In the world of ROMANCE, there are two categories of people: LOVERS and PLAYERS. You can tell the difference between the two by their approach towards the MATING GAME. Lovers keep it REAL, players keep it REALER. So, while the heart craves a constant supply of the genuine affection of lovers, it tends to find the artful dreamy displays of players more appealing, hence the reason why lovers get PLAYED and players get LOVED.

Lovers come straight-out with their feelings. They seem so predictable, unchallenging, and somewhat jerky. You might be tempted to think of them as naïve and needy. But that’s what love does to lovers, right? Players, on the other hand, keep everything vague and suggestive. They can afford to spend years playing the unpredictability game and come off really challenging. After all, they aren’t bound by passions that require reciprocation as a matter of urgency.

In a world full of vain, entitled, egotistic, self-loving, and false-hearted scheming beings, players couldn’t find better loopholes to maximize upon and prey on such overly self-indulging sets of persons who are like FOOTBALL. Within 90-minutes of play, 22 professional players strive to have their feet on the ball. This makes the ball feel “in vogue” and invincible. But what the players strive for isn’t really the ball. It’s the GOAL. However, the ball doesn’t know that.

Once the match is over, the players celebrate their GOALS while discarding the BALL until the next MATCH. At some point, the ball suffers WEAR and TEAR and is replaced with a NEW BALL, ultimately proving its vincibility. Even at that, the devalued ball is good for nothing more than to keep being PLAYED, mostly by rookie players who only play for FUN and GOALS THAT DON’T COUNT. Funny enough, the ball wouldn’t care less, as its only pleasure comes from BEING PLAYED. Soon, it is completely depreciated and is good for nothing anymore, not even to be played.

Many persons today are like emotional BALLS; little wonder they are most susceptible to the seductions of players. Yet, they tend to act like pricy jewelry when a lover stops by to trade genuine emotions. They tend to become more logical than the wise King Solomon in judging a lover’s advances to be a quest for acceptance. So they indulge themselves, confident that the seeming hopelessly needy lovers will stick around infinitely to feed their vanity. How wrong they are!

Lovers draw the line when the seeds of affection they sow don’t seem to spring up over a period of time they naturally should. They channel their affection to fertile hearts in hope to reap a 100-fold reciprocation as at when due. Lovers are investors. They don’t go around feeding their emotional assets to emotional gluttons who only take and never give back. But players don’t roll like that. They have no standards to uphold, no assets to waste, absolutely nothing to lose!

Their game is simple: they play to their targets’ gallery and indulge them until their targets defer to them and deem it absolutely needful to return the favor. The players then SCORE GOALS and run off to the next pitch to start a NEW MATCH with ANOTHER BALL, leaving their targets feeling EMPTY, FOOLISH, and USED. Funny enough, these targets keep OPENING UP to more players while staying CLOSED to lovers. It’s like an irrevocable CURSE! What a WOE!

Calls/texts/chats from lovers get ignored by their CRUSH a couple of times and they brush aside the intended affair out of absolute unreadiness for such draining and one-sided emotional adventure. But players keep the calls/texts/chats coming for as long as it takes to get a response from their targets, which usually results in them courting their targets’ attention at last, then USE and DROP them like bad habits. Lovers keep it real; players keep it realer.

Lovers get stood up on a couple of dates and withdraw from further hookup attempts. But players can afford to get stood up on a million dates so long as they get the COOKIE on the first, second, or third honored date, after which they zoom off, except they desire to have the cookie a couple more times. Lovers keep it real; players keep it realer.

I could go on and on to set instances upon instances. But I’ll leave the rest to your imagination; and perhaps experience. The funny thing, however, is that these lovers and players KNOW THEMSELVES. They are distant acquaintances, close friends, and even blood siblings. They talk, discuss trends, and have SHARED KNOWLEDGE. Sometimes it turns out that a lover’s haughty, entitled, and prideful crush has been a player’s target and eventual VICTIM. What a world!

I’ll draw the curtain at this point with the submission that lovers will arguably always be lovers and will someday reap the fruits of love. Players, on the other hand, may not always be players, as the need to love and be loved catches up with them eventually. But the targets/victims may remain so all through their PRIME, only to become regretful later in life. Howbeit, such fate can be avoided if they would do well to CHANGE THE DYNAMICS in their favor by putting aside vainness, ego, entitlement, false-heartedness, etc, and be true to the game. Lovers come to STAY. But players will always LEAVE.

Jezuzboi©

Fountainofyouth:
Hmmmmm

Is there something there that you find disagreeable?

Magnoliaa:
Love and Respect... the energizing cycle.

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jesusjnr:
Nice one op.

Very deep!

More Spirit.

Amen

Even in the midst of a multitude, John the Baptist could still sense the presence of Jesus. On several occasions, he had told the crowd that always came flocking to him about the messiah, saying He’s among them and is indeed one of them. But up until this moment, many still doubt the existence of Jesus, even after all His manifestations, both before and after His ascension. However, long before Jesus’ first miracle, John was already aware of his almightiness.

Jesus himself confirmed John’s words time and again, declaring Himself the son of God. But not even John’s prediction and Jesus’ confirmation could bring everyone to the acknowledgement of Him as the son of God: not even the signs He showed, the wonders He performed, the unheard words He preached, and His exemplary lifestyle could make the people view Him as any more than a carpenter’s son. Yet, there were those who were totally convinced about Him.

The likes of Peter and the other apostles could not have mistaken the son of God for anyone else. When Jesus called on His apostles to follow Him, they obliged at once. There was just something about Jesus that appealed to them and made them consider Him worth leaving everything for. Jesus, on the other hand, did not go about calling just anyone to be His apostle. He knew that the task he had for them was only fitting for those with a tendency to draw from him.

At some point in His walk with the apostles, Jesus questioned Peter over who people said He was. As it turned out, He was many things to different people. Some said Elijah, some said Jeremiah, some said He’s just one of the prophets, and some even said He’s John the Baptist. But when Jesus looked Peter in the eye and asked who he (Peter) thought He (Jesus) was, Peter, in total conviction, said; “You are the Messiah, the Son of the living God.”

That response from Peter prompted Jesus to make this very valuable statement: “flesh and blood has not revealed it unto you, but my Father who is in heaven.” The truth is that you will be so many things to so many people: perhaps a meal ticket, a pleasure tool, an alternative, a trophy husband or wife, an errand runner, a last resort, and even a teddy bear to just play around with and cast away. But for every Jesus, there’s bound to be twelve apostles.

Jesus never tried too hard to court the attention of the people. He most lovingly presented the gospel to them and left them with the choice to either accept or reject it. At the end of the day, He carried out his mission on earth and returned to heaven, leaving behind eleven fortified apostles to create impact with the gospel he brought to the earth. No one can say they’re disappointed with the works of the apostles after Jesus left them to continue where He stopped.

But imagine if Jesus had yielded to pressure by trying to fit in and blend in, all in an effort to get along with the Pharisees, Sadducees, and the others as they wanted him to. There would still be no hope for humanity. By stepping into the world and uncompromisingly being God in human form, he attracted just the right sets of people to himself. Actually, He attracted all manner of people to himself. But only the right ones stuck to Him through thick and thin.

They were able to do so because they had some degree of depth in them that was able to pick the signal of Jesus’ depth. Consequently, they became His best companions. Sometimes, you come across to certain people as alien. At other times, certain people come across to you as alien. There could be nothing strange about that. I think the strangest event in history is that of a man referring to Himself as the son of God. He must have been so alien to the people!

But did that stand in the way of Him fulfilling his life’s purpose? No, it didn’t. So, it doesn’t really matter who’s not getting a clear picture of things or who’s misinterpreting things to suit their own purposes. It doesn’t matter who or what is trying to program you into a conditioned living on account of anything, even the worst situations of life. Your goal must never change, your values must never drop, and there must be no room for unhealthy compromises.

Mind you, this is no license to groom an overbearing pride that’s usually demonstrated via a superior manner toward others. This is no license to recklessness or a downplay on needful character adjustments. This is just an urge to be who you know you’re meant to be without concessions. It may seem like you’re missing out on it all. But then, what’s yours will come as at when due; and who’s yours will show up in due season. No need for any desperation whatsoever! At the end of the day, DEEP WILL ALWAYS CALL UNTO DEEP. All you need do is to KEEP HOPE ALIVE.

Jezuzboi©

The feeling of being widely known and esteemed universally can be elating: the crazy love from admirers, shouts of approval from followers, thumbs up from supporters, sacrificial support from devotees, priceless partnership from allies, dirty fights against rivals by enthusiasts, and all the paparazzi that comes with eminence, can give a godlike sensation that makes you soon forget how human you are. Even when you try to remember, many who know you, gladly forget.

According to statistics, only 0.1% of the world’s population make it to the celebrity circle, and finding yourself in that cadre will surely attract so many things: the good, the bad, and the ugly. The feeling of being in a position where the world appreciates your wonderfulness is no doubt priceless. But if you take a quick run through history, you’ll find that many who attained that enviable height ended up being victims of their wonderfulness.

First thing’s first, when you show yourself to the world and display your talents, you stir all kinds of resentment, envy, and other manifestations of insecurity, especially from the closest of associates. It becomes difficult to know who has your best interest at heart and who may be out to do you ugly, or at the least, take advantage of foul deeds you performed in your weak moments to prey on your status; a thing that has plagued many stars with paranoia.

But like the mafias say, “misfortunes always come in by the door left open for them.” Howbeit, no matter how much you stay closed to the outside world, the fact remains that the day you decide to be a celebrity, you trade your privacy with whoever nurtures enough curiosity to search you out. Interestingly, that curiosity grows and never fades until you’re off the celebrity radar. Don’t get it twisted though, the woes of fame aren’t only based on those external factors.

Being in the spotlight can foster self-destruction: a sudden arrogance, constant neediness of approval, living to impress without upholding honesty, pride, insolence, inability to handle criticism, superiority complex, and lots more. Eventually, all you get up there is loneliness, even with the enormous attention that never stops flooding in as long as you’re up there. Many try to curry favor with you for personal gains like fame by association, extravagant living, and whatnot.

Love predators are not left out of the picture, as they offer you an aesthetically pleasing romance in exchange for a hefty portion of the wealth your fame earns you. Overly insecure fellows try to rub dust on your image by digging out ugly details of your past and putting them out in the open. If you tend to be void of such details, they create them for you, using your weaknesses to lure you into despicable blunders. The aim is to make you appear less special after all.

Let me tell you the infamous story of Stan and Jeff. Stan and Jeff were given an apple each. Stan ate his apple while Jeff preserved his own apple. Shortly after, a notice surfaced, praising Apple preservers. Stan, who had eaten his apple, got bitter and began resenting Jeff who still had his apple intact. But Jeff had no idea about Stan’s resentment of him. One day, Jeff was tempted to take a bite of his apple. Stan noticed him and became very observant.

The moment Jeff opened his mouth to take a bite, Stan ran off and told the world that Jeff had finally eaten his apple and is no different; a difference Jeff never boasted of. Stan became happy again. Making Jeff look less special cured his insecurity. It then dawned on Jeff that although alphabets join together to form unique life-giving words, some have the tendency of bringing death on others over just about anything; even self-imposed failures. Jeff learnt his lesson the hard way.

Love is the greatest thing in the world. Fame wins you love as much as it wins you hate. When you get love on account of your fame, it is only natural that you give back the love, possibly in an even greater measure. Therefore, when gangsters started advising that you love and trust no one because love can get you killed, anti-gangsters condemned the saying. How on earth can the greatest thing in the world get you killed for goodness sake?

But then, lots of bereave anti-gangsters owe their deaths to the love and trust they had for fellow anti-gangsters. That situation worsens when you step on the world’s stages to showcase yourself. Considering these cons of fame, many potentially famous folks have brushed aside the idea of fame in order to enjoy wealth without the unpleasant dramas that fame brings. But despite this, a vast number of persons do unbelievable things to achieve even mediocre fame.

It’s one thing to achieve fame; it’s another thing to maintain it. Achieving fame can be elating; losing fame can be depressing. So, when next you covet fame, take a moment to question yourself over certain things like: are you ready for the hate? the possible blackmails? judgements? cyber bullying? persecutions? questionable love? looming betrayal? possible scandals? and all the other CONS of fame? not leaving out its life-sweetening and untold PROS?

This brings us to the ultimate question: DID YOU SAY YOU WANT TO BE FAMOUS, given all these CONS? Well, if you ask me, I say TO HELL WITH THE CONS!!! I don’t just want to be famous; I want to be MORE FAMOUS THAN MONEY. Who doesn’t know money? If they’re such people, rest assured they’re gonna know me (#winks). A principle at the back of my mind though: work smart to earn a living, inspire the world, be scandal free, and keep a clear conscience. In all these, always endeavor to be in tune with God, and very importantly, FALL IN LOVE (#winks again).

Jezuzboi©

skywalker240:

Maybe a woman who truly loves you wont cheat, wont argue that.
the fact remains that such women are extremely rare, and another fact remains that at a point in your life when you are extremely broke even those who are close to you tends to lose respect and value for you. a woman loves may love you genuinely when you're extremely broke, but then she might have things a man should be capable to meet (dont say she should get a job, dont say she has a father) and it might not be that much (there are things a man should do finance included. and then there's that rich dude who's all over her preaching, dont forget her freinds who boast of their rich boyfreinds, and then the african society.

nobody can be loyal forever it doesnt mean they dont love you.

nobody is above temptation, even a most loyal and loving girlfreind.

Too #sweet to read

SalafRider:
I am just a kiddie, let me be sipping on my zobo as I wait for the elders to come on board. I have learnt a lot reading comment here on Nairaland.

You can beckon on lalasticlacla to draw them in here by pushing this to them.

What you’re about to read is the story of a self-styled Nigerian feminist who most likely suffers from BORDERLINE PERSONALITY DISORDER. She did a good job putting her husband through hell for years in the name of EQUALITY. Her emotional instability got her caught between the options of staying in her one-year-old marriage or filing for a divorce for no concrete reason. She even regretted having a child. According to her, that has been her worst mistake.

Her husband was perpetually perplexed by her PERCEPTUAL DISTORTIONS and most likely cursed the day he married her. However, he managed to endure years of AVOIDABLE TRAUMA, literally taking care of their son alone until things got back in shape; for after tormenting him for ages, his wife condescendingly redressed her steps and went online to excitedly tell her story, saying:

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“I knew I was a career-driven woman! I knew I wasn’t all that excited about getting married. I knew children weren’t my favorite thing on earth. But building a career that I wanted seemed to take too long and I was impatient. I wasn’t going to get married. Then I met MY HUSBAND and fell in love. This was the first time in my life I was liking a man who liked me more than I liked him. I generally go for unavailable men, men who aren’t sure of me, etc.”

“If a man loves me too much, he’s not challenging and so I didn’t want him. I got married and immediately wanted a child because that’s the natural progression, isn’t it? I had my baby and almost immediately regretted it. Actually, I started regretting it from the time I got pregnant. It was as if I temporarily lost my marbles. Regardless, I made the decision. This was not an unplanned pregnancy. I wanted the child. I did everything I could to get the child.”

“I finally had him and was going to be the very best mother I could for the child who didn’t beg me to have him. As for my marriage, I love my husband like kilode. But I’d be the first to tell you he’s the one holding the marriage down. If my husband hadn’t been stubbornly refusing to let go, our marriage would have ended a long time ago. I am flighty! Do me small thing and I’m ready to leave. But the man held on, like: YOU’RE NOT GOING ANYWHERE.”

“I am grateful to him for doing that. But I still know deep down that I shouldn’t have married or have a while when I did. At 30, it was like I snapped out of my temporary foolishness and said: FLORIDA, THIS IS NOT THE LIFE YOU WANTED FOR YOURSELF. THIS LIFE OF BEING KNOWN MOSTLY AS SOMEONE’S WIFE AND SOMEONE’S MOTHER. I started applying to UK universities for masters without a word to my husband. I got admitted, saved up the 10k euros tuition money.”

“I told my husband that I’m leaving for the UK for this masters whether he liked it or not! What followed was months of fights. He wanted us to be talking about having another child, not masters! I said: THUNDER FIRE YOU! I already felt shackled enough with one and he wanted to add to it? This man threatened me that it’s either we have another child or we forget having another child entirely. I was like: SEE CHRISTMAS PRESENT! WE ARE GETTING IT. WE ARE SO FORGETTING IT.”

“If I had been thinking properly, I wouldn’t have had one child, not to mention two! I went to the UK. My husband thought I’d refuse to come back but I did. However, when I started talking about Ph.D., he started nonsense again. He was like: WHAT ABOUT THE FAMILY? I was like: EHEN? WHAT ABOUT IT? WHAT ABOUT ME? I started looking into divorce proceedings. I felt I would always meet resistance from this man every time I do something for the sake of pursuing a career and what kind of life is that?”

“That wasn’t the marriage I wanted. So it was better I end it. My mom panicked. She was like: BUT THERE’S NOTHING WRONG WITH YOUR HUSBAND NA! HE’S PERFECT. HE’S NOTHING LIKE YOUR FATHER, JUST LIKE I PRAYED FOR. WHY ARE YOU DOING THIS? I was heartbroken, I’ll say. I still loved him very much. I had never stopped. But I didn’t want to keep fighting with him because this is who I am. I don’t take my identity from being a wife and mother. Those are my jara!”

“I will choose the latter any god damn day! I remember one day; I was crying on the phone with my husband. I was like: I’M SORRY I’M NOT THE KIND OF WIFE YOU WANTED; THE WIFE CONTENT WITH AN UNCHALLENGING JOB SO SHE COULD SPEND AS MUCH TIME BUILDING HER HOME. THAT’S NOT ME AND IT CANNOT BE ME. Mister man didn’t know that this was me signing out! I had made up my mind at that junction that the marriage wasn’t working and it was time to face reality.”

“I was going to file for a divorce and I wasn’t going to discuss it with him. Then in December 2013, I went to the airport to pick him up. He had come to London for my graduation (not knowing his wife at this point was all set to leave him). I went to the airport, saw him and started crying again. I couldn’t do this. I couldn’t leave him. I haven’t loved anyone the way I love this man. I couldn’t live without this man. I immediately filed away the divorce idea.”

“I decided to give the marriage another go. I suppose it helped that none of my Ph.D. applications went through. So I went back to Nigeria and did my best to give the marriage all I got! My husband who used to resist me working outside Lagos because the family should be together, dropped the idea. Even though the field I worked thrived more in Abuja, he didn’t complain. If it was Antarctica I wanted to go, he would let me go. As long as we were still married, he didn’t mind.”

“As long as I’d come back to him, I could go anywhere. If I didn’t want any more children, that was okay with him! We will stop with this one. It is not like people take kids with them to the afterlife. But when the Ph.D. opportunity came, not one “YOU ARE LEAVING ME ALONE YET AGAIN” did I get from him. I came here with my son because that’s what I do. I go with my son everywhere! It’s not even a question – maybe it’s guilt. Guilt that I regretted having him.”

“Guilt that I always say I shouldn’t have married or had a child. I wish I knew while growing up that it was an option to have a child and that not everyone should marry and have children. Maybe because of that guilt, or maybe it’s just pure mother’s love, I inconvenience myself to make his life better. I changed and only wanted to do everything to give my son the childhood I believe he deserves. On occasions, I’d even put him before my career. Like right now, I’ve decided post-PhD.”

“I wasn’t going to aim to be the Facebook COO until my son is 16 – 18. I’d slow down and then resume again when he’s less dependent on me. Bottom line, if I knew better, I wouldn’t have gotten married or most definitely wouldn’t have had a child. But it has already happened and I would be damned if I don’t make the best of it. Regardless, I’m reminded that those were decisions I shouldn’t have taken!”

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There you go, guys! I’m sure you now see the more reason why you should never throw caution to the wind when choosing a life partner. This is why I favor long courtships. It gives you ample time to GET TO KNOW your potential spouse. No one ever wants to be in situations like that, and one sure way to prevent such fate is taking time to know your spouse-to-be from the INSIDE OUT before marriage. I hope we take a cue from this and help our marital destinies

Jezuzboi©

There’s a lot more to manhood than the feeling of unbeatable masculinity and supremacy over the weaker vessels. A whole lot rests on the shoulders of a man. As a matter of fact, the good, bad, and ugly events of the world can be traced to men in one way or the other. You might want to call my attention to biblical Eve right now. Oh yes, she fell for the serpent’s trick and ate the forbidden fruit. But that could only have happened in Adam’s absence, arguably.

Well, we’re not here to play the blame game, but rather, to call the attention of the pillars of families to a plague that has fostered devastation in families for ages. While a man may feel so good to have different women at his beck and call, the aftermath of such indulgence is usually the least desired. Bachelors usually seem to get away with promiscuity, but that’s never the case. However, the effect of promiscuity is more readily apparent in the lives of MARRIED MEN.

That is why bachelors should keep in mind that in addition to finding and marrying a wife, there’s the ultimate duty of safeguarding her and the children she bears. One major way of ensuring that safety is KEEPING MISTRESSES AND STRANGE WOMEN AT ARM’S LENGTH. No doubt, there’s this exciting PLEASURE OF DANGER that comes with adultery. Even the bible says in Proverbs 9:17 that “Stolen water is sweeter, and stolen bread tastes better.” (GNT).

However, the same bible takes an exception to such pleasure, stating in Proverbs 6:32-33 that “…a man who commits adultery doesn't have any sense. He is just destroying himself. He will be dishonored and beaten up; he will be permanently disgraced.” (GNT). A man can live with TEMPORARY DISGRACE. But PERMANENT DISGRACE? hell no! I read the confession of a retired Delilah and was inspired to put up this piece. You should read it too. She said;

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“I am a 30-year-old lady who was once an international prostitute. I am well known in Abuja for this business. I want to talk about what happens in the world of prostitutes and girlfriends. Women are usually told to pray for their marriages and husbands. However, the same husbands do not pray for themselves to keep from indulging in extramarital affairs. Truth is, when a man starts cheating on his wife or fiancée, he automatically gets into bondage.”

“I was in prostitution for 9 years. I had an evil tattoo on my waist that covenanted a man with me the moment we had carnal knowledge of each other. The covenant kept men from leaving me, as it put them under the influence of darkness. My colleagues and I used love potions on men to keep them glued to us. Most men don’t willingly forget about their lovely wives or family, neither do they treat their beloved wives badly by choice. They are under our spell.”

“It was our duty to make sure that our victims forgot about their wives completely. We used so many charms to ensure that. We would make charms and throw them into a pit latrine toilet. That made our victims’ wives smell like a toilet and the men would lose interest in their wives. At times we would trace our victims to their homes and throw charms around their houses by midnight to cause marital shambles such that they’ll be fights and squabbles each day.”

“Even now, girls who want other women’s husbands still practice what I'm talking about. They serve their victim food and drinking water that’s been infested with love potions. They put charms in their victims’ bathing water, especially those who bath at their mistresses’ homes. They put charms in their vaginas to heighten sexual pleasure and keep their victims endlessly wanting more sex and making the men to always oblige their every request with immediate effect.”

“People are wicked! Yes, prostitutes are beautiful. They smile like angels. They blow a man’s mind with crazy moves during sex just to render him crazier. But behind that angelic smile lies extremely bad intentions. Apart from making a man’s beautiful wife and children suffer, the only other thing they want from the man is his money. Some, however, go as far as wanting to replace a man’s wife just to be in control of his wealth.”

“After a successful overthrow, they kill the man in some way and remain with his money. After that, they jump to another man, and it goes on and on. Men, listen to me, those SIDE CHICS of yours do not love you like they claim to. They hate you so much that they can even kill you if that is what it takes to steal your money and go. There is nothing good in cheating. You may think you’re a real man. But in the actual sense, you’re just a foolish immoral man.”

“We used to buy water that’s been used to bath dead bodies and put drops of it in drinking water and give to our victims. We used the same water to cook Nshima for them to eat. When they eat it, they became like a corpse and would be absolutely unable to refuse any request we made. Even now, the use of mortuary water for such purpose is still trending. There’s another charm that is done with leaves and roots of trees on which suicide was committed.”

“We get leaves and roots of those trees, mix them together and make a very powerful charm such that when a man leaves us and gets to his home, he flares up over useless things and beat his wife to death. These charms are being used even now by most girls who are desperate for men. May God forgive me because I have broken many marriages. Sometimes we use the pillowcase a man sleeps on when he spends the night at our houses to make powerful black magic that ties his mind to us, making him to think of us always and never be able to think straight.”

“Sometimes we get small pieces of white cloth and use it to clean up a man after sex, taking off all the sperm from his manhood and from our vagina all in the name of whipping him clean. But the same cloth is taken to witchdoctors for the making of powerful charms. Many girls have become the next wives just by using this formula. Men even buy expensive cars for their mistresses because they are in bondage and can’t resist granting their mistresses’ requests.”

“But in all these, I applaud some men. There are men we employed every seductive formula to lure into our net but they never fell for our antics. We tried by all means to seduce them but they were the “NO NONSENSE” kind of men who are always guided by God and respect themselves and their wives. Yes, there are real faithful men and may God bless them. Prostitutes/girlfriends outside marriage are evil. They can act all lovey-dovey but are nothing but snakes!!!”

“They don’t love you at all. In fact, they hate you! All they want is your money. The only woman who loves you in truth is your wife. Ladies and gentlemen, this is my confession. Wives, pray for your marriages, not only when things are bad but always. The devil is roaming up and down looking for marriages to destroy every day. Men, also pray for yourselves always. I thank God I’m born-again. My aim now is to preach the gospel, tell the world my story, and warn men about what happens in the dark world of prostitutes, girlfriends, side chics, or whatever you call them.”

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I know how you feel right now. I felt just about the same way when I read it. I couldn’t think of a better thing to do with that revelation than to spread it. You should do the same if you agree that bachelors and even married men need to know this. Like I said in the beginning, there’s a lot more to manhood than the feeling of unbeatable masculinity and supremacy over the weaker vessels. To whom much is given, much is expected.

If God has entrusted men with the responsibility of heading families, He sure expects them to be at their A-GAME in discharging that responsibility. I’d earlier quoted a popular opinion which has it that the problem of the world can be traced to smaller societies, the problem of those societies can be traced to families, and the problem of families can be traced to men. One major problem of families in recent times has been that of extramarital affairs and divorce.

I bring this epistle to an end by quoting Proverbs 5:15 which says; “Be faithful to your own wife and give your love to her alone.” (GNT). This, in my opinion, is WHAT EVERY BACHELOR SHOULD KNOW BEFORE STARTING A FAMILY. It’s been my pleasure to spread this information to you (bachelor or not). All you need do is tap on the share button to spread it further until it becomes common knowledge, for you shall know the truth, and the truth shall make you free.

Jezuzboi©

What do you remember about the first question in history? Can you recall why it was asked? Are you familiar with the motive behind the question? How well would you say you know the questionnaire? Did you notice HOW the question was asked? Could anything in the world have stopped that seeming question from achieving its venomous goal? Best of all, was it only a question that begged for a mere answer? Or was it a subtle means to an injurious end?

Definitely a subtle means to an injurious end, but not for the questionnaire. For him, that was all he could ever ask. But he wouldn’t dare come out plain to say; “hey, I hate that you’re up there and I’m down here. Let’s trade places so I can get up there and you get down here.” Of course, he wouldn’t have gotten what he wanted by plainly stating out what he wanted. So he had to ask: “Did God really tell you not to eat fruit from any tree in the garden?”

By vaguely presenting his inquiry, he drew her in, making her comfortable to have a forbidden discussion. Oblivious of the trap question, she fell for it, saying: “We may eat the fruit of any tree in the garden except the tree in the middle of it. The day we do, we will die.” Having successfully established a rapport with her that made her open up to him, his next move was to get her stuck in his snare. So he CREATED A TEMPTATION, one she wasn’t interested in resisting.

“That's not true;” he said. “You will not die. God said that because he knows that when you eat it, you will be like Him and know what is good and what is bad.” A question for you: if you were offered the chance to be like God, would you turn it down? Don’t answer that. Don’t even think about it. That was her mistake. She gave it a thought, and that’s all he wanted her to do: “to give it a thought.” The aftermath of that thought is why you and I are in this mess today.

Talking about today, things are no different. This manner of questions are still being asked and achieving their aims daily, hourly, or even by the minute. Unlike the first question which was asked by an intangible being, and his victim who was directly born of God, the questionnaires and victims of today are humans born of humans.

HE lives around you. You see HER every day. THEY seem distant; like they couldn’t care less about YOUR messed up existence. But HE is very aware of your day-in/day-out dealings. SHE knows your weaknesses, your cravings, your wishful guilty pleasures, and lots more. With this knowledge, HE carves out a well-tailored question that promises the ultimate fulfillment of those fantasies. At that moment when you feel like the best of SCHOLARS, HE asks:

“Those moralists always telling you how to live your life, who tells them how to live theirs?” You ponder on it and hear a soft whisper from nowhere saying; “nobody.” Best case scenario, you flaunt your knowledge as the first victim did. You say something like: “God tells them.” Whatever the case, HE has soothing follow up questions for you. Could be: “why then should they tell you how to live yours?” Or, “God can talk to you too; you know?” You think about it again, and that’s it.

HE notices you reasoning his words. HE knows he's succeeded in inspiring a vulnerable moment, so he KNOCKS YOU OUT with another follow up statement: “would be sad to walk the earth without actualizing every fantasy that plays in our minds due to SOCIAL CONDITIONINGS. I mean, God gave us WILL POWER and a mind of our own. But certain people want to rob us of that privilege while keeping theirs. If you ask me, that’s crazy. Wouldn’t you agree?”

Leaving you no time to answer, she CREATES A TEMPTATION: “I just broke up with him. He wasn’t daring enough to live beyond SOCIETAL EXPECTATIONS. Such a weakling!” She pauses for a little bit, leaving you time to chew on her words and get dragged into her net by them. Then she continues: “you don’t strike me like a weakling. But then, one cannot judge a book by its cover.” She gives way to silence, leaving room for you to do what she’s made you think you should do: to PROVE YOURSELF.

You could either give in straightway or hold back. Giving in straightway makes it TOO EASY for her. Holding back, however, affords her the pleasure of leading you on some more. So she does something as little as EXPRESSING DISAPPOINTMENT at your LACK OF GUTS just like the guy she dumped. She thought you’d be a better man. She was wrong. Or, was she? Your ego wouldn’t let you swallow the seeming humiliation, so YOU PROVE YOURSELF A MAN and it's GAME OVER. She wins.

I bring this to a close with the words of GOMOJA: “if thy reasoning be clouded by impure desires, then thou shall certainly fall prey and be a victim of the tempter.” Though GOMOJA portrayed the tempter as a SERPENT, it is here portrayed as MAN and WOMAN. A CLAUSE exists to this though, for knowing the peril of FALLING PREY and becoming VICTIMS of the tempter, many still DAMN THE CONSEQUENCES and opt to be HAPPY VICTIMS of the tempter today, tomorrow, and the day after.

Jezuzboi©

J111333:
Awesome write up.
The choice before ladies here is simple, learn from the write up or end up in Mountain of Fire ministry.

The more a woman EXPRESSES LOVE to a POTENTIAL HUSBAND, the more he LOSES RESPECT for her. Men don't want a woman's LOVE as much as they want her RESPECT!!! Mummy G.O say so!!!


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vcugAJ9Ai5Y

Yewandequeen:
I concur with you on this one. Many dont just know when to loosen the knot of Hard to Get. It dawns on them only when they are outta options and family is on their neck to get married.

Thank you!

Dee9977:
very nice write up I wud share on my WhatsApp

You can go ahead. Just acknowledge the writer.

elkon:
wow that's a nice write up man.. i dey feel you.. kindly notify me when you bring another topics on board..

It'll be easier if you just visit my profile and tap on the "follow" button so you get updates as they drop. Also, you might find my past writings interesting. Thanks a bunch elkon

cornerplus:



You guessed right. The quality of the writing is excellent and international blog-worthy, the topic, timely needed. The approach and perspective you wrote from are unique and deep. You nailed it. Don't take this lightly. Focus on more writings as the issues of the society supplies you new materials to use your write-ups. Get your blog finalized, so as the writing and brand gets popular, you get more brand prestige. Walk your way to the top with your writing . This generation of needs more light especially in the case of the ladies that seem to be getting it more complicated by the day.

Thanks plenty for these cheery words. I'll heed them; you can be sure of that. Perhaps Lalasticlacla or Lalaticlacla (I have a major problem knowing which one is the correct one) wouldn't mind putting this piece out there for more awareness.

cornerplus:



You know who this is right?

Having a hard to.e figuring out though. You account says you're new here (registered 2018). Obviously, we go way back as far as 2015. But this isn't the account you used back then. Username changed too. So I'm really having a hard time figuring out.

cornerplus:



I'm still tutoring you on editing write-ups even after such a long time

Haha. Like Jesus rightly said: students don't outgrow their teachers.

lilianofentse:
I've pm'd you

I just replied.

TOPCRUISE:
All this Abraham had to do to Isaac what God did to Adam in the garden of Eden by arranging Rebecca to be brought to him blah, blah blah .... will not work today. If you do that your fellow men will say you are weak and the society will tag you a Kidnapper.

I don't know of you missed it. But I ended the article with this submission: "I know that winning a girl’s heart certainly won’t be as easy as it was for ADAM and ISAAC. But when a man comes knocking at the door of a girl’s heart and she stalls him, thinking he’s gonna wait around forever, she might wanna think again. ATTRACTION HAS EXPIRY DATE!!!"

cornerplus:
Nice writeup but I think a generation of eediots is too heavy as you'll push your readers away. Use soft tone and lighter words. Once more proud to see you're writing has refined and has been perfected and what you're making out of it.

Thanks a bunch for the cheery comment. Correction noted and applied. Thanks once again.

We’re quite familiar with the famous scripture in the book of Genesis that talks about how a man eventually has to leave his dad and mom to cleave to his wife. Single people find it really exciting. Howbeit, one thing to note in that scripture is this: though it pointed out that a man would have to leave dad and mom and cleave to his wife, it didn’t equally point out the hurdles a man would have to go through to do that.

Adam was such a lucky guy. All it took for him to have a woman was A NAP. He was made to go into a deep sleep where he had a nice dream about the kind of woman he desired. By the time he woke up, the woman was there, right in front of him. He went to her, grabbed her by the hand and was like: “At last, here is one of my own kind: bone taken from my bone, and flesh from my flesh. Woman is her name because she was taken out of man.”

Let’s take a long jump to the case of Isaac and Rebecca. Being absolutely uninterested in CHASING and CONQUERING a woman in order to leave his parents and cleave to her, Isaac tarried till age 40 without as much as an ex-girlfriend. Abraham had to do to Isaac what God did to Adam in the garden of Eden. He arranged for a woman to be brought to him. The woman was brought to him and THEY GOT MARRIED just like that: no chasing, no toasting, no nothing!

The bible says; “Then Isaac brought Rebecca into the tent that his mother Sarah had lived in, and she became his wife.” But those kinds of scenarios HARDLY play out nowadays. A guy has to do some work to win a lady’s heart before there can be a marriage. That’s not a problem though. Guys arguably do not want the process of winning a lady’s heart to come off so easily. But there’s something about the said process that can be very unlikeable.

When a girl makes the process of winning her heart to seem like a greater reward than ETERNAL LIFE, it becomes irritable. Don’t get me wrong, I know that teaching about the female eagle: how it puts the male through a series of tests before succumbing to his advances. It’s a nice teaching. I love it: if not for anything, for the fact that I’m going to have daughters someday and wouldn’t want them jumping into the arms of just about any man that comes around.

But there’s a limit to what a man can take from a woman in the name of LOVE or WHATEVER. Just so you know, ATTRACTION HAS EXPIRY DATE. That a man is HEAD OVER HEELS for a woman today doesn’t mean he’s gonna be like that forever. If a woman goes OVERBOARD with her HARD TO GET game, it’s just a matter of time before the man loses attraction for her and she loses a potential partner. A preacher’s daughter once wrote:

“Single lady, there’s nothing wrong in being HARD TO GET, as long as you’re being gracious in your words and actions. But the real problem is when you’re HARD TO KEEP. As you’re making YANGA for him, make sure you’re worth the stress. Don’t deliberately act in TERRIBLE AND ARROGANT MANNERS to see if he will keep loving you, saying: IF HE LOVES ME, HE’LL COPE WITH IT. He’s not JESUS and it’s not ANOINTING OIL that flows in his veins.”

“He can get tired and package his ANOINTED LOVE and PROPOSAL and SHOVE IT UP HIS SLEEVES. There’s a limit to ENDURANCE. Forget all those PALESTINIAN MOVIES and TELEMUNDO DECEPTION OF LOVE. I’m not saying you have to be perfect. I’m saying you should be willing to grow, change, and adjust. A BAD ATTITUDE IS NOT YOUR INBORN TALENT. You can CHANGE. While it’s hard to get you, IT SHOULD BE EASY TO LOVE YOU.”

It was so refreshing to read that from a woman. I quickly tagged what she wrote THE MINDSET EVERY SINGLE WOMAN SHOULD HAVE. The problem, however, is that many single ladies do not exactly subscribe to this SCHOOL OF THOUGHT. A good number of them are more desirous of HAVING THEIR VANITIES FED than upholding core values. The CRAVE FOR UNDUE ATTENTION from MANY MEN wouldn’t let them pitch their tent with ONE MAN.

They think that if they do so, the attention they get from men either diminishes or gets interfered with by the man they pitch their tent with. So they play the SEDUCTRESS, keeping everything VAGUE: neither giving in nor backing out. Giving in means sacrificing other men’s attention for one man’s attention. Backing out means sacrificing one man’s attention for other men’s attention. The sad thing, however, is that these men don’t keep showering them attention forever.

At some point, they lose interest, probably because they aren’t getting what they want from the girl. Consequently, the number of guys showering attention on a girl reduces and it suddenly dawns on her that she NEEDS TO HOOK ONE OF THEM DOWN before the number of men showering attention on her drops to ZERO. This is the time she decides to COMMIT TO AN ADMIRER who had been patient enough to wait until there were no more men to give her attention.

At this point, one of two things happens: it’s either the LEFTOVER ADMIRERS will TURN THE TABLE and play the SEDUCER as the girl had once done, keeping everything vague: neither giving in nor backing out; or they PRETEND TO COMMIT TO HER, only to BREAK HER HEART eventually. Fact is: a smart guy knows when he’s a girl’s last resort, and he’s likely to pay her back with her own coin. Look around very well, it’s the ladies that cry more about being victims of this game. At the same time, it’s a game they love to play. They just don’t like to be the victims.

So, how about we call it quits with the mind games and vainness and keep things real with each other? We might belong to an ABSURD GENERATION. But if we stopped behaving absurdly, our generation wouldn’t be tagged so. I know that winning a girl’s heart certainly won’t be as easy as it was for ADAM and ISAAC. But when a man comes knocking at the door of a girl’s heart and she stalls him, thinking he’s gonna wait around forever, she might wanna think again. ATTRACTION HAS EXPIRY DATE!!!

Jezuzboi©

Contumely:


Must you always exhibit how slow you are on the uptake?


What he said was just part of the info and a good attempt at humour.

But because you are daft and a sadist, you are bereft of the facilities to catch the drift.


Your posts smack of a frustrated dimwit.

Lol
Someone up there said he is in sefia pains.

sweetilicious:
Thanks.I just don't like the way some Nigerian ladies lazy about.We were supposed to help a man in building.From my research,76% of African men die so young because of stress.The expectations on African men is too much.When they die,life becomes so hard for their widows because they weren't prepared both financially,emotionally,and physically to take up the challenges.They weren't used to that.Now as a result,the children will be affected so much by the challenges.This is not good if we want to breed society devoid of avoidable crimes.If Nigeria wants to get it right,it will have to start from the family.What do you teach your children.Do you just tell your daughters that the most important thing is for her to rally around and look for a rich man to marry that it would be the best security for her? Do you just teach your sons that as a man,he should bear all the burden? He is not supposed to ask for help no cry? So many LADIES that are graduates don't even know what or why they had to study the course they did.All they want to learn is how to make up and sell clothes,weavon,bags and sandals.They won't learn how to make all this. I want a change.Let everyone help each other to build.The stress in this life is so much to be borne by one party. An Igbo adage says"Anyuko Mamiri onu,ogbaa ufufu".

Rare gem

YOLO18:
Thanks a lot for this piece.

My pleasure

lefulefu:
oh ok i get u now. Women who were not that resourceful intellectually while playing romantic juliet while he was broke. Ok lets imagine a situation a vulcaniser after a hard days job comes home and his wife welcomes him with a smile and prepares a plate of pounded yam and bitterleaf soup with snail and always asking how was his job etc. Do u think such a man will dump such a lady when he blows overnight? Even if such a lady isnt an Einstein intellectually or is not dat business savvy he will still hold her tight when he makes it.

Let me reply you with this comment on this thread. It should serve.

essenceplus:
Where is lalaticlala this needs to hit FP not the porn that easily makes FP thesedays

I actually mentioned him earlier. But it seems I got the spelling of his name wrong. I wrote Lalasticlacla. I didn't know it's Lalaticlala. Just learnt the exact spelling from your post. Hopefully, his attention will be drawn here now.

sweetilicious:
I quite agree with you op.Most of these ladies feel it's an entitlement.If you were dating him while he was poor, work on yourself as he works on himself too.You are supposed to partner with him to build castles.What if he didn't make it or something happened to him, won't be able to to survive still? Build castles together and stop looking for someone to drain.The blessings of God for a man is the same for a woman.He said he will bless the works of our hands.Women should learn how to grab the bag too!

God bless you