Zaksart:


Brother from my experience lot of ladies that are into food selling or caterers are big time olosho.... Especially those caterers na p*s*y be their office. Them plenty for badoo..

Flee from Chioma... If you are ready to marry don't do a long distance that's not ready to come and spend a week once in a month except she dey abroad.



Jumo unto the next one.. God don show you Chioma weakness.

Thanks bro. I appreciate.

Yusufisraelj:





It doesn't matter a bit, by the way what attracted you to her, what values informs your decision about asking a lady out?

I feel the complete picture of your story is still missing, no reasonable lady should do this, however in a case where all you said is what it is, then the above advise by Michelle simply speaks to reality and you should evaluate yourself, not the your lady, bkos for you to make this kind of decision and allow it linger to this point speaks a lot.

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She is hard working o. She is a business woman and a model too.

She knows how to cook very well.

She is food vendor too. In a big way.

But suspect she is into runs too.
I am not sure about that.

slimman007:


Mr man you better run for your dear life before chioma destroys your life.For your information chioma is high class olosho who's bills are foot by Abuja sugar daddies..I stay in Abuja so I know what I am talking about,come to Wuse 2,Gwarinpa,Asokoro,Maitama,Guzape and see how these girls live their life.Most of them don't work but you will see them driving jeep and living expensive lifestyle... Ask yourself this question is Chioma the kind of woman you desire as wife...l rest my case

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Yap the babe lives expensive life style.
Even I earn high too. I am an Engineer in Telecom. Her post dey intimidate me self.

slimman007:


Mr man you better run for your dear life before chioma destroys your life.For your information chioma is high class olosho who's bills are foot by Abuja sugar daddies..I stay in Abuja so I know what I am talking about,come to Wuse 2,Gwarinpa,Asokoro,Maitama,Guzape and see how these girls live their life.Most of them don't work but you will see them driving jeep and living expensive lifestyle... Ask yourself this question is Chioma the kind of woman you desire as wife...l rest my case

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U are speaking the truth o... The babe na high class o. Always showing posh areas in her status. Thank you so much for your advice. I really appreciate.
I suspect she is high class olosho....

Michelle55:
That's not a relationship but a situationship, any lady that sees her future with you would always be willing to help you out financially provided she has it.

It's best you both go your separate ways.

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Wow thank you very much. I really appreciate this advice.

earthsync:
And you wanted to marry her? The kind of relationship you just described doesn't look like one where the two of you have ever discussed about marriage.

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We both discussed about marriage o.

arthurwillia:
And this thing you have with Chioma is a relationship right?

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Yap Bro... It's a relationship o.

Cerebellum:
Tooking kee you there bro OP

For typing mumu mumu nonsense

I see you marrying chioma after big baba have knack her tire
I see you selling your properties to cater for her needs

I see you living in a room face me slap you
Finally, I see chioma disappointing and leaving you

This I have seen to mumu OP

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God forbid bad thing. I no marry again.

MufasaLion:
You dealing with a hoe!

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Thanks bro. I appreciate.

Me and Chioma started tooking about marriage in November 2020 on WhatsApp. Her friend matched us . Though it's a long distance relationship..... Just last month I had accident with my car. It was a fatal accident. I sold the car scrab and bought another one. The car damaged beyond repair. I told her to borrow me 20k or 10k to sort myself... She agreed to borrow me 10k but she didn't send the money. She later snubbed me.
I even told her I pay her in two weeks time unfailingly.
Her birthday was on 4th of this month. So I snubbed her and didn't post her pictures or wish her a happy birthday.
She has been very upset with me.
Chioma is a business woman and model .. She claims she pays a house rent of #1.3million in Maitama Abuja. One bedroom flat. She is claiming it's her 24th birthday.
She also claimed she graduated from University at the age of 19.
Though she invited me to her birthday in Maitama Abuja. But me I no go o.

Was I right snubbing her in her birthday?
Shebi I did the right thing ?

Lastly Chioma has high taste.
She likes doing everything big ..

She once told me she can't live with tenants.
That she just wants to live in a bungalow with me her future husband.

All I can say is... Let the north enjoy their poverty. Too bad. Sorry Bro. U people voted change. Enjoy your change.

Very intelligent talk... You have said it all.
They just want to make it wetin 1 year.
Drive expensive cars. Build mansions.
And show off. Very useless set of people. With myopic mindset.

pansophist:
There is something called "the hedonic treadmill", also known as hedonic adaptation, is the observed tendency of humans to quickly return to a relatively stable level of happiness despite major positive or negative events or life changes. It is not a coincidence that rich countries have the most depressed and suicidal people.

So what you're experiencing is well known in psychology. Even if I give you a billion dollars today, maximum in a week time, you'll resume to your usual emotional state, and sad if provoked. The billion dollars will just be a memory thing because last last, you're first of all, human. Happiness is in the individual, and not tied to material possession.

I'll advice that you should start buying experiences, only then you'll live an even more fulfilled life. I've hiked on mountains, I've ran a marathon, I learnt Slovak and communicated with lots of Slovak people that haven't seen a black person before, travel to far places where I felt like like zoo animal, and people touching my skin and hair, volunteered in old people home and hear their stories, and more that I don't want to write on a public forum.

You'll enjoy life this way more. Sleeping with lots of girls, buying material things are momentary and won't last you a life time. When I check my pictures library about things I've done, I feel joy and relive those moments everytime. And guess what? I'm still doing more and having more experiences.

Also, help people. That's where the joy of life truly is. You'll sleep better, and put more good into the world. It is only after people have made lots of money, they then realise it is not the answer. Of course I'm not advocating for poverty, but a reasonable amount that makes you live a decent life is okay. Start living, not buying. I hope more young people reach this level that you've reached, it's a peaceful place.

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U really understand life. Nice one.

Limassol:
Source of your wealth and income, care to share? modified; 450k monthly, less than 3 years and you were able to amass these riches? How about rent and other expenses? Or do you save your whole salary? Sure, there is something you are not telling us.

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I don't pay rent. I told you I am still single. Smart and intelligent. I am a telecom Engineer.

OGWILLS123:


No sir, is our mentality.

also know that you are still far from being called Rich, at least for now.

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If u like buy 2021 Gwagon today for #120million just drive it 3 months. It will fade away. U will surely get tired of it. U will still want to buy 2021 Rolls Royce .... U might still want to add Bugatti if it's possible.

Bro everything is just vanity. Just be rich and live a simple life. U will understand that life is sweet. Not unnecessary showing off.

Loyalty100:
Boss you're tired of your car while I'm seriously in need of one for Uber. I won't mind to work for you boss even if it's hire purchase.

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What's your location?

OGWILLS123:


Neither those poverty ,

so why this mantra .

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The biggest issue here is that... Poverty is too much in Nigeria. The government are not creating balance at all. When rich people show off ..... If u are poor.. so many things will run through your mind. Money is good. No body is doubting that... And poverty is bad too.

But Las Las everything na vanity if you don't know God or use your wealth to change others.

ZeddyR:
wow... That's great.
I'm praying for a breakthrough too

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God will help you. Just put everything in prayers.

ZeddyR:
OP, sorry to ask, how were you able to acquire the things you have now. I'm in that stage where I have nothing. Though we know money is vanity, I want to have and enjoy it.
How did you do it, business or work

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got work with a telecom company that pay me 450k monthly 2 years ago.
No family issues or wahala. I don't live expensive life.

NamelessOGBENI:
In a generation where money can buy happiness and people are in a hurry to get their fill, it's refreshing reading this...

I've always nurse the belief from childhood that money can't guarantee happiness, it can only create more want. So when folks keep talking about money, money and more money I just smile and pray for peace of mind and the grace to see the next day...

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U are correct bro... The poverty in Nigeria is just too much.

Three years ago... I had nothing.

Just last year... I bought a land worth millions.
By God's grace. I will finish building my house next year.

Just last month... I bought a car.
Now I am even tired of driving the car.

My girlfriend is very pretty... Now I am tired of bleeping her after a year and six months.
And I am also tired of sides chicks too.

In conclusion just know that everything is just vanity upon vanity... Our biggest problem in Africa is poverty.

I am 34 and I plan marrying after building my house next year.

And don't ever try to be greedy. Give your life to Jesus Christ and seek his opinion . Most importantly be contempted with what u have.
Happy Sunday pals.

Share your own experience? What are you tired of?

Are you tired of your spouse, work, car, house or what?

Etinosa1234:


Aahh.. I don fear ooo...

U do online business or u work for the government?

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I do telecom work.

Etinosa1234:


House rent 100k

In this Lagos?

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I live in Markudi Benue State.
Just selfcon. Water running... Kitchen and toilet.

I don't advice u to do that. Look for one of 200k.
At least 3 months salary is ok to pay house rent.

I earn 450k monthly my house rent is just 100k per annum. I use one week salary to pay house rent. I am single shaa.

By God's grace,,, I will finish building my house by March 2022.

Everything na planning. To pay house rent no easy o.

Josblack35:
YES YOU CAN..

2bed room will take 3,000 blocks with just two toilets.. excluding your sockaway pit..

M1 blocks and labour (4days)

Buy block at 130 per block which is
Total cost=390k total blocks
Digging and foundation 60k after digging two mesion and two labour sub contract it to window level,not per day job will total cost = labour 55k

M1 Total= 550k

M2= 2nd phase (6days)

Window to dekin level will cost you
Full casting 8bags of cement 28k, and 1 trip of sands full load 14k.

Wood and batting to hold will cost you 37k for two bedroom

labour will be carpintary + mesion
70k plus materials above total will be
M2 Total =79 +70 =150k


M3= woodwork & Roofing(6days)

Total wood,2x2,2x4,slin,rafters, batting etc will cost 320k

Alliuminium zinc for 2bed room cheapest price is 350k

Celling for the house out right contract 2 bedroom is 185k materials labour 100k

Total for M3 cost =950k


M4= good finishing

Plastering labour 10k per room,
palour 15k toilet and kichen 5k depending on the size. = 45k
Flooring brought from the suckaway pit sand will cost you 30k for pouring and 7bags of cement and 2trips of sand 48k out side plastering 9bags of cement with 2 trips of sand,55k

Total for M4 = 214k


M5= Electrical

Condict wireing total cost out right contract for 2bed room material and labor is 350k delivered to standard specifications, wall sockets, heater, 12 and 15 arms head sockets and lamp holders 4 lights.

M5 Total =350k


M6= Painting and total fitting

All rooms and palour and outside
Out right contract labour 100k excluding money for the paint

17bukets of avarage paint needed at 6,700 per buket =113k

M6 Total =213k
total= M1+ M2 + M3+ M4 + M5 + M6
550+150+ 950 +214+350+113

= # 2,327.00
Two million three hundred and twenty seven thousand naira..so yes you can

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One trip of sharp sand here is in Markudi is 8k.
6inches block is #110.

Josblack35:
YES YOU CAN..

2bed room will take 3,000 blocks with just two toilets.. excluding your sockaway pit..

M1 blocks and labour (4days)

Buy block at 130 per block which is
Total cost=390k total blocks
Digging and foundation 60k after digging two mesion and two labour sub contract it to window level,not per day job will total cost = labour 55k

M1 Total= 550k

M2= 2nd phase (6days)

Window to dekin level will cost you
Full casting 8bags of cement 28k, and 1 trip of sands full load 14k.

Wood and batting to hold will cost you 37k for two bedroom

labour will be carpintary + mesion
70k plus materials above total will be
M2 Total =79 +70 =150k


M3= woodwork & Roofing(6days)

Total wood,2x2,2x4,slin,rafters, batting etc will cost 320k

Alliuminium zinc for 2bed room cheapest price is 350k

Celling for the house out right contract 2 bedroom is 185k materials labour 100k

Total for M3 cost =950k


M4= good finishing

Plastering labour 10k per room,
palour 15k toilet and kichen 5k depending on the size. = 45k
Flooring brought from the suckaway pit sand will cost you 30k for pouring and 7bags of cement and 2trips of sand 48k out side plastering 9bags of cement with 2 trips of sand,55k

Total for M4 = 214k


M5= Electrical

Condict wireing total cost out right contract for 2bed room material and labor is 350k delivered to standard specifications, wall sockets, heater, 12 and 15 arms head sockets and lamp holders 4 lights.

M5 Total =350k


M6= Painting and total fitting

All rooms and palour and outside
Out right contract labour 100k excluding money for the paint

17bukets of avarage paint needed at 6,700 per buket =113k

M6 Total =213k
total= M1+ M2 + M3+ M4 + M5 + M6
550+150+ 950 +214+350+113

= # 2,327.00
Two million three hundred and twenty seven thousand naira..so yes you can

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Wow best advice so far... I really appreciate.
Let me work on it... Thanks alot baba mi.

What's your location?

PERVENCHE:
try buy that cement now or in august

from experience, cement tends to be cheaper during the rainy season.

best time is now.

with the CBN stopping dollar sales to BDCs
naira will fall over uncertainties and inflation may rise and before it stabilizes, It will be ember months. buy those zincs now and other vital materials.

since you is makurdi, why not try mud blocks? stronger and cheaper

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One bundle of zinc was 25k Last. I went back last week. They told me 40k. The inflation in Nigeria is just too much.

LadyRosa:



It's a location where hausas sell fairly used stuffs.

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Ok thanks alot. I will check around.

Cedarfarms:
My brother, go and start work, even if it doesn't complete it, it'll go a long way. I'm even thinking of doing same, but my budget is 3m.........

Start 1st!

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Thanks bro... I appreciate. Thanks for the encouragement.

hosemujica:
Then 2m can go a long way.

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Thanks baba for the encouragement. I appreciate.

Collinsaik:
150 Kwa , baba na 250 I bought 6inches just last week. But I guess it depends on the area. 250 for 6inch is very expensive. it goes for 150 here in ph. what location is that

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Here in Markudi 6inches is #110. Very sound block.