intbizoil:
and am telling you that you must be rugged. your disposition will never pay you as far as dealing with relationship is concerned. if you open ur gf's heart and see what she has in store for you, you will be shocked what you will find. always be one step ahead when dealing with human beings.

thanks very much

Oliviaarims:


I didn't say it was fiction.

sorry for misunderstanding

firstking01:
yes...i still say 95% of we guys snoop on our gfs, except u dnt luv her...u 've done it before, knowingly or unknowingly...my advice, relationship of nowadays comes with too many headaches, so, if u cnt cope with it, stay away for nw until ur psychologicaly, emotionally and mentally, even financially prepared.

tnkx

aprilwise:
Relationships of now days are so complicated. Girls has many self defence mechanism so never trust them.

Thank you and God bless you. You actually uttered one of the best point here. Tnkx alot

Oliviaarims:
This kind of love story, though..

pls it's not fictional story... I happened to me live n direct on the 06. January 2016

missKiffy:
This got me laughing and make me feel ur story is nt real "What I did next was to kneel down before her with tears in my eyes, gave her a warm hug n a passionate kiss. I told her I'm sorry for spoiling her mode" Lol,

I did that for a purpose... I knw my girl very well. Doing that is the only way I can get to make her talk. Try to understand ur guy too if u have

intbizoil:
op from your write up you are a very good guy infact the type of guy any woman would want to marry but i have to warn you, you have to be tough and rugged. like someone said forget what you see in movies. in reality is a different ball game. dealing with women you have to use the carrot and stick approach. am dissapointed the way you reacted to her revelation it smacks of weakness on your part. a man doesnt react calmly to cheating cos if you do she would cheat on you next time knowing that if she is caught she will cry her way out of it.

thanks for your advice... My parents taught me that the best way to live happier and longer in family is patience and understanding. What if had reacted, I might have reacted uncontrollably, which might even lead to a break up of what you have been building. Thnkx

DrTizzle:



That is an ill-progressive, one-sided, and most definitely nonsensical advise that you just doles out right there. Analyze everything he said properly and please tell me how forgiveness comes in play here. The girl does not love him enough to covet him.She probably, sees him as a feeble, nobody-wannabee weakler with no hope of a better future together as lovers or whatever you've deduced they'll turn out to be after he forgives her. It doesn't quite add up, don't you think.

Thank you and God bless you for understanding

tpiah2:
The males here are always opening threads about females.

yet they say there are more women than men, that is obviously wrong.

hello thank you for ur reply, but my topic requested for Only guys. So I believe only guys should open this thread

firstking01:
Guys and clinginess...i'm yet to see a guy who will date a gal without always snooping, spying ang peeping on her without her awareness... Funny enough, we would still be the one to be heartbrokened in the end

hello thank you for the reply. I never cling nor spy nor snoop on her. As I stated on my right up, I gave her every freedom she needed. There are so many frnds of hers the she has introduced me to.. Sometimes she even shout on just ordinary frnds of hers for tempering with he phone.. Telling them even my boyfriend doesn't touch my fone...pls what other sort of snooping are u taking about

DrTizzle:


I get sha, his actions were unspeakably unbearable. But you see, we live in a world whereby people are different and also, they deserve a second chance. His naive self-probably felt that was the best way to have handled the situation. Also you need to consider the fact that he came in here to seek mature advise. The only problem is this, if at all he refuses to heed to these advises and learn from his mistakes and goes on to repeats such misguided behavior again;then I'd look for him myself and probably burn him alive!

hey

BuddhaPalm:
OP you dey fvck up.

bro how?... pls tell me because that's why I created this topic

Maxi112:
hahaha!!! hope u r following the lies

I have been with her for over 3 years.. . I most things about her feelings.. when she keeps so so so so much quiet and can't say a word to what you are saying, she is crying internally, - trying to hold her tears. That is my girl I knw for sure. You too should knw yours.....This incident happened yesterday night 06. January 2016. Thank you

Maxi112:
hahaha!!! hope u r following the lies

I have been with her for over 3 years.. . I most things about her feelings.. when she keeps so so so so much quiet and can't say a word to what you are saying, she is crying internally, - trying to hold her tears. That is my girl I knw for sure. You too should knw yours.....This incident happened yesterday night 06. January 2016. Thank you

oshdam2015:


Yes bro. In life, so many things happen in the secret which we don't know. We can only use the few ones that are revealed to discern the events we are not sure of. The statement is small but mighty. Left for the wise one to understand.

Thank you all

Zceesneh:
try to be romantic with her, always hug her and tell her how much u love her, is she telling u indirectly that, is not all about money, girls love romance like mad, i guessed u are not being romantic at all

I do DE best I know.. I took her out, I buy things for her, I make her feel at home, I send her sms, what else do I need to do?

macfish101:
Man...go gulp alcohol, kiss some mary jane, f#ck an ashi....get ur head messed up a bit wit diz stuffs I just indicated, check if u still feel diz same love for her.....if u don't, u knw at to do.....na only me fit tell u the truth for here.

Thank you

oshdam2015:
This is too good to be truth. Maybe it's love in action. I mean, you are somehow sure your lady is cheating and you still went ahead to knelt and begged her. I wish I had such heart, but something in me will not just lemme do that.

Give her time as requested. But, let her know that she should distance herself from the guy, because without this, she might find it difficult to get over the guy in question. Emotion is funny. And if you notice she likes the guy more than you, it may be the time to call it a day. Else, you will be pushing the evil day ahead. It's better to face it once. Although, it is usually difficult to do./

Thank you very much brother.. I will try to do what u said. God bless u

phellamon:

Fifthcolumnist:
You know what to do

If I do, I would not have wasted my time writing these.. Have u ever being in love and not lust?

obiorathesubtle:
This is you not wasting time with much write up? wow!

I would not like to waste anyone time with much write up and same time I'm not promising a short one, so I will hit d point straight away.

cruzita:
I don't get it?oh I forgot today is super story,my friend kwontinue

My dear it's real... . It just happened to me yesta-night

Chommieblaq:
Ma guess is that she cheated with the guy, probably her mind won't let her be or she found out that the guy is not worth, that is why she became super nice.



If u love her, forgive her, maybe it's a mistake buh be mindful so u won't be taken for a ride.

thank you too.. I will do as you said

boxer022:
From what you just wrote I can say that you are a good guy and a faithful boyfriend. Your girlfriend on the other hand is not like you. As you found out yourself, there is something hidden going on between her and her friend. I want you to this, since she has asked for time to straight things out with herself, I know that if she is wise she will end whatever she has with that friend of hers. Give her sometime as she pleaded and watch her from then to see if you can continue or not.

thank you very much dear, I appreciate. God bless you

Good day and happy new year to everyone...
I would not like to waste anyone time with much write up and same time I'm not promising a short one, so I will hit d point straight away.

I have a girlfriend I so much cherish and love. I gave her all de freedom she deserve becos I believe in freedom not privacy. Evrytim we talk @ length on 4one, n we spend times together.

She introduced me to her frnd in skul and which I welcomed him well and we interact very well. But I started noticing dat each time dis guy comes around, she is not always free with me (u understand what I meant). I asked her but her reply was noting-just dat she doesn't want him to feel jealous. That was done moment he told me de guy asked her out... I felt bad but I can't make her be an enemy with someone. I told her not succumb.

Finlay, she starts making me happy, promising me not to be afraid of loosing her because she is neva gonna leave me. Something strange started happening. Each time I see her, undue-anxiety overcomes me... My heart beats faster and my conscience tells me something is not right. I'm a kind of person who can always tell if something is wrong with anyone around me.

So I sat her down n ask her to look at my face n which she did happily.. I then ask her if she had cheated on me ever since we started dating (3years now). She said NO. I asked her again what kind of relationship did she keep with her frnd... She said normal frndship...I asked her HAS HE EVER KISSED U... She kept quiet... I ask her again HAVE HE EVER TOUCHED YOU... she kept quiet. The next tin she did was to tell be she say anything.. Her mode changed.. She started weeping though internally.

What I did next was to kneel down before her with tears in my eyes, gave her a warm hug n a passionate kiss. I told her I'm sorry for spoiling her mode. I told her dat I don't have problem with her but my problem was why kept it from me. I promised to luv her.

I asked her to tell me where I'm not playing my role well so that I can amend and correct my mistakes.... She said I gave her all she needs. She made a request that I should give her time to figure things out herself. Indeed I gave her.. But I did not sleep all through the night..

Please brethren in house advice me on what to do?

Should I let her sister and finds know about this?

I'm scared if should continue with the relationship or not?

I can NEVER EVER change my altitude and good becos of a girl..

Please I need a mature advice and not insult pls

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