somalia11:
why arent u weeping for the hundreds of somalis killed by kenyan soldiers

You Somalis should make peace among yourselves and there won't be need for soldiers to parade your lands doing peace keeping for you.
Remove all that hatred from your heart young man so that it doesn't suffocate you. Jeez man!

somalia11:
somalis were fighting while negroids were being bought as slaves

you people have no heart

Theben:
Stop using the word negroid on black cos Somalis are blacks too. And for you to keep justifying this barbaric act of terrorism shows how unreasonable you, all somalis and muslims are. Fool

He is in America feeling like a white man and looking down on blacks. I don't even have the energy to say insulting/hurtful words to him right now.
If he is in his country feeling the effects of war, he will be behaving himself.

These pictures bring the reality of this shootings home.
It is so different from merely hearing and reading it in the news.
I just realized the gravity of this from this thread.
This is wickedness-o-o.

Moderator the posts of this Somalia11 man is not healthy for this thread o-o. Can somebody get his hate-filled a*s out of here for now until he decides to behave like a human with heart inside of him and he can come back to socialize.

I am tired o-o.

bad meat: Na wa for islam!if u enter islamic section for NL mactunji go terrorise u!if u enter borno BH go terrorise u,if u go Kenya dem dey!what r they realy killing for?

Please leave Maclatunji out of it, Mac is a good muslim man.
All muslims are not bad but we all need help for a change of heart on other ones that have the mindset to kill others. What is all this?

Seeing innocent people lying dead all over the mall in these pictures made tears run down my eyes.
What is this?
I'm speechless.

Our country has the worst happening in our back yard.
Hundred and forty something people killed in the streets of Bornu/Maidugri in BH retaliation attack days ago.
God help us, Jesus!

somalia11:
Kenya is spread hiv aids in somalia. they want to take our land, and we told them to leave.

Alshabaab warnes Kenya many times to stop interfering in somali affairs, but those hiv monkey aids infected apes called kenyans who never fought a war thought you can invade Somalia with out consequences


I hope kenya leaves somalia for its own safety. somalis are warriors

Save us all that hatred running through your vein, young man. Just get off this site already, can a moderator temporarily remove this person here? He doesn't have to come and beat his chest to us when everybody is still shocked by this wickedness.

Why can't some Africans love their brother?
The drudgeries of slave trade could not prevent some blacks from killing their brothers in gangs and street war there in the Western world and home in Africa people are getting killed in the name of religion. May God protect us -o-o.

Alleluiah!

Funny, poster find a way to resolve your issues. Everybody gets angry and say stuffs sometimes.
It's forgivable.

That was a very sharp retort from you, Jeezy!
Your brain is fast like that-----

kkjoy: the only mistake i made was getting married to my husband......if only i had d gift to see d future i wldnt av made such costly mistake.. the only reason i havent killed myself is d strong luv i have for my son. i am all alone in this struggle, my mother wld nt support me leaving my husband because of d financial implications nd my husband and his pple have used tht reason to make me go tru hell... if only i knew i wld av rather remained single all my life....dieing seem to b d only end to my sufferin,but i close my eyes nd see d plea on my baby's face,begging me to b alive for him...how long can my life go on this way

@KK
You seem unhappy in your marriage, I hope that whatever is making you unhappy is not caused by violence and abuse. If the problem you are having isn't violence and abuse and there is a way to solve it, seek solution please. If it is, you need to give it serious attention because a woman in an abusive marriage may lose her life to it through uncontrolled emotion/anger of the abuser or even accidents in the course of the abuse etc.

If you were being asked by your mum to keep enduring a situation that is making you feel this way because of the financial implications that means that your financial dependency on him has you in a tight corner so what should be the solution, shouldn't it be you seriously finding a way (job,business,skills) to make your own money and be financially free to live your one life good and happy? Please stay alive for yourself and for your baby. If you die because a man is making you unhappy, know what? It may not get to 6 months and he will be chilling, loving and sha*ging another woman, don't let anybody make you throw away your life dearie. Stay strong and stay alive.

Jenams: my dear, dnt answer dat idiot husband snatcher, if she do am to u, u go like am?

I think that the man is to blame here not this girl. The man wants her and the wife, many men out there want to be with other women and their wives too. I have read about men boasting how many women they have been with, some see it as a "dominate and conquer them" kind of chase so don't blame her too much.
Even if she has done the worst thing on earth, we should still find it in us to have a heart for a person going through tough time. None of us is perfect or are you?

SniperInADiaper:

My son was on life support for longer than that. 7 years. .. and guess what? Hes living a happy life.

Whaaaat!
This amazing woman you've been around the mountains/vagaries of life and back and standing strong.
May God keep blessing you for all you have been through and all you are doing for your kids.

I don't think that people should be removed from life support, miracles happen---their life can return back fully.
Your case is a testimony of that.

stan4b: Too sad. But,if it were me,i don't tink i ll allow d life support to b taken away from her. God works in a mysterious way,may b d woman ws set to wake up d next day.

Yeah, we haven't the right to take away the life of another person whether through life machine or other means.

Touching indeed.

I was going to vomit looking at the pictures so I stopped. Disgusting stuffs here boy.

nadia_SA: morning swty I'm all gud thanks.. Sk one of the mods helped me to get my account back. Thank God thou one nadia._sa was still claiming its her account I think shs been sorted out or maybe tired!

Everything is ok nd thnks for caring..
Smiling from ear to ear!
Wishin u a great day ahead

Smiling back at you
Take care okay?

How are you girl?
I did write but got no reply, hoping that you are okay?

nadia_SA:
Feels like nothing is going well with me..
I've messed up at young age I've really tried making things better but it seems like I'm just making things worse..I don't no how I do it but sumtyms I feel like I'm cursed..

Suicide has crossed my mind alota times, sometimes I wish that a car could come from nowhere nd take my life..

Nadia how are you doing girl?
I hope you are feeling better, didn't I see a thread yesterday where you were being happy with other nairalanders? I hope that the moderators have been able to help get that nairalander troubling you off your back for you to socialize in peace. Write to Mukina so that she can help you sort that out okay if it is yet to be sorted out. We want you to be happy happy and No! Baby you are not cursed as you think. Don't use such negative words on yourself. You are blessed and you shall not be cursed, say Alleluiah, Amen. Smile girl.

Les: am goin tru the same tin..... believe me, the number of times wrong numbers call me is higher than the number my contacts call me, am just a manin ma own words. itstarted wen i left the city i grew up in for another city for no reason and i cant go back...

There are times one can't help changing environment and moving on in life. Sometimes it can be lonely to make such changes but you can also make effort to make new friends if you wish for that very much for example if you moved to another country from Nigeria, you can ask around for such things as where Nigerians (or people from your town or like minded people you prefer to socialize with) meet that way you can make friends and feel less lonely. Cheer your self up with things of fun you like and don't let loneliness weigh you down into unhappiness okay. Cheers to you.

joywendy: yeah am about entering 200 level.thanks. I really need people I can talk I have tried and thought possible times of taking my ***.

@Joywendy
Hope you are feeling much better now, friend.
You mentioned two things making you unhappy----difficulty in making friends and your wishing for computer engineering/computer science instead of the demography you chose. Have you tried changing course if you want the computer science much or is it that the SSCE reqirements are different or that your parents are bent on your not reading sciences which they said may stress you. If you want that badly, discuss more with them and try convincing them that this is what you really really want to do so that you can organize and go for it early enough as you are just in your second year unless you chose the other option of finishing with the demography first and working in that field while reading for the computer Engineering.
I think that in a case like that the decision is yours on whether to graduate first in your present course or to organize for the other course one time. I won't advise you to leave the demography course and retake Jamb, you can still retake Jamb while holding on to your present course and if you succeed with your new course can start that. There seems to be another option of switching courses at post graduate levels too.
You don't have to allow that weigh you down and give you such terrible thoughts of harming yourself over educational subjects and courses. Life is greater than courses and subjects biko. Many young persons in some countries only go to skill acquisition centers and learn such skills like welding, computer studies, music production, fashion designing, geriatric nursing and work happily with their skills.

You also have to be careful about letting what your peers in school think about so so and so courses influence your outlook or make you feel less than a person----some young persons have a way of looking down and up on different courses they consider low class or high class and looking down on people studying the low ones. Arise above all that, stay focused and remember that you are in school to equip yourself for the future and what matters is what you want not what others think.
On the part of experiencing difficulty in making friends, it is good to have friends but first cherish and love yourself to a point that you are happy with yourself when you find yourself alone. You have to study people you chose as friends first before befriending them so that you don't always end up with the ones that hurt you or leave painfully as you mentioned. When you feel like feeling depressed again, make effort to lift your mood by doing things that make you happy for example if you like music---listen to music at such times. Don't give way to sadness anymore okay Baby. Hugs to you.

swag queen:
True that! Well,he has asked me to leave his house! That he will take care of his children by paying into my dad's account.that since i want to work,i should go and look for a job and take care of myself. He suddenly started asking me what impact I've made in his life. (Pls what does he mean by that)

swag queen:
Hahahaha...... once,i tried convincing him to pay stipend into my account monthly just as savings,he went about telling people that it was my mum that put me up to it.that was how i forgot that one.he makes sure i don't hold any cash on me. He shops for the kids and says since my MIL drives,she can be doing the household shopping. Even airtime for my phones come from him. Quite pathetic!

Reading this particular post of yours was infuriating that you can let another human fix you into that position. He does not want you working lest you mingle and get exposed to men yet the same he is saying that you are not making impact in his life. Shouldering your financial welfare seems to have him feeling like you were not impacting progress in his life, having your own source of income gives you more control over your life and you won't be sounding this helpless and be at the mercy of an abuser.
Poster Jollyqu seems to have used (the human right organisation she reported her own abusive husband to) to hold him at bay, wishing that such organisations can wade in and help people like you but it's scary to think what can happen to women living around such time bombs. Whew! A man that beat a woman 4 days to the day she put to bed, I wondered how traumatic it will be for such a woman while in labour and remembering that she has her abuser to return home to with her new born child: A life filled with fear. The fact that you are a lawyer and allowed yourself get manipulated into such helplessness is baffling.
He left the home for you, you seem to need a break up from all that torment too. When you all return from the break, firm decisions have to be taken cause it's your life at stake here. You saw how he retreated when once you stood up for yourself. You need to stand up more for yourself and let him understand clearly that you are never tolerating another beating and if he fails to understand that, it isn't safe living with a man that poses danger to your life.

swag queen:
I've already told my parents and they are supportive.I've started calling my contacts at CAC to send clients my way.my sister wants to send things from America that i can sell wholesale so I'm negotiating with managers of some supermarkets here.

My MIL and FIL say i shouldn't leave but um gonna bid time.at least to garner some money to take care of myself n the kids.

Good that you are seeking solution and making a move to empowering yourself after all. I wish you success there and hope all things work out for good for you.

peggykorol: Once a man starts abusing the wife physically,he won't stop.it goes on and on.thats how mine started and I thought it would be the last.i know some people on NL feel am not real or I caused my problem myself but you are free to feel or think however you want
As am typing this now,I have some wounds on my back and hands.thats the recent beating I got from someone who claims to luv me very much.for every time I question his fidelity,I get beaten up seriously like a thief who stole in the market square.he sleeps with girls anywhere.ranging from his car to our matrimonial home to motels,
Now ask me how I knew all this

@Peggyroll
Yours is another serious condition with the wounds on your back and hands recently given to you by your husband. Swag queen's case seems to have caused such outrage that your post almost went unseen.
You sounded like you unhappily resigned to the situation and is waiting to get the next beating and injuries in "only God knows where" next. What are you doing to save yourself from getting constantly battered like that. The same good advice that Swag queen has gotten applies to you too. If you are not financially empowered to take care of yourself please find something to do so that financial dependency will not enslave you to that position. Emancipate yourself from being shackled with abuse/beatings like that. Attract the attention of parents to the beatings, stamp your feet down on it---say "No more" to it. A solid bold stance can frighten off the abuse, if it is continuing in the face of that then make the wise choice to be alive and separate yourself from a violent environment cause your life is precious.

OAA82: I'm married to an abusive man. To the outside world, he is a nice man and to be honest he is a good husband 90 percent of the time. When he gets angry(at seemingly silly things) I feel the full weight of his anger. He kicks, punches, slaps and uses his belt.

It's been happening since I got married. To be honest, he hit me about 6 months to our wedding and I called it off but was convinced otherwise. I was told it was a one off thing, was told its obvious he loves me, was told he is a good man, give him a chance. Fast forward 6 years down the line and here I am. Each time it happened, I believed it was the last, told my self it will not happen again but it always did.

I've come to realise it will happen again, I've stopped fooling myself. I'm financially independent and I could easily move on with my life. I don't know why I stay(I think it's because he is a good husband most of the time).

I have 2 children, my head tells me to run for my life......

It's great that you are financially empowered to care for yourself, have you made effort to stop getting abused? Do please, say "No" to getting abused in that environment. If you are not succeeding at that leave that environment, don't lose your life to it.


@Showoff
Showoff is one strong woman that stood up for herself and took charge of her life.
It was good that you refused to tolerate abuse. You showed a commendable great strength. You deserve to be happy, hope you find happiness at the end of that tunnel you have travelled through.
I noticed from your narration of your ordeal that about 10% of the cause of your abuse stemmed from ignorance and the deceit and lies fed to your husband by the pastors/prophets that prophesied to him that you are using his destiny to progress/that he can only progress when you leave his life. The other percentages left shows that he believes in subduing and disrespecting women, how can he be so abusive as to still be sending death threats on phones? He bullies, disrespects and abuses from all angle both emotional and physical. Great you rose above all that, struggling and taking care of your children.

Ms_Steph: Dis chika babe sha looks local her 1st pic is so not attractive she looks like an imbe

Laughter wan choke me-o-o-o
Umuazi a no go injure person with their sense of humour.
The "imbe" is so funny.

I opened the thread to see how she is rocking her new short african natural hair and did tell myself that her pictures were carelessly taken. She is a beautiful girl but it seems like they snapped the pictures in a hurry.

Pete's son Yul looks dashing in his first picture, that young man can make a great model with that handsome and "all so innocent and tender" look of his just like my youngest brother.

homesteady: If only this thread could get enough publicity, you'll see the amount of people that 'll come here to insult tpia!
She'll have emotional breakdown by force
Then we'll recommend her to visit the suicide thread in family section

My friend how can you gladly wish for many people to come here and abuse this lady to a point that she has emotional breakdown?. What you are doing is cyberbullying, some of you playfully bully others without knowing that cyberbullying is a great issue. Many young persons have killed themselves over having others gang up against them and bully them online.

Even if she doesn't talk to you nicely, you can still be nice to her. I hope a moderator comes along and closes this thread. There is need to control bullying here, am I the only person that frowns at this?

duffie:
I chose the wrong career, I've written my final exams and I just know my life is all wrong....

My family is in chaos, it hass always been like this right from my childhood but right now it's tearing me apart...most people tell me to blocck it out but I just can't....

I've shut everyone out of my life and I'm just lonely.....

I've got a health scare and I'm really scared....


Right now, I've got no plans for my future.....

The irony of it all, most people that think they know, believe ikve got no troubles because I'm always cheerful.

duffie:


Thank you.

I'm still depending on my parents and they all kicked against it and told me to just graduate and get married......

There's not much I can really do.

@Duffie
There must be a way around achieving your dream of reading the course you want without you having to rewrite Jamb, waec again like going through post graduate studies or something. I have seen people that go ahead to reading medicine as a second degree after graduating with a first degree but it's always possible with the support of your family, financial sponsors or with personal effort if you can be working and schooling so as to pay for yourself. If your parents are unable to support you financially, don't feel too unhappy about it. They probably have your other siblings they are paying for, don't take them on on their words for you to graduate and get married------some parents are always looking to feel good that "my children are all married off" and make comments that may add pressure on their children over marriage. Don't let that get to you and ensure that when you do decide to marry it is to somebody you will be happy with.

Don't worry too much, if you have no support around, you can use the health science degree you already got as a stepping ladder to achieving your dream of studying business management. Explore the health science field and see what good/wealth you can get from it (you may be surprised to get Gold therein!) and you can forge ahead to your other dream course.

emk4lif: Mine is somewhat complicated, I'm in my late teens and an engineering student..always been a high flyer academically in high school and not doing so badly in the university, I hold no religious belief and my views border on atheism..I've been struggling with depression for over two years and I've considered suicide at times....life just feels so empty most times to me and I struggle daily to find a meaning to everything,I also feel like I could be doing so much more with my inherent potential, this coupled with the challenges of being a nerdy introvert teenager with few friends and eccentric thoughts leave me with just a bleak outlook of life....I spend a lot of time alone and I believe that no one really understands me..my parents are too religious and emotionally distant for me to share my fears with them....no matter how I try to deal with it, I always relapse back...I just feel lost and I just wonder whether if I just end it all,maybe I'll just find that elusive peace.it might seem cowardly and sound like overkill but the despair I feel daily, the depths of loneliness,fear and self-loathing I go through daily just drives me crazy
actually wanted to open a thread on it before I came across this

When I see posts like yours I just can't close the thread and walk away because people like you draw at my heartstring.
I have actually limited my nairalanding to simply reading Naija news because of the tribal hatings and some cyberbullying I see that make me sick but threads like this are priceless. Time spent with others in this kind of thread are divine if it ends up making others feel better so I am gonna be sharing precious time with others in this thread for now.


@emk4life
Your post is so beautifully woven that it shows that you are indeed a special person. You seem to be a young person that is doing great but with a void that you don't know how to fill up and at such a crossroad, negative thoughts streams in to fill that void for you and make you think such thoughts like suicide. Suicide?? No way brother! No way should such a promising young man like you waste away like that.

I am thinking that if you fill in the void you have with positive energy that you will not feel depressed. Start with conditioning your minds with good books like "The power of positive thinking" by Dale Carnegie, "Your invisible power" by Genevieve Behrend etc You can expend your energy on other profitable and good work/ventures(projects,website,internet ventures,part time jobs,volunteering) as you seem good at what you do. It is also very important that you do things that give you joy, things you consider fun that are not harmful to you. I was about to mention that you find a way to connect to God and remembered you mentioned that your views is close to Atheism. It's your life to believe what you consider good for you but as a christian I can tell you that it's very sweet to have a relationship with God and sometimes simply pray over things acknowledging your imperfection as a human, commending all your worries and problems into God's hand and trusting in him to lead you aright.

Please steer away from the depressive thoughts okay. We love you, some of us already saw through the greatness in you through your writings and we just can't afford to lose precious you okay. Plenty hugs to you.

THE AMAKA: B1TCHES WILL BECOME BELIEVERS!
#ThatsAll

Now don't I like that your quotation, Miss?

Jade William:
He didn't hav 2say Bev asked him 4s*x on stage.That wass condescendin.He shld hav said it's couple's biz or somthng else.Now he portrayed Bev 2b d desparate&lose one while he looked lik d hero dat stuck 2d s**t he promised his mum.Now one dumbass dat doesn't understand simple english has made front page by sayin Bev begged Angelo 2f**k her again&he refused.He washed their dirty linen in public&its costin d poor babe her votes

You are right there. A gentleman doesn't cheapen his lady like that. He guards her honour.

I saw this topic and remembered that I have read somewhere that rain making/holding is scientific. Good to know that we have metallurgists in the house that have explained it fully, I saw one of such enlightening posts here and I remembered that I have read that it's done with silver iodide.

Chanchit: Which kyn thing be this na. "e don die, e never die" Mr Man abeg choose one and stop confusing me. Thats why I like muslims, them go don baf am, cement am for 6ft, if he come later wake up, sooner or later e go die there. Nonsense.

This Chanchit lady dey vex-o-o-o.
Are you now saying that it is good to bury a person that have life in their body and when such awake in the grave can die completely. I respect the way the muslims don't do plenty celebration over the death of their loved ones but I think that it is not good to bury a warm blooded dead body. Such should be given a little time in case they resurrect, we are hearing plenty resurrection news nowadays.
E be like say that the Ajanaku's church people wan even play the resurrection drama on us if this story is true. If this is true then make una get ready to hear everything about his journey through heaven. Wetin we no dey hear for Naija sef?
If he is truly dead may he rest in peace.

@Joywendy

I wanted to come back and post later because I am sleepy and tired after the day's work but the tone of your posts was tugging at my heart and I couldn' t go away, close my eyes and sleep peacefully with the thoughts of you being somewhere feeling terrible. I do hope that others will come along and bring on more comforting words for you. You don' t have to feel terrible like that, it is good to have friends but we should love ourself and enjoy the time we find ourselves alone without friends and family around. You shouldn't feel too depressed at such times. You can improve on yourself by reading or doing other educative & creative things okay.

I don't know what it is you said you did but whatever it is remember that nobody is perfect. Stop feeling too terrible and please don' t do anything to harm yourself. I will talk to you more later okay. Take care of yourself.