there is a girl whom i love so much and when we first met i asked if she will like to be my friend and she said yes yes yes but along the line she kept on hammering it in my ears that we were just mere friends and that she is not my girlfriend but at the initial i thought we were dating and in a strong relationship but she was beginning to get unserious thati got confused even after i have re-assured her of my love for her so i am wondering maybe it will be wise of me to continue with this girl or not. Please i need your advise nairalanders

Happens all the time, don't be stunned. Women got tricks up their sleeves brah

motide:

there is a girl whom i love so much and when we first met i asked if she will like to be my friend and she said yes yes yes but along the line she kept on hammering it in my ears that we were just mere friends and that she is not my girlfriend but at the initial i thought we were dating and in a strong relationship but she was beginning to get unserious thati got confused even after i have re-assured her of my love for her so i am wondering maybe it will be wise of me to continue with this girl or not. Please i need your advise nairalanders

Its your fault
Like you said, she told ya you guys were just mere friends. . . .so what's the problem?

You men take things too far jare

O gaa ju.

too much

see wat assumption can lead to

U don act the fool be that na! The relationship was clearly defined from the onset, but u failed 2 realize u guys will ever be more than friends!

Better luck nxt tym!

Clearly u were not dating.u shud let her go cos even if u eventually do date her,u wudnt be in charge obviously.use ur head my guy

Same thing happened to me over the summer. Was dating this incredibly beautiful and talented musician. We were hanging out every day for a month & a half, going out to eat, making music together and talking for hours on the phone. I thought we had an amazing chemistry. But, then she starts saying stuff, about how we are not dating, that she cares about me but we can't have no relationship, Before she left to go on tour, we even made love, but then she said we'd just be best-friends. I kinda fell in love with her though, and I don't talk to her anymore. Now, I just write songs about her, and put her in my music.

Ds kinda stuff happens all d time! Ussually because d relationship is not defined frm d start. But in your case d chic agreed to being ur friend and not your lover. she dint mince words in telling u ds. Bros its very clear dt na only for ur imagination una bn de date. So pls take heart and move on. She likes u as a friend no doubt but pls free her and find ur own mate.
Cheers.

you be real mumu - you think say una dey date? abi? all these time, you see her panties at all? or you see the colour of her pussie? how you go just assume that kind of thing? u r a duckling.

bronx_dog:

you be real mumu - you think say una dey date? abi? all these time, you see her undies at all? or you see the colour of her pussie? how you go just assume that kind of thing? u r a duckling.

have mercy na. u fit dey talk to small bois here.

U said it urself man, u asked her to be ur friend and not galfriend, then you are assuming she understood ur heart.Nay!

Motide I don't understand why u thot u were dating this girl, you just said u asked her if she would like to be ur "friend" and she said yes to that so wats the problem?

just back off like topup said,try hanging out with other girls and see what her reaction would be.

just back off like topup said,try hanging out with other girls and see what her reaction would be.

*Shaking head* I just remembered years back in naija when I was in navy sec sch ojo, I had this guy friend that liked me but i wasn't into him like that and I told him bluntly so I guess he got the message and started talking to other girls and I was angry with him for doing that. I don't know why I reacted that way because like I said I wasn't into him like that, we were just friends, but I guess I got used to his sweet words and then all of a sudden his chasing someone else. I felt like he was just playing me if he found it so easy to switch to another girl just like that. But I got over it and we still remained friends.

oh i am in love with this lady. I still need time to get her love off my heart. She doesn't call me but when i call her she responds well and even when we are together sometimes she behaves well when i don't lavish her with too much love. Please tell me or advise me on the secret that i will use to forget and delete her out of my mind.

Omo, the babe dey form. Fashi her and see if she won't bug you to be her bobo.

Guy let me tell u this thing happens to every one its very normal. Itx happened to me and onfortunately other people i told i wanted to be friends with start havimg feelimgs for me.

The best thing tO do is learn from it and it will make u stronger even thought it seems to hurt. Just fashee and be friends with her.

See how people give girls a bad name? Someone "hammered" it that it was friendship, small time now, they will say that the girl is "cheating" on her boyfriend. Bobo, o ya wa iyawo e lo si waju.

It happen to me also but mine was dat i've been waitin on her 4 almost 4 years now,she just liked me as a friend and each time i ask her out,she i'll tell me dat i know her reply. I call everything off dis Jan and she is disturbin me,to continue mere friendship. What a rubbish,is cries each time i tell her dat its over and my mind'll be softened,but 4 now,its absolutely over.

@Poster
Such scenarios do happen but only if u did not drive ur intentions known right from the onset.Beating around the bush under the pretext of friendship is usually a huge gamble. Most girls will prefer ur company and all ur time only (especially in times of need), than take a step further and if u give them that slack they take full advantage of it while they look for another rival or competitor. Don't blame tho' its their nature and it's how they were created. Next time make ur final destination known b4 u embark on the journey!

My simple piece of advice is either you leave her to know if she feels for you, or you tell that you want to be more than a friend by expressing yourself. She cant read ur mind to cos she's never professor x

@poster

she already told you, but you were pushing it.

lmfao, anywayz getting serious-- did u ask ask her "wud u be my friend" or " i love you u and want you be to the love of ma life" , datz the problem wid most guys, u dont know how to arrange the words , were u shy or scared , but the chic mess up sha, wait! maybe she wants you to ask her out again(u know at times it happens, they just want someone to ask them out and make em feel special , d begining is always full of attention and love and very interesting) try puting the words in a beta way. b more interesting,give er attention show her and tell her you luv her all the time, be more romantic

This is always the problem when guys assume relationships with girls they are close with. Because you guys enjoy

each others company should not make you think you guys are dating. Even if you happen to sleep with her. A

relationship needs to be well defined so that either party know where they stand.

Example:

Boy: I like you and would like you to be my girlfriend.

Girl: Sorry i do not like you, as i do not feel the same. OR

Girl: Let me think about it,

Girl: I am still thinking,

Girl: Ok i like to you. I am now your official girlfriend.

End of story, If the above does not happen menhhhhhh you r on your own.

lol

Here we go again.
At least she didn't leave you after 7 yrs, so whats the problem?
Seems to me you imagine things a lot, so i will help you out.
Here it is -imagine that you are both still going out, better still imagine this topic doesn't exist.

Cassie, ima mak u ma official gurl, un-official,

Cassie, ima mak u ma official gurl, un-official,