Benignasweety:
I LOST MY SON 5DAYS AFTER HE WAS BORN FEB 21. HE WAS THE SOLE REASON WHY I MARRIED DH EARLY EVN THOUGH WE LOVED OURSELVES. NOW AM SCARED D ENEMY TOOK HIM AND I DNT KNW IF I CAN CONCEIVE AGAIN. AM ALREADY TRYING 4 A QUICKER ROUTE WITH CLOMID. PLEASE ANY IDEA IF IT WLD HELP ME CONCEIVE EASILY. I JUST WANT ANODA BABY TO HOLD AND TO HAVE A SAY IN MY DH HOME. ANSAS PLZ

Hello Dear,

I'm so sorry for what happened to you and your child. I know it's really hard and painful.
May God give you strength and peace. May He embrace you and give you comfort.

In the first few days after losing your baby you will have to cope with immense grief and a mixture of emotions, as well as the physical aspects of losing a baby.

There will also be some practical things that you may need to take care. For example, considering if you should have a post mortem performed on your baby, organising the funeral or you may need help understanding the pathology report on your placenta. It’s important to know that there are people who can support and advise you through all of this so please do not go through this alone.

Most women, will agree that the emotional pain is infinitely more difficult to bear than the physical discomfort. Remember that your hormone levels are rapidly changing after the birth, and mood swings and tears are normal after any delivery. Your midwife should still visit you at home to support you emotionally and help with physical symptoms. Nature can be cruel and your breasts can fill with milk. Milk production can be suppressed by medication but many women decide not to take this. Breast engorgement can be painful, ask your midwife for advice.

What your feeling now is normal. As the grieving process goes on your emotions may change dramatically day-to-day or even hour-to-hour. Many experience a feeling of failure – how could they have let a tiny baby die? Many mothers cannot face the idea of seeing others’ babies and experience intense jealousy of other mothers. Some felt brave enough to visit their antenatal group; this was often a distressing but positive experience.

Praying for you...