Sagamite:

Gbam!

Let me put a personal twist to that.

When I was younger and fresh from Naija, I was studious, straight boot, nice and courteous. Mate, it was a challenge to pull all those girls that caught my eyes. They all wanted the tracksuit bottom and trainers bad boys. I was really restricted to Naija girls from Naija and very few others born and bred in UK. They went for bad boys and scam boys that were using their time "working" (if you can call it that for scam boys) and making money to take them to clubs with nice cars. Any girl that I actually pull based on looks (I get that just a bit when I was young ) in clubs, would soon dump my bleeping arse when I tell her, naively oblivious to the consequence, that I was going to take the Night Bus home or coming to visit her using underground. Iya jemi ni kekere o (I suffered when I was young o).

After a few observations of the process, the first to go was the nice & courteous part. Girls (not women) don't like good boys. After years of "Jonesing", I switched kia kia to my talk what is in your dirty mind and it worked magic. I stuck with my studiousness and straight boot though as I want a future.

Now I get annoyed when those same girls that have used their youth to date bad boys, are now ready to settle down and now see those of us that they ignored because we were studious and want to date/marry us because we are now eligible and have the right husband profile due to the dividends of the hardwork in our youth. Anuofia!

You got it bro, that's why you see some single ladies at 30+ out there. They've used their youth age to do rubbish.

Believe it or not, no man thinks he is ugly.

Well in most cases, what makes a man handsome is how he presents himself socially.
You can be as handsome as you can be or afford to.

Have you seen any ugly rich man?

If you want to marry a good looking man, you will get one if you know how to get him.

Most handsome men do not even bluff women unlike the pretty women.

sofeco:

He's not saying all the ladies but some of them.

And also he's not generalizing but it's reality.

no its not.
you people should leave the bad women alone and look for quality women.
after chasing after the women who chase after "bad boys"
you then castiage all women.
Sounds like bitterness.

platinumnk:

no its not.
you people should leave the bad women alone and look for quality women.
after chasing after the women who chase after "bad boys"
you then castiage all women.
Sounds like bitterness.

Because a girl is going after bad boys does not mean she is a bad girl. She might be a good person but is just dumb/naive and more of a thrill-seeker, or what I personally call drama-hunter.

Most girls under 24 are drama-hunters, if you go further down (U-21), then you can easily say the vast majority are. They are most likely looking for the guy with the funky hair, "I don't care attitude" and evidence of "all my life is spent in the gym - see my biceps". My profile was more of spending time in the library (although chics dey library too o, but at least I spend 10% of the time studying  ), and fortunately as I was young and a recent Naija-boarding school grad, puerile metabolism and history of frequent hunger cycles in school meant I was in good shape.

Then when they start growing up (late 20s to early 30s), they realise "OK, the drama relationship is risque-fun and is all good when you are young but it is not that appealling on the long term. The pain involved is more damaging than fun and my future kids should not go hungry because baby-father has a lot of mouths to feed and alot  of concurbines to maintain on his low income even if he is not dead-beat dad". So they start looking for good, responsible man.

The worst thing is when they now want a short relationship and are now in a hurry for marriage. Within the first month of wooing/talking, they have already somehow thrown it in the mix a question about your marriage plans or told you straight up their [rather short] timetable of marriage so that you better go and put down the deposit for the engagement ring the next morning. And the same retired drama-hunter would now label the good boy as "irresponsible", "immature" and "selfish" if he is not inclined to the fire brigade wedding or not even thinking of marriage. 

Most girls are at the prime of their looks in their youth (17-25), after 25, for most, it starts being a bit more of a hard-work to maintain that shape, glow and plumpness. So she gives all that to a bad boy, and expect the good guy to give her his own prime. 

Note: I am not saying anythin do girls above 25 o or that they are less worthy as partners, I am just stating the unseen dynamism of society the way I love to drop it like its hot. 

sofeco:

You got it bro, that's why you see some single ladies at 30+ out there. They've used their youth age to do rubbish.

There are some girls that have genuinely been disappointed by "good" guys they have committed to. Basically, the guys turnout not to be as goody as any reasonable person would have assumed.

Or some girls realising late that there is no compatibility or the relationship wore out over time.

But I still do think a substantial proportion were drama-hunters.

Sagamite:

Gbam!

Let me put a personal twist to that.

When I was younger and fresh from Naija, I was studious, straight boot, nice and courteous. Mate, it was a challenge to pull all those girls that caught my eyes. They all wanted the tracksuit bottom and trainers bad boys. I was really restricted to Naija girls from Naija and very few others born and bred in UK. They went for bad boys and scam boys that were using their time "working" (if you can call it that for scam boys) and making money to take them to clubs with nice cars. Any girl that I actually pull based on looks (I get that just a bit when I was young  ) in clubs, would soon dump my bleeping arse when I tell her, naively oblivious to the consequence, that I was going to take the Night Bus home or coming to visit her using underground. Iya jemi ni kekere o (I suffered when I was young o).

After a few observations of the process, the first to go was the nice & courteous part. Girls (not women) don't like good boys. After years of "Jonesing", I switched kia kia to my talk what is in your dirty mind and it worked magic.  I stuck with my studiousness and straight boot though as I want a future.

Now I get annoyed when those same girls that have used their youth to date bad boys, are now ready to settle down and now see those of us that they ignored because we were studious and want to date/marry us because we are now eligible and have the right husband profile due to the dividends of the hardwork in our youth. Anuofia!

Man you are spot on! This is my personal experience too. Girls who kept on saying no to me while I was in University now keep calling me wanting a relationship and to settle down with me.

But on the flip side, some girls stick with their men through university and the guys dumped them after school when they started getting on in life.

silentc:


Man you are spot on! This is my personal experience too. Girls who kept on saying no to me while I was in University now keep calling me wanting a relationship and to settle down with me.

Anuofia to them!

silentc:

But on the flip side, some girls stick with their men through university and the guys dumped them after school when they started getting on in life.

Although each individual case is different, there are some useless, cold and hopeless guys in this world.

I guess you guys are making a good point here, But I never looked down on myself each time a girl turned me down because of my present predicament. I always believe in my self because I know am going somewhere and I think every guy should have this character if you really wants to get there. Come to think of it, where are those Big girls when we were in secondary school? How about those ones that stole the shows when we were growing up? Like 60% of them are still strugling with their lifes right now. I always look back and give thanks to God for how far he has taken me. Though am not yet there but I have the assurance that more is to come. I think every gurl should realise the power of building a future with a guy, Would you now expect me to dump someone that has been with me when I was nobody for someone I don't even know why she wants me?, Mennnnn, I can't shout

lmao @ sagamite, ur funny

@sagamite you prose is exactly what Im saying
for your standards im barely in my 20s , under 25
and i can give a twats end about marriage, i have higher goals in life to just "settle"
its appaling to hear even supposedly scholarly people attain that a womans prime is past 25 and that her main aim is to marry and have babies.
dam i must be an alien.
anyway you say the girls who chase bad boys are dumb or clueless, then you are the one that clue them in abi?
i say you are no better that the chicks who chase after bad boys, the chicks are after the flash and u sir are after their pretty faces, after all what kinda head would u want in a girl who values flash and cash over anything else?
do you know why i say this? I USED to be THAT girl in the libary! for every chick u see chasing, there is that chick in the library working hard.
U guys can tell yourselves what you want, thus is my personal dibs!

platinumnk:

its appaling to hear even supposedly scholarly people attain that a womans prime is past 25 and that her main aim is to marry and have babies.
dam i must be an alien.

Let me put it this way, sweetie: What I said is that most woman are at their aesthetic prime within those ages (not at intellectual or any other thing else as you might have misinterpreted it). You can moan all you like, you can throw all the tantrums you like, you can scream sexism all you like, you can call me a misogynist from morning till night, you can run outside screaming about the virtues of political correctness if you wish, that is a fact. That is Biology.

I don't recall saying a woman's aim should be to marry and have babies before 25. I have read my posts again.

You do look human though. 

platinumnk:

i say you are no better that the chicks who chase after bad boys, the chicks are after the flash and u sir are after their pretty faces, after all what kinda head would u want in a girl who values flash and cash over anything else?

They are free to give their prettiness or not, I am free to give my giro/welfare cheques or not. No be by force, I am just saying I am clued up on the unseen, hence I can play the game my way.

I think you guys are taking it personal now, he he he he!!!!

mayboy81:

I think you guys are taking it personal now, he he he he!!!!

Nah!

People that know me know I have always been a bizarre mix of abrasive and facetious in my posts.

@saga-

There are lots of women who can prove to you that their aesthetic prime is NOT 25. Please check your facts again. and you seem to be in cohorts with the other conspirators who attain that women waste their youth on "bad boys" and then they are itching to marry after their "prime" is used up.
I STILL say you guys are no better than the women here you are trying to berate, the only difference is that the object is different.

For every girl that you whine over that chases flash and cash, there is one who is the exact opposite.
You guys should quit whining,   

mayboy81:

I think you guys are taking it personal now, he he he he!!!!

Tryna break the generalizations dude
Because Saga lusted after bimbos 

Based on what I read on this site, I am rightly justified to turn myself in to Area 51 as an alien

What is ur definition of finenes? Is it in terms of acquisition of wealth which is i am perceiving here and in general, u girls definition of luv too. The level of a guys richness is d same level where his finenes reached! This is to analyse how much u will give a guy thus ur condition of luv. GUYS, UNA DON HEAR AM, IF U WANT TO BE CLASSIFIED AS A FINE BOY, U MUST HAVE MONEY, EVEN IF U ARE A ONE LEGGED MAN. Lol

platinumnk:

@saga-

There are lots of women who can prove to you that their aesthetic prime is NOT 25. Please check your facts again. and you seem to be in cohorts with the other conspirators who attain that women waste their youth on "bad boys" and then they are itching to marry after their "prime" is used up.
I STILL say you guys are no better than the women here you are trying to berate, the only difference is that the object is different.

For every girl that you whine over that chases flash and cash, there is one who is the exact opposite.
You guys should quit whining,   

You no fit fight biology.

A vast majority of women have the greatest potential of being at their aesthetic best in their youth. That is not saying once a woman is over-25 she is then ugly. There are tons of women over-25 that are hawt. But I repeat, the vast majority of women, according to BIOLOGY and the exception is so negligible it is safe to ignore, have greatest potential of being at their aesthetic best in their youth.

In youth, it is effortless for a woman to maintain a fine figure and everything is plump and fresh. Some keep it beyond that. For these some, a fraction are just naturally gorgeous, some work had to keep it fresh and a growing number are going under the knife.

BI-O-LO-GYYYYY

platinumnk:

Tryna break the generalizations dude
Because Saga lusted after bimbos 

Me, I am not ashamed of my preferences o.

Sagamite:

You no fit fight biology.

A vast majority of women have the greatest potential of being at their aesthetic best in their youth. That is not saying once a woman is over-25 she is then ugly. There are tons of women over-25 that are hawt. But I repeat, the vast majority of women, according to BIOLOGY and the exception is so negligible it is safe to ignore, have greatest potential of being at their aesthetic best in their youth.

In youth, it is effortless for a woman to maintain a fine figure and everything is plump and fresh. Some keep it beyond that. For these some, a fraction are just naturally gorgeous, some work had to keep it fresh and a growing number are going under the knife.

BI-O-LO-GYYYYY

Me, I am not ashamed of my preferences o.

Shupppp Biology is the same one who made the faulty BMI index, and we know that colored folks age differently than non colored.
Take your botched science and shove it

Just glad to hear you admit you like bimbos which disqualifies your complaints and all your brethen who are he-hawing it with you!

mayboy81:

You got it right, but the point is how many ladies out there are ready to stay with an upcoming guy? The the percentage is like 20/80.So what would you now expect from a guy that had suffered so much rejection from ladies while he was trying to become somebody. He'll definately become proud and want to do some ridiculous things with ladies. You ladies at times makes us think you are after what's in our pocket, May God help us sha

i owe u serious suya!