Well I ve this girlfriend I met 2006 and she broke up with me December the same year, I met another girl January this year and its been good ever since.

But my ex girlfriend still calls once in a while but I made it clear to her we are done and the past is the past we are friends now. Until this morning I received a call from ex girlfriend that she will be in ib in the next two weeks to spend time with me, since then its been text messages of love and about our past.

Now my past memories is hunting me honestly I love my ex-gf but I can't leave my present girlfriend for my ex-gf. Currently my girlfriend is in abroad for master for the past 4months now and its not been easy without her,my emotions are playing on me.

Now do I allow my ex-girlfriend to spend time with me and ve fun without my girlfriend knowing or tell my ex-girlfriend to keep off! please I need ur honest answer thanks.

are u sure u love ur ex?or d need for sex is just playing wt ur emotions?

If u dont love her, ur ex, i dont think you should spend time her as this could lead to things u may not want n it would hurt u n be unfair to ur current girlfriend.

Danke:

are u sure u love ur ex?or d need for sex is just playing wt ur emotions?

I would be honest yes I love my ex-gf and also yes i need sex also, she knows that and she will go to any level to hook me back. I need ur help bro

Monicaa:

If u don't love her, ur ex, i don't think you should spend time her as this could lead to things u may not want n it would hurt u n be unfair to ur current girlfriend.

I love her and she knows that,

So what about ur current girl? U love her too or what?

poster and ur current girl?u dont love or u love her too?

the truth is I love them both my gf comes first, my ex-gf I love her also and not ready to leave my present gf for my ex-gf, the only temptation am about to fall for is ving sexual relationship with my ex-gf which she is working on to get my attention back.

mr man how possible is it for u to love 2 persons

it is not possible,u cannot love two pple d same time

u r infatuated wt one and inlove wt d other

Danke:

mr man how possible is it for u to love 2 persons

it is not possible,u cannot love two people d same time

u r infatuated wt one and inlove wt d other

I dont blame u for wat u just said cuzz u ve not found yourself in such condition, I only asked for an advice and not insults,

Right u r infatuated with ur ex n lusting after her. I advise u not to think twice n ignore her. After the sex? what next? guilt n how would u look into the eyes of ur current girl, the one u love? If u feel Hot, talk to ur girl over the fone or keep urself busy but i know it's hard.

Infoseye:

I don't blame u for what u just said cuzz u ve not found yourself in such condition, I only asked for an advice and not insults,

see me see wahala,abeg show me where i insulted u?show me now

u cannot love two pple at d same time,it is not possible,u r inlust or infatuated wt one and then inlove wt d other

how can u tell me u r inlove wt two girls at d same time

Monicaa:

Right u r infatuated with ur ex n lusting after her. I advise u not to think twice n ignore her. After the sex? what next? guilt n how would u look into the eyes of ur current girl, the one u love? If u feel Hot, talk to ur girl over the phone or keep yourself busy but i know it's hard.

abi oooo,how can smbody tell me dat hes inlove wt two girls at d same time,abeg monica is it done?is it possible?


ok poster if u dont mind,how old r u?cos ur reply makes me doubt alot of things u know

Danke:

abi oooo,how can smbody tell me that hes inlove wt two girls at d same time,abeg monica is it done?is it possible?


ok poster if u don't mind,how old r u?because ur reply makes me doubt alot of things u know

Well like I said earlier, if u not gonna help pls let others advice me thank you,

abeg go joooo,u r confused

im outta here

Infoseye

Hope I was of help, trust me the sex might be good but after then what else, knowing u guys wouldn't get back together. Like I said i know it's hard but try n it would be worth it.

My guy it will be good for you if you can control your emotion,it has happened to me too but i was able to put everything under control.If this your ex visit you i can bet it you will forget about your current girl.If you think you still love your ex more than your current girl which i doubt,you can go ahead.Will you be happy if your girl too is doing same abroad? It is not possible for you to love the two of them equal,it can't be 50:50.I have abstained from sex for good one year just to be faithful to my girl(now wife) you too can do more than that.

Danke:

abeg go joooo,u r confused

I'm out of here

bros I only asked for an advice and its leading us no where besides am not getting any where with what we doing, If I knew or how go about it I would ve not opened this thread in the first place, it just u are hammering on if its possible or not to luv two pple the same time fine I love my gf and still ve feelings for my ex hope u would understand now.

Godalone:

My guy it will be good for you if you can control your emotion,it has happened to me too but i was able to put everything under control.If this your ex visit you i can bet it you will forget about your current girl.If you think you still love your ex more than your current girl which i doubt,you can go ahead.Will you be happy if your girl too is doing same abroad? It is not possible for you to love the two of them equal,it can't be 50:50.I have abstained from sex for good one year just to be faithful to my girl(now wife) you too can do more than that.

Thanks for your advice it seems you understand better and know my situation better, ok its not that i love my ex better than my present girl no, its just I still ve feelings for my ex. I have made it clear and its not possible to my ex for another relationship which we but know of course girls will always be girls she will still try to find a way at any given chance. Thanks for your advice again, I will try to get hold of my feelings.

Infoseye:

bros I only asked for an advice and its leading us no where besides am not getting any where with what we doing, If I knew or how go about it I would ve not opened this thread in the first place, it just u are hammering on if its possible or not to love two people the same time fine I love my girlfriend and still ve feelings for my ex hope u would understand now.

ok,but i did not insult u atfirst,i only wanted to know who u have feelings for more

listen,u see ,u can't love two women d same time,u can only have feelings for d other,maybe lust or sthg else,but not love.,u can't love them both

ur ex broke up wt u in 2006 and maybe it was because of a man,she can't tell me that shes been alone since then,I'm sure the men must have used and dumped her and now shes looking for smone to throw herself on

u r man,stop acting weak,let her know that u have a lover,tell her d min she steps into ur house u will cut off her legs wt a cutlass,be agressive,she cannot after perhaps  dumping u and sleeping wt men or man ,and after they might of dumped her shes coming to u ,for what?dnt allow this need for sex destroy d happy relationship uve built wt ur current girl

by d way hope u don't mind my asking,wat caused d break up between u and ur ex?

Monicaa:

Infoseye

Hope I was of help, trust me the sex might be good but after then what else, knowing u guys wouldn't get back together. Like I said i know it's hard but try n it would be worth it.

Monica you ve said it all its like you read my mind, you right it will feel good but will not lead me anywhere good if not now but later in future thanks

@ poster
I think you dont knw which of them u love,Make up your mind if u want to stay with your gf then keep your ex away.

Danke:

ok,but i did not insult u atfirst,i only wanted to know who u have feelings for more

listen,u see ,u can't love two women d same time,u can only have feelings for d other,maybe lust or sthg else,but not love.,u can't love them both

ur ex broke up wt u in 2006 and maybe it was because of a man,she can't tell me that shes been alone since then,I'm sure the men must have used and dumped her and now shes looking for smone to throw herself on

u r man,stop acting weak,let her know that u have a lover,tell her d min she steps into ur house u will cut off her legs wt a cutlass,be agressive,she cannot after perhaps  dumping u and sleeping wt men or man ,and after they might of dumped her shes coming to u ,for what?dnt allow this need for sex destroy d happy relationship uve built wt ur current girl

by d way hope u don't mind my asking,what caused d break up between u and ur ex?

thanks for your advice also u given me courage as a brother, about our breakup its a long story but will summarize it, We met in Ibadan and started dating she was seeking admission then in Ibadan. She is from Warri but could not get an admission to university so she went back to warri with her family so like 4months after she got admission both in ibadan and warri delta state.

So I told her togo ahead with the admission in warri cuzz her education is first and I loved her so much so she went to warri and started schling. We called each other to keep in contact until 3months or so I noticed funny behavior in her character on phone so I came out straight and asked if she met someone new and if yes no problem.

Let her be and let me start a new life here in ibadan she said no, then weeks after in december she broke up me telling me she had to study and all that crap so I said no problem and called it quite, funny there was a day she called after we have broken up a girl picked my phone and answered she was shocked and did not believe that I  was dating another girl although i was flirting with the girl nothing serious just to get rid of my ex-gf memories.


But along the line i found out she still loves me even after break up and i had a close female that monitored her warri. My friend said she is clean and decent just the way i met her, that the main reason I still care cuzz she is honest and still ok not been used by another man or whatever,

I was thinking may be we meet and discuss what lead to our break up cuzz she has not given an answer, I have no faults or cheated on her which she knows or what do u think?

Even if you guys broke up with fight or anything and she tries to stage come backy,ou will still have an atom of feelings for her. Just be careful so that you will not fall into her temptation.The Bible says "Resist the devil and he will flee from you" Each time you try to feel something for your ex try to call your girl or look at her pix.

this friend of urs that monitored her,does she also know him/her?she broke up wt u since 2006,because she wants to read?so since 2006 she has been reading and she fjust finished reading hence d call?

listen ,i might not be there,but blive me ,ur girl left u for another man,this is d truth

and whoever u sent to monitor her is not telling u d truth,because from ur story i am not a child,so i knw things like this,she left since 2006 because she wants to read?what kind of excuse is that?

face ur current girl and let ur ex go

shegirl71:

@ poster
I think you don't knw which of them u love,Make up your mind if u want to stay with your girlfriend then keep your ex away.

I am not confused with who I love or who I want  to date NO! You guys here are missing the point here, am asking should I have fun with my ex-gf while she is around on the visit or just say no although other poster here ve said no but whats ur own advice.

As long as your gf is allowed to have fun with other guys aboard and it wont bother you, what's the problem?

stupid question.

Does this dude really think that if he ends up having this "one time" thing with his ex that will be the end?

Do you really think she wont continue to hassle you EVEN with the current one gets back? Infact I bet when the current one arrives, she'll be the first to tell her what you did.

Children shouldnt be in relationships. Seriously

Infoseye:

I am not confused with who I love or who I want  to date NO! You guys here are missing the point here,  am asking should I have fun with my ex-girlfriend while she is around on the visit or just say no although other poster here ve said no but whats ur own advice.

let ur ex go,come how can u even send a female to monitor her in d first place?my God u r so naive r u?

whoever u sent is lying,how can a girl break up wt u since 2006 and is now coming back to profess love

comon wake up

Godalone:

Even if you guys broke up with fight or anything and she tries to stage come backy,ou will still have an atom of feelings for her. Just be careful so that you will not fall into her temptation.The Bible says "Resist the devil and he will flee from you" Each time you try to feel something for your ex try to call your girl or look at her pix.

Omo I like ur style   seriously am done with her we just friends no strings attached, thanks

KarmaMod:

Does this dude really think that if he ends up having this "one time" thing with his ex that will be the end?

Do you really think she wont continue to hassle you EVEN with the current one gets back? Infact I bet when the current one arrives, she'll be the first to tell her what you did.

Children shouldnt be in relationships. Seriously

poster read dis

karma wat that girl wants an opportunity once she gets it ,she will gain her ground,d thing is d poster telling me dat the girl is still innocent and decent,how can?smone dat left him in 2006 cos of d childish excuse dat she wants to study?wat of pple dat marry whilst studying?

as Godalone who married his wife early,y didnt she tell him dat she wants to study and will like to take a break

KarmaMod:

Does this dude really think that if he ends up having this "one time" thing with his ex that will be the end?

Do you really think she wont continue to hassle you EVEN with the current one gets back? Infact I bet when the current one arrives, she'll be the first to tell her what you did.

Children shouldnt be in relationships. Seriously

LOL my Sister you ve clearly made your point here thanks for saying I asked stupid question, Thanks for your advice and comment