8 wish you the birst of luck.
My son is on the same path but I advised him to have a plan B....
It was not an easy battle but hopefully he will graduate this year.
There is still enough time to mKe music and be productive
A side huslte should only become a main hustle when you can live on it.

I think basically it's because men want to date a girlfriend and expect her to change into their other after the wedding.
Most of the youths were raised differently In a more western way.... men and women are equal, we do things together, we are partners...
And then after the wedding husband and family suddenly expect a woman that has 20 years marriage experience.
The woman is scrutinized and constantly criticized.
She is frustrated in having to suddenly be expected to loose her identity.

i926:

You don't want a man to boss you around and you want him to provide for you.
Stand on one side of the fence so we know which ideology you represent.
There are still women out there who allow their husband to boss them around and are also
contributing substantially financially.
When you do do what you are supposed to do and recongnise your duties there is hardly any need to be bossed around.
The main challenge in marriage s that one or both partners don't know take their responsibilities seriously.

This goes for the men too... When a woman is supporting you financially or taking care of the home so that you can focus on your work then it's only proper to also support her.

Pregnancy is not a walk in the park.
... and not every pregnancy is the same.
Sometimes it even ends in sorrow when you loose the pregnancy.
In labor you get to a point you are at the gates of heaven or hell

Anything can go wrong and thank God it often ends in praise.
It's especially difficult when you have to combine pregnancy wit work and other children.
I thank God that is history for me now.
Today when anyone close to me is oregn8i am even more worried than I was when I was pregnant.
I wonder how I will survive it when my daughter's are pregnant.

nyerovwo4me:


Shut your stinky mouth by saying the brother did wrong. First of all OP you have a real brother and you should value him for the rest of your life
You did well by disowning her
She is a wicked mother and you should stay far away from her with all possible means even if it means she won’t see you and your family ever again.

I’m telling you from what I have see with my very own eyes

Someone forgot their medication
Please don't get aggressive...

xavuv:


oh! u r saddened by my opinion, sorry don't take it to heart, it's still a fuc*ing TGIF. again what you wrote doesn't make sense
If you MIL said that to you, how would you feel?

.... Anybody that talks like that is from a big point of pain.
... And no you didn't sadden me.
Words express who we are and not who the person we are talking to is...

xavuv:


u wrote rubbish!
ur post disappoints aisha buhari

if the mother loves her son, then she would not have spoken ill of the wife.
how would the mother feel if same is spoken to her daughter by her inlaws?
what goes round comes back around, really fast

From the abundance of the heart the mouth speaketh. You may not have the same opinion as another person but that does not mean you can't have an appropriate manner of expressing your opinion.
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Anyway Poster....
You can send this video to your mother. ..
She will realise her mistakes.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QkQ2a_3mB4g

Jeon:


forget that some mom can do that

Too much witch hunting...
Often we just look for a scapegoat.

First of all.. I am really sorry about you loss and the whole pain.

But do you actually realize that the real harm came from your brother!.
You ought to disown him if at all you want to disown anyone.
Your mother on receiving the news has two blows... One loosing her grandchild and two knowing the pain her son was in.
People can say allot of things in pain and shock!
I habe actually heard people say thebwishbitbwas their father that died when their mother died.
That was really very wrong of your brother.
I wonder how sorry he felt for you and how pained he was at your loss that he had the mind to tape that conversation and then go back to you to play it to you.
Was it right to confront you with that added pain?
It's obvious that your brother has no love lost for your mother!
It was very wrong of him.
When you confronted your mother on the phone what did you expect?
An apology? You know that parents aren't used to apologising and secondly her apology at that stage wouldn't have meant anything to you.
It was the will of God to take your child back home. The ways of God are not known to man.
In your pain it seems better to feel anger than hurt. I guess anger makes us feel the pain less.
But if your wife is aware of what happened she will only be hurting the more.
Please give yourself and your wife the time to heal and don't project your anger on a mother who lives you but said something stupid.
That your mother does not like your wife could have reasons..
Now you knew this all along but you omitted to correct that issue.
It is often the case that mothers are extremely jealous of loosing their sons to another woman.
May God give you the strength and wisdom to solve this issue

SeaTrade:
Why should government put a restriction?Care to tell us?
Ever heard of the word capitalism before?

Even a capital state can afford to be social.
When prices escalate ridiculously then the government can control it.

This is no good enough!ly
Government should put a restriction. A kind of limkit unless it is an international school. -

Please give yourself time to feel this pain and void.
It is still too early to move on.
The great woman that she was is reflected in the pain you feel.
Time does not heal all wounds. That I learnt when I lost my mother.
But we learn to live on to keep their legacy alive.
What you can do to help is to think about something your mother loved and keep it alive.
Was she always inviting her children for Christmas... Then the family should keep that tradition alive. Did she help the needy? Then do it in her honour.
Wherever she is you can still communicate with her.
Sometimes our departed still come to us in dreams or send us signs.
I know you think she never enjoyed the fruit of her labor but the greatest fruit of a mother's labor is seeing her children united, helping each other and being close to each other.
To see her children do well.
That is the fruit of her labor and even now after she has gone home you all can still keep her garden alive and blooming.
Tell stories about her to the grandchildren and amongst yourselves...
To live in the heart of people we love is to live on.

Sorry about that but please think about what is in the best interest of the child.
With whom is she better off?
Take your decision based on that.
The child can also visit you regularly and spend holidays with you if she is better off with her mum.

Why don't you ask your siblings for financial help.
That would relieve you and she can stay with you.

No I can't.
I'll be too emotionally attached to the child and it might come. To conflict later.

When the baby cries aat night feed and change the diapers but don't start pacing in the room and singing also use a dim light.
That way they adjust faster to night sleep..
But most important advise.. Listen to your instinct.

Mindlog:


Since you weren't referring to all women, then it means that the thread title is misleading as it conveys all not some.

In as much as you intend drawing traffic to the Youtube link, note that giving advice that does not nurture healthy relationships in marriages is not gender specific but the personality of the giver of the advice.

I don't think it's misleading.. It's a general comment and to every generalization there are exceptions.
Besides is it not usual that headlines are meant to draw attention. Is that not a core rule of marketing?
I don't think the reasons I gave in any way bring women down but simply explain how experiences one make and how other factors can influence one's opinion.
For instance if you are to be arrayed in a court for drunken driving and the Judge lost their spouse too an accident with a drunk driver it would have an impact on how she views such a case?

Mindlog:


Since you weren't referring to all women, then it means that the thread title is misleading as it conveys all not some.

In as much as you intend drawing traffic to the Youtube link, note that giving advice that does not nurture healthy relationships in marriages is not gender specific but the personality of the giver of the advice.

I don't think it's misleading.. It's a general comment and to every generalization there are exceptions.
Besides is it not usual that headlines are meant to draw attention. Is that not a core rule of marketing?
I don't think the reasons I gave in any way bring women down but simply explain how experiences one make and how other factors can influence one's opinion.
For instance if you are to be arrayed in a court for drunken driving and the Judge lost their spouse too an accident with a drunk driver it would have an impact on how she views such a case?
I have seen some comments on the title but it would be interesting to see the comments on the points I made to come to that conclusion.

I wasn't really a fan of the Nigerian method of raising a child till I relocated to Europe.
Over the years I habe come to appreciate the values of our culture and method of raising a child.
There are many practices people indulge in and claim they are the Nigerian way of raising a child but that is wrong.
I am so appreciative of the values I learnt in Nigeria and my children benefit from it today in Europe.

Has it ever occurred to you that these accusations may be wrong?
She probably isn't a nice woman but killing her own children?

Mindlog:
Then who should be turned to for advice that enables healthy marriages and less dysfunctional families?

I understand but realise I wasn't referring to all women, but just sending out a caution.
Because many women break their homes based on bad advise.
That's why the message is to be cautious.
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JovialJune:
Look at this Op, you brought your youtube link for us to watch just to add to your pocket, used an enticing topic that can tigger emotional reactions, biasness, gender insults, and so on, are you okay?

So because few notable women and others missed it in their advices, means women generally is not to be listened to for advice? Who should we then take advice from? Men? Air? Animals? Who says or authorised a gender as not fit to advice anyone or their fellows? You? Or those who will gloat/already gloating on your topic/thread? Who authorised a paricular gender/species fit to advice? You? Is anyone/human perfect? Are there not wrong/right advices that comes from both genders?

I do not understand the need for some people to paint the female gender bad, in the world of old and now, 99% of men who are world leaders, have/are destroying the world as it is right now, case in point the senile being in this country, silently destroying what is left of naija, but no, y'all have to concern yourselves of anything women, men that have been giving advices from the time of old when we were not allowed to voice out, we have seen the outcome in the society, family, and kids, look how nice and glorious naija is o.....nonsense.

All of you will as usual, vent, then log out and face your daily lives, las las.

Sorry to disappoint you... I don't make any money from my videos and that's not my intention.
On the contrary I even over the years have parted with money on this group helping other Nairalanders that needed help.
So I am not "running here" to make money.
So right now you are the one painting female genders black.
I suggest you remove the log in your own eye first.

Everyone is trying to be better than the other.

Rest in peace.

So so sad.
Please people should be mindful of comments they make when it's death involved
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I have 11 of them in Europe.
Children are expensive everywhere.

Nothing wrong in people asking.
If you can't give say no.

As long as they did not have an affair while his wife was alive.

One of the major marriage destroyers is women who give bad advise.
Many homes have been broken by bad advise.
Sadly as a woman I have to admit that women are often home breakers.
I know this video might get me a shit storm from some acclaimed feminists...

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YtNDX8DKqlw

I am sorry.

I apologise when I am wrong.
Most cases both parties have a blame... In such a case I will apologise first to give my husband the chance to apologise too.
When he wrongs me, I insist on my apology.
I will forgive but it's only fair to apologise.
What I wouldn't do is to deprive him of my functions as a wife but I'll be very withdrawn.

As a woman I just can't understand why my husband will want to punish me!
Am I a kid?
Issues should be settled.

Please this question is weird.