Hi Cayon,
I see that u know what u want and u're not ready to be coaxed by anybody into what u don't believe in even by ur mum.Having said that, i'll like u to treat this case with caution cos our parents either we accept it or not are guardian angels from God, it is only when u're very sure that the experience she had in d past does not apply to u then u can always follow ur instinct.Experience they say is the best teacher but i'll rather say it is better to learn from the experienced,u don't necessarily have to get burnt by fire b4 u know that fire burns.I am a black person as well and i cherish ur decision as blacks are special people with xter hence they can be trusted with things of the heart.In this case however u've to adopt good and skillful communication between u and ur mum and ensure that after u've gotten her own view about ur decision try and make her see reasons with u,also commit it to God in prayers, make ur mum ur friend,u'll be amazed at its effectiveness.If u need more on family relationship and effective communication then see my blog below. Cheers



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Men as u know are not so different from their female counterpart but their needs take varying direction hence you easily find them needing attention, they are like babies hence they want to be pampered.Men also want to take the driver's seat.i.e. be in charge and they don't like to be ridiculed b4 third parties.They want to be loved and some times they want you to remember little details about them as it boost their morale and shows you care.Men most of the time pursue a goal or a vision and they cherish their woman working with them to get such achieved.You can checkout more of what men want in a relationship on: http://wwwmaritalsolutions..com/

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Marriage is not boring but it depends on the perspective from which u're looking at it.In actual fact, marriage is a way of life, hence it should be treated as such.Therefore, whether ur marriage or any marriage at all becomes boring depends on what the party players(.i.e.the couple) put into it.You d players have to commit urself to it and work it out to actually make it interesting and the secret is make ur relationship with ur partner dynamic and flexible.Just keep this in mind, that though great is the act of receiving but greater is the act of giving hence try giving ur all in that relationship and then it will become interesting.

Hi there,
I am very sorry about ur situation in marriage especially at this early stage, but it is nothing unusual.The 1st thing i want u to realize is that dating is different from married life, hence this is the time u really learn about ur spouse.My advise is that rather than getting discouraged u should know that u have some work to do.Find out what gives him a lift in his spirit(what makes him happy especially about u) because he loves u but he himself might be passing thru some hard times,also try find out what u were doing during ur courtship that u've either stopped or attaches little importance to now that u are married.Remember that good communication can seal a deal quickly and easily try petting him, men luv it, then, above all pray to God for his help for he his there for u.