With all I read...this girl is pretty messed up. I went through her blog! Infact! Her very first post on her blog which was 8yrs ago explains it all.

At such a tender age! She was just 17 when it all started. #ISincerelyFeelForHer

toksbisola:
@Op; quit being a PRIMA DONNA. From my observation, it takes a man only few weeks/months and not few years to know if the lady he is currently with WOULD END UP BEING HIS WIFE. You’ve stated both good and bad traits that your GF has; but from the look of things, you just can’t look beyond the bad traits. What I can’t understand is why you even said HELLO to her initially let alone going ahead to date her for a few LONG and LONELY years; when you knew from day one that she had a fat tummy, older than you and not literate enough; I just can’t bring myself to understand it.

Permit me asking this question, how would you feel if someone constantly criticizes you? Due to your constant annoyance, abuse and criticism at your GF, you’ve made her feel inferior to you especially in the area of your literacy and polished way of going about your stuff; Oh please give her a break and quit shocking her. You’re also rubbing salt into her wound by constantly referring to her not being literate enough.

In your case, you made a statement that “for me not to cheat on her later”; (you ain’t even married yet and you’re already contemplating cheating on her) that alone is a RED HERRING and when the opportunity presents itself, you probably might not have the self control to resist. BEST BELIEVE, TEMPTATIONS WOULD ARISE.

You talk as if you yourself are Mr 100% perfect and have no flaws. Listen up dude, I'm sure your GF is putting up with your fault/flaws without blowing your trumpet as loud as you’re blowing hers. If your GF were to make a list of your short-comings, it’ll be as long as my arm but yet, she manages yours and probably don’t complain so much as you’re whining about hers. I can just imagine the agony and pains your GF’s going through as you constantly barrage and correct her over frivolity.

Although you've mentioned sending her to school; what happens if she’s still not polished enough for you and able to articulately speak the MICHELLE OBAMA/QUEENS’ ENGLISH AS YOU WANT? Would that not irritate you and even compound the situation even more? Best believe, she can be sent to school but still not be polished enough for you and THAT’LL REMAIN A PROBLEM. The imperfections that a spouse has is what makes them unique.

You made mention about the age factor; well, as long as she knows not to use the age gap to disrespect you and you in-turn not to use that as an obstacle to chastise or castigate her; then I don’t see why you want to throw this opportunity away simply because the society at large might frown at the age difference. Aside that, some women might not look their age and with advancement in technology as well as having a good diet/health routine (which includes exercise) she probably might age gracefully; hence, you might not need to worry too much about her looking older than you.

Note these 2 points;

1) Never marry anyone out of pity simply because you have been with them for a long time and you don’t want them to lose out.

2) Marry for true love so that when the challenges start occurring in the marital bond (and best believe challenges would arise) that the love both of you have built up would be able to withstand the ups and downs that would occur; take note that MARRIAGE IS NOT A BED OF ROSES.

It would be in your best interest to TO AVOID PROLONGING THIS MATTER ANY LONGER. She is a woman whose biological clock is ticking and if you honestly would not be able to look beyond the “PROBLEM AREAS” you’ve mentioned above; PLEASE FREE HER AND FREE YOURSELF. Don’t have a selfish attitude (No offence hope none taken) where you want to have your cake and eat it by keeping her and STILL HAVING THESE NAGGING DOUBTS/ISSUES THAT YOU CAN’T OVERLOOK.

You mentioned that your family is cool with her; which is good; but note that it is not your family that would be living with her in your home; it's YOU and once you have these doubts occurring then please look into these doubts carefully now in the courting stage of your relationship.

The decision is yours entirely whether to carry on with her or let her be; though it'll be totally out of a selfish interest to allow her to chase other men away (one man’s meet is another man’s poison) with her knowledge that she has met her husband; meanwhile her man is in doubt if he has met his wife; as that’s the way it looks at the moment. I’ll strongly advice you to think deeply before pulling the plug on the relationship. Also note that you might find a younger lady (who might deal with you mercilessly through her character), more educated and flat tummy but might not be a “Wife material”.

[b]FOR LADIES, PLEASE AND PLEASE don't ever wait and stay glued to a man that is more interested in changing you to meet his standards. Never say there might not be another man available to love you for who and how you are as that would be a fallacy and totally wrong. You probably might be chasing other men who meet your criteria away by remaining with the one you are managing to your own detriment.
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On a side note, the constant dry mouth your GF suffers from might be as a result of some under-lying health issues such as diabetes which can make one have a constant dry mouth; let her go for a health check to rule out diabetes and any other health issues she might not be aware of.

Finally, remember this saying; HELL HATH NO FURY LIKE A WOMAN SCORNED.

I rest my case

This is for me...Thank You #JustSoHardToLetGo

blank:
I had tears in my eyes. Yeah, i am at work. It's so embarrasing.

Can we have people stick up for a child like that in Nigeria?

Where even parents are the ones that insult the child the most.

Still have goosebumps

I can Imagine!!!

What is this world turning into??
Do people still think??
Bad behavior is like the norm now!! My heart weep

Hehehe.....lmao
#stressReliever

Dear Lord

This is not nice at all..the scar...gosh
Speedy recovery baby.

God save this country of ours

What

warrior01:
By mere looking at the two rulers; you'll understand why their countries are backward. Dirty old men

hamzeiy:
...na biafra she come from abi....demented pple

So, what are you saying KOGI>>>NORTH

ebira12345:
Ebira girls are bless with beauty, d only place where ugly face can't be found.

Yes we are #ProudEbira

That's my Sister #ProudEbira

Acidosis:
Lol

Oya where are the Yoruba and Igbo warlords who think Nigeria revolves around 3 tribes.

Why is no one claiming Fatima, an Igbira girl?


Anyway, I'm not surprised, Kogi state has always produced the best brains in Law.