frozen70:


There is the tendency that, she will Bleep you if you don't take time

She is in her prime and her hormones are pushing her up and down

Don't blame her if she tells you that a guy had sex with her

Her body is seriously demanding for it because she has abused sex and all she wants is a man

By this new year, you can decide to start with drawing gradually, if she makes demands, use your children school fees as excuses

You have a good intention for her but she has her own interest too

Thanks so very much, you are one person who really seems to understand my position here. I will heed to your kind advice, I have already blocked her on WhatsApp, not wanting to be seeing her update status, and chat , though I hv not told her officially of my intention to call it quite , cos I don't even want to speak with her in the first let alone to chat her up any more. Pls is my approach okay

fairygeh:
OP,you are one very confused homosapien.Truth is you want to sleep with the girl ,imagine what you are saying,you once had the opportunity to sleep in the same room,yet you did romance her,if you really see her as a sister,you would not have created that kind of opportunity to be alone with her.

I know sooner or later,you will have sex with the girl because what you feel is jealousy that she slept with another guy.

I always tell married men who claim to have a close relationship (not sexual) with single ladies,it cannot work,I repeat,it cannot work,it is pure deceit.if you really love your family as you claim,stay away from her now before it's too late.

,......That is if you will listen

I have listened o

Chy116:




Guy be sincere to urself then turn the table around....if ur lovely wife do same with. 19yr old boy , including the slight romance, will u like it?

Thanks alot. She is not adent member of NL, not enternet freak. I appreciate all you've said. I will desist. But then , l think it will cause more harm than good if I should let her know about this .My wife so much trust me to a fault, pls I wouldn't want anything to geopardize that.

farady:
@OP, the devil will just be laughing at you after reading your post . Bros!!! You are playing with faya! You already have a problem of lust and already cheated on your wife you claim you love. See to help yaself, just tell ya wife like a matter of concern to you because you don't want to fall, then pray together.

Thereafter, keep FAR from that girl and love your wife intensely like you're dating her all over, call her more often when at work, have her picture in your office, use her pix as screen saver on your system (if permissable at your work place) and lastly stop giving that girl any form of financial assistance. God help you and stay focus. Always know why you are at work (if don't, try to know)

Thanks.

farady:
@OP, the devil will just be laughing at you after reading your post . Bros!!! You are playing with faya! You already have a problem of lust and already cheated on your wife you claim you love. See to help yaself, just tell ya wife like a matter of concern to you because you don't want to fall, then pray together.

Thereafter, keep FAR from that girl and love your wife intensely like you're dating her all over, call her more often when at work, have her picture in your office, use her pix as screen saver on your system (if permissable at your work place) and lastly stop giving that girl any form of financial assistance. God help you and stay focus. Always know why you are at work (if don't, try to know)

Thanks alot. Are you suggesting I inform my wife about this? wouldn't it cause more harm than good? Though I have decided to let her go, blocking her on Whatapp, not wanting to see her update status or chat at all. Even though I have not told her officially.

GeniusWannabe:
If you don't keep a healthy distance from that girl, the spirit that breaks marriages will creep into your marriage and destroy it before you realize it. When black and white turn to grey, it's always a slow fade. It doesn't happen at once. You believe in God, right? And from the look of things, you believe in the Bible as God's word. If that's the case, I leave you with the following verse:

1 Corinthians 10:12
So, if you think you are standing firm, be careful
that you don't fall! (NIV).

You can help her financially, but let the cordiality be minimized TO A FAULT. That's all I have to say sir.

Modified: I suppose your main purpose for creating this thread was to seek an advice on what you should do to help the girl, but things took an unexpected twist judging from the nature of most comments. So now I'm guessing your heart is thumping hard and your conscience is hitting on you. You better heed to the pieces of advice of the lot here, and ignore the harsh words.

I do really appreciate your comment, mainly the Bible verses,I will heed to it, thank God I didn't sleep with her. Many thanks and God bless. But pls what do I tell her? Since she has apologized?

GeniusWannabe:
If you don't keep a healthy distance from that girl, the spirit that breaks marriages will creep into your marriage and destroy it before you realize it. When black and white turn to grey, it's always a slow fade. It doesn't happen at once. You believe in God, right? And from the look of things, you believe in the Bible as God's word. If that's the case, I leave you with the following verse:

1 Corinthians 10:12
So, if you think you are standing firm, be careful
that you don't fall! (NIV).

You can help her financially, but let the cordiality be minimized TO A FAULT. That's all I have to say sir.

Modified: I suppose your main purpose for creating this thread was to seek an advice on what you should do to help the girl, but things took an unexpected twist judging from the nature of most comments. So now I'm guessing your heart is thumping hard and your conscience is hitting on you. You better heed to the pieces of advice of the lot here, and ignore the harsh words.

I do really appreciate your comment, mainly the Bible verses,I will heed to it, thank God I I didn't sleep with her. Many thanks and God bless. But pls what do I tell her? Since she has apologized?

Ab025:
Do you think we are babies?

Saying you dont want to sleep with her but you are romancing her already when you guys were alone...!

And why should you be upset if she sleeps with another guy.....?

Shey you said you don't want to do the do...

Fake man...

Am not upset because of that, just that she didn't listen to me, well I have heard the advice thanks

Cholls:
My brother abeg pack one side,you dey do all that without sleeping with her hoping she will be faithful to you, are you are father or is the bf paying you to watch over her. I know you will want to turn this into spirituality cuz u didn't mention in your write-up were you said you are Pastor. So free the young lady.

Am not one pls

Dear All,

I have been a member of NL for sometime now, though I have to create this new account for this purpose.

Am happily married with 3 kids (2boys ,1 girl) for 9 years now, equally work as an Engineer in one of the Oil and Gas companies.

I met this Young lady, 2 months ago (Oct 2019), she is 19 yrs (except she tells you, you will doubt it with the last drop of your blood that she is 19 because she looks bigger than her age), though she works with one of our contractors as a causal staff in same company. We started getting along .I was Frank to open up to her that I am married because I don't want issues on the long run in my marriage, she said no issues. Actually ,reason for knowing her, was not for anything trust me, I just wanted someone I would always chat with it or something. I love my wife / kids so dearly that I wouldn't wish anything to cause issues in my home. I have been faithful to my wife ever since we got married.

To fast forward. So at a point, the girl stated telling me that she is having issues with her BF, she sent me screenshot of argument she had with him , how the guy insulted her, calling her names, that she always cheat on him. So I called her and she explained , of a truth, she cheated on him because he wasn't taking care of her. She said the guy stays in other State, while she is in other state. Feeling remorse, she did everything to see the guy each time he comes to town, but he wouldn't want to see her.So I advised her to pls make up with him, it could be he doesn't have the money or something. For the fact he doesn't take care of you, does not mean you should sleep around. I told her the implication of premarital sex, that God frowns at it, and that if she needs anything , she should talk to me than sleeping around, she accepted, and promised not to do it again, and ever since then, I have been there for her financially, but haven't slept with her. I told her she's more of a sister to me than a friend, I do want I do not because of sex but to see her grow as responsible girl with Bright future because she just got admission into higher institution. We've had the opportunity of being all alone in a room, I didn't sleep with her, even though we had a slight romance, I was so conscious. I always tell her I wish to see her grow as a responsible girl with Bright future.

My pains, recently , something happened, I was questioning her, her told me she slept with a guy just last month, I was pissed off, I told her is this how you wish to appreciate what I've been doing for you? you promised me provided I will be there for you financially, you won't sleep around again. Am not pained that I didn't sleep with her, never, afterall, it's not my intention to have it with her , mind you , I love my wife,;rather am pained that she seems not to listen to all I have been telling her about living a good life, sticking to her Bf if at all and quitting such life style.
Though she appolized for her actions, but then I am yet to respond to her. Though she is getting on with her Bf.

Please I need your candid advice on what to do. No abusive language pls.