I cant believe the responses I've been reading! especially the ones kinda blaming the woman for Lanre's infidelity. Are u for real?

I cant help but think there's a double standard going on here. If the woman was the one cheating on her husband, I dont think the responses would have been for the husband to check himself and find out what he's doing wrong. The general concensus would have be that he should dump his wife. Why are we more likely to encourage women to stand for something that a reasonable person would not? We wouldnt expect a man to take that kind of nonsense yet we're encouraging and even expecting women to deal with such nonsense in the name of love and for her children?

If the man does not respect the marriage union and even his children enough and has the need to seek love somewhere else, then he is NOT worthy of my love and that's the bottom line.

In marriage, It's challenging enough getting along and having to raise children who are good but for a woman to have to deal with the infidelty of her husband day in day out is outrageous. Men need to start putting women on a higher pedestal than that.

Bottom line, if u love your wife , you wouldnt have to cheat on her even though u may be tempted. It goes both ways too. It takes a conscious effort for anyone to cheat on their spouse. Despite what people say, IT JUST DOESNT HAPPEN!

I dont like guys that
- believe cheating is 'aight'
- dont respect women as equals
- are loud and obnoxious
- lack ambition
- whine a lot, hello?
- cannot cook and believe women are there to cook for them
- judgemental and believe they are perfect or almost
- lack compassion
- are selfish with time and money
- are obsessed with sex, lack self-control
- are always jealous
- have low self esteem
- watch porn
-are pessimistic

I will list more later...

I say she drop him like it's hot! I cant imagine been in a marriage like that where I cant trust him...common! Then pray tell, what is the marriage based on then? Not knowing if he's coming home to me tonite or not? I imagine that marriage should be more fulfilling than that.

There's no such thing as a stupid fling. The fact that he went out of his home and cheated on her is bad enough, then to keep the affair knowing that she knows is downright outrageous!

He has obviously broken his vows and he's not worthy of her love anymore. There's no guarantee that it wont be Sheila tomorrow or Vanessa 10 yrs down the line. Does she really want to go down that line? If she was my friend, I will go help her pack her stuff. I wont put myself through that and I will not advise anyone to go through that either.

Sometimes, u need to look at the situation logically and not emotionally...Nuff said!