Mamadf:
I am married to a perfect husband even with all my flaws from a young age ,we have been married for seven years with out children together.
At 16+ in my sss3 got pregnant and gave birth for my class mate,as an only child my mum stood there for me so I can have the child and continue my education with out interaction.she took care of her like her child and she grew up to see me as a sister.the father later travel to Europe so was completely out of her life until she turned 16years.
After my university by then I was 21+, I started a business, then I was feeling alone,a guy came along and started pestering me for a relationship at first I saw no future with him but the thing he did amazes me like this guy can follow me home each day,stay outside my gate till like 2am each day and alone too and wasn't getting tired.

Am doing my business from home so I can focus on her ,I am giving her proper home training,my hubby sends her to a good and expensive school,she is shubby and eats well.
Even my hubby can not live without her once she is on holiday in my mum's place.
I don't know if this guy wants to ruin my marriage . My second daughter is now 11years old,she has a age difference of 7years with her elder sister,if it's you guys what will you do.

Mamadf:

Fast forward to last month I have just myself ,my darling hubby and daughter doing our thing since na holiday we said chill out in benin republic for a week if we find anything reasonable we can do it will be a plus, unluckily we met my ex in my former area,and he saw our daughter and this guy started pressuring me seriously that he wants to be in his daughter life,he has a family now with two kids but still unmarried,still living in his family compound though his elder sister was lucky to go to America and has rebuild their house and established him the little way she can.
But he's still a yahoo boy I don't want to associate my self or my child to indecent life,also if my daughter go to his place she will been seen as the daughter from another woman.

My daughter was a small when I get married she knows me as her mother and hubby has her real dad.
Because we call other people Dady sometime she feels is just ordinary name,my mum landlord is daddy landlord so when we say him I introduced him as daddy,he didn't even recognize her.
My family is complete,this guy is ill-mannered and doesn't have respect that I am married, like he doesn't know his bordering,my daughter is happy and I love her so much I wanted her from the beginning unlike him.
He has been pestering me on phone,I could easily off my phone and relocate but I don't want to be in the wrong so I need your suggestions I am not a bad person but I don't want to have anything to do with this guy and I just want to focus on my peace ful marriage,so what can I do, because this guy one give me hbp,thank you all for taking time out to read, thanks.

Mamadf:

So I still went to invite this man for the marriage and he said the thing pain am sha but make we do one last sex.
Fast-forward to one year after my marriage he said he wants to take the child from me and I refuse God could have it we were blessed with a land in the next town so we relocated.
Now my hubby took care of my kids like his own the senior one graduated from secondary school two years back out of excitement I posted her waec result only for the uncle her dad elder brother to come down and started showering with expensive gifts like Iphones,money and the rest . The father in Europe started having direct contact with her give large amount of money,my daughter losses focus of school It was add to help her entering university,she takes advises from her dad that's uneducated,she has loses focus on education.
Not quite long he sent 5iphones and Samsung and perfumes and clothing,this girl only has respect for who is sending her money.
Myself and hubby are living averagely we have two rental properties and we are giving the kids good upbringing I wish I didn't give him direct access everything would have been in check and control. Right now we are more like friends than mother and daughter, she is 18 now and I am 34years.

Fast forward to last month I have just myself ,my darling hubby and daughter doing our thing since na holiday we said chill out in benin republic for a week if we find anything reasonable we can do it will be a plus, unluckily we met my ex in my former area,and he saw our daughter and this guy started pressuring me seriously that he wants to be in his daughter life,he has a family now with two kids but still unmarried,still living in his family compound though his elder sister was lucky to go to America and has rebuild their house and established him the little way she can.
But he's still a yahoo boy I don't want to associate my self or my child to indecent life,also if my daughter go to his place she will been seen as the daughter from another woman.

Mamadf:


When I got better this guy has returned again but I said he give me time then the only option na to seek for the face of God with a pure heart,I encountered so many false pastors until I met a lady that told me that God is sending some one to me, that this man I am with is not my husband,I should tell him off,I say madam I no they talk of man no good I dey seek for.
So the woman came to my house on a day and he ask me to call my baby dad,as I am about to he arrives on his own,that's on new year day 2015. He ask him his plan for me he said he doesn't want to marry me in the present of my mum. He left I was heart broken and I cried alot. But I had to accept the truth but do you know he kept coming to me secretly that we have child together that we should still be having sex and I said no severally,I decided to move my mum and two kids to a smaller apartment around the same area that was when I started finding peace.
I stayed away so did he, I was able to join a small church that is very calm , and reserve my first time there I was like this people too quiet oo because devil na violent man that was February of the same year. It was there all my prayer was getting answer one by one with out me raising my hand or struggling.
November of it my husband proposed,he his seven years older than me,this man no know any woman till our wedding night.
His family told me I was like God honoured me with a responsible man after my gbas gbos life,so I quietly stayed cool,this man marry with him money,I no spend any dime,took me and my girls in,that's how I was blessed with a Christian home.

So I still went to invite this man for the marriage and he said the thing pain am sha but make we do one last sex.
Fast-forward to one year after my marriage he said he wants to take the child from me and I refuse God could have it we were blessed with a land in the next town so we relocated.
Now my hubby took care of my kids like his own the senior one graduated from secondary school two years back out of excitement I posted her waec result only for the uncle her dad elder brother to come down and started showering with expensive gifts like Iphones,money and the rest . The father in Europe started having direct contact with her give large amount of money,my daughter losses focus of school It was add to help her entering university,she takes advises from her dad that's uneducated,she has loses focus on education.
Not quite long he sent 5iphones and Samsung and perfumes and clothing,this girl only has respect for who is sending her money.
Myself and hubby are living averagely we have two rental properties and we are giving the kids good upbringing I wish I didn't give him direct access everything would have been in check and control. Right now we are more like friends than mother and daughter, she is 18 now and I am 34years.

Mamadf:

With so much hope,my guy return home with nothing o,he told me suffer too much for Accra, say he go start to dey press for naija say he go make am.i woke one day say I got to be real with my self mark you I was actually living in upper class residential area and I was suffering so I went to near by local market pick some kids bags pleaded with a provision shop guy and started selling it in his shop.
Soon I started going to Lagos ,then cotonou,then togo then money has value
Along the line the provision shop guy went back to school and sold the shop to me.
Then my guy they flex town,me when be what's up babe I because local okrika seller .
No problem but one thing he was doing is that he comes around for sexs ,food,money and nothing else.
Then I could do UK visa no money to run it myself but I assisted two people in my hood with the procedure and they are multi millionaires that's aside.
Along running my business and taking care of my child alone I got over stress on a good day I returned from togo just to find my self fainting and landed in the hospital and in coma too
For like two weeks I was in a coma and I saw things ,my mom has given thought she has lost her child, another thing that also make matter worse was that the hospital was feeding me drip that was against my blood,they found out later and change all the treatment before I could wake up one faithful morning only to see my self look like one old woman with out flesh. It took me time to return to myself.

When I got better this guy has returned again but I said he give me time then the only option na to seek for the face of God with a pure heart,I encountered so many false pastors until I met a lady that told me that God is sending some one to me, that this man I am with is not my husband,I should tell him off,I say madam I no they talk of man no good I dey seek for.
So the woman came to my house on a day and he ask me to call my baby dad,as I am about to he arrives on his own,that's on new year day 2015. He ask him his plan for me he said he doesn't want to marry me in the present of my mum. He left I was heart broken and I cried alot. But I had to accept the truth but do you know he kept coming to me secretly that we have child together that we should still be having sex and I said no severally,I decided to move my mum and two kids to a smaller apartment around the same area that was when I started finding peace.
I stayed away so did he, I was able to join a small church that is very calm , and reserve my first time there I was like this people too quiet oo because devil na violent man that was February of the same year. It was there all my prayer was getting answer one by one with out me raising my hand or struggling.
November of it my husband proposed,he his seven years older than me,this man no know any woman till our wedding night.
His family told me I was like God honoured me with a responsible man after my gbas gbos life,so I quietly stayed cool,this man marry with him money,I no spend any dime,took me and my girls in,that's how I was blessed with a Christian home.

Mamadf:


All this while I have been living under my mother's roof, though I pay for the apartment.
I lost my dad at 13years, since then I don't have who to advice me of bring me in the right track,the only thing I hear the girl know book na intelligent girl,yet I needed to learn from others mistakes but I kept learning from my own mistakes.
Reality of my life began after this man as left for Ghana,not knowing while I was spending all this money I was heading to poverty, I even bought a laptop for him then. I was nursing my baby I couldn't eat,take good care of my self,it was hell.poverty narrow my thinking that I could go any extend to feed but mark you I didn't cheat with my body.
I suffered for one good year eating from hand to mouth until this guy return from GH.

With so much hope,my guy return home with nothing o,he told me suffer too much for Accra, say he go start to dey press for naija say he go make am.i woke one day say I got to be real with my self mark you I was actually living in upper class residential area and I was suffering so I went to near by local market pick some kids bags pleaded with a provision shop guy and started selling it in his shop.
Soon I started going to Lagos ,then cotonou,then togo then money has value
Along the line the provision shop guy went back to school and sold the shop to me.
Then my guy they flex town,me when be what's up babe I because local okrika seller .
No problem but one thing he was doing is that he comes around for sexs ,food,money and nothing else.
Then I could do UK visa no money to run it myself but I assisted two people in my hood with the procedure and they are multi millionaires that's aside.
Along running my business and taking care of my child alone I got over stress on a good day I returned from togo just to find my self fainting and landed in the hospital and in coma too
For like two weeks I was in a coma and I saw things ,my mom has given thought she has lost her child, another thing that also make matter worse was that the hospital was feeding me drip that was against my blood,they found out later and change all the treatment before I could wake up one faithful morning only to see my self look like one old woman with out flesh. It took me time to return to myself.

Mamadf:


I make sure to save enough,so this guy was telling me he wants to go to Ghana,compare to me then he was from a poor background.
He said his friends was traveling and making it in Ghana that I should help him with money but I told him my dream now is to have a settle home because I already first had a child now this he keep promising me not to worry.
My mind was just to have safe delivery first, although the family some of them accepted us the others don't I managed because that's how they are towards each other.
God could have it I gave birth successfully though operation that I almost lost my life and spent 500k as at 2012 . Originally saving this money for uk japa then uk doesn't have any down payment for tuition. The reminder money I assisted him to travel to Ghana
That's where my struggle started.

All this while I have been living under my mother's roof, though I pay for the apartment.
I lost my dad at 13years, since then I don't have who to advice me of bring me in the right track,the only thing I hear the girl know book na intelligent girl,yet I needed to learn from others mistakes but I kept learning from my own mistakes.
Reality of my life began after this man as left for Ghana,not knowing while I was spending all this money I was heading to poverty, I even bought a laptop for him then. I was nursing my baby I couldn't eat,take good care of my self,it was hell.poverty narrow my thinking that I could go any extend to feed but mark you I didn't cheat with my body.
I suffered for one good year eating from hand to mouth until this guy return from GH.

Mamadf:
So I gave in, his house wasn't far from my shop and it was is parents compound and he was almost at his final year.so I helped him out financially till he graduated because he was planning to settle down with me.as soon as he graduated I found out I was pregnant for him and he knows fully well is his,he pleaded I abort it but I refuse because I needed a companion and I was ready to take full responsibility since I already graduated. During this process I couldn't continue with my business all I did was to save up for my unborn child.

Please guys read till the end because am in a great dilemma.

I make sure to save enough,so this guy was telling me he wants to go to Ghana,compare to me then he was from a poor background.
He said his friends was traveling and making it in Ghana that I should help him with money but I told him my dream now is to have a settle home because I already first had a child now this he keep promising me not to worry.
My mind was just to have safe delivery first, although the family some of them accepted us the others don't I managed because that's how they are towards each other.
God could have it I gave birth successfully though operation that I almost lost my life and spent 500k as at 2012 . Originally saving this money for uk japa then uk doesn't have any down payment for tuition. The reminder money I assisted him to travel to Ghana
That's where my struggle started.

So I gave in, his house wasn't far from my shop and it was is parents compound and he was almost at his final year.so I helped him out financially till he graduated because he was planning to settle down with me.as soon as he graduated I found out I was pregnant for him and he knows fully well is his,he pleaded I abort it but I refuse because I needed a companion and I was ready to take full responsibility since I already graduated. During this process I couldn't continue with my business all I did was to save up for my unborn child.

Please guys read till the end because am in a great dilemma.

I am married to a perfect husband even with all my flaws from a young age ,we have been married for seven years with out children together.
At 16+ in my sss3 got pregnant and gave birth for my class mate,as an only child my mum stood there for me so I can have the child and continue my education with out interaction.she took care of her like her child and she grew up to see me as a sister.the father later travel to Europe so was completely out of her life until she turned 16years.
After my university by then I was 21+, I started a business, then I was feeling alone,a guy came along and started pestering me for a relationship at first I saw no future with him but the thing he did amazes me like this guy can follow me home each day,stay outside my gate till like 2am each day and alone too and wasn't getting tired.