Absolutely, it goes without saying!

Healthcare should be free wherever you go in the world in an idyllic world that is, But for real, it is possible. Someone needs to be consistent in applying taxes and channeling the money into constructing a health care system that will allow access to medical care throughout the country. The system works here in Canada, although we are in desperate need of improvement - waiting lists become dying lists sometimes. It will take some time, but it can be done.

The love of money is the root of all evil.

Firstly the problem/cause of the corruption is not actually the abuse of power, but the love of money. Every Tom, Dick and Harry (Femi, Aziz and Obi) not only wants to survive, but they aspire to be "big boys" and flash money, houses and cars all over the place. Once the lay people realize that integrity needs to come before getting money and in turn educate their children to have these same values, then arresting, hanging, or whatever else you want to do to the bureaucratic monkeys in power will not change a thing.

Teach the children the real value of money and you'll change the country. You can't teach an old dog new tricks.

I just ordered a yoruba dictionnary from amazon.com I am trying to learn it too so I will be able to help my son when he begins to learn it. I also found this website that is proving to be very helpful: www.abeokuta.org/youruba.htm Let me know whatelse you find.

ibkaye:

rape ko, i will never be raped, will not allow such


[size=5pt]by the grace of God[/size]

if you could allow it, it wouldn't be called rape.

kugaba:

i wont live my girl/wife because she got raped even if proven that she w, ted it or perhaps en, ed it. But i will ask 4 Lab test.

If you could even doubt her sincerity, then she'd be right to leave you, Just like I would. You're just like the rest of those people that believe rape victims somehow "looked for it".

exactly. Matters of the heart aren't that easy to give up especially when it will mean breaking up a family. Granted we aren't physicall together, but my son speaks to his dad on the phone everyday, and trust me, Two year olds know when something's wrong.

Everyone seems to have it twisted here.

Being raped is not having had sex with someone other than your man. Being raped is a violation of your body, mind and spirit. If I actually had been raped, the idea of another human being violaing my body, be it violently or just overagressively, It would be extremely difficult to tell anybody. Police, parents, man, sister, friend, but to prove my self worth, I would find it in me to speak up. And if he dosn't want to know, or can't deal with it, then he can step.

Perhaps you need glasses, why don't you get your eyes checked? For me it makes a huge difference.

You guys are absolutely right. Distance does kill a relationship in the long run. While the reuniting part is thrilling for the first six months, it gets really old and tired by the fourth year,

@sisikill

I appreciate your response, and I don't think anyone will shoot you for agreeing with the men on this one. Men think differently to women, especially when it comes to sex and while I am not excusing his actions, I could partially understand how,  just not why.

it's just so hard. I feel like I'm waiting to see when/how/if he will Bleep up again!

I have spoken to him, but listening to his words is one thing and finding out his actions is another. I can never tell when he's cheating on me, he dosn't change his attitude towards me. not extra nice, not extra mean, just normal. He dosn't go liiking for these girls, they just happen to come by either through his friends or his frends' friends, He can't tell them no!

I am engaged to a man and we live 3000 miles apart. Somewhere along the relationship I got pregnant and we then decided to seriously commit ourselves to each other in an introduction/engagement ceremony with 30 or so friends. We are now blessed with a beautiful, energetic, at times troublesome little boy and we have been making preparations to begin our lives with each other, physically and permanently.

Although the distance has always been there and has always been the cause of our difficulties in other ways such as communication, intimacy, patience, sexuality, fidelity, all of which can be lacking at times, recently I was made aware of a certain bout of his indiscretion. While he and I have both had issues with infidelity in the past (although mine was not of the sexual intercourse nature), we have dealt with and moved on from those past situations. Or so I thought.

As of late, my intuition had led me to do a little investigating and lo and behold, I discovered my beloved had betrayed me. He had been seeing another woman behind my back for six weeks and had no intentions of an emotional relationship with her, only a sexual one, so they ended it. When he confirmed the details, it had happened a year ago I and it was at a time after I had just spent a month with him and everything was going well for him as well as for us.

Now, like I said, this isn't the first time I am having to deal with his lame a** behavior. Right now, I don't know what to think, or feel or do. I love him but I am not a doormat. Leaving him would be easy if he weren't a good man or a good father. He is in EVERY other way amazing with me. He cares for me emotionally, physically(when we're together) and financially. On the other hand, at the persuasion of any piece of a** that flashes herself and is willing to be a sex object - because I know him and I am sure he tells them he is not interested in another relationship - he jeopardizes our family and our future and lies to me thinking he's protecting me from hurt. I know he is genuinely sorry, but that's not even my main concern.

I am able and willing to forgive, but is this what I will have to deal with the rest of my life or do you think he will be genuine when we start living together as a family?

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I am engaged to a man who lives abroad. Our relationship started abroad and though we are in the process of moving in together, I keep finding out about his different love affairs he says "he can't help himself" to. Trust me it is very hard and while I am no angel, I have not slept with anyone else in our almost 4 years together. If you have found a man (or woman) that is genuine and loyal then stick with it, but try to cut out the distance as quickly as possible. Remember out of sight is out of mind for most men. I am holding on not only for the sake of our 2 yr old son, but for the hope that his infidelity is a result of our distance and not his own selfishness. Only time will tell, Always keep faith in love.