victorian:









Well, thank God u agree on the fact it's good for a woman to be successful.

I can never marry or date a man who is not successful, I tried it in the past on several occasions with broke struggling guys but they saw me as maga or a fool to fall in love with their broke asszs and the ones who played me, played ,but failed at the end. The ones who tried using me for rituals did their best as well. But they also failed at the last minute.
My God who created me, says no man can kill me until God himself is ready to take me home. I'm a jewel in God's hands, no man can destroy me no matter how much they try to.

It was that bad with broke and hustling guys . And I vowed never ever to date and raise a broke guy to my level nor marry a guy who is not successful yet.

You remember how a lady posted online Last year saying poor people are evil, and no matter how nice you are to poor people they will always find a way to bite the hands that care for them.
Same thing goes with broke guys.
Although some ladies, their destinies work well with broke guys and they end up growing up big and large but with my destiny, I noticed. It doesn't work well with me
They start scheming how to use me for their own selfish end, to destroy and kill me for quick wealth. And at the other hand, I was planing something great for their career or biz. But the urge for quick wealth will not make them see what's good in front of them.

Not knowing my blood cannot be useful to them when I'm dead but except I'm alive kicking well and my soul is happy with them, that's when what they desire most can come to reality. Not by shedding my blood. Shed my blood? You get nothing but misery and continuous miseries.

I rather remain single for life, than work with a broke guy and bring him to my level. Have had enough bad experiences that will haunt me to my grave about them.

Women dating broke guys and helping them to be somebody in life, I wish you all well. But they are not for me, at all!

you're missing the point.. i didnt say marry a broke man... I said women dont like to date down meaning... for example a woman who is worth $300million.. wouldn't want to dat a man making just 1million naira a month.. is he broke? no, he is comfortable but not her standard, rather shed want someone richer, thats where the problem comes in

Kirinwa:


That's crap you know?..

Omosexy is successful and equally happily married to a flight captain.

was she successful the time she married the captain.. she married him at 16.. i wonder if you guys don't read well

lefulefu:
dont u read ovation and other magazines where society weddings are advertised? how many wealthy families going for dead broke families.i am sure on saturdays u see on tv on channels and other stations where the children of the wealthy marry themselves.u see a doctor who is based in the united states marrying a female doctor who is based in the US as well.u see the children of politicians marrying themselves.did buhari"s dauther marry a broke man? children who come from wealthy families can also be counted as being rich.i still repeat its only in nollywood u see wealthy educated men marrying poor illiterates

like you said kids of wealthy people get married... they aren't the ones that are actually wealthy, they collect from mummy and daddy... besides i personally knownof wealthy kids that got married and the marriage lasted just a year..

MISSCONGENIALITY:
I don't know why you are so obsessed with the Linda. You spend more time thinking about her than thinking about your life.
Linda is not my role model.
And I'm not saying women should not marry if they want to. But making it sound as if they cease to life if they don't find a man to marry is annoying. There are men who don't marry and are happy and no one has the moral right to judge anyone simply because they are not married. Marriage is not the only thing there is in life. Life is too beautiful.

yes there are men who don't marry and are happy.. do you know why?.. men and women aren't the same... there are so many things that makes a man happy that he doesn't need marriage, like talking and gisting with his friends about sports.... watching premier leagues football that occurs every year, playing video games, all these things keeps him engaged...
Dont tell me women too can hang out, for one you guys dont even like each other, you're always jealous of each other, we see on social media how female celebs attack each other, thats an example....yes i keep mentioning linda ikeji because she was once like you but now a baby mama.. its either you learn from her or you learn from the experience when it happens to you.. your choice goodbye

MISSCONGENIALITY:
And if people don't follow the societal rules what happens to them? You need to grow up. Who marriage help. And who told you that marriage has anything to do with age. Why should a woman waste her time seating waiting for an egoistic man instead of developing herself for fear of not getting married.
I pity your daughters

linda ikeji said worse.. she even had more money than you then... girl power lol.. if she could brake, so would you someday, now she's just giving us hint in how shes a beautiful bride... you cant fight nature, it would mess you up big time

Sammy07:


Nairalanders didn't get your gist I understand you...

Case study.
Nigeria celebrities.
Gbemisola Saraki (immediate sister of bukola Saraki)

its as simple as that... people here are angry its like that... it doesn't matter if you're angry or not.. its just that you cant change it... the smart thing to do for survival is play by the rules

MISSCONGENIALITY:
His type can't only propose to a secondary school kid because is ego won't even let him relate with a babe in his level. Once a babe is independent whether she's rich a not, this type of guy cannot go near her.
All his comments betray his fear for independent women.
He thinks I dependent women can't be happilly married.
I pity his daughters

lol its not about me, its about lifes rules.. do you see wealthy men marrying wealthy women? NO. Can wealthy women marry someone below her?. NO.. what does that mean?... she'll remain single for the rest of her life... who's fault is it?.

The rules of nature has been set.. lol complain all you want, you cant stop a man from having ego.. its in his DNA.... linda ikeji tried this, she failed, how can you cheat nature?... she worked has ass off to build a career till she got to 40years old, now she craves her own family... how do you think she feels when she attends her kids sisters weddding?...

MISSCONGENIALITY:
Its an achievement for most guys here. who still keep her life on hold for marriage?
most of these guys here have low self esteem and because of that they can stand a lady has ebough to take care of herslelf let alone rich.
they are those kind of guys that will see a single babe driving and the first thing that will come into to their mind is that she is a proud runs babe and because shes single and drving her own car already men will be afraid to approach her.
as for me myself and I, we know what we want and we will go for it.
may God keep away from us any man that doesnt want our progress. Amen

its an achievement for guys to marry? Rather its an achievement for women to get married...I'm not the one that has to watch time and my age, I'm not the one that has a time clock knocking... I'm not the one that faces menopause...so basically marriage isn't an achievement for men, its an achievement for women, if its not an achievement for women we wont see women going to shiloh.. have you ever heard of men going to shiloh to pray and fast for wife?...

Anyways your narrative is flawed in the sense that, you criticize how men feel towards successful women... you hate the fact they think like that.. thats not gonna stop a man from having his big ego, cry and lament all you want, you must follow the flow of the society... you can't go against it.... a rich man wouldn't marry a rich woman, we know that because we don't see it happening.... if you wont date down then you'll be single... it doesn't matter how you feel or how much trash talking you do... the rules of nature and life has been set, its either you bow to it or don't.. its that simple... if you like shout from morning till night.. it is what it is

Liposure:
Exceptions: Serena william, alakija, omotola, chimamanda, jennifer lawrence, jennifer lopez, JK Rawling. The list goes on n on.

is it the same American celebs that likes divorce?..

lefulefu:
so all those ladies from wealthy families getting married to men from wealthy families na were dem dey see them?
any lady who blames her success for a reason for not getting a man is not being sincere with herself
in short do you know how many men are dying to date and marry successful female doctors or ladies from wealthy lineage?
i bet if chimamander adichie where to come out now to say she is divorced and looking for a new husband many men will queue up waiting to be picked
who no like better thing
op abeg talk another thing.

how many wealthy people are in nigeria? You talk about rich peoples children marrying each other... those kinda wedding was influenced by their parents.. its not the kids marrying that has the money, its their parents.. so that doesn't count... besides i know rich kids that got married, wedding was influenced by their families.. it didn't last

lefulefu:
a lot.Sir Gabriel igbenedion the esama of benin whose son was the former governor one of his grand dauthers got married to then senator markafi"s son.one of his dauthers got married to the late oba"s nephew as well though dat marriage didnt last long.point in fact is that the rich always get married to the rich while the poor always get married to the poor in real life.its onlywood u see a rich igwe"s son getting married to an illiterate maid but then nollywood is not real life .

there you go thats what i wanted to hear, it didn't last long, i clearly pointed this out in one if my comments.. next

Ardar:


Are you trying to say that the reason why dangote would marry is because he is looking for who will do house work for him?

What would happen to the maids already doing it? Notice I said maids because I wonder how a rich man like dangote who probably lives in a mansion would marry, just for his wife to slave around cooking and cleaning in and around such a large house every day without help for the rest of her life.

The only role of a woman in marriage is to be a glorified maid if not she becomes useless, that means its safe to say that the only role of a husband in marriage is to bring money if not he becomes totally useless.


Op your reasoning is flawed and not of this century.

right I'm not saying his wife would slave herself to death... yes he has maids but he'd expect his wife to play some wifey role atleast, for the least always cook for him... you can leave the cleaning and washing clothes to the maids.. but something that draws you closer to him is when he knows the food eats was prepared by his wife.... it this is too much of a job for you, shou should probably stay alone because there are thousands of women that would want that glorified responsibility

Ultimatesammie:

Lol it's funny you mentioned assuming since you're the one doing most of the assumption, backed up by no facts nor statistics and in as much as there's a truth in it just citing Linda ikeji alone isnt enough, one could site Folorunsho Alakija as an example for the opposing side.
And frankly a lot of extremely wealthy people have cooks it's not the wife cooking for the man.

yeah linda ikeji is one of plenty, wasnt she a feminist, is that an assumption too? If she had regrets, you don't think there are many like her out there?.. or to you its an assumtion? Lol anyways.. if my cook would do all the cooking, why do i need a wife.. whats the usefulness of a wife if you have your maid filling up the wify role?

frozen70:


You see them as lonely

They are complacent with the way they are, simple

yet she keeps reminding us shes a bride.. ok ooo

frozen70:


Well as it is, you are not yet experienced, you will get their but not with this mentality

Women never do you something

You will sure have am encounter that will adjust your mindset about men doing everything

you are the one saying women pretend to be weak.... with every successful woman, its because of a man shes rich.. if a man didnt invent the internet, would linda ikeji be rich?... is it a woman that owns google who pay her?.. its because of a man linda ikeji is rich..

frozen70:


Because they are scared of her status

lol thats why successful women are lonely..

frozen70:
You guys that doesn't even know how the game of marriage is, are here masturbating on a woman being single or married

You don't know and won't know until you keep a woman at home as a wife

Then you will realise the power of a woman in the house


*THE OTHER ROOM...*

The other room
Where a woman pretends
To be weak
So that a man
Can believe he is strong
Where a woman pretends
To be foolish
So that a man
Can say he is wise
Where a woman stoops
So that a man can conquer.

The other room
Where gods of men
Become worshipers of women
Where leaders of thought
Become minions
Of the bleeders blood
Where wielders of power
Succumb to power.

The other room
Where the brashness of testosterone
Yields to the bra straps of estrogen
Where the bravado of masculinity
Is tamed by the wiles of femininity
Where the turgid
Becomes the flaccid

Three rooms
In a house
One in which a man
Believes he is king
Two in which
He realizes
A woman is god!
Hmmmmmm!

The other room
Hardened men become beggars
The queen becomes the king too
The king, just a beggarly page

In the other room
We cry for joy
Beg to be injured
For there, we enjoy pain

In the other room
We beg to suck milkless breasts
Accept every proposal
And promise any thing

In the other room
Fate of nations are decided
Destinies of men are fixed
Death warrants are signed

The other room
What a room..!

a woman pretends to be weak... women don't pretend to be weak.. women are weak....

You just keep holding on to some kind funny narrative... is it not men that built this world while women watched?.. so howbarebyou strong, just tell me... everything you need for survival was made by a man... nairaland, facebook, social media, the clothes you wear, the attachments you put, the wigs you wear, the relaxer you use, the sanitary pads you use, the pants you wear, the clothes you wear, everything was made by a man... so how are you not weak?

frozen70:


His mates are achieving success he is holding unto his ego

Let him go on pls

you are just grasping at straws... you think its only broke men that have ego... almost all men have ego.. even the successful... so i dont understand your own argument

frozen70:


That's her business not ours

You can decide not to marry but have baby mamas

Are you not aware of some men, who have baby mamas yet chooses to be single

Ask flavour

Linda is the richest female blogger, it takes a humble man to propose marriage to her

You with all your pride, can you do that ❓

lol linda ikeji is one celeb women in nigeria look up to, lol thats certainly your business. Oh really it takes a humble man, yet no humble man has proposed??

frozen70:


Then let him hang his ego about every where he goes since its an abomination for a man to bring down his ego to relate with women and other people

His ego, his business

Just let the well to do women be, they are complacent with their way of life

why would a man bring down his ego for a woman... do you find men who act feminine attractive, men who act emasculated, goodluck finding a man who would bring down his ego.... the ego is part of his masculinity

frozen70:


Did they ever complain that they are lonely

And who told you that they don't have a man dying for their love

I will like you to erase the mentality of seeing women who are not married as being are lonely

Marriage is not for everyone

Instead of being in a bitter and frustrated marriage, remain single and be answerable to your self and God alone

All those women who died in their so called marriage would have been happier living a single life they had known

If it works for you, that same thing may not work for another

Some men are in their third marriage, just because the previous ones didn't work, yet the clergy men still wedds them

The most recent one is 9ice

That doesn't mean he is not a good guy, it just didn't work

Rich woman or no rich woman, love must be fulfilled, its a natural force

go to linda ikejis Instagram page, go and see how she keeps telling us how she wants to be someone's bride... this is after she has preached how she doesn't need a man...

You keep stating different assumptions and fairytales.. there's that and there's reality... you should always use linda ikeji as reference.... men and women aren't the same... a man can chase a career and be successful and still find a woman to marry... have you ever heard about a man praying and fasting for a wife?.. have you ever heard men going for shiloh?.. its simply because our lifes path isn't the same... for one you have menopause knocking... sperm doesn't have expiry date, 100 years old sperm can still do its job.... my point is, if you spend all that time as a woman chasing a career, you will hit the wall.. at 35 you start looking for love, by the way i dont know of any rich man that wants to marry a 35 year old... why would dangote marry a 35 year old woman?.. he'd go for someone very young... choose wisely, its either you go for career or you go for having a traditional family... you cant have both

frozen70:


Loneliness, because there are no men in town again or because the whole men in the world are now scared of rich women

When you come across a rich woman, drop your ego and humble yourself thst doesn't make you less a man

And you will have her at your finger tips

well what we see now doesn't follow your narrative does it?... linda ikeji, ini edo, rita dominic, Genevieve.. ask them

frozen70:


Don't mind them, they met their match @ frozen

They just want you to have the money and still be a dummy or puppet

What makes him think he is safe

well maybe we aren't getting each other... if you cant be submissive to your husband because you are rich, you'll never find one.. then thats where loneliness comes in

frozen70:


I can see that all you desire is a rich woman you will control

Don't worry you will get one but be ready to pay the price

As for her being single if she can't be controlled, is the least of her worries

thats the problem with nairaland people...how do you deflect from the actual point...lol why would i want a rich woman i can control when i make my own money? Run my own business online.. what exactly would the rich woman do for me that I'd want to control her?

frozen70:


You guys are nit getting something right

Will you come out from the blues to control a woman who has made fortune for her self or give her the support she needs to move on ❓

exactly if you cant control a rich woman i cant marry her, hence she remains singke

frozen70:


You guys are nit getting something right

Will you come out from the blues to control a woman who has made fortune for her self or give her the support she needs to move on ❓

lol leave them let them be reading stories from novel

LordKO:


Egoism is the major cause of spate of divorce globally, women emancipation isn't automatically the cause - egoism doesn't know gender. Some of you are always quick to mention America in particular and the West in general in every discussion, even when it's obvious that someone like you haven't crossed any of Nigerian borders, lol.

Meanwhile, name-dropping isn't my thing, but it's very obvious that you've erroneous understanding of what "very wealthy" means and the reason isn't far-fetched. On a general note, successful female celebrities aren't the best set of women to use judge all women since they're in the spotlight for every Tom, Dick and Harry, to scrutinize them.

well maybe the reason why female celebrities arent the best partners is because when women have too much affluence it corrupts them... by the way I've been living in Brighton for 6 years now. Anyways common sense isnt far fetched.. perhaps you should ask yourself how many aflleuncial marriages we see in the world today

frozen70:


Most men are already married before they become rich and they establish their wives to be rich too

And they don't care if their wife's are richer

What they want is loyalty and she does that, considering the fact that she knows how far

When you see a rich man dating a rich woman, most tines us for business purposes and if ur eventually lead to something beyond that,
They already know each others status

90% of the time a rich woman is never loyal.. especially when she knows shes richer than her husband. soryy that fact... i know you all want this narrative to go the happy ever after, it jsut cant... everything most people stated here are justb assumptions... we all know in our society rich men dont marry rich women... so why should we keep assuming

victorian:






That's your mentality.

For me? My own with Boo with last for many many years to come till old age. You know why? Our wealth and personality is rooted in Christ Jesus .

Christ is our rock! Our wealth is just jara, to make life easy and rosy for us.
That's why I believe and know deep in my being and soul, ours will last forever in Jesus name Amen.

its not my mentality, its the way it is

victorian:







The life I'm living today is my Reality.

ok