What nonsense! Abeg call things to order in your own house o. Call your wife and her and state it openly about her indecent dressing. If you keep quiet, she can get frustrated and cry rape o. Your tone will tell all that you are really serious and do not condone rubbish. Deal with it now before you have your marriage to pay for it. There are plenty of them outside now waiting to devour their sisters hubby. Some even attempt it to get back at their sister for one offence or the other that she had supposedly done to them....
You don't have any legal right to lock her out of her personal belongings (e.g clothes). If you're not comfortable with her attitude simply tell her to start looking for accommodation.
Moreover, from your narratives I can't see anywhere the girl has wronged you. You're are just acting bossy because its your house
Allow her to enter the house.
You de craze for head. You wey you get issue about it should accommodate her now...what nonsense!! My guy you be correct mehn! You have your ego and pride and you deserve your respect as a man. Good riddance to disgusting bullshit. Over entitled, over bloated mindset. She will surely learn her lesson nah
I have learned an honed the art of being a Slay King - How to smell nice, look nice and f*ck amazingly well thereby bursting those sugar mummies brains!
Today, I received a check from Sugar mummy 3 to my brand new Toyota Camry
Siddon there dey do forex , computer and all that shit o, Me I dey eat my cake and have it to re-eat o lol
Lovethaa: I don't know why some people derive joy In scamming people .And if u want to choose scam as a career atleast be good at it .
I was chatting with this babe I met online and when I asked for video calls , she claimed her phone camera is bad.. plus I know there is a trick fraudsters use when doing video calls .. so I asked for her to place her hands on her knees and she sent me this pic.... Pls my fellow Nairalanders I might be wrong but is this a woman's hands¿?
Mumu...pesin say video camera no good but e den snap picture give una...no be the same camera dey perform both purpose? Shine your eyes o. Go road go toast real vigina pesin. This na d wahala with online dating o
See all these hypocrites dey yawa this girl. Lets face it! this is the ultimate of mans fantasy. You need to bang these kind of girls from behind to know that honey dey sweet for real. I banged a similar Ethiopian girl with this kind of bodyshape and despite my numerous girls wey i don bang, she sent me to cloud 69. It was 2 years ago and Im still Kayamatized. Moyo....im all yours girl!
Zzor: Men are very good at saying a particular thing but act the exact opposite, you will see men all over social media saying they will go for brains over beauty but in reality you will see these same men ignoring the brain and going extra length to attract a beautiful lady and eventually marry them.
I have a friend (a first class product) who is bitterly complaining of not attracting men and that if she had options she will choose beauty first and a moderate brain.
Men why do you guys act this way but in reality you do the opposite?
Who the heck is this Op to dare ask me to choose between Brain and Beauty?? I am choosing both. I will not want to be with an ingenuous Amoeba neither do I want grandma Cossy Orijako who after few years, the beauty turns to square nothing. Now if i choose both, at least I will have brain to hold on to when beauty fades (oh yah it will for sure!). The onus lies in you to diligently search out such woman....
englishmart: My ex invited me for her wedding. I knew it was to spite me. But whatever be the case, I'm not attending even for $200,000 voucher.
What about you?
I will go for sure and then stand next to her fiance because i know say i go better pass in looks, I go spray money pass their family head and dance pass the couple because I know say i better. Again, I go stand up and ask everyone to shout halleluyah when the pastor says you may now kiss the bride. The halleluyah testifies to the fact that i don chop the thing wey him just jey remove veil dey kiss....
JovialJune: When preparing for c.s and wanted to change, I already shaved cos I came prepared, when I pulled off, the white nurse was like "wow your c**t is big", I was embarrassed and felt like I was defiled
Effing Lesbian! Na so dem dey do nah...those white thrash! You can actually sue for that! Its a form of sexual harrassment!
saintbillion: Yes ooo the heading has said it all guys. Share the most embarrassing moment you had with a nurse or doctor that you will never forget. Please liars keep off
My own was this one ugly Chinese woman nurse. I wan travel go Yankee and they require medical check up in order to issue the papers. They US immgration were even the one that referred me to this hospital
On getting there, she checked my bp , heart beat and then she asked me to pull. i pulled leaving my boxers but she asked me to pull that as well. She con hol my thing con ask me to cough. It was the most embarassing moment of my life. Never saw that coming. Worst still, because she no fine, the thing no con stand. I felt irritated.
I then discovered later that that pariticular routine was not required. Oloshi!! I actually intended to sue
wpadmin: You remember that saying “You cannot eat your cake and have it”.
That’s not the case any longer.
Highway Ladies actually eat their cake and have it with icing sugar.
Like how else do you explain this?
A girl that is wayward in school getting married to a guy that is well to do and doesn’t look like someone that can cause trouble (not written on the face though).
This is not the first nor the 10th time I’m seeing this in 2021 alone.
When I say wayward I mean girls that are never in class, friday nights you can’t see them in the school hostels.
These girls are the most connected. They know influential people. After playing dirty in school, they still get married to great guys.
Meanwhile, a high percentage of girls that actually study hard in school stay longer without getting married.
But you see guys here saying they would go for brains over beauty. If that’s the case, then who are the ones marrying these ladies of the highway.
I am a non teaching staff in one of Nigeria’s Polytechnics. I finished from the school and got a programming job at the same school.
Due to my age and kind of Job, I meet a lot of students everyday; both male and female.
I know a runs girl when I see one.
They upload the same kinds of stuffs on their WhatsApp status. Dress the same way to school. Have the same attitude.
I don’t have issues with these people, but i am shocked with the choices men make when taking a life partner.
One of them got engaged today and my head became warm. The bros was just smiling as he was putting on the engagement ring. After some staffs I know have screwed and unscrewed this same lady.
Is it that guys don’t know what’s up or this is what they really want.
Walahi...death to simps. I totally agree with the op following so many examples that ive seen. Guys wake up and dont be a victim of these Jazebels. They have mastered the game. Look at what happened to the great King Solomon when he practised Simping. They led him astray despite his wisdom. Samson's one was the most annoying. A 6 pack well built powerhouse simping over Delilah.. a mere runs girl for the Istrealites detractors. I repeat...Death to Simps!
ersonleads: I had an experience, was about dating a girl, she did not post my picture for my birthday on WhatsApp that day. she posted a guys picture wishing him happy birthday & when we talked later, she said she forgot....lol she nor know say I done delete am from my mind since. The thing wen make me vex na say she con talk say e done late that she will post my pics & wish me a birthday d next day...I just told her never she call my line again.she called & pleaded. uptil now she still dey beg. I nor get time for rubbish oo
Kudos my guy! if na me sha, I go accept her begging con invite am in make she con kneel down suck lollipop. After that, I go con end am for good
londonbanks: It's not just the fact that she forgot, it's that she's not invested in what we have. I've taken her out on a couple of dates where the majority of the time she was on her phone and not being receptive to my feelings even though I asked her politely to put it away.
Whenever she wants something from me she uses words like "baby" but soons as I send her money it's crickets from then on. Anytime I text her during the day to see how her day is she doesnt reply back and even when she does its "good" or "okay", quick short answers and doesnt reciprocate by asking about mines.
The birthday was the last straw because I had texted her few days ago and she completely ignored me until the day after apologising but only because hers is coming up in a few weeks and probably doesnt want to burn that bridge. She'll forget my birthday but will post on her stories constantly about other people wishing them theirs. It's clear at this point that she's been using me for money and doesn't care about me. Its always the ones you least expect.
Anyways I appreciate anyone who took the time to read this, your input will be greatly appreciated.
On my way to the Alpha Male's Den up the High Castle, I saw the decomposing corpses of Simpletons,Simps, Mumus, Muguns and Magas along the route!
You knew this girl dey use u and yet you tanda there dey type dey ask question. Let me tell you, there is an Alpha Jagaban somewhere wey dey chop your woman kpetus. You are just a mere provider - A full blown Simp. I will advise you to japa on the spot! You are being fleeced. You should be bursting their brains out with Kondo while collecting their money. Gosh! Death to Simps mehn!
I need to see you and school you into Alphanetics!
A slave is meant to slump or fell before his masters when the whips are no longer bearable. So it's not a new thing.
Nothing should happen to our dear Jagaban now. The humiliation he will recieve in APC presidential primary election is what will shock him and he may slump finally and never woke up again but God forbids, his children and grandchildren needs him even though Nigerians don't want him.
Xilsbridalhouse: I’m in so much tears right now!!!! Look at me just trying to do my business, and I just got scammed! Oh God tried to stop me but I wasn’t conscious enough!
It started with my card being declined and I reached out to Zenith bank on Twitter. I was told you add up a number on WhatsApp to chat with their customer care. I did and everything looked professional, honestly I had no idea that I was about to be scammed!
The scammer asked for my card details which I told him no, but he assured me that he is not a scammer. I sent it, but the card still didn’t work so I transferred my money to my dad’s account hoping to use his card, but the customer care kept disturbing me that they want to help me resolve it. I had to beg my dad to transfer back but he kept forgetting to transfer back and I was pissed!!!! I kept calling for hours till he finally did tonight and the customer care wiped off my account after I sent the OTP codes to him foolishly, thinking I was chatting with their staff!
After my account got wiped off, it was then I realized the mention on my Twitter was from a dorm account on Twitter!
I am in so much pains guys!
Scammers why did you do this to us?
Tell me, if something bad befalls your family will you be happy
I take all the blame...I have always been a security conscious person, but today .....
Please learn from my mistake.
I’m in so much tears right now.
I feel your loss o. How much are we talking about. Maybe some nairalanders can help....its really sad
In 2016 she told me her salary was #50.000 And then two years later, when she got promoted, I asked about her salary and she said, “Oh these people, don’t mind them. They added only #5000 to my old salary. Because of her meager salary, I’ve taken up so many responsibilities in the house without complaint. I pay for utilities and pay for food. I pay the fees of our two kids, clothe them, and take care of their medical bills. When my wife sends me a grocery list, she adds sanitary pads. She buys dresses and clothes, comes to show them to me, and asks me to pay for them. She started talking about a car when our second child came in. Things weren’t good on my side so I asked her to give me some time. She said, “I’ve saved something. I can add it to what you have so you pay me when your money comes.”
I agreed and took that money from her, topped it up to get her a car. For three months my ears never rest. She would wake up at dawn and ask me to pay what I owed her. I got tired and paid the money when I didn’t have much in my account.
One evening, I turned my laptop on and saw a lot of emails. I checked and it was my wife’s email that had been opened. I asked her, “Did you use my laptop?” She answered, “Yeah I was checking something.” I told her, “Then you didn’t log out.” She answered, “I forgot. Please log out for me.” I was about to log out when something caught my attention. I saw a mail with the subject, “January Payslip.” I opened and started going through. When I saw her gross salary, I was shocked. #400,734? And this girl has been crying poverty?
I went through the details. That night I couldn’t sleep. I was angry. I felt let down. I felt cheated. I felt played. We’ve been married for six good years and my wife earned that much without my knowledge? How much she earned didn’t bother me a lot than what she was using that money for. I decided not to talk immediately but rather do a little bit of investigation.
All my life I’ve held the view that it wasn’t right for anyone to go through their partner’s phone. It’s an invasion of privacy and it breeds mistrust in the relationship but that night, going through her phone was the only way to find out what I was looking for. I started with her best friend. Nothing much was found. Her family had a Whatsapp group. I read the messages there. I got few hints. I went through the chat with her father and that was when I realized my wife had bought a piece of land and had started building. Her father was in charge of the project. He had sent photos of the various stages of the building. At some point, her father said, “Thank you for helping out your brother. He would have been home had it not been you.”
She has only one brother—her senior brother. I went to look for the chat between them. Her senior brother lost his job and was home doing nothing so my wife bought her Hyundai i10 to use for Uber. Every week, her brother rendered an account and they split the money. From all indications, my wife was doing well for herself while she plays poor so she could rely on my salary. Why would she do that? I thought I was being a supportive husband so my wife could be proud of the man she married. When we bought land, it was her name and my name that appeared on the land title. That car I bought for her with a loan from her bears her name. I didn’t mind. I believed what’s hers was also mine.
The next morning she realized I wasn’t looking well. I was boiling on the inside but looking for a good opportunity to start the conversation. When I calmed down a little, I asked her, “So why would you do that to me?” She asked, “What have I done?” I answered, “You bought land, you never told me. You started building on it, you never told me. When are you going to tell me?” She was shocked. She asked, “Who told you all that?” I said, “Your father did.” She stood quiet for a while. She asked, “Why would my father tell you all that? What were you people talking about” I said, “I don’t know. You can ask him.”
We left it there. Some minutes later she came to me with her phone: “My father wants to talk to you.” The phone was already on a loudspeaker. His father was clearly angry. He asked, almost shouting, “You said I told you my daughter has a building? Where did I say that and when?” I asked, “Is it not true that my wife has a building project going on that you’re supervising?” He asked me, “I told you that?” I asked, “Is it true or not?” After the back and forth I told them, “I read your messages last night. I saw the pictures. I read the various budget you had sent to my wife. I read the confirmation of the money receipts that you sent her. You’re a man. Would you be happy if your wife does this to you?” He started fumbling. He started apologizing saying he thought I was aware.”
My wife stood there motionless, didn’t know what to say. When her father hung up, I told her everything I knew, from her salary to the car she bought for her brother. I said, “Yet, even your sanitary pad, I buy them. You think I’m a fool? You’ll use your money to acquire your own properties and live on mine because you’re my wife? I hear. We’ll see.”
Trust was lost. Love was broken. We had to find a new way of living our lives going forward. Her father called me every morning and evening apologizing for everything and sometimes taking up the blame so I didn’t have to blame his daughter. I told him, “The emotional state I’m in right now, it would be hard to think straight or think forgiveness. Just give me space.” Three days later, they were in our house. The father, the mother, and the senior brother. They came to apologize. “Don’t let this break up the beautiful marriage you both have. If nothing at all, consider the kids and be lenient in your judgment.”
I listened to them. My position was still the same. “I need time to clear my mind. Just leave me alone to think.” From last month to this moment that I’m writing this, my wife had changed totally. She doesn’t ask for money but the house is being run smoothly. She has started paying for things she never paid for but that doesn’t move me. She has taught me a very great lesson and I’m taking it seriously. That in everything, I have to look out for myself and my family first. Last she told me, “If you want us to change the names on those properties, we can do so.” Guess whose name is on the property…her father’s name.”
I told her, “You don’t need to change anything. They are yours. You suffered for them so you can decide what you want to do with them.” The land I bought has our names. I’m selling it and take my money back. The car she’s driving has her name. I put a for-sale sticker on it some weeks ago. She agreed she’ll pay for the car. I’ve given her two months to pay up or I sell it and take my money. She’s getting the message and I’m glad. Each one for himself, God for us all. She keeps asking if I’m going to leave her. I keep telling her I won’t but if she wants a divorce, I will gladly give her. I’m not going to leave the marriage. I would give us some time to heal and see what may happen but when it comes to money, I’ve taken the lesson she taught me through her actions.
*What's your take?*
In fact you have handled the matter like a real man . The job is done and im glad the family apologised. Trust is broken but at least u know the truth. Just forgive and enjoy your family. Im sure she will be open henceforth. Keep on providing and keep on learning. It is well....
ChiefAzubuike: The tightness of a woman’s vagina is not related to the size or amount of the joysticks that have been inside it. This thing na nothing but myth. It’s a myth that a woman’s vagina becomes permanently stretched out from having sex with a man with a large penis. After each sexual encounter, the vagina contracts to its original size, and it has no lasting stretching from a large penis.
The only way that a woman’s vagina may stretch significantly is after she has a baby, and as you know a baby is much larger than any human penis.
The tightness of a woman is related to the following
#1 The muscle tone in her pelvic region
#2 When a woman’s vagina feels very tight during sex, often it is either dry because she is not aroused, or her muscles are contracting because she is anxious or maybe not interested in sex. If your girlfriend’s vagina feels loose (and she’s not a mom), then that could mean that she is easily turned-on and very interested in having sex with you. When a woman is highly aroused, her vagina lubricates, then lengthens and expands in order to allow a penis to penetrate easily
Op is right...as an ex gynecologist, its a proven fact. Guys what you should worry mostly about is the smell. Damn! some girls toto dey smell like dadawa and pap water with fish its such a turn off! Aside that, I also look at the size of the clitoris, I love the vigina lips big, it must be deep - some can just take half of your dic which is not enjoyable..also the lubrication....well there are some good lubes out there so this does not matter anymore. Also the length of the vigina mouth matters to me. The longer, the sexier and finally i love them clean shaven! All in all whatever u do, dont just sex them up but strive to burst their brains! My eyes opened when i became aware of Okafor Law...
Obaseki500: I have never been this confused in my entire life...
I have a girlfriend that we have been dating for 6 years now... We are not married because I was not stable financially but now things seems to be much better and next year should be the year....I reside in Ibadan so she came in last year after her education to get a job, she's a nurse and we were staying together up till now.
Sex has never been an issue between us up until December last year. We sleep on the same bed and we live in the same house but we have not had sex since December 2020 till date. She's right beside me as I type this message. Each time I go close to her, she tells me I am not entitled to sex because I have not paid her bride price. I just could not understand the sudden change in her attitude towards sex when wedding is next year.
She also locks her phone and even WhatsApp. Now, I am beginning to have doubt about marrying her.
Abeg no mind that hypocrite. She dey sleep for bed wey no be her matrimonial bed con dey preach dowry matter and u sef dey pack am chop like guguru. She for kuku stay for him papa house nah until u r ready. No dey torture yourself seeing her beside you everynight without action. I suspect she has games ...man up and chase her comot until after u pay the bride price...