Henryfocoyo:
like me, i love dem mutured waw

For marriage or for hook up alone?

chiommy123:
lol. For some yes but for some others they still maintain their stand

Of course, they still maintain their stand and end up having only one advise for younger girls which is "IS MARRIAGE BY FORCE? MUST EVERYONE MARRY SEF? JUST GET PREGNANT AND HAVE A BABY AND FORGET MEN WITH THEIR WAHALA BIKO."

chiommy123:
I said by no fault of theirs. BTW is not everyman that approaches you for marriage that you accept. people have their preferences and choices and standards, etc

But all those preferences and choices usually seem to suddenly not matter anymore when a lady clocks that age. It becomes more like "anyone goes," as long as he loves and respects me.

chiommy123:
you see. We were on the same page but you were attacking me unknowingly

Inasmuch as we're on the same page, I can't help asking if those unmarried girls above 30 hadn't at some point in their lives gotten a proposal or something like that but somehow and for some reason let it slip through their fingers.

This question is inspired by your statement, who by fault of theirs are still not married. Like, by no fault of their at all? Or there have a particular specification for men they can marry? Or by no fault of theirs at all?

chiommy123:
I wasn't even referring to the small girl with whatever or slay nonsense. I was talking about ladies in their thirties who by no fault of theirs are not yet married. get

I get, but It didn't seem like you were saying so, and even I, wasn't referring to those sets of girls you're talking about. For the ones you're talking about, besides village people arrangements or stuffs like that, na legit men who by no fault of theirs, took longer than usual to either get ready to marry or spot the one to settle with, dey marry Dem. Even a legit young bobo sef will not mind marrying one of those.

chiommy123:
Thanks for your advice. But some guys like them matured. No much drama cos they understand what life has thought them

So the "small girls with big God" and "slaymamas" should just ahead with this unhealthy lifestyle, bearing in mind that when after wasting their best years on sexual adventures, there are still men who will gladly make do with this "remains" on grounds of NO MUCH DRAMA AND UNDERSTANDING OF WHAT LIFE HAS THOUGHT THEM. You seem to be forgetting that they're are 20+ year old girls with even less drama and more understanding of life's lessons. Abi to be thought life's lessons, a girl must waste her best years on vanity? You mean with all the mentorship schemes, the solid advises, the gospel of Christ, and even articles like this, a girl still needs to waste her best years to gain understanding and learn life's lessons? Let my daughter not hear this oh. And I don't have one yet, though.

lefulefu:
Why a number of babes body dey fall apart wen dem enter their 30s into their 40s is because many of dem no dey bother try look after their body.there is this CNN reporter Cristi Lu Stout. She's 43 but if u see her u will think she's 25. Even here there are a few ladies well into their 30s that even look younger than some ladies in their 20s.it all comes to how u maintain ur body as a lady.if u jus dey chop anyhow,dey drink anyhow and u no dey exercise ur body..b4 u even reach 25 u will be looking older than ur real age. Their are still single ladies in their 40s wey men dey chase upandan...and i am not talking abt sugar mummies.

You have succeeded in relaying two messages. The first is: YOU CAN GO AHEAD AND DEFY THE MORALS IN THIS ARTICLE AS LONG AS YOU ARE WELL ACQUAINTED WITH THE MODUS OPERANDI OF MAINTAINING THE BODY TO STILL BE A HOT STUFF EVEN AT 40+ YEARS OF AGE, AS MEN WILL GLADLY QUEUE UP JUST TO HAVE A PIECE OF THAT BODY. (That keeps me wondering why a woman like this will still be single at 40).

The second message is that THE GIRLS AT 20+ YEARS OF AGE SHOULD NOT EMBRACE LAZINESS AND PLAY DOWN ON THEIR PHYSICAL APPEARANCE, THINKING THAT NOT BEING 30/35+ YEARS OF AGE IS A DIRECT TICKET TO HEAVEN, AS A POORLY MAINTAINED 20+ YEARS OLD GIRL'S BODY CAN INVALIDATE HER IN THE MIDST OF 40+ YEARS OLD LADIES WHO RICHLY MAINTAIN THEIR BODIES. (I find this agreeable enough).

But let's hear what Nairalanders have to say about this.

EzeOnyembo:
Oga, you don talk am finish..

All these slay queens hopping from one dick to another and also hoping that a God fearing well to do guy will come and marry them after they finish doing their oringo should be careful before thunder scatter them.

Gbam!!!

I couldn't agree more with you that they should be careful. I couldn't also agree more on thunder firing those who don't but hope to marry men of value.

Wilfredpat22:
As we women always say

“Closed legs don’t get fed.”

You guys should just act smart when dealing with us. Satan used us to deceive Adam so who are you. Go after loyality not pretty face. We Nigerian women live for you guys

@ "Closed legs don't get fed."

My understanding of this is: women only open legs for men. Saying that "closed legs don't get fed" implies that a woman can't earn a living without a man. So she must open her legs for a man in other to earn a living (get fed). This also implies that MEN ARE ALWAYS UP AND DOING (FINANCIALLY SPEAKING). But we both know that it's not so. So, if a woman, according to you, must open her legs to a man to get fed, what is a man supposed to do to get the resources with which he empowers a woman to get fed? That is another way of asking, what must a man open in order to get fed? As in, where do you expect a man to get resources from and reward you for opening your legs for him. Or are men entitled to those resources? Please help a brother.

Hey sis, shebi during your 20s, men are trooping in and all of us want to marry you, abi? We are all over you. Your WhatsApp doesn’t rest. Your messenger is filled up. If you breath on Facebook, you get 400 likes and 350 comments and it is entering into your head, shey? It doesn’t even end there oh. You can’t walk the streets without series of men calling on you and wanting to get your number.

Your breasts are very comely, your lips are succulent, and your legs are smooth. Even if you are ugly, it doesn’t show much at this level because you are in your 20s and everything about you is still standing tall. Your backside is still very nicely shaped and bouncing properly, and you can’t help telling yourself that you have such a bright future behind you. Okay nah. Now, here are the mistakes most of you girls make at this stage of your lives;

YOU EASILY DUMP GUYS IN A RELATIONSHIP: Any little thing, you break up because in your little mind, there are many fishes in the ocean. Over 20 guys are bothering you for relationship. So you can easily hook up with another guy. After six months, you break up again and start another one because you are hot like Akara. You cannot bend down and build a solid relationship, neither can you learn how to tolerate a man and work on your own self. At this stage, feminism dey shack you like Kai-Kai. You no send anybody. You no want hear advise at all. For your mind, even this kain post na rubbish. No wahala. We shall see.

AT THIS LEVEL, SOME OF YOU LADIES WANT TO SHOW EVERYTHING: Since you’re still young and your breasts are still standing up tall, all you want to do snap and show them off on social media. Your buttocks are still very nice, so you display it anyhow, using it to set trap for guys. You sell romantic skin like Akara. Every guy in the neighborhood is coming to collect their own share. Even married men are collecting their own. They are all collecting and walking away, and in your mind, marriage will not be hard. Haha. I laugh you in your village people’s language.

AT THIS STAGE, YOU DON’T LACK ANYTHING: Men are giving you all you need. You are not working but airtime is never below N10,000 on your phone. Shoes and classic cloths are uncountable in your wardrobe, yet, you are not doing any job. Small girl with big god, abi? Dem dey rush you, abi? Life is beautiful and you couldn’t ask for more, abi? Listen, let me tell you, as all those things are happening, that’s exactly how your destiny is depreciating with speed. A time will finally come when your age will have really increased and all those your assets will be needing pillar support to make them look alive. You think I’m lying? Oya go and ask that woman you use to add “Mama” before her real name and you will hear/see for yourself.

It doesn’t end there oh. Your face will begin to have a lot of pimples and holes. Many things will just go wrong with you. Your once flat tommy will begin to come out and your local government will begin to have some kind of mature odor that can kill somebody’s bouncing baby boy. Your armpit will become darker and your waist will begin to develop flesh rapidly while those your broad hips will just disappear as if they were raptured. At this point, your eye go begin clear!!!

Days will turn to months and months will turn to years. You begin to have near success syndrome with guys. It will look as if the relationship is almost working out. But before you say JACK, something will happen and the guy will disappear. You will start following another guy with hope for marriage, and like play like play, dat one sef go just follow chop you and run away. You go begin grow old unnecessarily and the fear of menopause will even make you age faster.

By this time, the spiritual DNAs of the multiple guys you slept with, both the ones from cursed families and the ones with ancestral curses, will begin to hunt you. You begin to reap the consequences of lifting your legs towards the ceiling and twisting your body like snake in bed. By this time, all those things that used to make guys “rush you” will be no more. By this time, you become emergency born again. All your post on Facebook begins to be all about Jesus and church things. They'll change from “small girl with big god” and “na dem dey rush us” to “Jesus I love you.” Even to wish someone a happy birthday, Jesus must enter. Mtcheeeew…

Even when football is being discussed, you must find a way to add Jesus to it. For your mind, you dey deceive guys abi? You wan’t guys to see the supposed wife material in you, abi? Suddenly, you learn manners. All your past escapades with men begin to tell on you. The battle becomes more spiritual than physical, as the multiple soul ties begin speaking different kinds of grammar on your destiny. All the curses married women laid on you for sleeping with their husbands begin to control your destiny. You think excessive Mary Kay can remove all your mess?

Listen oh, at 40, a guy is still young and looks very young. But a lady of 35 looks more like that woman who you used to add "Mama" before her real name. What is my point in all these talks? Make haste while the sun shines to avoid “had I known.” Don’t while away your time playing games with men. For those who don’t understand simple analysis, I am not saying a lady cannot marry at 35. I am not saying God’s time is not the best. I am not mocking those who are above 30 and still single. I am not saying that only those who marry at 25 have the best of marriages.

I am only saying you shouldn’t waste your time sleeping around with men when you can easily accept a man who loves you and settle down with him. See ehn, at this point of your life, only men of older ages like 40-45 will come to marry you because young guys of 30-35 won’t like to marry a lady of 35-38. Even at that, it could be frustrating because even those guys of 40-45 may have all been married by this time, even married to girls of 22-27. Guys still look so young at 40. But a lady of 35 will look like “Senior Sis,” if you know what I mean. Ladies age faster. That’s why a girl of 16 will look so mature and guys will be “rushing her” while a boy of 18 will look like a 13-year-old. I know it makes you girls feel big at that tender age. But remember that the same thing also applies in old age. A word is enough for the wise. Bye-bye!!!

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VotingPolls:
Where is that guy that produced a short action film by himself?

This might be your chance bro

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Edie didn’t think the South-South had much to offer him any more. He couldn’t imagine a N15k salary waiting tables in a hotel owned by a man who falls among the top 5 richest moneybags in an oil city. He didn’t just feel cheated, he felt insulted. A graduate of Business Administration waiting tables for a N15k monthly pay? “My village people must be at work,” he usually thought to himself. But it wasn’t his village people. It was Nigeria!!!

His Abuja friend didn’t make matters any better, as he always filled Edie’s head with an exaggerated idea of Abuja as being the final bus stop for hustlers, giving the impression that he himself was living large over there. His exaggerations fueled Edie’s decision to resign and zoom off to Abuja with the N10k he had managed to save up in the past 11 months. You can’t earn N15k monthly and have a girlfriend and expect to have savings. Which Nigerian girlfriend allows that?

Edie alighted from the bus all excited about his migration to Abuja. But his excitement only lasted until he called his friend to inform him of his arrival. “O’boy, I don reach Abj ooh,” Edie announced. “You mean am?” the friend replied. “No dulling my broda,” Edie affirmed. “You are welcome,” said the friend reluctantly. “So wetin be dat your house address again?” Edie asked for confirmation before proceeding. But his friend replied him with the question, “You say?”

“Guy, I didn’t know you took me seriously ooh,” Edie’s friend shockingly declared. “I wasn’t exactly saying you should come to Abuja. I was only trying to tell you that if life in the South-South wasn’t juicy for you, you could try taking the hustle elsewhere to see if it works out. I wasn’t exactly referring to Abuja. I only mentioned Abuja because it’s where I stay. See, I’m even squatting with 9 guys in a room. You should have informed me before coming nah. You sef!!!”

Edie couldn’t believe his ears. That was his first time in Abuja and he had absolutely no one there except his dear friend who just deserted him. Worst off, he had no cash on him to pay his way back home. That was when his problem started. He sought for means to raise enough money to transport himself back home but failed on every single attempt. Many nights came and went with him dragging sleeping space with drunks on the verandas of closed shops.

There’s this market woman he usually visited to buy Garri on credit from. How he managed to get a plate and spoon is something I don’t know. But he drank Garri daily for two weeks and was not any close to finding himself as much as a “begging job.” Paying the woman became a problem, yet he wouldn’t stop going to her for more. If he stops, how would he feed? The woman, however, didn’t wait for Edie to stop. She stopped him, but he refused to be stopped.

“Please leave this place!!! I don’t have Garri again for you!!! All the ones you’ve gotten so far on credit, have you paid anything back? And you’re coming to get more? Please go!!! My Garri has finished!!!” the woman ranted at Edie in the presence of a girl who sat close by cooling off with snacks and a cold drink. Instead of getting embarrassed, Edie confronted the woman. “Why would you say you don’t have Garri? Is this not Garri I’m seeing with my two eyes? Abi you want me to die in this Abuja? Never!!! You must give me Garri!!! I will pay you when I have money!!!”

The girl couldn’t stand the verbal war between Edie and the woman any further. So she intervened and bought Edie two packs of “HUNGRY MAN” Indomie. She thought it would be a relief to him. But Eddie’s facial expression following her kind gesture puzzled and unsettled her spirit. The young man wasn’t appreciative about the Indomie. Why would he; when he has neither home nor place to cook? This drove the young girl into questioning him.

“What’s the problem? You don’t like Indomie?” she asked most tenderly and politely. “Not exactly,” Eddie replied. “Why then does it seem like you’re turning it down? Garri works better for you?” the girl again asked, sprinkling a little bit of sarcasm in her statement. Eddie lit up like a million stars at that point with a hyperactive response, “Yes! Garri works better for me.” He hoped the girl will drop the interrogation and substitute the Indomie for Garri. But she just wouldn’t.

In disbelieve, she curiously questioned him again. “Why is that?” It was about time Eddie cut through the chase and get that embarrassing moment over with. So he broke the ice. “I don’t have a place to stay. I came into Abjua from to see a friend. But he dumped me the moment I got here. I’m stranded and looking for a way to gather some cash and journey back home. I don’t have a place to stay, and Garri has been my only delicacy for the past 14 days. So you see why Garri works better for me?” he asked with a noticeable measure of frustration, bitterness, and aggression.

The kind hearted daughter of Zion couldn’t help immediately taking pity on him to the point of resolving to take him home, prepare him a good meal, and have him freshen up at the least. She wasn’t exactly sure what would come next. But she was not leaving that stranded and hungry handsome fellow out there when she could solve a measure of his problem, whether little or great. At once, she asked him to come home with her so she can change his meal for the day.

Eddie wasn’t exactly sure whether to consent or let his ego buy him some more time on the harsh streets of Abuja. But on paying a closer attention to the sounds of his intestinal warms, he knew he shouldn’t let go a chance to feed well after two weeks of malnutrition, no thanks to his friend who invited him over. Soon enough, Eddie and the girl were at her home. The young man had a good meal of Indomie, freshened up, and had a very long nap.

The hand of the clock was already on after 11:00pm when Eddie snapped out of his long nap to find the good Samaritan working on school projects and stuffs like that. For the first time in two weeks, he was the Eddie he had always been before his unfavorable migration to Abuja, which seems to have now turned to an overly favorable one. Being a graduate, Eddie had some ideas to help her out with her project. He basically took over the task, relieving her of all the stress that would have weighed her down in the process of getting the project ready for submission.

Eddie may have left her place sooner. But he just had to stick around until he’s done helping her out with her project. It was supposed to be a couple of days. But days turned to weeks, weeks turned to months. After the girl’s school project, there were other never-ending projects they had to work on. I’m not exactly sure if it had anything to do with school. In no distant time, Eddie familiarized himself with the city and was able find himself a good hustle at GSM village.

He now markets gadgets within Abuja and boasts of a N200k minimum monthly earning from the business. Did I mention that he got his own place and left the girl’s apartment after about seven to eight months? He was home last Christmas with a whopping N180k to throw around for just seven days. He only visits home on Christmas and stays for just seven days. He’s asked me to join him in Abuja where he’s positive my skills will fetch me better rewards than I’m getting in this oil city.

Guess what? I’m ready to join him, and I’d pretty much love to have the same adventure he had, except the part where he spent two weeks on the streets. How about we take it from where I take off to Abuja and skip to the part where a girl offers to take me home and house me for months? Seriously, how about that? I mean, that would change the case from that of an UNFAVORABLE MIGRATION to that of a FAVORABLE MIGRATION. Wouldn’t that be plain awesome? I couldn’t agree more! My bags are packed and I’m set to move. Trust me, however this plays out, I’ll put it down in writing and fill you in as usual. #Winks!!!

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Benzypet:
Don't have much to say about that, Going back to the drawing board, from the 60s till the 90s our women use to fall in love with men with vision, struggle with him and help him climb to the top. That was how this parable came about (behind a successful man there is a woman) but in this century of women, you and your vision go go lick bush. Vision don baf

You have a point and are funny at the same time...

SoapQueen:
Everyday its seven takes of the same old scene. It seems Nairaland is bound by the laws of thesame routine.

I thought we hashed this out already.

We'll hash out of it the moment the message is received and obviously practicalised

PrimadonnaO:


I meant that I loved you as Christ loved the world. Let's just be awwning here, first.

Lol...

PrimadonnaO:


But I love you...

Awwwwwn...

Please how can I reciprocate this love ooo

I really want to...

Where do I even start sef??

This is why Nairaland should have messenger...

Speaking of messenger, Facebook has one oo... If only I had a user-name...

babasolution:

a woman doesnt have to depend solely on me,but this craze of pushing women to materialism,i wonder whats behind,everywere i turn on the net now,any talk about women is about why they should workhard to be rich,nobody is talking about submissiveness,child upbringing,mutual respect etc,its all about how women should be independent,do guys masturbate on that?why is it so damn rampant,no talk on how men should work hard,there are many lazy men out there

So what stops you from writing/talking about those areas you think should be written/talked about?? What stops you?? Abi you're waiting for someone to write it for you?? If you feel the need to highlight those areas, why not do it?? Someone who felt the need to write about women being financially independent penned down those feelings and shared it for you to see. You can do same bro. I'll be happy to read and equally share my thoughts. Besides, all those stuffs you mentioned have been written about and are still being written about. You can start with checking out my other topics in this romance session.

PrimadonnaO:
"While it's hard to get to you, it should be easy to love you."

I like that part. A lot of ladies really do think it's okay to be rude and uncouth towards guys just because he's chasing them. It's not okay at all, especially when he hasn't behaved in an improper manner.

I feel like saying I LOVE YOU. But lemme hold it back...

Perfectnumber6:
Hmmm nice write up. Some women are just a burden to a man , they don't contribute anything meaningful into the relationship all they know about is money for hair, money for soap, money for cream, money for clothes . Then they would offer sex in return ��

That's the most painful part. Only sex to offer. And if you happen to be the sort of guy that doesn't subscribe to premarital sex, it turns out they have absolutely nothing to offer.

babasolution:


why the sudden push for women financial independence these days,all we hear about when it comes to relationship is that the woman should be financially independent,you guys talk as if thats the only thing that matters,as if once a woman is financially independent everything is settled,it only leads to easy divorce or separation,it doesnt help any relationship,a bad woman is a bad woman either she is independent or not

I'm tempted to think you didn't read that post to the end. Didn't you see where the issue of HARD TO GET was addressed? Please read again.

And as it has to do with women being independent, would you rather have a woman depend sorely on you just because you don't want her financial freedom to lead to divorce. Or you mean to say that what triggers divorce is WOMEN BEING RICH? Poor people divorce too, bro.

LivingFree:


I can do all of that and still reject a broke man

You can do all that and still be rejected by wealthy men, and even broke men.

LivingFree:
Single ladies, a man is not a financial plan. A relationship is not a pension scheme. Marriage is not a retirement plan.


But... we still reject poverty

Reject it by working smart/hard so you won't have to depend on a man to be rich and live the good life. How about that?

Single ladies, a man is not a financial plan. A relationship is not a pension scheme. Marriage is not a retirement plan. If your primary need from a man is financial help, N1,000,000 from him will seem to you like God is saying the man is His beloved son. A new car from him will confirm his spirituality, and a big house will automatically make him the will of God for your life and destiny.

Who says you can't work smart and hard and buy a car for yourself as a single lady? It's easy to mistake financial help for love when you are constantly on the receiving end. It's harder to walk away from a toxic relationship when the man is the one paying your bills. You choose more clearly when his money is not calling the shots.

Again, don't get me wrong, giving is important. But nobody said you must be president of receivers association. On your birthday, you'll be expecting Porsche. But on his birthday, you even collect money from him again and buy two Okrika singlets for him. Sister how far nah? And I'm not saying you must be a billionaire right now (even though there's nothing wrong with that).

It's all about a mindset. You are a blessing, not a burden. He should be free to tell you he's got a great financial blessing without wondering what new strategy you'll use to finish the money. Marriage amplifies who you really are. A parasitic single lady will be a hole in her husband's pocket, never allowing anything to stay. A lazy wife was a lazy spinster. A prayerless wife was a prayerless single lady.

Like my mum will say, “if he's the breadwinner, what stops you from being the Akara winner? Wouldn't that be a delicious combo?

Also, there's nothing wrong with being hard to get, as long as you are still gracious in your words and actions, but the real problem is when you're hard to keep. As you are making 'yanga' for him, make sure you're worth the stress.

Don't deliberately act in terrible and arrogant manners to see if he will keep loving you, saying "if he loves me, he'll cope with it" he is not Jesus and it's not anointing oil that flows in his veins, he can get tired and package his anointed love and proposal and shove it up his sleeves.

There's a limit to endurance, forget all those Palestinian movies and Telemundo deception of love. I'm not saying be perfect, I'm saying be willing to grow, change, adjust. A bad attitude is not your inborn talent, you can change. While it's hard to get you, it should be easy to love you.

Debeerex®

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dominique:
Rubbish post, makes zero sense. Its stupid mentalities like these that makes guys turn to crime and give girls the entitlement that their men owes them something. People should be free to appreciate their partners the way they can afford without getting mocked.

Rare gem

TarOrfeek:
You no dey sleep well for night?!

Okay...

Now I understand...

Actually, I do...

HigherEd:
Christianity is an amazing faith. Sometimes you may have to show grace to the one that curses and the one that was cursed. Many Christians are a work in progress so never be dissapointed about the actions of any Christian. Christianity is all about a call of love from the savior. So be it pastor, reverend, bishop, apostle we are not perfect so don't draw your impression of Christianity from us. Rather draw it from the pure, good and perfect High Priest, Jesus Christ.

I hear you...