance / Re: My Husband Cheated On Me by hurtin(f): 5:02pm On Feb 25, 2009 |
@ dremoney ur nationality's trippin innit? british/american, u no well, kilo nwa kiri?, who u dey dull? My mother is British, My Father is American. I was born in Kentucky, lived their for 6 yrs, then we moved to Yorkshire as my grandmother got ill and needed round the clock care from my mother. |
Romance / Re: My Husband Cheated On Me by hurtin(f): 4:58pm On Feb 25, 2009 |
sweetpain: Lol I'm a good girl There will be no getting back from me. I'm not a two timer, cheater or what ever else you want to call it. It's either in a relationship or not. |
Romance / Re: My Husband Cheated On Me by hurtin(f): 3:06pm On Feb 25, 2009 |
I didn't mind waiting to start a family. I'm only 28! As long as I have 1 - 2 children before I'm 35, I'll be very happy. |
Romance / Re: My Husband Cheated On Me by hurtin(f): 2:56pm On Feb 25, 2009 |
too_soon: No I was on the pill. Now I'm not. |
Romance / Re: My Husband Cheated On Me by hurtin(f): 2:47pm On Feb 25, 2009 |
sara j: To be completely honest, I Knew something was wrong (I had no idea what, just that something wasn't right) the night he'd done it , as I'd called him the morning after and he wasn't his normal self. Then a few days later he confessed it to me. I wouldn't of found out about the one night stand, had he not told me. As it hadn't happened in our local area nor was he with any of our friends when it happened. we'd slept together the once before he'd told me. So I suggested the GUM Visit - to be safe! Then we had to wait for 10days to pass before we could get tested. And we'd both got Chlamydia, all other tests came up clear. So I think I'd know if something was wrong - if it happened again - Even if I didn't know what the problem was. |
Romance / Re: My Husband Cheated On Me by hurtin(f): 12:39pm On Feb 25, 2009 |
I have read everyones reply. And I'd like to thank everyone for their input. I've made the decision to stay with my husband. And put this part of my life behind me, look to the future with my husband, starting our family. I do love him dearly and deep down I believe it's worth fighting for. Marriages aren't supposed to be easy, especially a mixed race & mixed culture one! I'm glad I asked for people views, at least it gave me the chance to hear other people and take opinions on board before making mine. I feel good about my choice (It's me who will live with it), Now I must forget the past, and look towards the future |
Romance / Re: My Husband Cheated On Me by hurtin(f): 12:06pm On Feb 25, 2009 |
too_soon: We've Not Had Children yet, as we've not had the money to raise a child. we seem to spend a lot of our hard earn money on family in Nigeria. And have only just started to try for a family now. |
Romance / Re: My Husband Cheated On Me by hurtin(f): 10:29am On Feb 25, 2009 |
JJYOU: I think you're right |
Romance / Re: My Husband Cheated On Me by hurtin(f): 10:23pm On Feb 24, 2009 |
epi: I don't think I've given love a bad name, nor am I stupid. I'm tying to give Marriage a good name. By not falling (& Divorcing) at the first problem we have. My feelings are that I'd rather give it a second try and if it happens again, at least I'd know that I'd given my best to my marriage. After all isn't marriage something to work at, and not divorce at the slightest problem Too many people divorce these days, and I'd rather not be one of them. He seems to be genuinely sincere in his apology. I've been with him for 6 years, never argued of fought before. Perhaps I should allow him this one mishap Isn't everyone entitled to one mistake ? |
Romance / Re: My Husband Cheated On Me by hurtin(f): 5:40pm On Feb 24, 2009 |
dominic tj: Hum, Not Sure If I could Stay with him if he did it a second time. |
Romance / Re: My Husband Cheated On Me by hurtin(f): 5:23pm On Feb 24, 2009 |
I can't ban him. Two Reasons - 1) He's not a child. You don't have to go clubbing to cheat! And 2) It would show him I don't trust him. I need to have trust in my marriage. It's been broken down, But with time it should be repaired. |
Romance / Re: My Husband Cheated On Me by hurtin(f): 5:12pm On Feb 24, 2009 |
@ Ben20001. You seem to be the main guy replying on here. I think I'm going to go with my heart, I'm sure my head will follow (given a bit more time ) I'm going to continue as if nothing has happened between us, and never mention it to him again - thats the only way to truly forgive & forget this. And put my trust back into him again. Maybe I'll put more effort into going out clubbing with him |
Romance / Re: My Husband Cheated On Me by hurtin(f): 5:07pm On Feb 24, 2009 |
Ben20001: I thought so too. It seems fairly clear to me. |
Romance / Re: My Husband Cheated On Me by hurtin(f): 5:00pm On Feb 24, 2009 |
spikedcylinder: I'm trying to address that. He wanted to leave me because he thinks / thought he doesn't deserve me, because he broke one of our marriage vows. Not because he doesn't love me. |
Romance / Re: My Husband Cheated On Me by hurtin(f): 4:57pm On Feb 24, 2009 |
spikedcylinder: Yes, He's Remorseful. He Broke into tears when He told me he didn't deserve me (and thought he should leave me) because he'd been unfaithful. He's told me it will never happen again. And That he won't ever get that drunk again unless I'm with him. |
Romance / Re: My Husband Cheated On Me by hurtin(f): 4:50pm On Feb 24, 2009 |
*Hauwa*: It's his First & Only - One Night Stand We Don't Have Kids Yet. We Share the Bills & Live Together He takes good care of me |
Romance / Re: My Husband Cheated On Me by hurtin(f): 4:32pm On Feb 24, 2009 |
dani1luv: Sorry I'm new. I joined today. I'm a female - I've fixed my profile now |
Romance / Re: My Husband Cheated On Me by hurtin(f): 4:26pm On Feb 24, 2009 |
I need to know (preferably from a man) if you think he's likely to do it again. He says he loves me and it was an accident. And That he'll never get that drunk again. I need an unbiased view. My heart says stay with him, But My head is confused. |
Romance / Re: My Husband Cheated On Me by hurtin(f): 2:58pm On Feb 24, 2009 |
I always thought I'd leave a man who ever cheated on me, or hurt me etc, But When it comes down to it, I love him so much, I'm not sure if I can leave him. What if it was a mistake Fool me once shame on you, fool me twice shame on me For better For Worse - Right |
Romance / Re: My Husband Cheated On Me by hurtin(f): 2:51pm On Feb 24, 2009 |
Leilah: Apparently she was white too. But I didn't ask too much - As Honestly I didn't want to know. Leilah: He's Always gone clubbing on his own. He's 36, I'm 28. It's never really been my thing. |
Romance / My Husband Cheated On Me by hurtin(f): 11:41am On Feb 24, 2009 |
Hiya, I'm new to this site, And I'm British / American. I wanted to ask you all what would you do? I'm married to a Nigerian man (Whom I love so Much). We married in Nigeria about 4yrs ago. In late December he told me he wanted to leave me, as he had cheated on me & Didn't deserve me. I know he loves me, as he's constantly saying things about me / to me. I love him too, But I feel hurt. He say's with another woman when he was drunk. And We've had tests and both been treated for Clamydia. I now get worried when he goes out, that he might get too drunk again. I don't want to stop him from going out though. It's not like he's constantly cheated on me, or loves the other woman. Everyone deserves a second chance, Right ? 1 Like |
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