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Romance / Re: 6 Years Of Relationship And Want Out, Please Need Serious Help! by moki123: 5:41pm On Oct 02, 2015 |
Princess4eva:If you had read my post very well, you will see where i stated that she told me about escapades, so it is not a hearsay. the issue is not even about her involvement, but about the fact that i don't want the relation being prolong any longer due to my inability to come home for and she is under intense pressure from family and friends. I love and will do anything to help her go through it with less stress. we will both be hurt. thanks |
Romance / Re: 6 Years Of Relationship And Want Out, Please Need Serious Help! by moki123: 6:35am On Sep 28, 2015 |
Thank you guys for all the suggestions. i am trusting God to guide me through and out of it. |
Romance / Re: 6 Years Of Relationship And Want Out, Please Need Serious Help! by moki123: 8:58pm On Sep 20, 2015 |
icedbeatz:Thank you so much for your advice, i really treasure it. God bless |
Romance / Re: 6 Years Of Relationship And Want Out, Please Need Serious Help! by moki123: 4:45pm On Sep 19, 2015 |
IamLEGEND1:Thank you so much. You are right about the confidence thing. i tried to bring it up for the past weeks and it ended with her taking control of the conversation and saying she was willing to wait. But she always complains of being lonely and far from me (which i understand), thats why she got involved with other guys. |
Romance / Re: 6 Years Of Relationship And Want Out, Please Need Serious Help! by moki123: 4:38pm On Sep 19, 2015 |
agarawu23:Thank you. No i did not visit 40 countries to study was taken there in cause of my family work. Still i said i lost my investment in Nigeria due to poor decision to invest in wonder bank the person absconded with everything. I am still in school and the earliest i can be in Nigeria is 2 years from now i am asking for opinion the way out with less damage to both of us. I don't want this prolonged any longer cos is not fair to her being a woman. As a man i can marry anytime i put my life together. but right now things are not going smoothly. |
Romance / Re: 6 Years Of Relationship And Want Out, Please Need Serious Help! by moki123: 4:13pm On Sep 19, 2015 |
agarawu23:It appears you haven't read what i wrote i am abroad to study and if you ever been abroad you should understand what i am saying. I tried every effort to be together with her. I paid for her school back in Nigeria and took care of her expenses. And I lived/visited over 40 countries in my life time so talking about visa or money is not something i will use to compromise myself. If you read with a little a little bit of comprehension, you'll notice i stated i lost what I invested back in Nigeria and the tragedy that befell me in 2012 caused by Hurricane here. so re-read my submission before calling me names. thanks |
Romance / Re: 6 Years Of Relationship And Want Out, Please Need Serious Help! by moki123: 4:02pm On Sep 19, 2015 |
Justinzki:Marrying and leaving in Nigeria is not gonna solve the problem and I can't come to Nigeria for atleast nex 3 years. So due to her involvement with other men I don't trust leaving alone. |
Romance / Re: 6 Years Of Relationship And Want Out, Please Need Serious Help! by moki123: 3:57pm On Sep 19, 2015 |
Pidggin:One of the persons involved told me and she confessed the rest to me. thanks |
Romance / Re: 6 Years Of Relationship And Want Out, Please Need Serious Help! by moki123: 3:53pm On Sep 19, 2015 |
twixx:Thank you! if you read my submission with a little bit of comprehension, you will see: 1. I did not lie to her about my situation or the marriage. 2. I have invested heavily in trying for her to join me so we can be together 3. She cheated with other men and i still forgave her So you talking of repentance is uncalled for, because i am saved by His grace. 1 Like |
Romance / Re: 6 Years Of Relationship And Want Out, Please Need Serious Help! by moki123: 5:15am On Sep 19, 2015 |
dulux07:. thank you so much, i am honestly wish i could be with her, however my only option will be to move back to Nigeria since i have tried 2 times to get her visa and didn't work out and i don't want to move back to Nigeria right now due to my situation. as for the cash, it was my dad's idea and i am not comfortable with it either. |
Romance / Re: 6 Years Of Relationship And Want Out, Please Need Serious Help! by moki123: 5:01am On Sep 19, 2015 |
silami:Thanks a lot thats why i am writing here. i know there a lot of matured minds here. |
Romance / 6 Years Of Relationship And Want Out, Please Need Serious Help! by moki123: 4:52am On Sep 19, 2015 |
Dear Nairalanders, i am not new to this forum but had to create this account just to be able to pour out my heart without people pointing fingers. Just to be clear i am open to criticisms. Now the real story...I have been dating this girl since 2010 I really loved her then. we did introduction to both of our families in 2010 before i moved from Europe to USA for my graduate program. She lives in Nigeria and while in Europe, i used to frequent Nigeria visiting like 3 times a year and sometimes even more. After I moved to USA i was visiting twice a year until 2013 when my Financial situation changed due to a tragedy that befell me and forced me to even dropped out of my graduate program, lost my student status and had to file for asylum status because i lost everything due poor decision in investing into Nigerian wonder Bank and Hurricane Katrina of 2012, in New York, that destroyed the cars and electronics i bought to resale in Nigeria and was left with even a huge debt. So i haven't visited Nigeria Since 2013, now i have started picking myself up, working on graduating for my masters and also have a decent job. The issue is that i can't come to Nigeria anytime soon due to my status and resisted the pressure to marry for papers, because i have seen how it destroyed few of my friends' lives and i also have the fear of God plus my commitment to my girl. The long distance hasn't been a very easy for both of us, in all honesty i kept myself to her and didn't have sex with anyone. We have tried twice to get her a student visa, so she can come join me but was denied by the US embassy in Abuja. The real issue now, is we are both in our 30s and age is not on her side as a lady and i don't want to keep her waiting for me, but she seems to have no problem waiting based on what she said to me, however she always complains about my absence and had gotten involved with other men not sexually according to her, but all the other stuffs. I thought of getting married to her in absentia, however recently she got involved with someone and that eroded the trust and love i have for her. I want to end the relationship, but i sincerely don't know how! I don't want to expose her to ridicules. My dad suggested i give her N1 million to start something and promised to even assist with part of it, but i am just getting myself back on track and have a lot of debt to pay and i don't think i can pay her off just like that. I need your honest opinion on how i should handle this in most matured way please! Moderator, if you can kindly help me push this to front page, i will appreciate it. 1 Like 1 Share |
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