SingleGuy9999:
Good day guys, I'm not really too active here, but this is a 2nd account I created for this. I am 22 year old student in my final year. But I've never had a girlfriend, also I have never had sex, but that is not the major problem as I can easily get a hooker and pay. I feel I'm pretty good looking, at least average. This would be a little long, pls try to read through.

My problem is I can't seem to get a girlfriend, I have been rejected by girls like 7 times in a row or more...I don't meet that many girls but I do go out and meet sha and if I like a girl and I feel she's someone I can date I ask her out. If we aren't really vibing I just delete their numbers and forget about them. But I keep getting rejected by all the girls I've asked out, they either see me as a friend and tell me stuff like I'm a good friend or they not ready for a relationship or that they feel I have no feelings for them...like wtf

It's really frustrating so much that it's literally killed every confidence I have to ask girls out. Like the last 3 girls I wanted to ask out I ended up not bothering since I know it'll end same way...planned to ask one out today but I just couldn't stand to get rejected again...cos even tho I think what I'm getting might be green light I'm not sure about girls anymore...in fact now I'm no longer sure if the girls I think liked me before ever did (I wasn't interested in them so I didn't ask them out). Even the one who made me lose all hope was after spending so much time with a girl, I was asking her out for 4 months, I never tot I'd ever ask a girl out that long but I was blinded by love...and we spent so much time together, my friends kept wondering if we were dating but she never said yes even tho she said she liked me too but kept giving excuses...and I pretty much abandoned chasing other girls in for that while...but I still got a no at the end with story changed to she tot she liked me but was just trying to as she could see I was in love with her and didn't wanna break my heart...

That killed my confidence, and I'm not blaming her or anyone...now since then I've only asked 2 girls out, and I still got rejected...

I spend time with the girls, we hang out, flirt, chat etc but they would never date me... I've gotten so lonely as I want to date someone I truly care about and I have even questioned if it's possible for 2 people to fall in love with each other out of the billions of people on earth.

I've heard from someone that I play with girls too much so they won't take me seriously, another was that I'm nice (I don't think I'm that "nice guy" cos I won't go extra mile for any girl just cos I like her, but I'm understanding and I think I tend to make excuses for people when they disappoint). And I'm tired of girls seeing me as a friend, or being taken for granted. In fact my best female friend is one who I asked out before.

When I see people dating I wonder if they from another planet, I can't figure out what's wrong...is it that I have no luck with girls? I have gone online, read books etc. They all keep saying same thing...they talk about confidence but I had that...tho right now I just fake it cos all my confidence is gone with numerous rejections. Then I read about working on yourself, I have done that, I may not be anywhere near the freshest guy but at least I'm sure I'm okay. They talk about creating tension and stuff by making contact and I do that, I hold them around the waist etc....

So far I even read that I shouldn't blame myself or stop trying to figure out what went wrong when I face rejections, that's what I'm doing now...but nothing seems to be changing. I rarely spend time with girls again, except some good friends, and instead I've been focusing more on my hobbies cos I now see it as a waste of time when it only ends in rejection. I think of going out with a girl but I just rather sit at home or spend more time with my guys or even spend the money on them cos I'm fed up. The thought even crossed my mind to give up on girls since it never seems to work...I'm not used to multiple failure as even in other stuff I don't fail as much, but I just can't seem to get it to work with girls. Everything seems fine at first and going smoothly but it all ends with rejection.
I don't wanna give up on girls and I know there's nothing left of my confidence when it comes to girls, tho I fake it...and I will never result to insulting girls just cos of my rejection.

Pls I need real advice on what to do, I have exhausted all my options, and today I resolved to never ask any girl out till I'm 99% sure she'll say yes, but is that even possible? I know every guy gets rejected but it's not easy when u get rejected several times in a row by girls you have serious feelings for.

Should I just cut my losses and give up on girls? For months I spent time on other things and never really cared about any girl any longer but now that feeling is back with this new girl but I can't even ask her out cos I can't say for sure what her reply would be... maybe a no as I usually get...

Pls don't insult me or call me names I just need advice that would help

BluntBoy:



Are you kidding me?

Human rights lawyer , Mr. Femi Falana ( SAN ) , has petitioned the National Human Rights Commission demanding a probe into alleged killings of about 492 members of the Islamic Movement of Nigeria , also known as Shi’ ites , by both the Army and the police since 2014.

https://punchng.com/army-police-have-killed-492-shiites-falana/

Noblethony:

Alcatraz Prison has long been closed for over 50 years and is now a meuseum

8stargeneral:
He will break again

zexy2030:
This profession is most noble and very demanding but I will always hear, " I can't marry a nurse, they have sex like fire".

I'm in a relationship but I can't see all this accusations. She is decent and responsible even a virgin.

So what's wrong pls?

sinaj:
Of all the posts ive seen concerning this case, Bobrisky's post is the most reasonable.

Seems you guys havent learnt enough lesson from media trial already.
Someone accused another person on socialmedia and all of a sudden Nigerians turned to Jury,lie detector, eye witness and judge, pronouncing the accused guilty without allowing the Court to do its thing.

Not trying to say that the Pastor is innocent or the lady is telling the truth, but from Neymar, Johnny Depp, Cuba Gooding, Ronaldo, Shola Fapson the pepper spray girl, and some other Innocent persons that served jail time coz of media trials or got cancelled and lost their careers coz of media trial. You guys ought to have learnt a thing or two from them that this media trial holds no water.

Im even surprise to see learned people calling for this man's head when a judge hasnt pronounced him guilty yet.

After y'al will be screaming that Buhari is a tyrant.

AwkaetitiBabe:
Great. You can now sit at the table of men and be taken seriously...


Happy married life.



I really know how to press guys buttons sha

thebestprice:
Please let your sister go to the nearest HIV clinic and take PreP. It's a hiv drug that stops the virus from spreading , so far she can take it within 72hrs of the incident.

Portharcourt has the highest prevalence of HIV AIDS in Nigeria.

Am very sure this councillor is a hiv patient too...

kingzizzy:


I'm not sure that Bayelsa is homogeneous to Ijaws. I have heard that there are about 5 tribes in Bayelsa. I even heard that there are indigenous Igbo speaking communities in Bayelsa

Redman44:
A high population can be turned to an advantage by leaders with a strong vision for industry and development. We are not even up to 300 Million yet. Indonesia is 270 Million and the country is doing fine. When you have visionary leaders in government, Population will become a tool for development and growth of the GDP. China's factories are serviced with the huge population of the country. With enough hands to work and places to work provided for them, the country will grow steadily on a yearly basis.

crunchyg:
Please what's that in her water is it lemon or lime, someone should help me, and what does putting it in water do to the body?

Harrymig1:
Price starts at 7,000

chemgee:
I just wish you know how Japan, Norway and most 1st world nations view marriage.. why do Nigerians place so much value on marriage/children instead of making life better?
marry on time... give birth to children.. feed your wife & children.. buy car/build house for your family.. after that you na die.
is that what God created black man to do?
why don't we think about space exploration, curing diseases, scientific breakthrough.. the whole world is entering the 4th industrial revolution, 9ja still dey dance BTW 1st/2nd, but yet marriage, religion is wat fills our discuss..
You can go ahead and marry without any source of livelihood, bring children into this world to suffer/beg(almajiri style).

I must try my best to ensure my children ain't brought up in this country, if I can't afford it I will do my best to ensure they're born aboard, at least to secure dual citizenship..

everything for 9ja jus dey provoke person

queeniepresh:
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Remain Blessed….

godwon01:
A nurse or paramedics in Nigeria Army medical corps .She is also a professional. Good materials. Forget about her back side ,look at her economic value in the relationship. May God bless their union IJN.

john650:
The Tripartite group agreed to N30,000 minimum wage, which the government, private industry and labour unions were part of. The Council of States, which includes past presidents settled for N27,000. The labour unions were never consulted on the N27,000 revised minimum wage. Why is Buhari sending it to the National Assembly for passage? Isn't this a classic case of "bait and switch" where the president agrees to one bill, but submits an amended bill to the National assembly for consideration?

The labour unions will never accept it. We should all brace ourselves for labour strikes that is likely to paralyze the country.

zinizta:


page 68 of 112, the 1999 Nigeria constitution ( The whole section/page pertains to the Nigeria police Force)



B - Nigeria Police Force
214. (1) There shall be a police force for Nigeria, which shall be known as the Nigeria Police Force, and subject
to the provisions of this section no other police force shall be established for the Federation or any part thereof.
(2) Subject to the provisions of this Constitution -
(a) the Nigeria Police Force shall be organised and administered in accordance with such provisions as may be
prescribed by an act of the National Assembly;
(b) the members of the Nigeria Police shall have such powers and duties as maybe conferred upon them by law;
(c) the National Assembly may make provisions for branches of the Nigeria Police Force forming part of the
armed forces of the Federation or for the protection of harbours, waterways, railways and air fields.
215. (1) There shall be -
(a) an Inspector-General of Police who, subject to section 216(2) of this Constitution shall be appointed by the
President on the advice of the Nigeria Police Council from among serving members of the Nigeria Police Force;
(b) a Commissioner of Police for each state of the Federation who shall be appointed by the Police Service
Commission.
(2) The Nigeria Police Force shall be under the command of the Inspector-General of Police and contingents of
the Nigeria Police Force stationed in a state shall, subject to the authority of the Inspector-General of Police, be
under the command of the Commissioner of Police of that state.
(3) The President or such other Minister of the Government of the Federation as he may authorise in that behalf
may give to the Inspector-General of Police such lawful directions with respect to the maintenance and securing
of public safety and public order as he may consider necessary, and the Inspector-General of Police shall comply
with those direction or cause them to be compiled with.

(4) Subject to the provisions of this section, the Governor of a state or such Commissioner of the Government
state as he may authorise in that behalf, may give to the Commissioner of Police of that state such lawful
directions with respect to the maintenance and securing of public safety and public order within the state as he
may consider necessary, and the Commissioner of Police shall comply with those directions or cause them to be
complied with:
Provided that before carrying out any such directions under the foregoing provisions of this subsection the
Commissioner of Police may request that the matter be referred to the President or such minister of the
Government of the Federation as may be authorised in that behalf by the President for his directions.
(5) The question whether any, and if so what, directions have been given under this section shall not be inquired
into in any court.

https://www.wipo.int/edocs/lexdocs/laws/en/ng/ng014en.pdf

read and be informed

zinizta:


how old are you?

is Buhari the Governor of Rivers state or you are just hopelessly ignorant?

bamvik:
What baffles me is how do they make their money after paying somebody 3billion for fighting

Sellfish:
Another one -sided story


What did the woman do to warrant the assault?

Let's hear what the woman did before we crucify the guy


what ever she may have committed doesn't justify or warrant the assaulted meted to her by the dude. what he did is reprehensible and condemnable.

He probably think he is in Nigeria where you can molest the opposite sex and go scout free. In the western climes, there judicial system is skewed in favour of women.




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oglalasioux:
There's no discipline in Nigeria armed forces. Look at what a soldier is posting online.

APC has succeeded in rubishing our army. A golden opportunity for Cameroon, Chad, Niger or Republic of Benin to invade us. We'll just crumble like a pack of cards and be colonised for the next two hundred years.

Nonsense.