You’ve probably realized by now life isn’t all rainbows and B.utterflies. And if you haven’t yet, you soon will. By the time you reach you late 20s and early 30s, the baggage starts to add up.
As you get older, you begin to accumulate stuff. Not more expensive kinds of face cream, that’s just physical baggage. The emotional Sh!t weighs much heavier. Your experiences, good and bad, start to take their toll.
By the time you reach 30, you pretty much accept that you’re screwed up beyond repair and that any potential mate is likely to be as well.
A complicated divorce? Baggage. Death of a parent? Baggage. An inconceivably manipulative ex that left him with an inferiority complex? Let’s not get started on that one.
If humans were half as efficient as machines, we’d erase the hard drive and start fresh. But that wouldn’t make us human. And as much as we’d all love our romantic partners to come without complications, the chances of that happening are close to zero.
While therapy, yoga, mindfulness and wine can cure most of the above nuisances, if you’re dating a man with kids there’s not enough chardonnay in the world to make it go away.
So be sensible, and don’t launch headlong into your new relationship with Pops until you’ve thought it through first.
Here are seven things you need to know about dating a man with kids:
1. You’ll Never Be His Top Priority
Having kids changes people in ways you’ll never understand until you have your own. This love is totally unconditional.
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Basically, your man has experienced a more intense kind of love than you and they were here first. This means you’ll never be his top priority.
If you’re used to your boyfriend putting your needs first, prepare yourself. He will leave you high and dry because his kid is complaining of a headache, or his ex can’t pick her up from school. On her day. Just when you’ve had a Brazilian.
2. You’ll Never Be Rid of The Ex
Speaking of exes, you’ll never be rid of his. You can’t because there are soccer practices to organize and parent/teacher conferences to go to. You’ll probably feel like he talks to his ex more than you and she might even haunt your dreams.
You can’t get mad about it because he’ll just pull out the kid card, so try to stay calm and keep your pangs of jealousy under control.
3. You Have A Constant Spy In The House
Dating a man with kids, or living with him, is like having a constant spy in the house. Before you know it, the fact that you burnt the enchiladas last night will go viral.
Your fights will be documented and dissected by his ex and her cronies at the gym. And forget about walking around Nakked or having $ex when you want to.
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You’re living in a prison of your own making. If you don’t want to be labeled as a child molester, keep your clothes on at all times, even in the shower. You will be burst in on in the bathroom and giggled at, and have your B00bs compared to Mommy’s.
4. You’ll Have No Authority
Having zero authority over his kids won’t seem like a problem in the beginning. After all, they’re not your kids. As you marvel over this new world of parenting, all you’ll care about is getting them on your side.
As the relationship progresses and you spend more time together, it’s hard to keep up the charade that you’re as enthusiastic about his children as he is.
Prepare yourself for the moment you try to teach them manners or ask them to turn the volume down. You’ll swiftly and sharply be reminded that you’re not their mom. You pretty much have no say over the remote control in your own home.
5. Your Opinion Won’t Count
As long as they can play the “you’re not my mom” trump card, your opinion will never count. Of course, you’re still expected to provide dinner, buy them things, babysit when you really don’t feel like it and get emotionally involved.
You know when your girlfriend puts you in the impossible position of answering honestly about how she looks in her new dress? Remember that now. Don’t be tempted to give your opinion, even when it’s asked.
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6. Your Vacations Will Never Look The Same Again
Expecting your vacation to be romantic and full of moonlit walks on the beach is just wrong. It won’t happen when you’re with a man and his children.
Your vacations will suddenly turn into kids’ camp. Instead of lying by the pool, you’ll have to be in it, participating in constant water sports or risk the backlash of moody children.
7. People Will Mistake You For The Mom (You’ll Secretly Like It)
It’s pretty cool when you’re out and people praise you on your beautiful children. It can be fun playing mom, knowing that you can give them back at the end. But if you secretly like it, watch out.
It won’t be long before all that role playing will make you ache inside and want kids of your own. When that happens, the loving, doting father you’re dating will declare how much he hates children and how he doesn’t want another.
You can’t help what the heart wants, so if you fall in love with a dad just please remember this: Spend more time acting like the adult than trying to best friends with the kids, and don’t give up on your friends or social life.


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The reasons why every individual engages in certain things like making the choice of lovers is mostly personal. In essence, what works for you might not work for someone else. No doubt, this is a recent trend in the world of relationships.
Below is a question from an anonymous reader on why beautiful and smart ladies fall in love with men that are silly and ugly.
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The Question
Hi Dating Nerd,
I have been noticing a recent trend in the dating world. Why are women attracted to such unintelligent men? Do they get a sense of power out of it or is it a lark?
I have a few friends who are not the sharpest tool in the shed but yet manage to get laid every night. The women, however, are intelligent. I have spoken to many different women about this issue, and they think dating dumb men is really a turn-on.
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The women I have asked have such careers as doctors, lawyers, stock brokers, etc. My point is these women are not stupid. So what the hell is going on with this current dating trend? Please shine some light on it for me, because I refuse to dumb myself down for any person.
– Unappreciated Genius
The Answer
Hi Unappreciated Genius,
I get why you’re confused. After all, intelligent men are inherently superior, right? Why would a woman want to date some dumb jock when she could date a guy who quotes Proust and understands the motion of molecules? Wouldn’t she miss the scintillating debates? Wouldn’t she get frustrated that she couldn’t talk about her dissertation?
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Well, not necessarily. See, there’s a shaky assumption at the heart of your question, which is that smart men are inherently superior. And this is incorrect, for two reasons.
First reason: Women don’t need men to provide intellectual stimulation. They can get that on their own. Look around you. If you hadn’t noticed, women are now lawyers, doctors, marketing sharks, insurance executives, and captains, so to speak, of industries.

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The reasons why every individual engages in certain things like making the choice of lovers is mostly personal. In essence, what works for you might not work for someone else. No doubt, this is a recent trend in the world of relationships.
Below is a question from an anonymous reader on why beautiful and smart ladies fall in love with men that are silly and ugly.
READ ALSO https://boewap..com.ng/2017/04/something-men-really-does-not-love.html
The Question
Hi Dating Nerd,
I have been noticing a recent trend in the dating world. Why are women attracted to such unintelligent men? Do they get a sense of power out of it or is it a lark?
I have a few friends who are not the sharpest tool in the shed but yet manage to get laid every night. The women, however, are intelligent. I have spoken to many different women about this issue, and they think dating dumb men is really a turn-on.
READ MORE https://boewap..com.ng/2017/05/ladies-check-yourself-are-you-among.html
The women I have asked have such careers as doctors, lawyers, stock brokers, etc. My point is these women are not stupid. So what the hell is going on with this current dating trend? Please shine some light on it for me, because I refuse to dumb myself down for any person.
– Unappreciated Genius
The Answer
Hi Unappreciated Genius,
I get why you’re confused. After all, intelligent men are inherently superior, right? Why would a woman want to date some dumb jock when she could date a guy who quotes Proust and understands the motion of molecules? Wouldn’t she miss the scintillating debates? Wouldn’t she get frustrated that she couldn’t talk about her dissertation?
READ ALSO https://boewap..com.ng/2017/04/sign-on-how-to-know-that-your-partner.html
Well, not necessarily. See, there’s a shaky assumption at the heart of your question, which is that smart men are inherently superior. And this is incorrect, for two reasons.
First reason: Women don’t need men to provide intellectual stimulation. They can get that on their own. Look around you. If you hadn’t noticed, women are now lawyers, doctors, marketing sharks, insurance executives, and captains, so to speak, of industries.


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When you’re in a serious relationship, you tend to share everything—or almost everything. While you may be totally cool with sharing food, a bathroom, and the rent, it’s understandable that you might feel less comfortable opening up about more personal stuff, like sexual fantasies.
But a new study published in The Journal of Sex Research suggests that being able to open up about your fantasies says a lot about the quality your relationship.
READ ALSO https://boewap..com.ng/2017/04/sign-on-how-to-know-that-your-partner.html
For the study, researchers asked people in long-term, mostly heterosexual relationships, lasting an average of 2.5 years, to answer questions online. The Qs explored the participants’ relationship stability, how well they communicated with their partners, how sexually satisfied they were, what sexual information they shared, and if they were willing to talk about things that their partners might find offensive
Here’s what scientists found:People who reported being sexually satisfied were more likely to say they had good communication in their relationship, were super satisfied with their relationship, and felt their bond was stable. They were also more likely to open up to their partners about their fantasies than people who felt less comfortable in their relationships. So, basically, talking about your fantasies is correlated with all of the things that make for a happy relationship (i.e. feeling good about your bond and being open).
The researchers wrote that their study emphasizes the importance of understanding why some people are more open to talking about their sexual desires versus others and how that can impact their sexual satisfaction.
It’s also worth noting that people were most nervous about bringing up their past sexual experiences, anal sex, and porn. However, people didn’t feel as weird about discussing what they like about sex, their individual preferences, and practicing safe sex—which are all good things to be open about.
READ ALSO https://boewap..com.ng/2017/05/ladies-check-yourself-are-you-among.html

The connection between being open about your fantasies and having a happy relationship makes sense on some level: If you don’t feel super secure in your relationship, you’re probably not going to open up to your S.O. about your fantasy of getting banged by your local grocery store checkout guy.
But if you feel like you’re in a secure relationship and you’re still not comfy sharing your fantasies, just know that it will probably go over way better than you think—and could bring you closer (in bed and out). Here’s a little inspo on how to be more open about your sexual interests.


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When you’re in a serious relationship, you tend to share everything—or almost everything. While you may be totally cool with sharing food, a bathroom, and the rent, it’s understandable that you might feel less comfortable opening up about more personal stuff, like sexual fantasies.
But a new study published in The Journal of Sex Research suggests that being able to open up about your fantasies says a lot about the quality your relationship.
READ ALSO https://boewap..com.ng/2017/04/sign-on-how-to-know-that-your-partner.html
For the study, researchers asked people in long-term, mostly heterosexual relationships, lasting an average of 2.5 years, to answer questions online. The Qs explored the participants’ relationship stability, how well they communicated with their partners, how sexually satisfied they were, what sexual information they shared, and if they were willing to talk about things that their partners might find offensive
Here’s what scientists found:People who reported being sexually satisfied were more likely to say they had good communication in their relationship, were super satisfied with their relationship, and felt their bond was stable. They were also more likely to open up to their partners about their fantasies than people who felt less comfortable in their relationships. So, basically, talking about your fantasies is correlated with all of the things that make for a happy relationship (i.e. feeling good about your bond and being open).
The researchers wrote that their study emphasizes the importance of understanding why some people are more open to talking about their sexual desires versus others and how that can impact their sexual satisfaction.
It’s also worth noting that people were most nervous about bringing up their past sexual experiences, anal sex, and porn. However, people didn’t feel as weird about discussing what they like about sex, their individual preferences, and practicing safe sex—which are all good things to be open about.
READ ALSO https://boewap..com.ng/2017/05/ladies-check-yourself-are-you-among.html

The connection between being open about your fantasies and having a happy relationship makes sense on some level: If you don’t feel super secure in your relationship, you’re probably not going to open up to your S.O. about your fantasy of getting banged by your local grocery store checkout guy.
But if you feel like you’re in a secure relationship and you’re still not comfy sharing your fantasies, just know that it will probably go over way better than you think—and could bring you closer (in bed and out). Here’s a little inspo on how to be more open about your sexual interests.


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Many women don’t realize is it’s very easy to accidentally sabotage your relationship — you don’t need to hack into your partner’s email or boil his pet rabbit to raise a red flag.
Rather, simply acting like one of the following will more than do the trick:
1. The Ball Buster
The typical “Ball Buster” seeks control of the relationship by putting her man in his place … repeatedly. She views herself as a “problem-solver.”
Though she has noble intentions (sometimes), constantly telling her man his way is the wrong way isn’t so much noble as it is infuriatingly annoying.
READ ALSO https://boewap..com.ng/2017/04/sign-on-how-to-know-that-your-partner.html
By trying to control him, she undermines his thoughts, wishes, and, perhaps most importantly … his sense of competence. All of this robs him of something each man holds near and dear: his masculinity.
ALSO READ https://boewap..com.ng/2017/04/something-men-really-does-not-love.html
2. The Mother
“The Mother” does exactly what it sounds like — she mothers her partner.
She dotes on him, she fusses and worries, she believes he can do no wrong, perhaps she even picks out a sailor suit and knee socks for him to wear on the first day at his new job. She also preoccupies herself with the emotional barometer of the relationship.
This might sound healthy, but it’s actually not.
The “Mother” puts all the relationship (all the joys, all the sorrows, all the ups and downs) — on her back. She puts pressure on herself and herself alone; it’s her duty to make the relationship work. She’s constantly wondering how he’s feeling, where she stands, and whether he is okay and what she can do to fix it. The problem with this role is two-fold. First, a girlfriend or wife who acts like a man’s mother will lead him to rebel.
After all, that’s what children do. Second, it’s unfair for a woman to baby a grown man! She might not mind it initially, but it’ll only lead to resentment down the line.
ALSO READ https://boewap..com.ng/2017/04/ways-to-know-ladies-who-have-no.html
3. The Love Vixen
“The Love Vixen” is a charmer, forever able to draw men into her waiting arms. She does this by defining herself with her se*uality. In other words, she controls her mate with s*x. The reason this sabotages a relationship is because she’s essentially manipulating and blackmailing her partner — if he wants s*x, he must do what “The Love Vixen” wants.
And, it’s safe to say: Any relationship based on blackmail probably won’t remain successful for long.
ALSO READ https://boewap..com.ng/2017/04/ways-on-how-to-make-woman-run-after-you.html
4. The Damsel in Distress
The concept of “The Damsel in Distress” is simple: Boy meets girl, boy rescues girl, boy, and girl lives happily ever after.
It may sound romantic, easy and productive, but it only works for a little while. In the long run, a damsel can’t always be in distress (unless she stars in several Lifetime Movies) and the man can’t always act as the hero. It’s too exhausting — and unrealistic — on both fronts. In the end the man ends up resenting her for her incompetence.
READ ALSO https://boewap..com.ng/2017/04/these-are-secret-that-can-make-your.html
5. The Tease
Most of us, at one time or another, have known a tease, the type of person who teases only to pull away before she seals the deal. Though this isn’t necessarily sabotaging in moderation, overindulgence leads to feelings of frustration. Like actual teasing, it’s fun at first, but then it gets old real fast. Too much teasing builds a wall between two partners, a foundation they can’t surmount because of a disconnect.
He feels unsatisfied, inadequate, and she feels lonely — both partners feel as if they can’t express themselves openly and honestly.
ALSO READ https://boewap..com.ng/2017/05/5-sign-to-know-that-your-man-will-never.html
6. The Accountant
“The Accountant” focuses on the equality of a relationship — the complete and TOTAL equality. A woman in this role may keep track of who pays for what and when (some may even track it to the dollar amount or take into consideration each other’s respective salaries). The problem here is that relationships aren’t business; they’re pleasure.If they’re not seen as enjoyable, intimacy will fall by the wayside and love just becomes collateral damage.
ALSO READ https://boewap..com.ng/2017/05/the-main-reasons-why-good-women-are.html
7. The Princess
When a woman plays the role of “The Princess,” she cares less about love than she does about being adored and put on a pedestal. To put it simply, “The Princess” wants to marry a man who views her as a trophy wife. Women who adopt this role aren’t only robbing their significant other of happiness (as their relationship is empty and for show), but also robbing themselves, taking away a chance at real love and connection.
In the end, every woman has played one of these roles (and men play their own roles, as well).

On occasion, falling into these roles probably won’t affect your relationship much at all. However, playing them repeatedly destroys relationships until there’s nothing left to ruin.

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Many women don’t realize is it’s very easy to accidentally sabotage your relationship — you don’t need to hack into your partner’s email or boil his pet rabbit to raise a red flag.
Rather, simply acting like one of the following will more than do the trick:
1. The Ball Buster
The typical “Ball Buster” seeks control of the relationship by putting her man in his place … repeatedly. She views herself as a “problem-solver.”
Though she has noble intentions (sometimes), constantly telling her man his way is the wrong way isn’t so much noble as it is infuriatingly annoying.
READ ALSO https://boewap..com.ng/2017/04/sign-on-how-to-know-that-your-partner.html
By trying to control him, she undermines his thoughts, wishes, and, perhaps most importantly … his sense of competence. All of this robs him of something each man holds near and dear: his masculinity.
ALSO READ https://boewap..com.ng/2017/04/something-men-really-does-not-love.html
2. The Mother
“The Mother” does exactly what it sounds like — she mothers her partner.
She dotes on him, she fusses and worries, she believes he can do no wrong, perhaps she even picks out a sailor suit and knee socks for him to wear on the first day at his new job. She also preoccupies herself with the emotional barometer of the relationship.
This might sound healthy, but it’s actually not.
The “Mother” puts all the relationship (all the joys, all the sorrows, all the ups and downs) — on her back. She puts pressure on herself and herself alone; it’s her duty to make the relationship work. She’s constantly wondering how he’s feeling, where she stands, and whether he is okay and what she can do to fix it. The problem with this role is two-fold. First, a girlfriend or wife who acts like a man’s mother will lead him to rebel.
After all, that’s what children do. Second, it’s unfair for a woman to baby a grown man! She might not mind it initially, but it’ll only lead to resentment down the line.
ALSO READ https://boewap..com.ng/2017/04/ways-to-know-ladies-who-have-no.html
3. The Love Vixen
“The Love Vixen” is a charmer, forever able to draw men into her waiting arms. She does this by defining herself with her se*uality. In other words, she controls her mate with s*x. The reason this sabotages a relationship is because she’s essentially manipulating and blackmailing her partner — if he wants s*x, he must do what “The Love Vixen” wants.
And, it’s safe to say: Any relationship based on blackmail probably won’t remain successful for long.
ALSO READ https://boewap..com.ng/2017/04/ways-on-how-to-make-woman-run-after-you.html
4. The Damsel in Distress
The concept of “The Damsel in Distress” is simple: Boy meets girl, boy rescues girl, boy, and girl lives happily ever after.
It may sound romantic, easy and productive, but it only works for a little while. In the long run, a damsel can’t always be in distress (unless she stars in several Lifetime Movies) and the man can’t always act as the hero. It’s too exhausting — and unrealistic — on both fronts. In the end the man ends up resenting her for her incompetence.
READ ALSO https://boewap..com.ng/2017/04/these-are-secret-that-can-make-your.html
5. The Tease
Most of us, at one time or another, have known a tease, the type of person who teases only to pull away before she seals the deal. Though this isn’t necessarily sabotaging in moderation, overindulgence leads to feelings of frustration. Like actual teasing, it’s fun at first, but then it gets old real fast. Too much teasing builds a wall between two partners, a foundation they can’t surmount because of a disconnect.
He feels unsatisfied, inadequate, and she feels lonely — both partners feel as if they can’t express themselves openly and honestly.
ALSO READ https://boewap..com.ng/2017/05/5-sign-to-know-that-your-man-will-never.html
6. The Accountant
“The Accountant” focuses on the equality of a relationship — the complete and TOTAL equality. A woman in this role may keep track of who pays for what and when (some may even track it to the dollar amount or take into consideration each other’s respective salaries). The problem here is that relationships aren’t business; they’re pleasure.If they’re not seen as enjoyable, intimacy will fall by the wayside and love just becomes collateral damage.
ALSO READ https://boewap..com.ng/2017/05/the-main-reasons-why-good-women-are.html
7. The Princess
When a woman plays the role of “The Princess,” she cares less about love than she does about being adored and put on a pedestal. To put it simply, “The Princess” wants to marry a man who views her as a trophy wife. Women who adopt this role aren’t only robbing their significant other of happiness (as their relationship is empty and for show), but also robbing themselves, taking away a chance at real love and connection.
In the end, every woman has played one of these roles (and men play their own roles, as well).

On occasion, falling into these roles probably won’t affect your relationship much at all. However, playing them repeatedly destroys relationships until there’s nothing left to ruin.

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Unmarried men too seem to prefer condoms as the popular method to protect against STIs. But for a virus whose disease has no symptoms, the inefficacy of condoms allows for faster and wider spread, especially amongst those with multiple s*x partners. The only 100 per cent effective way to prevent HPV transmission is abstinence from any s*xual contact, including oral, an*l, and vaginal s*x. See also: Morning after:That ‘oops’ moment when women’s emergency pills backfire Since abstinence may not be a realistic option, Dr Mugo advises remaining monogamous while in a relationship, vaccination and screening for women. Women can also pass viruses without having any symptoms.
READ ALSO https://joseph9jablog..com.ng/2017/04/seven7-things-you-should-never-do-to.html

But the chance of females infecting men is estimated at less than five per cent of the rates of male-to-female transmission. There are more than 100 types of HPV and about 13 of these are cancer causing, with HPV types 16 and 18 causing approximately 70 per cent of all cervical cancers worldwide.
Sadly, it’s physically difficult to tell whether your partner has the HPV virus unless they have private part warts, yet those who do not have visible signs can also spread the virus. The other interesting aspect of this particular virus is that you do not need to have s8*x for it to be passed on from one person to another. The virus is found in the flora of the man-hood, scrotum, vag1na, vulva@, or anus of a person who has the HPV. One can get infected through kissing or touching an infected s8*x organs or through oral s3’x.
Since cervical cancer is the leading cause of cancer deaths among adult women, in the developing world, and the second most common cancer among women worldwide, preventive measures include getting a pap smear for women and/or getting vaccinated. Better still, it’s important that you be honest with your partner about your s3’x history.
READ ALSO https://joseph9jablog..com.ng/2017/04/things-that-you-must-not-do-to-your.html

Immunizing all girls before becoming sexually active ideally aged nine to 13 years in order to lower the risk of HPV took off in Kenya under a pilot project in Kitui County in 2013, targeting 20,000 girls

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Unmarried men too seem to prefer condoms as the popular method to protect against STIs. But for a virus whose disease has no symptoms, the inefficacy of condoms allows for faster and wider spread, especially amongst those with multiple s*x partners. The only 100 per cent effective way to prevent HPV transmission is abstinence from any s*xual contact, including oral, an*l, and vaginal s*x. See also: Morning after:That ‘oops’ moment when women’s emergency pills backfire Since abstinence may not be a realistic option, Dr Mugo advises remaining monogamous while in a relationship, vaccination and screening for women. Women can also pass viruses without having any symptoms.
READ ALSO https://joseph9jablog..com.ng/2017/04/seven7-things-you-should-never-do-to.html

But the chance of females infecting men is estimated at less than five per cent of the rates of male-to-female transmission. There are more than 100 types of HPV and about 13 of these are cancer causing, with HPV types 16 and 18 causing approximately 70 per cent of all cervical cancers worldwide.
Sadly, it’s physically difficult to tell whether your partner has the HPV virus unless they have private part warts, yet those who do not have visible signs can also spread the virus. The other interesting aspect of this particular virus is that you do not need to have s8*x for it to be passed on from one person to another. The virus is found in the flora of the man-hood, scrotum, vag1na, vulva@, or anus of a person who has the HPV. One can get infected through kissing or touching an infected s8*x organs or through oral s3’x.
Since cervical cancer is the leading cause of cancer deaths among adult women, in the developing world, and the second most common cancer among women worldwide, preventive measures include getting a pap smear for women and/or getting vaccinated. Better still, it’s important that you be honest with your partner about your s3’x history.
READ ALSO https://joseph9jablog..com.ng/2017/04/things-that-you-must-not-do-to-your.html

Immunizing all girls before becoming sexually active ideally aged nine to 13 years in order to lower the risk of HPV took off in Kenya under a pilot project in Kitui County in 2013, targeting 20,000 girls

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April 18, 2017
Seven(7) Things You Should Never Do to Your P3nis Before S3x
When it comes to s3x, a lot has been said on how women should try and seduce her partner, but very less about men, asides going by the ‘dos’ there are certain ‘don’ts’ that men need to follow so they don’t spoil their s3x lives and give their women some memorable moments to cherish”. Here goes the list:
Here are a list of things you should never do to your p3nis before s3x.
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Don’t indulge in too much p3nis-play: pre-intimacy is very necessary before s3x but you don’t need too much of pre-intimacy, “indulging in too much p3nis-play, stretching, turning, twisting is not going to make you ready for the action, if you have problems getting an er3ction even after pre-intimacy and an urge to indulge, talk to your doctor rather than damaging the organ with your frustrated moves”.
Don’t indulge in too much handjob: Be cautious of too much handjob as it can ruin the fun for you, it can damage your sensory nerves instead of tickling it.
Avoid cleaning with the wrong ingredients: “Of course, your girl would detest the stench if you have been unhygienic with your privates, but that doesn’t mean you try to clean your organ with scented shampoos or washes fearing you would miss out on a Mouth Gig but just water and soap is enough”. You don’t want to end up in rashes, redness and other problems just before s3x.
Don’t stretch your p3nis: You don’t have to pull your p3nis to make it bigger, don’t try to impress your girl with a big p3nis by stretching it which can damage it. Instead of obsessing over the size of your p3nis, get to work naturally and your girl will love it.
Applying too much pressure on it: “Whether during pre-intimacy, getting a handjob or a Mouth Gig, be cautious, too much pressure out of excitement can lead to penile fractures or damage the sensory nerves”.
Going overboard with Mouth Gig: Guide your partner to help you get excited and not hurt you, forcing your partner for a Mouth Gig could backfire so let it come from her willingly and if she is a novice, feel free to guide her through it. Don’t try to lubricate it: Stop.
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Just ask yourself why you are even doing it. Your penis needs no lubrication. Your woman’s vaginal fluid is enough to get you into a smooth action. Moreover, if you are using a condom, it comes with a slimy coating to help you get better with your action. So why complicate your organ with external lubricants which might give your rashes or infections later.
Don’t try to lubricate it: You will be doing yourself more harm than good if you lubricate it, your p3nis needs no lubrication as your woman’s vag!nal fluid is more than enough to get you into a smooth action. “Moreover, if you are using a condom, it comes with a slimy coating to help you get better with your action. So why complicate your organ with external lubricants which might give your rashes or infections later”.

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April 14, 2017
Reason why men does not want s*x with their wife
Contrary to popular belief, men aren't always raring to go all day every day. And surprisingly, guys can have long-term dips in desire just like women. In fact, 14.4 percent of men reported a distressing lack of sexual interest lasting at least two months in the past year, according to a new study published in The Journal of Sexual Medicine. Read on to discover some of the most common reasons why he may not be in the mood.
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His Sexual Confidence is Low.
Men with low confidence levels in their erectile function were more likely than other men to report a lack of desire in this study. "Even just one incident of erectile dysfunction for a lot of guys can create a cycle where they think it could happen again and their whole libido lowers," says sex therapist Brandy Engler, Ph.D., author of The Men on my Couch. If your guy is having trouble getting or keeping an erection, take the focus off of that for a while and put it onto something else, like kissing, handling, or your own pleasure.

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He's Stressed at Work.
According to the study, this was the number one reason men reported having a low libido. Really, it's not all that different from how your own body reacts to stress by dampening desire. "When you're stressed and in your head all day, your nervous system is all wound up, your body's releasing cortisol, and you're not relaxed enough to experience pleasure," says Engler. If this is the case, make sure pre-intimacy is slow, sensual, and calming—like taking a hot shower together, massaging each other, or just having an old-school make out session that let's you both relax and get in the mood.
There's Something Off in the Relationship.
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You'd be surprised how important the mind-body connection is for men when it comes to sex, says Engler. "If there's a relationship issue he's holding on to or some kind of resentment he's feeling, the body is unlikely to respond to desire." So don't be too surprised if guys aren't always amped for makeup sex—he might still be mulling things over. In that case, it may be worth hashing things out to see if there are any issues that should be addressed outside the bedroom.
He's Bored.
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Sexual boredom in long-term relationships was another major reason that men reported a lack of sexual interest in the study. Don't panic—this doesn't mean he's bored with you. While women tend to take this personally, Engler says it's often not about the woman at all. It could just be that your sex life has fallen into a routine. Most of the time, Engler's patients say they shut down when they're always the ones initiating sex. So if you've fallen into a rut, make an effort to mix things up and show some passion. Suggest role-playing, take the reins when it comes to trying a new position, or experiment with one of the items on our sex bucket list. "Play more of a role when it comes to being creative and seductive," says Engler. "Be present in the experience."
He Already Masturbated That Day.
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Hey, it's totally possible that he got a little carried away without you, and now he's not feeling as strong an urge to hop into bed. For some men, especially as they get older, they don't feel as strong a desire if they've recently masturbated, says sex therapist Ian Kerner, Ph.D. author of She Comes First. Just let him know that next time you'd like to join in on the fun.
He's Just Not Feeling Sexy.
You know you don't feel as frisky after too much Indian food and not enough exercise, and neither does he. If he's just not feeling great, he doesn't have a willingness to get aroused, which means sex just isn't on the agenda for him, says Kerner. He suggests taking a little longer with pre-intimacy, kissing, and touching to see if you can get him over that desire hump. "Sometimes if you can just get arousal going, your body will do the rest of the work," says Kerner.
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It’s commonly believed that men are more sexually active as compared to their female partner. But very often, they too encounter several fears related to their bedroom romp, which can in turn cause doldrums in their sexual relationship.
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Fears related to their sexual performance, sex position, ejaculation period, a satisfying orgasm and wild acts in bed often end up killing their passion. With these fears running through their mind, men not only fail to satisfy their female partner, but are unable to enjoy the act themselves.
Chandigarh-based sexologist Dr. Deepak Arora explains, “Men always relate sex and sexuality with their egos and they never want to fail there. This is the biggest fear in them which converts to performance anxiety. This anxiety leads to a man failing to perform well in bed and if their female partner does not have the patience to bear with them, relationship goes for a toss easily.”
Relationship counsellor Dr. Gitanjali Sharma adds, “Men need to understand that when it comes to sexual performance, they can’t outperform themselves. The urge for performing better each time has to come from within by raising your consciousness to higher levels. And when self satisfaction comes, there is no question of under performing. You have sex for enjoyment and not to perform, under perform or out perform. It’s a joy, sheer joy, so shed all your inhibitions and concentrate on the act.”
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As most male fears revolve around satisfying the female partner, Gitanjali suggests, “Till the time your women is emotionally satisfied, you can easily satisfy her sexual needs. The more emotionally connected you are, the more enjoyable physical intimacy will be. Try and indulge in physical intimacy only when your woman is ready, as it helps creating a comfort zone where she will participate equally. And while having sex, stay calm, relaxed, indulge in pre-intimacy and nothing will stop you from performing the desired way.”
Here are some common fears that make men nervous every time they gear up for a steamy romp…
Fear fright # 1: Leaving her unsatisfied
The foremost fear of leaving the female partner unsatisfied has a direct correlation with a male’s organ size. While a woman thinks bigger the better, the man keeps worrying about what if he’s unable to give the desired pleasure. This fear of not giving their best somewhere triggers a feeling of being an imperfect sex partner, which may even hit a man’s ego directly.
Get Over It : Dr. Gitanjali Sharma explains, “The fear of not satisfying a women leads to many questions in a man’s mind. He starts thinking that will she look for that sexual satisfaction elsewhere and that thought of her being with someone else (because of his under performance) will make him more complex. This is like a vicious cycle, as the more he thinks on this subject, he gets driven by performance anxiety, thus leaving her unsatisfied most of the times. Performance in bed mainly depends on a woman’s state of mind at that time. You need to be comfortable with your woman’s body to feel a strong connection. Go slow and steady and understand your woman by awakening her sensitive parts rather than worrying about your size.”
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Fear fright # 2: Premature ejaculation
A gratifying sex quickie is all about giving and receiving pleasure. While men make every efforts to please their female partners, they would, most of the times, remain anxious about their own climax and this fear is driven by the ejaculation period. It’s a very common apprehension that men come across where they suffer premature ejaculation due to which they end up spoiling sex.
Get Over It : Dr. Arora elucidates, “Medically, if a man is able to hold his ejaculation for at least one minute, he is not a patient of premature ejaculation. But unfortunately very few people know this fact and they are being misguided with fake ads and while watching porn movies, which makes them think that they are unable to have sex for a longer period. This creates a feeling of insecurity about their female partner and the sexual stress mounts, which gets converted into performance anxiety. In most of the cases, the problem practically doesn’t exist, but the fear is creating it.”
Fear fright # 3: Not getting her pregnant
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Though it’s not necessary that every sex session should be aimed at getting the woman pregnant, but still men do carry impotency fears in their minds. The continuous worry of not getting a woman pregnant puts men in a serious stigma, which adversely affects their sexual performance.
Get Over It : Dr. Arora says, “Having a child is related with both male and female health and destiny too. There are numerous cases where medically everything is normal, but the female is unable to conceive. You should try to have a healthy life style, a proper diet and a positive attitude about yourself. If there is any problem with your semen, it can be treated, so no point worrying about it. The first need is a good sex life, not having a child.”
Fear fright # 4: Lacking porn value
It’s a normal practice that men watch porn to learn certain sexual acts and then repeat them with their partner. In an attempt to try something new and opt for wild acts, men repeatedly indulge in bringing out the porn elements in their sex life. And many a times, if the female partner is not responding positively, men start feeling that they are lacking somewhere.
Get Over It : Dr. Gitanjali says, “Men often compare their sexual performance with porn scenes or with that of their female partner and the fear that they might be less experienced makes them panic. Men should understand that performing in bed has nothing to do with any experience. It’s the mental connection with the female partner which can exist even without taking any inspiration from the porn acts.”
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Fear fright # 5: Masturbation done in the past
Several studies have claimed that masturbation done during one’s childhood or adolescent years doesn’t impact a person’s sex life in his later years. Yet there exists numerous fears attached to the same. Men often blame their masturbation habits for their weak bedroom performance and with this illogical apprehension; they fail to focus on their present sexual acts.
Get Over It : Dr. Arora advices, “Masturbation doesn’t harm much, but the guilt of masturbating is more harmful, and this is just due to lack of sex education. Every healthy male masturbates many times in his life in various stages of age, there is nothing to worry about.”

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Why women cry during s*x: When you imagine having s*x that you’re totally into, crying probably isn’t part of the picture.
But sometimes when you’re in the middle of doing the deed, your emotions take over and you suddenly find tears leaking out of your eyes. You might feel surprised depending on the situation, but being overcome with feelings during the act is actually pretty normal, even when you actively want to have s*x.
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Here, 7 women show as much by sharing the reasons they’ve cried during s*x.
Some are heartbreaking while others are incredibly sweet, but all of them prove that there’s absolutely nothing wrong with getting emotional during that. Sometimes, you’ve just got to let it out.
1. Because of confusing an*l s*x-induced feelings.
“I was having anal thing with my boyfriend of two years. We were slightly tipsy after a few glasses of wine, and it was only the second or third time we’d tried it.
A few minutes in, I burst into tears, and not from pain. I started crying because I wasn’t sure if I felt degraded or not, and if I did feel degraded, then I was actually enjoying it.
It was a strange feeling, and I was shocked by my own tears. My boyfriend immediately wrapped me in his arms and asked if I was OK. I said yes and started laughing, so he joined in. Needless to say, the mood was somewhat ruined, but I can confirm there have been no tears since.” —Thea C., 21
2. Because her partner cheated.
“One morning, a woman slid into my Instagram DMs and told me she and my ‘boyfriend’—I use that term loosely—had been sleeping
together and dating each other for a couple months.
I didn’t sleep with him for over a month after I found out, and the first time I did, I began to cry shortly after we began.
I was thinking about him with the other woman and the qualities she had that I didn’t. We broke up about a week after that incident
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The crying made me realize this guy hurt me to my core. I’d wondered throughout our year-long courtship whether or not he really cared for me. At the moment I started crying, I said to myself, ‘Nope he doesn’t.’”—Talisha H., 28
4. Because of a surprise breakup.
“It was senior year of college, and my then-boyfriend and I hadn’t talked about graduation at all. He was walking me to a meeting I was attending, and all of a sudden he told me he wasn’t sure if he loved me enough to date me forever.
I had no idea he had doubts, and I started uncontrollably sobbing in the middle of the meeting. Later on, he came over to my place and started kissing my bre@sts, clearly wanting to have s3x, and I started crying again.
I knew we weren’t going to be together, and I loved him so much. At some point, I stopped crying, and we finished doing that thing. It’s OK now, though. I’m so not attracted to him, I’d rather get intimate with a comforter.” —Monica T., 25
5. Because of physical pain and emotional frustration.
“I suffer from v@g!nismus, a condition where penetrative interc0urse is painful. I was having s*x with my boyfriend and experiencing pain and discomfort when I started crying.
Not from the physical pain, but from the complications and frustrations that came along with the experience that was supposed to be magical and pleasant.
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While my partner was experiencing those very feelings, I was simultaneously conflicted, in pain, and unhappy. I couldn’t help killing the mood with some tears. When he noticed, he was alarmed and rushed to comfort me, trying his best to understand what it was I was feeling. This, to me, felt most intimate of all.” —Sarah L., 23
6. Because it was really, truly over.
“A year after my ex and I mutually broke up, we were having s*x. We did everything we used to do, but we knew it would be the last time.
I broke up into tears. It was pretty obvious from my side—I have always been touchy with emotional stuff. He asked me for the reason behind my tears, but I was silent. He asked again, and I kept on with my closed lips. He then understood my silence and broke into tears himself.” —Anukriti
7. Because it was time to go back to long-distance dating.
“My boyfriend and I are in a long-distance relationship, and we had just gotten back home from our first trip abroad.
The vacation really cemented how head over heels I was for him, and being together for over a week was like a dream.
When we landed in my Midwest city, we were going to spend one last night together before he headed back to the West Coast and we wouldn’t see each other for weeks.
As we had s3x, I was honestly overwhelmed by how much I loved him and how much I didn’t want him to leave, so I started crying.
I tried to keep it subtle, but he realized. At first he was scared he hurt me, but when I explained, he wiped my tears away and comforted me.
Then we continued on having amazing stuff. Swoon.” —Kimberly C.


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Looking for a way to make your marriage solid without any troubles? Here are six important things you must do to achieve that.
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1. SAY ‘GOOD MORNING’ AND ‘GOODBYE’
Sounds simple, but this small gesture can have a big impact.
Think about it: Before you close your computer and grab your cell phone to catch a train home, you usually tell your coworkers goodbye, right? Or after drinks with your buddies, you probably wish them well.
Your partner deserves the same treatment.
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“Not saying ‘good morning,’ or anything at all for that matter, can make your partner feel isolated and underappreciated,” says Sara Sedlik, MA, a licensed marriage and family therapist in Redondo Beach, California.
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“And saying goodbye is as important as saying hello,” Sedlik says. “It is acknowledging that person, whether you are fighting or not. Storming out the door or just leaving feels abandoning to most people.”
2. WAKE UP 10 MINUTES EARLIER TO SIT AND HAVE COFFEE
If it’s not Saturday morning, do you ever sit together and sip a cup of Joe? There’s a reason so many business deals and friendships are built over coffee—it takes time to consume and gives you the chance to truly communicate.
Love expert and coach Laurel House suggests setting your alarm 10 minutes earlier so you can actually enjoy your brew before heading out for the day. We know, it sounds painful to wake up any earlier than you have to, but this will likely become a ritual that you look forward to.
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“More than setting the tone of the day, you are setting the tone of your mind,”House says.
3. COMPLIMENT SOMETHING—ANYTHING.
When you get caught up in the I-have-to-go-don’t-forget-to-buy-milk-okay-love-you-bye tango, you might forget to tell your partner why you married her. Or why you’re proud of her. Or why you love her so damn much.
Researcher John Gottman argues that to set the tone in your marriage, you need to balance every negative comment with five positive ones.
Even if it’s as simple as, “You smell good” or “You were really great with our son yesterday,” it can go a long way. No better time to start than first thing in the morning.
4. RELEASE YOUR FRUSTRATIONS
You know about the supposed dangers of going to bed angry, but Sedlik says it’s actually more important that you don’t leave the house upset.
If you wake up and need to get something off your chest, taking 5 minutes to say what you mean can actually improve your marriage.
“The morning is an especially good time to set the tone so that the rest of your day isn’t overshadowed with resentment or anger,” says Sedlik. “Who wants to feel distant or misunderstood while they are trying to focus on work or family?”
5. ACTUALLY LOOK AT EACH OTHER
Remember when you first started dating your partner? You couldn’t get enough of each other, and probably spent hours gazing into each other’s eyes.
It’s all part of early love, but eye-gazing is something that should be maintained throughout your relationship and marriage.
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“Over time, people often lose sight of each other, literally, so it’s important to re-create the experience of falling in love,” Michaels and Johnson advise.“Eye-gazing first thing in the morning is ideal. There are fewer distractions, and you’re more likely to be relaxed and open.”
And hey, you’re right there next to each other. It sounds corny, but you can’t argue with taking a few minutes to try it out. And even if you end up in a fit of giggles, that’s also an awesome way to start the day.
6. TELL YOUR PARTNER A JOKE
No pressure: It doesn’t have to be a good one. Maybe you both love a good dad joke, or filthy, inappropriate language is more your style. Or you have inside jokes that always get you laughing.
Sedlik says telling or texting your partner something ridiculous while you’re both getting the kids ready for school will deepen your connection. “Being silly can relieve stress in a marriage, and creates a constant connection and a feeling of partnership.”

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April 10, 2017
ways on how to make a woman fall in love with you so easily
Anyone who’s experienced heartbreak knows that there’s no magic formula for making someone fall in love with you. (Or in some cases, back in love with you). However, you can up your chances of making that special lady swoon by following a few of these simple tips.
1) Be All Ears
Women like to work out their problems. Offer a bended ear and fight the urge to provide a solution or rush her to the point. She just wants you to listen while she vents, explains or just muses.
2) Compliment Her
A lot of women put a lot of effort into looking nice for their date. Offer a flattering remark on her time well spent and she will be delighted that you noticed.
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3) Throw a Pep Rally
Act as her cheerleader on life’s sidelines. Support her choices, feelings, successes and failures and she will appreciate (and lean on) her biggest fan.
4) Remember that Chivalry Is Not Dead
Man the door, pull the chair and wait for her to be seated. Treating her like a lady never goes out of style.
5) Focus All Eyes on Her
Focus on her with attention and interest. Extracurricular gazing makes you look bored and rude.
6) Leave a Message
Whether it’s your first date or the tenth, leave a message asserting how much you enjoyed your time with her and how you can’t wait to see her again.
7) Growing Love
Bring or send her flowers because it’s Tuesday or for no reason at all. Better yet, send them to work to make her feel beautiful and appreciated.
Be Mr. Clean
You may not know it, but every time she picks up your wet towel or cleans beard clippings from the sink, the romance wears off.
9) Play the Music Man
Learn how to play the guitar or hone your singing voice. Ladies melt over the simultaneous vulnerability and bad boy coolness of confident rock stars. No musical talent? Demonstrate passion in a hobby that you love.
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10) Clown Around
Hone your funny bone to encourage her to feel comfortable, let loose and get silly.
11) Drop It Like Its Hot
Shrug off the small things and let it go. A diffusing attitude and cool demeanor is always a welcome response to pending crisis.
12) Keep it All In The Family
Woo her friends and family, too. Her circle will be the first to comment on your worthiness of her attention.
13) Take the Consultative Approach
Seek her advice, even if you don’t really need it. Consulting her shows that you appreciate her opinion and that she is useful and comforting.
14) Zip It
If you aren’t complimenting members of her inner circle, zip it. It’s an instant turnoff to hear a negative opinion about those that have been in her life long before you came along.
15) Get Lost
While prioritizing her in your life is important, she can’t be the only thing going on. Spend time with others and do your own thing to make the heart grow fonder.
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16) Slow It Down
Court her with a slow dance whenever possible. While lovely at cousin Ed’s wedding or at a jazz club on Friday night, surprise her with a turn around the kitchen during macaroni and cheese for impromptu romance.
17) Timing is Everything
Arrive on time for your date. Although traffic and miscalculations can be forgiven, consistently showing up late sends the signal that her time isn’t as important as yours.
18) Remember that Family Matters
Introducing your new ladylove to your family will demonstrate how important she is in your life. The way you treat your family presents a good gauge of what she can expect in your courtship.
19) Surprise!
Catch her unaware with that fetching coat she has been eyeing, a message on her work voicemail or a note in her bag lunch to keep her guessing and excited.
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20) Soup for the Soul
Take care of her when she is under the weather with a care package of cough drops, chicken soup, or a get well note. She may not feel (or look) her best, but these moments will show that you are in it to win it.


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April 08, 2017
The Surprising Sign You’re In A Happy Relationship
When you’re in a serious relationship, you tend to share everything—or almost everything. While you may be totally cool with sharing food, a bathroom, and the rent, it’s understandable that you might feel less comfortable opening up about more personal stuff, like sexual fantasies.
But a new study published in The Journal of Sex Research suggests that being able to open up about your fantasies says a lot about the quality your relationship.
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For the study, researchers asked people in long-term, mostly heterosexual relationships, lasting an average of 2.5 years, to answer questions online. The Qs explored the participants’ relationship stability, how well they communicated with their partners, how sexually satisfied they were, what sexual information they shared, and if they were willing to talk about things that their partners might find offensive
Here’s what scientists found:People who reported being sexually satisfied were more likely to say they had good communication in their relationship, were super satisfied with their relationship, and felt their bond was stable. They were also more likely to open up to their partners about their fantasies than people who felt less comfortable in their relationships. So, basically, talking about your fantasies is correlated with all of the things that make for a happy relationship (i.e. feeling good about your bond and being open).
The researchers wrote that their study emphasizes the importance of understanding why some people are more open to talking about their sexual desires versus others and how that can impact their sexual satisfaction.
It’s also worth noting that people were most nervous about bringing up their past sexual experiences, anal sex, and porn. However, people didn’t feel as weird about discussing what they like about sex, their individual preferences, and practicing safe sex—which are all good things to be open about.
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The connection between being open about your fantasies and having a happy relationship makes sense on some level: If you don’t feel super secure in your relationship, you’re probably not going to open up to your S.O. about your fantasy of getting banged by your local grocery store checkout guy.
But if you feel like you’re in a secure relationship and you’re still not comfy sharing your fantasies, just know that it will probably go over way better than you think—and could bring you closer (in bed and out). Here’s a little inspo on how to be more open about your sexual interests.


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April 08, 2017
11 Things I Miss About Having A Boyfriend When I’m Single
1. An Automatic Plus One to Any and All Events.
It’s not that going to parties and dinners solo or with buddies is a bad thing. It’s just the prepping and leaving together that I miss. When you go with a plus one they have to show up with you, have to leave with you. They can’t get tired or decide SVU sounds more appealing and check out before midnight lest they turn into a 20-something lazy pumpkin. And come on. A plus one at a wedding is always more fun; you have an automatic dance partner and someone to make fun off all of the terrible wedding outfits with.
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2. Someone to Hold My Hand and Lead Me through Big Crowds.
A guy did this on a first date recently and I found myself struck for just a second about how nice it was. At five-foot-barely-nothing, big crowds can be pretty treacherous and a little intimidating for me. I already get lost really easily because, well, you just can’t see pocket sized me over anything normal-sized. This list includes: regular sized people, certain bars, Christmas trees, door frames where there is a window at a certain height but I fall below that window, and armoires at furniture shops. Just to name a few. But back to the point; there’s just something really nice and comforting about someone leading you through a large crowd.
3. Not Always Being the Designated Spider Killer.
I had a significant other who would quote James and the Giant Peach (“It’s unlucky to kill a spider.” Anyone? Anyone?) every single time I got ready smash a little eight-legged sucker, before swiftly sliding on in to release it to the wild. Now it’s not necessarily this that I miss, because I have a crippling fear of nasty spider bites. But it’s just nice to not always have to do the dirty work. Especially when you’re always around girls or men who are too afraid to do it themselves. I mean, I want them dead but they skeave me out too, guys!
4. Someone to Watch Scary Movies and TV Shows With.
I’m a little skittish (god, I’m starting to sound like a tiny, tiny dog) and watched a lot of CSI-esque shows back in the day. So I usually end up overanalyzing every little noise in my house, 1000% convinced someone is trying to murder me. I went through a haunted maze recently and did the whole thing looking at my shoes with my ears plugged not because it was particularly terrifying at the time but because I was so on edge I was jumping just at the corn rustling in the breeze. Having a boyfriend was like having this weird, reassuring entity that Michael Myers wasn’t going to jump out of the screen or from behind the chain link fence I paid $25 to walk through and make me leap out of my skin. My gay best friend just doesn’t have the same effect. (Sorry, boo.)
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5. Someone to Crack My Back for Me.
Yes, I know it’s not good for me and is probably slowly giving me scoliosis, but a really big part of me just doesn’t give a shit. I have never been able to figure out how to pop my own back and the feeling of knowing it needs to pop but not being able to get it to is just so damn uncomfortable. Having a boy who could do it in a snap (pun intended?) was wonderful.
6. Endless Amounts of Flannels and Oversized Button-Ups to Steal.
It’s probably partially because I’m going through a Kate Moss/early 90’s grunge phase at the moment but these shirts have the exact right shape and look when paired over lady clothes. And sure — you can buy them for yourself; I have and will continue to. But there’s something about having that already broken-in, soft-from-being-washed-so-much, lived-in flannel that’s so nostalgic and full of vomit worthy cute feelings. It’s our almost grown up version of stealing your boyfriend’s hoodie from the skate park in the 8th grade.
7. The Random Boy Accoutrements that End Up in Your Apartment.
You know when you don’t technically live together but all of your stuff starts to end up at the other person’s place? I kind of love that. You wake up on some casual morning alone and there’s a pair of their jeans tucked over in the corner, a toothbrush in the bathroom, their soap in the shower. There’s a little proverbial trail of bread crumbs that remind you of them scattered in random parts of your place and it’s like they’re saying hi without having to even be there. Added bonus if they leave food in your fridge because then you can eat it and they are not allowed to get mad at you because you do naked stuff with them.
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8. Free Tech Support.
Maybe it’s just the guys I have dated or the fact that I simply CANNOT with technology. But I always find myself battling with the Wifi or my phone or Netflix on the smart TV and then they swoop in like the Batman of the HDMI connector and fix everything. And it’s really convenient to not have to speak to Dave at Apple for 35 minutes explaining that I have no clue what he is talking about, I just want to watch Grey’s Anatomy on my TV in peace and it won’t let me. The boyfriends know to not ask me questions because I won’t be able to answer them; instead, they just fix it. I live in a much more peaceful world with technology when there is a boyfriend to intervene.
9. Someone to Get Overly Excited About Holidays With.
I am most likely feeling weird about being single because it’s late October and in the good ol’ US of A that’s the tipping point before all of our major holidays. But having someone to plan Thanksgiving with and get really pumped about finding the perfect Christmas gift for? It’s my favorite. Holidays with friends are excellent, don’t get me wrong. I love looking at Christmas lights and quoting Friends Thanksgiving episodes with really anyone if I’m being honest here. But with the holiday parties (see #1 and #2), the inevitable technological gifts I won’t be able to figure out (#7) and then the holidays overall, it’s just nice to have a boyfriend during this time.
10. Someone Else to Walk the Dog when it’s Early and Raining.
She’s my dog and I love her but sometimes when it’s wet and cold and 7am, taking her outside is the last thing I want to do. It was one of the simplest, sweetest things boyfriends would do for me without being asked, just because. That and not being a little bitch (heyoooo ‘nother pun) about it when I let her sleep on the bed.
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11. My Mom will Actually Talk About Them With Me and Take Me Seriously.
I don’t know if it’s because I’ve been casually dating more these days or we just don’t have that sort of relationship where we talk about boys but my mom does not really show any interest in hearing about a man friend if he doesn’t have a label. I remember one of the last times I was kind of excited about a guy and I told her I had met someone her exact reaction was “Oh really? Another one?”
Ouch, mother. Way to RUB IT IN. I already do not understand how you were engaged by 24, thanks for making me question my own decisions and life path even MORE there, Ma. I like being able to pick her brain about relationships and she just kind of won’t if it’s not something with longevity. I want to be able to talk about boys with my mom, okay?!
(This is me whining about my sad, first world problems wrapped in a really over-priced American Apparel hoodie, eating some cookie butter with a BPA- and Phthalate-free spoon.) TC mark


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April 08, 2017
5 Ways To Deal With A Disappointing Relationship With A Parent And Find The Peace You Want
Often we come across posts by other people exclaiming “My dad/mum is my best friend and angel who I can totally trust and confide in!”
However, not all of us are so lucky to have a close relationship with either or both parents.
Some of us have estranged and disappointing relationships – a father who never really fulfilled their responsibility; a dad who constantly put us down; a mum who only speaks to you when she had something nasty to say about you; a parent who spent more time and attention with their lovers than us… the possibilities are endless.
Whether the harm inflicted upon you is emotional or physical, it always takes a long time to heal. Parents are our first friends in life after all.
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Furthermore, since birth, as a child, you are psychologically conditioned to want to be close to your parents and win their approval. It is an instinct we are all born with for successful physical, social and emotional development. A 2013 study published in the Journal of Adolescence has shown that poor quality of parent and child relationships in adolescence is often associated with poor adult psychosocial adjustment.
Dealing with such a relationship can be emotionally painful and difficult. This is especially so in Asian cultures where parents are always seen as always right, always knowing the best and totally perfect. In such a situation when a child expresses his disappointment with his parents, he is often judged as unfilial.
However, the truth is parents are merely human beings – flawed in many ways. Some of them are just incapable of giving and will never be.
Here are some suggestions I have on how you can deal with an estranged relationship with your parents
1. Stop blaming yourself and resenting your parents
The first thing you have to do is to stop blaming yourself. It is not your fault this happened to you. You were just a kid. Don’t blame yourself for what your mother or father did or didn’t do.
Besides self-pity, another common emotion felt in such a scenario would be anger and resentment.
The truth is no one is entitled to good parents. Yes, it is something that many people have but it doesn’t mean that everyone should have one. In other words, it is a privilege and not a right.
Don’t fall for the propaganda perpetuated by the rest of the world about how every child deserves a wonderful parent. The world isn’t a fairytale. Take it as winning a lucky draw, others have things that you don’t. Similarly, you also have things that others don’t.
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Resenting your parent ultimately only hurts you. So, learn to let it go.
If they live with you and continue to do things that hurt you every day, distance yourself from them. Try to get financially stable so that you can get a place of your own. Living with her is a daily, even hourly, reminder of all that you missed. It’s not healthy for either of you.
In the meantime, be polite and appreciative for what your father or mother can give you (a roof over your head and paying for your school fees is better than nothing).
Stop shaming her and disappointing yourself with requests and demands for an emotional involvement she can’t provide. You’ll both be happier. Which brings me to my second point…
2. Stop relying on them for your emotional needs
Just like you don’t go to a dry well for a drink, you shouldn’t rely on a parent incapable of love and affection for emotional fulfillment.
Many children in such situations believe that if they could change themselves or figure out what were the right steps to take, their parents will automatically love them. Ultimately, they are in denial and refuse to accept that the father or mother who they depend on really isn’t interested. These children hold on to the hope and keep going back and going back and going back to their parent, hoping that this time it will be different. However, it always ends in hurt an disappointment.
Learn to rely on other things in life for emotional fulfillment and love. There are so many things out there besides family. There are friends or even material things. Many people think that relying on material things for happiness isn’t good as they are temporal. However, based on experience, I know that human beings are much more inconsistent.
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3. Check your expectations
Sometimes it is worth evaluating yourself. Are your expectations too high?
In Singapore’s context, our grandparents always ask if we have eaten because they are born in a time where food is scarce. Our parent’s generation has a huge focus on prosperity and education because that was the focus of our country when they were growing up.
Our generation is preoccupied with deeper things and self-actualization because that was the focus of the developed country we grew up in. Different generations perceive the world differently.
It is really stupid when some people have unrealistic expectations that their parents must be intellectually curious or good conversationalists. Like cooking for you, fetching you everywhere like a little emperor isn’t enough. Not everyone can carry an emotionally deep or intellectual conversation with you or values things like that.
4. Check yourself to see if you’ve picked up destructive habits and attitudes
Another way you can evaluate yourself is to really think about some of the bad behaviors you may have learned from your parents.
Home dynamics establish a baseline for kids, defining what is normal.
Lots of fighting? That becomes normal.
Shifting out of the house whenever there is a fight? That becomes normal.
Arguments that are abusive (physically or emotionally)? Also normal.

Passive aggressive behaviour to manipulate people? Also normal.
As a result, people who experienced rocky relationships with their parents had more romantic problems later in life. This is proven by researchers from the University of Alberta found that low-quality parent–adolescent relationship is associated with reduced success in an intimate relationship.
In contrast, those whose parental relationships fostered high self-esteem had more successful romantic relationships as well.
What should one do then? Researchers advise that it’s important for people to identify past negative behavior patterns and avoid replicating them in their current and future relationships.
It can take a lot of time and effort to identify and change such destructive behaviors because it is always hard to unlearn something you grew up with. I would advise speaking to good adults and also reading as much as you can about psychology and parenting.
Many people think that theories by social scientists are not good advice because they are not practical. However I see things this way – if you build a rocket by science, it will work. If you build a tall building based on science, it will work too. Similarly if you approach human beings based on what you’ve learnt from scientific literature, this is bound to work as well.
5. Build your own community and support network
One of the most damaging ideas we give each other in society is that DNA family are the deepest type of bonds. The truth is it is always better to teach each other to love those who love us back.
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Your “family” is only as small as you make it. You need to look for older friends who can give you the support, advice, and even love, that your mother or father isn’t able to give you. Learn to be flexible and expand your notion of family so you can bring more people into the embrace of your own family. This community can come from church, high school friends, clubs/hobby groups etc.
If you really want a happy family, instead of working on the existing one and being hurt over and over again, you can look forward to creating a beautiful family of your own. Work hard, earn money, look for the right person who grew up in a healthy and secure home and start your own family some day. Be sure never to repeat the same mistakes as your own parent did.
I hope this post made you feel less alone and to view things from a different perspective. The bottom line is this: A negative relationship with your parents will only come to define you if you let it. It is difficult but don’t let the past determine your present, and your future.
As mature adults, we have control over how we want to react and perceive things. This gives us the power to set the course of our lives.


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April 08, 2017
16 Reasons You Still Don’t Have The Love You Want
The other day I bought a used book, and inside the cover there was a handwritten note that said: “you are who you love, not who loves you.” (I don’t know how frequently normal people come across these things, but I tend to often.)
It’s an idea I wholeheartedly agree with, and think more people need to understand: you are not what you earn, you are what you do; you are not who gives you love, you are how much love you give, etc.
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It made me think of something I’ve wanted to write for a while, a colossal misunderstanding that we collectively sustain and then suffer because of, all at the hands of our own… I don’t want to say ignorance, so I’ll say… silliness.
It is the belief that the happiness you desire exists anywhere outside of you… and especially in someone else. Not only that a partner can give you that peace, joy, contentment, excitement, etc. but also that there’s something wrong with them, you, your relationship or your life… when they don’t.
The point is that love is not something you find, it is something you become and then choose to share. It is not a label, but it is a choice. Love is all there is; well, love and fear. Loving is experiencing, fearing is rescinding and avoiding that experience through anger.
We’ve been beaten over the head with the idea that love, in every way you can be open to it, is the most important thing – the only thing – you need. But what we often don’t realize is that the only way it can expand and project and manifest into and onto and through everything in your life… is if it begins with you and in you.
The love you really want is your own. The pursuit of someone else is simply trying to find that through something outside you. It’s because of this that we are so disconnected from what love really means, and as evidenced by generations first breeding discontentment and divorce and then avoiding intimacy altogether out of misunderstanding, fear, and the simple reality of not understanding what it takes to really live as a love-based being. So here, 16 common misconceptions that keep people from the love they really want:

1. You want someone else to do the work of unearthing, creating, activating, and then convincing you of the love in your life.
You want someone else to do what you were taught that you couldn’t do for yourself. Every time you think, wish, imagine or hope for someone else to give you something, dream of the day when they will, belabor and obsess over why they aren’t, realize that thing is what you are not giving yourself.
2. Historically, it has not looked the way you thought it would, and that’s because it never looks the way we think it will or comes the way we think it should.
When we hold an idea of what love should look like, we attach to something that often just quells an insecurity, saves us from a reality, or helps us prove ourselves to someone else. Love never looks the way we think it will… because it’s not supposed to look any certain way. Because the look of it won’t actually give us the experience of it, but the pursuit of that will distract us from actually finding something genuine.
3. You think that love is just a good feeling, when love is really a consistent state of being in communion with body mind and soul.
It is a daily commitment to learn what it means to love someone else, in small, practical, mindful ways. You can be more or less attracted to someone, more or less compatible, but choosing to love and appreciate someone regardless of those variables is a constant that you can choose (and it’s the belief that you can’t because love must give you what you cannot give yourself, that leads to so many breakups, divorces, etc.)
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4. You are unaware of the fact that love is nothing but an enhancement.
It magnifies and brings clarity to whatever is most present in your life. So if the things that are most present are self-doubt, lostness, insecurity, etc. you will only have more and more of that. Love is not your life, it is the avenue through which you share your life (and more palpably, see yourself.)
5. You believe that love will ‘blossom’ when the circumstances are correct; as though you must place two reactive chemicals together and assume that an instantaneous physical/emotional response should equate to lifelong, sincere love.
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Hormones are reactive. Expectations are reactive. Love is cultivated from and because of those things, but more effectively, because of a mutual appreciation and respect for one another.
6. You are caught up in trying to make yourself objectively appealing to the opposite (or same) sex, as opposed to really finding who you are and then attracting someone who appreciates that person too.
I am so saddened by how many young girls (and boys, for that matter) are instructed to present themselves a certain way, because that’s just “what’s attractive.” It’s so silly to think generalizing what “every” person likes is helpful, because more insidiously, it keeps you trapped in avoidance of your true self, as you assume that person isn’t “good enough” to elicit the approval of the masses.
… And then we sit around crying and cursing the stars over why we can’t find somebody who loves us for who we really are…
7. You aren’t clear on your intentions about what you want, and that’s because you’re still trying to edit and enhance them to appease, impress or elicit someone else’s approval.
In other words, you can’t be honest about what you want because you aren’t comfortable with the truth of who you are. So long as you are functioning from that mindset, you are filtering your life, and whether or not you see the love in it, through how well it fits the “image.”
8. You blame others because you don’t realize that every relationship you have is with yourself.
Love does not suck. People do not suck. You suck.
Relationships are the ultimate teaching tools, the most intense healing opportunities, the most explosively beautiful chances for us to really see what is unresolved within us. You run into the same problems, you find the same faults, the same relationships, the same pain, because it is all in you.
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9. Likewise, you do not realize that negative emotions are calls to heal, not to change or drown or ignore because you don’t want to ‘feel bad’ anymore.
Our feelings are how we communicate with ourselves. Healing is, essentially, re-opening to seeing good, to being hopeful, sustaining and then creating more love. Our “negative emotions” are not signals of what other people are doing wrong, they are meant to show us how we are mis-navigating, misunderstanding, or being controlled by past experiences and fear-based beliefs.
10. You don’t know how to use your heart and mind in tandem – the heart as the map and the mind as the compass.
We’re given two opposing sets of commandments: follow your heart irregardless of logic, and don’t do anything stupid and illogical when it comes to who you choose to share your life with. The reality is that so long as you are polarized in the utilization of the most important guiding tools you have (or worse, you don’t realize you have them…) you will be lost as hell. That’s a technical term, by the way.
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A quick cheat sheet for you: the heart will tell you what; the mind will tell you how. Let them stay in their corners of expertise.


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Ladies and gents love doing it doggy style. And though the name leaves a lot to be desired (seriously, who came up with that?), this position offers up lots of benefits so you get the most bang for your, um, bang.
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For starters, this is the perfect angle for some center of gravity stimulation with easy access for bonus clitoral stimulation. Plus, it’s a super-hot view for both of you (if you face a mirror), and you can pretty much do it anywhere.
Even with all those sexy perks, sometimes you still want to change things up. So try these other positions that are still in the doggy family.
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How to do it: Have him sit on the edge of a bed or a chair and lower yourself onto his shaft facing away from him.
Why it’s hot: “This position is great for female control,” says sexologist Megan Stubbs, Ed.D. You can use your feet as leverage on the floor to move at the angle and speed that you want. Plus, his hands are free to stimulate your clit or your breasts.

How to do it: Bend at the waist as he stands behind you and enters you from the rear.
Why it’s hot: This version screams “gotta have you now,” heat-of-the-moment passion, and the angle offers even deeper penetration, says Stubbs. Plus, this is a great one for the shower.
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How to do it: Place your hands on the floor and have him pull your waist so your legs are on either side of his hips.
Why it’s hot: Turn things upside down for a new sensation and view for him. He’s fully supported on the bed, so he can control the movement and help keep you balanced. He’s also hands-free to experiment with a little anal play, if you’re into that.


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Men have enjoyed this for a very long time now, while we’ve not looked for more proof for how beneficial this might be for the human life, we have just enjoyed it. Science has come to buttress what were already thinking about, not only does it feel good to have s*x, it also is good to just stare at b**bs, quite relaxing too, you should try it. LOL
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The quest to live forever is on everyone’s agenda but most importantly for people who are very wealthy, they’re the ones with the wherewithal to make it happen. Having tons of cash is enough motivation to want to outlive everyone. Science has found a way to prolong life, not necessarily make you live forever.
According to a report from Medical Daily, published by FHM, there are five unusual ways to prolong life.
1. Staring at b**bs
It’s probably not on the list of what you think it should be, where does this creepy act belong in life longevity? According to a study published in the Archives of Internal Medicine, those who participated admitted that positive thinking can have a powerful effect on making healthy choices.
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Looking at b**bs can help make men happy and lead to good feeling. Connect the dots, just don’t be weird about it. Stare with some self-control, and don’t go around staring b**bs that aren’t your partners.
2. Having more s*x
s*x is good for the body, climax is even better. Having lots of it can also help you live longer, who would have thought? According to a study conducted by National Library of health, they discovered that man’s mortality can decrease by as much as 50 percent thanks to release of serotonin while having s*x. Here is the encouragement you’ve been waiting for, go and have s*x, your life depends on it.
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While these two ways are parts of how you can live a longer life, other things you can do include, being responsible. Just live life in moderation, don’t go crazy and wreck your body then hope for miracle that you can still use your body for as long as possible. Another way to live longer is to get married. That activity you’ve been putting away for so long. Being lonely can kill. It isn’t only good to get married but when to get married is also important.
According to a study by Harvard among 127,000 people, they found out that men who got married after 25 years old are likely to live longer than men who got married earlier. Having kids is also another way to prolong your life. According to a study from the Journal of Epidemiology & Community Health, when people with kids reach the age of 60, their life expectancy is elevated by about 1.5 years, when they turn 80, men with kids live longer by 8 months than men without kids.
They you’re, the secret to long life and how you can achieve it.


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Here are 6 behaviours some ladies exhibit that make men see them as cheap.
1. Asking A Guy To Renew Subscription: I laughed hard when I heard that there are still ladies who do this. It is absurd. Take note that (once a guy who is not related to you), regardless of his status in life, does this small act however much of a pittance it is, he would be expecting something in return.
2. Needing Transport Fair; Why not hold your own money? Isn’t it better that he sees you as independent of him? It is just smart to be put together.
3. Ordering More Than You Can Eat On A Date; Some of these things might sound absurd to a lot of people but they do happen. Why not order what you can eat? Why pick bags upon bags of take away packages?
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4. S3x On The First Date; Most times a guy would attempt, and most times you should refuse. This is just common sense. He would see you as easy if you just open up to him on the first date. So don’t, let things be drawn out.
5. Instigating Randy Discussions; If all you talk about is s3x, a guy is hardly going to see you as being serious. He would look at you as free to air, anybody can tune in and enjoy.
6. A Lot Of Male Friends; Expensive items are owned by few people. If you imagine that by having a lot of male friends you rank high on their lists of respectable ladies then you are most certainly wrong. You would just be one of those girls to them.
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April 05, 2017
6 Super-Sexy, Naughty Things You Need To Try in Bed Tonight

1. Watch an er*tic French soft-P0*n movie. You may not understand the language but the actions will speak for themselves…
2. Ask him to give you a sensual massage – with a twist. Use aromatherapy oil but leave it in the fridge overnight so when he applies it to your skin it’ll feel extra-sensitive and tingly.
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3. Play out your striptease fantasy – wear anything with buttons or zips and slooowlyundress (keep your heels on). Edge very close to him but don’t let him touch you. It’ll either make you laugh or make you both very hot. Either way, great s*x will follow.
4. Pour honey, melted chocolate or Nutella on all your sensitive erogenous spots (br**sts, neck, stomach, thighs, lips). Blindfold him, and get him to lick you all over your body until he finds the sweet surprise. (*Obvious disclaimer here about checking temperatures of melted things before applying to body*).
5. When he’s going down on you, let him work from below. You sit on all fours, and have him lie underneath you on his back – giving you oral from a different angle will create all sorts of new sensations.
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6. Scream as loud as you possibly can while you’re getting it on – it’ll rev you both up – and it’ll definitely turn him on, knowing that his pleasure skills are working.


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If you have ever wondered why some men send photos of their private parts to women, then this is your chance to find out.
Finally, ladies: the answer you’ve long been waiting for.
It was just a matter of time before we took the technology we have at our fingertips and made it all about s*x. I mean, we’re Hot, s*xual beings, so why wouldn’t we?
But while sending our partners Nudde photos seems totally acceptable, the whole “D!ck pic” thing just doesn’t have the same level of respectability. Maybe it’s because dudes on OKCupid think it’s the ideal way to snag a lady friend? I’m not really sure.

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We tracked down nine men who were willing to not only admit that they’ve sent a D!ck pic (or two or three or more), but also tell us why, oh why, they do such things. I’ve yet to meet a woman who’s ever said, “And he sent me a D!ck pic and it was awesome!”
But while some of us may not be able to appreciate their, um, manhood, we can at least now start to figure out why the hell they do it.
1. It’s about pride…
“When I used to do it, it was often a mixture of pride and … pride. I only ever rarely did it unsolicited but I’d never gotten a ‘Why did you do that?!’ And I occasionally got a couple of “do that again, please,” responses.
“Now, as an older, rational man, I frown upon unsolicited D!ck pics because it’s just wrong, even if the only reason most men do it is because they hope you’ll show your tits in return. All that said, if a woman asks, it’s a request that should be fulfilled immediately because more often than not, it’s a test.”


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2. It’s nice to get a compliment…
“Either I was asked for it or I knew that the person would respond positively. It feels good to have someone compliment your junk or tell you that they want it.”
3. I was hoping to get a photo of them in return…
“I’ve always thought of it as tit for tat. If I send it, even if they don’t ask for it, I assumed it would get me a Nakked picture of them. But I would like to point out that I haven’t tried that since I was 25 or so … so it’s been about five years.”
4. So she knows she gave me an erection…
“It has always been in the middle of some dirty texting and it made sense to share how hard she made me.”

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5. I thought it would be an honor for her…
“Let’s pretend I might have considered it in my teens. Those years predate mobile phone cameras (or even digital ones) so honestly, teenage me would have probably considered it an honor for the woman to receive a large oil painting of my trouser business.”
6. It’s usually after I’ve been drinking…
“I can’t answer this because I don’t know why I’ve done it. It’s usually after I’ve been drinking and for some reason it just makes sense. The next morning I always realize it was a stupid and childish move but it doesn’t stop me from doing it again when I’ve had too much to drink.”
7. I was asked for it…

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“Because I’ve been asked. Plain and simple. If someone I’m into wants a picture of my D!ck, then why wouldn’t I oblige?”
8. I’m just a guy…
“I’ve yet to meet a woman who has said that D!cks are nice to look at it. So maybe subconsciously I’m trying to change that thought with mine? It’s either that or I’m just a guy.”
9. I assume it might be erotic…
“Since it’s erotic for me to get a picture of any part of a woman’s body, I assumed it might be erotic for her, too. But my wife put an end to that after I tried that once when we were still dating. She still makes fun of me for it.

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If you have ever wondered why some men send photos of their private parts to women, then this is your chance to find out.
Finally, ladies: the answer you’ve long been waiting for.
It was just a matter of time before we took the technology we have at our fingertips and made it all about s*x. I mean, we’re Hot, s*xual beings, so why wouldn’t we?
But while sending our partners Nudde photos seems totally acceptable, the whole “D!ck pic” thing just doesn’t have the same level of respectability. Maybe it’s because dudes on OKCupid think it’s the ideal way to snag a lady friend? I’m not really sure.

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We tracked down nine men who were willing to not only admit that they’ve sent a D!ck pic (or two or three or more), but also tell us why, oh why, they do such things. I’ve yet to meet a woman who’s ever said, “And he sent me a D!ck pic and it was awesome!”
But while some of us may not be able to appreciate their, um, manhood, we can at least now start to figure out why the hell they do it.
1. It’s about pride…
“When I used to do it, it was often a mixture of pride and … pride. I only ever rarely did it unsolicited but I’d never gotten a ‘Why did you do that?!’ And I occasionally got a couple of “do that again, please,” responses.
“Now, as an older, rational man, I frown upon unsolicited D!ck pics because it’s just wrong, even if the only reason most men do it is because they hope you’ll show your tits in return. All that said, if a woman asks, it’s a request that should be fulfilled immediately because more often than not, it’s a test.”


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2. It’s nice to get a compliment…
“Either I was asked for it or I knew that the person would respond positively. It feels good to have someone compliment your junk or tell you that they want it.”
3. I was hoping to get a photo of them in return…
“I’ve always thought of it as tit for tat. If I send it, even if they don’t ask for it, I assumed it would get me a Nakked picture of them. But I would like to point out that I haven’t tried that since I was 25 or so … so it’s been about five years.”
4. So she knows she gave me an erection…
“It has always been in the middle of some dirty texting and it made sense to share how hard she made me.”

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5. I thought it would be an honor for her…
“Let’s pretend I might have considered it in my teens. Those years predate mobile phone cameras (or even digital ones) so honestly, teenage me would have probably considered it an honor for the woman to receive a large oil painting of my trouser business.”
6. It’s usually after I’ve been drinking…
“I can’t answer this because I don’t know why I’ve done it. It’s usually after I’ve been drinking and for some reason it just makes sense. The next morning I always realize it was a stupid and childish move but it doesn’t stop me from doing it again when I’ve had too much to drink.”
7. I was asked for it…

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“Because I’ve been asked. Plain and simple. If someone I’m into wants a picture of my D!ck, then why wouldn’t I oblige?”
8. I’m just a guy…
“I’ve yet to meet a woman who has said that D!cks are nice to look at it. So maybe subconsciously I’m trying to change that thought with mine? It’s either that or I’m just a guy.”
9. I assume it might be erotic…
“Since it’s erotic for me to get a picture of any part of a woman’s body, I assumed it might be erotic for her, too. But my wife put an end to that after I tried that once when we were still dating. She still makes fun of me for it.


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April 03, 2017
Things that you must not do to your v@gin!a

More aptly put, it’s a self-cleaning oven, which is very correct. The V@.g!na maintains a balanced environment thanks to a bacteria present inside it called lactobacillus, when you squirt, a douching mixture up there, it changes the normal acidic environment to a neutralized one.
Amber Brenza, Prevention will help us with this.
1. Do not steam your Pu.$$y.
Sounds like a good idea right? Not very much, one celebrity pushing this agenda is Gwyneth Paltrow, she has been pushing this bad idea. The V@.g!na isn’t a carpet, no need to steam clean it.
Raquel Dardik, MD, clinical associate professor at NYU Langone Medical Center’s department of obstetrics and gynecology, has a slightly different opinion. “Steaming would be a definite no because you would burn your V@.g!na,” she says.
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2. Seek professional, don’t self-medicate
This has been one constant advice that relates to our physical health as much as S3@.x:’ual health. This ones aren’t about those ones you buy over the counter, rather its those homemade remedies. . “You should never try to self-medicate with homemade remedies like garlic or tea tree oil,” says Dardik. “You should never try to self-medicate with homemade remedies like garlic or tea tree oil,” says Dardik.
3. Don’t insert just any foreign object into your V@.g!na
There is a list of things that can go into the V@.g!na, fingers, S3@.x:’ toys, Pen.!s obviously and few other stuffs. Avoid even fruits such as cucumbers, bananas or anything that looks like a d.!ck, even when you sanitize them, they can cause serious irritation. “Essentially, it comes down to common sense and personal habits. S3@.x:’ toys, diaphragms, menstrual cups should all be cleaned and washed in-between uses,” says Young
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4. The douching has to stop
We all love when it smells like fresh roses down there, its beautiful, isn’t it? But the truth is that it isn’t supposed to smell like that. “These products do exactly the wrong thing to the V@.g!nal microbiome, making it more susceptible to infection,” says Constance Young, MD, assistant professor at Columbia University Medical Center’s department of obstetrics and gynecology.

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April 03, 2017
Things that you must not do to your v@gin!a

More aptly put, it’s a self-cleaning oven, which is very correct. The V@.g!na maintains a balanced environment thanks to a bacteria present inside it called lactobacillus, when you squirt, a douching mixture up there, it changes the normal acidic environment to a neutralized one.
Amber Brenza, Prevention will help us with this.
1. Do not steam your Pu.$$y.
Sounds like a good idea right? Not very much, one celebrity pushing this agenda is Gwyneth Paltrow, she has been pushing this bad idea. The V@.g!na isn’t a carpet, no need to steam clean it.
Raquel Dardik, MD, clinical associate professor at NYU Langone Medical Center’s department of obstetrics and gynecology, has a slightly different opinion. “Steaming would be a definite no because you would burn your V@.g!na,” she says.
READ ALSO https://joseph9jablog..com.ng/2017/04/reason-why-people-sx-in-office.html

2. Seek professional, don’t self-medicate
This has been one constant advice that relates to our physical health as much as S3@.x:’ual health. This ones aren’t about those ones you buy over the counter, rather its those homemade remedies. . “You should never try to self-medicate with homemade remedies like garlic or tea tree oil,” says Dardik. “You should never try to self-medicate with homemade remedies like garlic or tea tree oil,” says Dardik.
3. Don’t insert just any foreign object into your V@.g!na
There is a list of things that can go into the V@.g!na, fingers, S3@.x:’ toys, Pen.!s obviously and few other stuffs. Avoid even fruits such as cucumbers, bananas or anything that looks like a d.!ck, even when you sanitize them, they can cause serious irritation. “Essentially, it comes down to common sense and personal habits. S3@.x:’ toys, diaphragms, menstrual cups should all be cleaned and washed in-between uses,” says Young
READ ALSO https://joseph9jablog..com.ng/2017/03/seven-sex-position-men-and-woman-love.html
4. The douching has to stop
We all love when it smells like fresh roses down there, its beautiful, isn’t it? But the truth is that it isn’t supposed to smell like that. “These products do exactly the wrong thing to the V@.g!nal microbiome, making it more susceptible to infection,” says Constance Young, MD, assistant professor at Columbia University Medical Center’s department of obstetrics and gynecology.


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It could lower his risk of prostate cancer. According to a study from Harvard Medical School, men who ejaculated more often reduced their risk of developing prostate cancer by 22 percent. Researchers still don’t know why that is, but hey, if you needed one more reason to hit that tonight, having your guy avoid getting cancer is a pretty solid one.
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2. Your chance of getting a cold goes way, way down. Researchers at Wilkes University in Pennsylvania found that people who had sex at least twice a week released more antigens like immunoglobulin A, which helps fight off colds and the flu, so just think of how healthy you’d be if you had sex all seven days. You’d be basically immortal is what I’m trying to say.
3. It keeps you looking super young and confident. In a study by Scottish researcher and clinical neuropsychologist David Weeks, judges guessed the ages of 3,500 European and American women and men, and found that the people whose age was underestimated by seven to 12 years were also reporting having sex three times a week, in comparison to the control group which was doing it twice a week. They also found these young-looking babes to be really comfortable and confident about their sexual identity. Win, win, win, win.
4. It’ll help get rid of your heinous menstrual cramps. A study done in 2000 found that 9 percent of 1,900 women were masturbating solely to get rid of their menstrual cramps. There’s no way that many masturbating women are wrong.
5. It could make you crazy-fertile, if you’re trying to conceive. A new study in Fertility and Sterility found that having sex every day could help prepare your immune system for pregnancy, which is critical in terms of increasing your chances of having a baby.
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6. It lowers your blood pressure and your ability to stress out over basically nothing. A 2005 study found that people who had penile-vaginal intercourse (their words, not mine) had lower blood pressure and better stress responses than people who didn’t (or those who masturbated or had non-penetrative sex), which in theory would mean they were also way more chill. Never a bad thing.
7. Sex can actually make you a super genius. Separate studies by researchers at the University of Maryland and Konkuk University in Seoul, South Korea, found that mice and rats who had sex more often were also less stressed, and since stress makes your brain less able to function, that made them more intelligent thinkers.


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It could lower his risk of prostate cancer. According to a study from Harvard Medical School, men who ejaculated more often reduced their risk of developing prostate cancer by 22 percent. Researchers still don’t know why that is, but hey, if you needed one more reason to hit that tonight, having your guy avoid getting cancer is a pretty solid one.
READ ALSO https://joseph9jablog..com.ng/2017/03/some-ways-you-can-be-good-kisser.html
2. Your chance of getting a cold goes way, way down. Researchers at Wilkes University in Pennsylvania found that people who had sex at least twice a week released more antigens like immunoglobulin A, which helps fight off colds and the flu, so just think of how healthy you’d be if you had sex all seven days. You’d be basically immortal is what I’m trying to say.
3. It keeps you looking super young and confident. In a study by Scottish researcher and clinical neuropsychologist David Weeks, judges guessed the ages of 3,500 European and American women and men, and found that the people whose age was underestimated by seven to 12 years were also reporting having sex three times a week, in comparison to the control group which was doing it twice a week. They also found these young-looking babes to be really comfortable and confident about their sexual identity. Win, win, win, win.
4. It’ll help get rid of your heinous menstrual cramps. A study done in 2000 found that 9 percent of 1,900 women were masturbating solely to get rid of their menstrual cramps. There’s no way that many masturbating women are wrong.
5. It could make you crazy-fertile, if you’re trying to conceive. A new study in Fertility and Sterility found that having sex every day could help prepare your immune system for pregnancy, which is critical in terms of increasing your chances of having a baby.
READ ALSO https://joseph9jablog..com.ng/2017/03/seven-sex-position-men-and-woman-love.html
6. It lowers your blood pressure and your ability to stress out over basically nothing. A 2005 study found that people who had penile-vaginal intercourse (their words, not mine) had lower blood pressure and better stress responses than people who didn’t (or those who masturbated or had non-penetrative sex), which in theory would mean they were also way more chill. Never a bad thing.
7. Sex can actually make you a super genius. Separate studies by researchers at the University of Maryland and Konkuk University in Seoul, South Korea, found that mice and rats who had sex more often were also less stressed, and since stress makes your brain less able to function, that made them more intelligent thinkers.

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