Do you see it as a bad thing or a good thing? And if you found out that your bf/gf/wife/husband was still in contact with their ex, how
would you feel about it?

Stop recycling past thread! If u have ntn to say, just keep mute!@op

Excelboi:

Stop recycling past thread! If u have ntn to say, just keep mute!@op

#Cosign

good topic.but for me no big deal.well i have gone through your profile and i saw your pix. you look beautiful. i will like to know you.if you do not mind we can speak on 08030651766.

why not!?

Lailai, i no go gree.

exodusreal:

good topic.but for me no big deal.well i have gone through your profile and i saw your pix. you look beautiful. i will like to know you.if you do not mind we can speak on 08030651766.

LWKMD, if u call that beautiful, then u must be the twin brother and uglier than the guy in this thread tha married a german granny https://www.nairaland.com/nigeria/topic-873846.0.html

yes

Mutually Chima and I do not contact our past flames.  I have this friend who i have never dated but is very smitten with me, he doesn't contact me in the present of Chima for obvious reasons.  

I often time ignore the calls/texts because I do not want to hear my husband's fuss.  Hell even the mailman scared to come to the door!  He just throws the mail near the door and run.  

Seriously.

~Killz~:

NO, i wont! And spare me the sanctimonious bullshit about insecurity! Staying in touch with an ex does more harm than good! Yes you can exchange pleasantries when you bump into each other at occasions or randomly, but keeping contacts and exchanging calls is wholly unacceptable to the 100^th degree. If you had wanted to keep touch with your Ex, why break up the relationship? You are in a new relationship, so the things of the past one is totally irrelevant. Anyway, these are the seemingly infinitesimal things that i would have to find out before diving into the waters of a relationship. I wont tolerate such bullshit, and if my stance is not ok by you, the exit door to the relationship is that way! >>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>

Good one Sexkillz.

@To people who are offtopic, please stay on topic. I don't need anyone bull sh iit in here. Your attention is notwhat I require here. I need serious and intelligent answers like that of Sexkillz Inker Nerd, and my wifey. If U can't stay on topic, stay the fu  ck out.

Thanks.

I wasn't off topic Wifey.

I don't want no ex around my girlfriend wife is bigger deal. Unless on one condition which is*only if they mistakenly boarded on the same airplane" too bad I still have all my ex's contacts on my hidden AT&T chip. They are just substitutes. I don't even trust my own dickson so how am I suppose to trust my partner's ex? Niggas will always wanna taste the old wine

*Coincidentally actually*

A lil off topic
Hey Mrs. Chima, please is it really Ok for guys to honor a baby shower invitation? Lol this young couple sent shower invitation to me and we are really close especially me and the bride. . The shower is today actually, and if yes what do u think is ok as a gift? Gift card or. . . .? They're expecting a baby girl.

unless you are insecure/paranoid, there is nothing overly wrong with it. though it does depend on the type of person the ex is. for example, what if the ex is married too, or is a very intelligent person that you can seek advise from?

No!I wouldn't!
Old flames die hard and when there's constant communication,tendencies of re-igniting are high.
Exes are most times a pain in the arss!

***Shouldnt Niaraland females be concentratin on findin a man (am single) on Nairaland instead of worrying over a Ex? ***

Your Cork is dead dude. . Get over it. .

This is not a topic to generalise on. It requires intelligent evaluation of the people involved. An ex of mine was not to be trusted around her ex's and she proved herself untrustworthy however my SO is not of the same cloth so I have no qualms.

If you can't intelligently (and prayerfully too) evaluate your partner you really aren't ready for a relationship.

IbroSaunks:

unless you are insecure/paranoid, there is nothing overly wrong with it. though it does depend on the type of person the ex is. for example, what if the ex is married too, or is a very intelligent person that you can seek advise from?

Advice from an ex?

That is a new one.

I will not seek advices regarding my marriage from an ex. WTF.

Seek an intelligent elder of your family if you really want sound advices.

I didn't say marriage advice

I concur with Sexkillz, an ex is an ex for a reason. Even if your partner's ok with it, don't take the piss. Respect yourself and keep off. Its a small price to pay for everyone's happiness.

Definitely, you are true Liberian girl because a Nigeria girl will never ask this question because it is not a news anymore,if partner don't stay in torch with ex,their is tendency that they may be fucking,now allowing them to stay with each other simply means,allowing them to be sex partner, if someone become an ex, let that be a things of the past, forget am, a bi you and your ex boyfriend still dey see each other?

rokiatu:

Good one Sexkillz.

@To people who are offtopic, please stay on topic. I don't need anyone bull sh iit in here. Your attention is notwhat I require here. I need serious and intelligent answers like that of Sexkillz Inker Nerd, and my wifey. If U can't stay on topic, stay the fu  ck out.

Thanks.

sexkillz is dead!

keeping in contact with and ex on a neutral or on a bussiness ground is more dangerous than a careless relationship bcz an old flame they say is not hard to rekindle and u may never know the package he or she is wrapping up for u this time. there is definitely no excuse for ppl not to remain in love together. i had given up a long term relationship still bcz of this same reason of keeping in touch with an ex and trying to make her a family friend. peeps open ur eyes n be wise enough to know that anyone still in touch with and ex is still in love with him or her and the chances of them cheating on you is as huge ad 80 percent. not in my life.

keeping in contact with and ex on a neutral or on a bussiness ground is more dangerous than a careless relationship bcz an old flame they say is not hard to rekindle and u may never know the package he or she is wrapping up for u this time. there is definitely no excuse for ppl not to remain in love together. i had given up a long term relationship still bcz of this same reason of keeping in touch with an ex and trying to make her a family friend. peeps open ur eyes n be wise enough to know that anyone still in touch with and ex is still in love with him or her and the chances of them cheating on you is as huge ad 80 percent. not in my life.

As long as she WILL NOT tolerate any contact with my ex from me. For peace sake why will anyone be in touch with an ex?