londoner:

@Queeneve & Naijagal, jeez go easy on eachother, lol.

  Don't you worry bout a thang Londoner. . . I was just messin with Rasputia. 

stillwater:

Is it a 32yr old man that can't stand up to his family?

Nevertheless, if I were a man, I wouldn't marry the poster.

You and your fiance have issues.

Chei!

I did not know you had those qualities o. A whole feminista like you?

So, Stilly, you mean a whole you would go to the kitchen and cook my meals ^{and it will not contain any poison}?

Sagamite:

Hmmm.

So you are homely and traditional, not just after the man's cash?

I can't believe there is actually a positive about you. Thank goodness. Keep it up.

Oh that? That was written by my clone! I'm still me . .

stillwater:

Is it a 32yr old man that can't stand up to his family?

Nevertheless, if I were a man, I wouldn't marry the poster.

You and your fiance have issues.

I think that's the point! He agrees with his family (and he is right to). Why else would he act the way he is.

It's one thing to love a girl, it's another thing to want to take her home to you family and a wife! Things will be easy on the ladies if they can just acknowledge that fact!

Sagamite:



Chei!

I did not know you had those qualities o. A whole feminista like you?

So, Stilly, you mean a whole you would go to the kitchen and cook my meals ^{and it will not contain any poison}?

all that glitters is not gold, be careful.
many men have died chasing those legs

Sagamite:



Chei!

I did not know you had those qualities o. A whole feminista like you?

So, Stilly, you mean a whole you would go to the kitchen and cook my meals ^{and it will not contain any poison}?

Marriage is a different ball game. I leave the feminist attitude in the board room.

bawomolo:

all that glitters is not gold, be careful.
many men have died chasing those legs

Thak God you know.

The guy may well agree with his family about the cooking, but in all honesty may not have communicated his need for a homely wife to his fiance before. You may have just been forming to look modern, lol.

If the family is right that she is an evil "non woman", then he should not have brought her home to his parents in the first place.


Sorry guys, nothing I dislike more than a man with no backbone.

As far as the cooking domestication, I believe if the poster looked at it differently and found their common ground, she could actually enjoy it. Its always nice when you cook something for someone you love and they enjoy it, even if its a family member. Then many of us grew up cooking for ourselves and our families, so its just an "ofcourse".

One of the reasons why I vow never to have a maid is that I dont want another woman cooking my guys favourites all the time, unless its his MUM, lol I would feel jealous over that.

Ujujoan:

Oh that? That was written by my clone! I'm still me . .   

[Runs]

Background soundtrack plays: Can't touch this (da . . da dara  . . da ra . . da ra) 

Ujujoan:

I think that's the point! He agrees with his family (and he is right to). Why else would he act the way he is.

He should protect her. He should be the only one criticising her, not letting his family slice her into pieces.

Ujujoan:

It's one thing to love a girl, it's another thing to want to take her home to you family and a wife! Things will be easy on the ladies if they can just acknowledge that fact! 

And she shoots

[milliseconds of silence]

AND SHE SCORES . . . . . SHE SCORES . . . . .SHE SCORES AGAIN!

Wow, she's onnaroll! Dang another 3 point, Dang another slam dug and Dang she makes a rebound

AMERICA, she is a phenomenon. Uju is on fire and ramping up points.

bawomolo:

all that glitters is not gold, be careful.
many men have died chasing those legs 

Bruv, you just sapped the juice from my liver o. 

But as GANDALF said in his deep lordly voice in Lord of the Rings: End? No, the journey doesn't end here. Death is just another path, one that we all must take. The grey rain-curtain of this world rolls back, and all turns to silver glass, and then you see it.

And the young PIPPIN asks in complete naivete: What? Gandalf? See what?

. . . . . . . . .

Sagamite aims to see! 

stillwater:

Marriage is a different ball game. I leave the feminist attitude in the board room.

Thak God you know.

Awww. How sweeeeet. 

londoner:

You may have just been forming to look modern, lol.

Vile mentality!

londoner:

As far as the cooking domestication, I believe if the poster looked at it differently and found their common ground, she could actually enjoy it. Its always nice when you cook something for someone you love and they enjoy it, even if its a family member. Then many of us grew up cooking for ourselves and our families, so its just an "ofcourse".

One of the reasons why I vow never to have a maid is that I dont want another woman cooking my guys favourites all the time, unless its his MUM, lol I would feel jealous over that.

You are a WOMAN!

@Poster, what's with the attitude when you can just cook for your man whatever he wants, and start learning that which you cant cook, for goodness sake

well you ladies are the ones married to backwards nigerian men

so you should no if the fact u cant cook for his family will end ur marriage! kmt lolz

@post

if ur husband is not backwards like the rest of these women

you wont have a problem!!
he wont be marryin u otherwise
like i said

u dont need to bend obva backwards to impress anybody

life is more than food and the body more than clothing!

ayettymama:

well you ladies are the ones married to backwards nigerian men

so you should no if the fact u cant cook for his family will end your marriage! kmt lolz

@post

if your husband is not backwards like the rest of these women

you wont have a problem!!
he wont be marryin u otherwise
like i said

u dont need to bend obva backwards to impress anybody

life is more than food and the body more than clothing!

So what do you as a forward person offer a man in a relationship?

Do you expect your man to be romantic? Are your a 50-50 expense sharer when you go out since you are a forward, modern, urban woman, or you expect your man to pay as he is the man?

what are u on about??

why do people go into relationships??

all this 'what do you have to offer'
its not a business transaction
were not trading goods and services here!

Im simply saying the man knows very well who he married

he knows hes not marrying a cook!, he has his reasons for marrying her and its not for food!

all these 'for food only relatives' what are they even offering sef!
grief and aggravation!

ayettymama:

what are u on about??

why do people go into relationships??

all this 'what do you have to offer'
its not a business transaction
were not trading goods and services here!

Im simply saying the man knows very well who he married

he knows hes not marrying a cook!, he has his reasons for marrying her and its not for food!

all these 'for food only relatives' what are they even offering sef!
grief and aggravation!

Yes, he knows he is not marrying a cook.

I just wanted to be clear you know you are not marrying an emotional counselor, neither are you marrying a charity provider.

Neither do you own him or he owns you, so based on that I hope you know you can not demand he should be faithful to you because it makes you feel good.

The reasons women go into relationship is different from the ones for men. And some are based on biological factors whilst others are based on cultural.

If you answer my questions above, I will expand on reasons by tailoring it to your forward thinking.

@ poster, Inter-racial marriages do work but u av to be willing. The truth is that u need to come down for dat marriage to happen, tho ur man's family r rather harsh. Moreover, ur fiance should av told u his expectations in a wife when u both started. Learn how to cook and be respectful/tolerant.

ayettymama:

well you ladies are the ones married to backwards nigerian men

so you should no if the fact u cant cook for his family will end your marriage! kmt lolz

@post

if your husband is not backwards like the rest of these women

you wont have a problem!!
he wont be marryin u otherwise
like i said

u dont need to bend obva backwards to impress anybody

life is more than food and the body more than clothing!

Power Ranger mentality will make you fight with people that are even on your side you know, be careful. Somethings will always remain and I am refering to roles in a marital and setup.

@ Poster forget the power ranger mentality and concentrate on being a team with your man. Meet him halfway as I am sure that you will want him to do the same for you at some point or another. Yes you probably have the good qualities hence he's decided you are the woman to marry, howeverl in my opinion its the little things that matter, especially to men. Have you aver asked yourself why men are capable of leaving their prettiest and most talented wives to end up in bed with their maids/housekeepers? My dear that's not because they are stupid.

You still need to learn the quality of a home cooked meal and what it does for families. Food brings families together, husbands like to boast about that special dish their wives can hook up. When he comes home after a long day at work he wants to come home to your cooking, your laughter and not to mention you for desert, all of this is what says to  a man you are loved. That actually somebody takes their time to  fix them a special meal made of special ingredients, and guess what this meal is not for the masses, this meal is made just for him.

Try to add a bit of signature every little thing you do, please get personal with your shit its only graceful, these are the things that will remind him as to what sets you apart from the rest. You may make it as a couple you mignt not make it but getting personal is what will always stand out.

power ranger mentality?? interesting, something to teach the neanderthals!


if i roll my eyes once more theyll probably roll out of my forehead!!

repectful and tolerant??

whats that supposed to mean??

she should quit her job travel down to the innermost villages of nigeria and spend 2 yrs to learn how to cook all nigerian delicacies??

so when her husbands sista is getting married shell cater the wedding and when inlaws come she can prepare a buffet??

and when she don learn to cook finish- the husbands family will definitely find something else wrong, and shell take a break once again from cooking to travel down to the mountains of nigeria and learn to do that too?? pls

men and women alike get soo hypocritical on this site its annoying

abeg the madam kitchens wiv thier 5 children and wot nots, how much of a career can they really have?? when u sit at home all day and wait for master to come home drop breifcase so u can help him undo his tie- why wont u advise her to quit her job and serve her husbands family?

^^^^You still haven't given me an indication of what kind of benefit a man would have by being with you.

ayettymama:

power ranger mentality?? interesting, something to teach the neanderthals!


if i roll my eyes once more theyll probably roll out of my forehead!!

repectful and tolerant??

whats that supposed to mean??

she should quit her job travel down to the innermost villages of nigeria and spend 2 yrs to learn how to cook all nigerian delicacies??

so when her husbands sista is getting married shell cater the wedding and when inlaws come she can prepare a buffet??

and when she don learn to cook finish- the husbands family will definitely find something else wrong, and shell take a break once again from cooking to travel down to the mountains of nigeria and learn to do that too?? pls

men and women alike get soo hypocritical on this site its annoying

abeg the madam kitchens wiv thier 5 children and wot nots, how much of a career can they really have?? when u sit at home all day and wait for master to come home drop breifcase so u can help him undo his tie- why wont u advise her to quit her job and serve her husbands family?

I swear this story must be coming out of the pages/scenes of one of the nigerian movies. I read a lot of drama in you post far removed from the poster's story it happens when an imagination runs wild. My advice is why dont you write/produce films you could be wasting your talent and time on this thread. Please read posters initial post it will help to get you back on track.

havent you got something positive to bring to this discussion especially to the poster which I believe is the reason why she started the thread? Again please refrain from quoting words that are out of context keep it constructive not streetswise.

Sagamite:

^^^^You still haven't given me an indication of what kind of benefit a man would have by being with you.

I am also curious I cant wait to read the reply to this question

Sagamite:

^^^^You still haven't given me an indication of what kind of benefit a man would have by being with you.

your looking for a business transaction and im not a commodity

SA Lady:

I swear this story must be coming out of the pages/scenes of one of the nigerian movies. I read a lot of drama in you post far removed from the poster's story it happens when an imagination runs wild. My advice is why dont you write/produce films you could be wasting your talent and time on this thread. Please read posters initial post it will help to get you back on track.

havent you got something positive to bring to this discussion especially to the poster which I believe is the reason why she started the thread? Again please refrain from quoting words that are out of context keep it constructive not streetswise.

wat story are u talking abt?? u quoted me and im still baffled on ur power ranger mentality??

im even beggining to think none of u read the posters story

she engaged to a dude that has not once complained abt her not beoin able to cook??

plus the family are calling her all sorts of ridiculous names cos she's not the bend ova backwards to pls them type??

i think u need to read the op again then go ova my initial posts b4 u start lamentations

ayettymama:

your looking for a business transaction and im not a commodity

No, not a transaction.

I am just challenging this emerging axioms being propagated by in the West encouraging women to ask for all but offer nothing substantiative.

From some of your posts, I think you have demonstrated substantial support and evangelism for those axioms, that is why I ask my questions.

SA Lady:

I am also curious I cant wait to read the reply to this question

Shes still a teen, if she wants to continue with this attitude, she will def end up with an oyinbo

When she grow up, she go understand better, na today

jenny speaks and all i see is blah blah--- cos i dont share ur backwards views im a child?? hold that thot

saga- i dont look at it that way im sorry

i wont be able to write a list in what ayettymama has to offer

i dont run a russian bride providing or escort service

call it westernized whatever u like- if posters fiance wanted a typical ogbona cooking african woman he should have married one!

ayettymama:

saga- i dont look at it that way im sorry

i wont be able to write a list in what ayettymama has to offer

i dont run a russian bride providing or escort service

I am not saying you should write a tome, just give us a snippet why you and your likes are L'Oreal. Why a perfect and eligible man would want you and be happy with you. Spare a fraction of your time to defend your ideology, it is good practice to do this defending especially when you are attacking other "backward" ideologies. You are a bright girl and I am sure you are well read, so you can see where I am coming from in regards to encouraging you to strenghten your argumentation.

[size=4pt]L'Oreal slogan: Because I am worth it![/size]

ayettymama:

jenny speaks and all i see is blah blah--- cos i dont share your backwards views im a child?? hold that thot

saga- i dont look at it that way im sorry

i wont be able to write a list in what ayettymama has to offer

i dont run a russian bride providing or escort service

call it westernized whatever u like- if posters fiance wanted a typical ogbona cooking african woman he should have married one!

Ofcourse you are a child its written all over your responses, its in the retorhic words you chose. Please say something worthwhile with substance galore then people will engage with you better. @Jennykadri asked you a question hoping to engage with you better and perhaps understand you better even, but to no avail. You've even managed to turn this topic to be about you when the original poster intended otherwise. @SEUN or MODERATOR is there a teen section on this blog somebody needs to move over immediately

what are u on abt?? loreal?? ok now im kunuffled  

im not a man--
i can tell u what pleases me in relationships- i cant tell u what pleases men- u shuld tell me
inno where ur going, u think all men want a cook, a cleaner and someone to foot half the bills and pop u sum babies
to some men relationships delve a bit deeper than that-- i honestly cant spk for nl dudes
but a partner is meant to complement you and not serve u(not in that way anyways)
throw arnd all the english u like and hate of westernized virtues, sometimes im even glad, one needs to step out of the backwards circle to regain sanity sometimes!

SA lady

me and jenny go waay back ok b4 u start talkin u might wanna think abt that!

according to u im a power ranger- power rangers and neanderthals dont mix

we'll neva see eye to eye on this matter- hold ur views, ill maintain mine!

ayettymama:

what are u on abt?? loreal?? ok now im kunuffled  

L'Oreal adverts always ends with a woman saying "Because I am worth it".

I think this epitomises the mentality of modern day Western woman that are brainwashED into demanding more and more from men whilst offerring less and less themselves. They surely must have fallen for that advert and think they are worth it ^Not.

ayettymama:

im not a man--
i can tell u what pleases me in relationships- i cant tell u what pleases men- u shuld tell me

Good you seem to be able to identify where your weakness is at. That is a good start in resolving it.

The next step is to listen to older ladies talking sense here like SA Lady and Jenny.

It would do you a world of good and might save you a lot of heartache in future (not to talk about expense of 2nd and 3rd weddings).

ayettymama:

inno where your going, u think all men want a cook, a cleaner and someone to foot half the bills and pop u sum babies
to some men relationships delve a bit deeper than that-- i honestly cant spk for nl dudes
but a partner is meant to complement you and not serve u(not in that way anyways)

I knew you were smart.

Yes, a partner is suppose to complement you. So there are some certain things men are not good at and/or keen at. A prime example is cooking and cleaning. Obviously some men are exceptions but a vast majority fall within this rule. So you would have a wider pool of men at your feet if you can complement this. Note: a substantial proportion of those that might love household chores are gay. I just wanted to let you know that, you don't want your man at 12 midnight in Clapham Common Park.

A man is not your provider, neither is he your therapist but most men would (and YOU would expect them to) do provide and listen to you especially when you have had a bad day, go out for dinners, you want him to do things (e.g. buy you diamond) that you can show off to your friends, when you are pregnant he should support and care for you or satisfy any insecurities as a woman you need suppressed. So do serve his meals if he deserves it.

ayettymama:

throw arnd all the english u like and hate of westernized virtues, sometimes im even glad, one needs to step out of the backwards circle to regain sanity sometimes!

E mi? Me?

Me I no go school o. Which kind English you wan make I speak, na ijinle Yoruba I know o.

Sagamite:

L'Oreal adverts always ends with a woman saying "Because I am worth it".
I think this epitomises the mentality of modern day Western woman that are brainwash into demanding more and more from men whilst offerring less and less themselves. They surely must have fallen for that advert and think they are worth it ^Not.

not really, its a bloody make up advert wat do u expect??

by offering u mean typically cooking and cleaning??-- no thats not westernized mentality
here people are more reasonable- simple
did u even read the post??----- th eman is not marrying a cook!!
ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh

Sagamite:

L'Oreal adverts always ends with a woman saying "Because I am worth it".

Good you can identify where your weakness is at. That is a good start in resolving it.

The next step is to listen to older ladies talking sense here like SA Lady and Jenny.

It would do you a world of good and might save you a lot of heartache in future (not to talk about expense of 2nd and 3rd weddings).

im sorry my mother is also an older woman and she doesnt talk trash!

we havent even identified they are older than me?? they simply share different views from mine simple!

mooovin on

Sagamite:


I knew you were smart.

Yes, a partner is suppose to complement you. So there are some certain things men are not good at and/or keen at. A prime example is cooking and cleaning. Obviously some men are exceptions but a vast majority fall within this rule.

this is where things fall apart again, did u read the post??
besides that- if ur looking for a cook and a cleaner u wont be seeking much more than that, its understandable cos what pleasures u will be very limited- village women de plenty, then again with all the cookin and cleaning they still have adulterous husbands?? kinda makes u think?

Sagamite:

So you would have a wider pool of men at your feet if you can complement this. Note: a substantial proportion of those that might love and know how to cook are gay. I just wanted to let you know that, you don't want your man at 12 midnight in Clapham Common Park.

A man is not your provider, neither is he your therapist but most men would (and YOU would expect them to) do that especially when you have had a bad day, go out for dinners, you want him to do things (buy you diamond) that you can show of to your friends, you are pregnant or satisfy any other insecurities as a woman you need suppressed. So do serve his meals if he deserves it.
E mi? Me?
Me I no go school o. Which kind English you wan make I speak, na ijinle Yoruba I know o.

wow ur ignorant- did u really just say that??

ok let me tell u this- no, ur dependance on women boils down to ur upbringing- theres not a man in my hsehold that cannot cook- no they are not gay- so the gay shit is something u need to go back on- cos a man can cook it doesnt make him gay im sorri to burst that lil bubble!

lolz u can bring ur definition of men

i can bring mine- tbh ive seen more women provide and give therapy to thier men, yet u still complain abt westernization, they are the ones that need pamperin on bad days, men are the ones that wanna be spoiled when they arent spoiled enuff they go outside to be spoiled some more!
a man also wants a token wife- a beautiful woman to hold on his arms and show off to his friends, who will clean cook and hoover whilst him and his friends watch football and talk about thier sexual escapades, extra points if shes a working class woman, but that shouldnt stop her from poppin a few and cleanin whilst the dude sits his arse dwn all thru

ayettymama:



SA lady

me and jenny go waay back ok b4 u start talkin u might wanna think abt that!

according to u im a power ranger- power rangers and neanderthals dont mix

we'll neva see eye to eye on this matter- hold your views, ill maintain mine!

You and jenny go way which back? jenny has been on NL for years now, you'
ve only joined a few months back, which way did we go back? im not even here to exchange words with you, but the only thing i will say is: wait, when you grow up, you will understand better, have you got a mother? is she still with your dad? ask her how well she got along with her hubbys extended family, she will tell you better


@SA
like i said, im sure her tune will change in a few years time, marriage is not a hamburger stuff, neither is it a bacon and scrambled egss thingy, your character will determine how well you will enjoy your marriage, her posts are still babyish(nt insulting you ayetty) but thats what i see you spewing on here.

You are going to be a mother yourself one day, and i hope your daughter inlaw will tell your son to tell you indirectly to go to hell and cut off from you God forbid

But until you have a suitor and a child after that , you wont understand

ayettymama:

not really, its a bloody make up advert wat do u expect??

by offering u mean typically cooking and cleaning??-- no thats not westernized mentality
here people are more reasonable- simple
did u even read the post??----- th eman is not marrying a cook!!
ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh

im sorry my mother is also an older woman and she doesnt talk trash!

we havent even identified they are older than me?? they simply share different views from mine simple!

mooovin on

this is where things fall apart again, did u read the post??
besides that- if your looking for a cook and a cleaner u wont be seeking much more than that, its understandable cos what pleasures u will be very limited- village women de plenty, then again with all the cookin and cleaning they still have adulterous husbands?? kinda makes u think?

wow your ignorant- did u really just say that??

ok let me tell u this- no, your dependance on women boils down to your upbringing- theres not a man in my hsehold that cannot cook- no they are not gay- so the gay poo is something u need to go back on- cos a man can cook it doesnt make him gay im sorri to burst that lil bubble!

lolz u can bring your definition of men

i can bring mine- tbh ive seen more women provide and give therapy to thier men, yet u still complain abt westernization, they are the ones that need pamperin on bad days, men are the ones that wanna be spoiled when they arent spoiled enuff they go outside to be spoiled some more!
a man also wants a token wife- a beautiful woman to hold on his arms and show off to his friends, who will clean cook and hoover whilst him and his friends watch football and talk about thier sexual escapades, extra points if shes a working class woman, but that shouldnt stop her from poppin a few and cleanin whilst the dude sits his arse dwn all thru

Meaning me an SA lady are talking trash? grow up already, the world does not revolve around you alone, could this be why David called you immature in the "what do boys consider fat for a girl thread"

ayettymama:

not really, its a bloody make up advert wat do u expect??

Expect? Nothing really.

I just used the slogan as a satirical epitome. Not a behavioural driver.

ayettymama:

by offering u mean typically cooking and cleaning??-- no thats not westernized mentality
here people are more reasonable- simple
did u even read the post??----- th eman is not marrying a cook!!
ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh

Yeah, I read the post. And it is obvious the OP is marrying a man that is obviously attached to his family and gives weight to their opinions despite being western. She would do herself a world of good and change, since her man although western is extended family-oriented, by her learning to be a bit more traditional rather than boast about her Guinness Book of Records ability in ordering take-away, otherwise in all probability the association is heading for doom. Another option is not change and dump him now except she can detach him from his family's leash.

ayettymama:

im sorry my mother is also an older woman and she doesnt talk trash!

we havent even identified they are older than me?? they simply share different views from mine simple!

mooovin on

From your pattern of talking and positions on NL, as a Prof in Womantology, I can figure out your age bracket just based on the stage of life you are probably at. So can a number of guys on NL.

And from what I personally and evidently know and the pattern of talking and positions of SA Lady and Jenny, they are older than you. Your top bracket allocated age range is no where close.

ayettymama:

this is where things fall apart again, did u read the post??
besides that- if your looking for a cook and a cleaner u wont be seeking much more than that, its understandable cos what pleasures u will be very limited- village women de plenty, then again with all the cookin and cleaning they still have adulterous husbands?? kinda makes u think?

What an argument.  

ayettymama:

wow your ignorant- did u really just say that??

ok let me tell u this- no, your dependance on women boils down to your upbringing- theres not a man in my hsehold that cannot cook- no they are not gay- so the gay poo is something u need to go back on- cos a man can cook it doesnt make him gay im sorri to burst that lil bubble!

lolz u can bring your definition of men

Sorry, because I no go school does not mean you can Shakara me. I know a thing or two about the English language.

I believe I said a substantial proportion. Substantial proportion in English grammars (sic) does not mean ALL, neither does it even mean MOST. I carefully select my words when I post. You understand the English don't you?

ayettymama:

i can bring mine- tbh ive seen more women provide and give therapy to thier men, yet u still complain abt westernization, they are the ones that need pamperin on bad days, men are the ones that wanna be spoiled when they arent spoiled enuff they go outside to be spoiled some more!
a man also wants a token wife- a beautiful woman to hold on his arms and show off to his friends, who will clean cook and hoover whilst him and his friends watch football and talk about thier sexual escapades, extra points if shes a working class woman, but that shouldnt stop her from poppin a few and cleanin whilst the dude sits his arse dwn all thru

Apart from the bolded. A lot of behavioural experts will disagree with your point. It would be termed what Oyinbo dey call (when dey wan blow grammar): "That is one load of spurious empirical evidence I have ever come across". And I would say it is indicative of your age.

In the bolded, at least you can see what men cherish.

Jenny, u callin me child didnt start from here??

i almost have the feeling ur following me!

*rolls eyes* yes i have parents thank you- and i thank God thier own marriage doesnt rely on food niether! lets not even go there! my parents have lovely families that dont make habits out of calling thier in laws witches or going arnd to look for food- we are not paupers, like i said before;

ur the married one

im not married

ur obviously married to the typical nigerian man??

im not naive, believe it or not, but i dont need to tell u abt me- one rule cannot work for all

u cant expect a career driven woman to maintain the lifestyle a housewife has? u cant expect someone to change 360degrees cos they are married?? marriage is an institution, its not a jailhouse, u get a partner not a liability, you move forward with life- not back!

then again i must say we are 2 diff people from 2 diff backgrounds in 2 different places- what will do for u wont do for me and vice versa! leave it at that!