Things a so hard generally for me. I was working in the bank before I was retrenched. I had a 3 bedroom flat that was 90% completed. I had to relocate cos I got another job of 68k monthly. I have a lot of debt hanging on my neck that my salary cannot even accommodate. I have been trying to sell the house for the past 10 months but could not get buyer, the only person that even want to buy it at a ridiculous price of 3m since November has not been able to pay. Presently, I have not been able to pay my 3kids school fees and exam will start on Monday 22nd of March. My debt is around 600k. Most times I felt like eending everything. But wen I remember my kids I backed out cos I love them. Thins are getting more complicated, I have not travelled to see my family for the past 2 months. I use to check them twice in a month bf cos I can't relocate them with me due to financial implications. I can't even call cos I have not been able to send feeding money to my wife. Am so confused and tired of this life. I just feel like ending it.
Anyone that sees me will think all is well. Already am 46yrs old.

One question?

IS YOUR WIFE NOT ASSISTING?

I hope and PRAY I never catch my husband typing this kind of thing EVER and vice versa!
We must find ways sha-sha. . . . Make divine powers do their own work.

Lifeo3008:
Things a so hard generally for me. I was working in the bank before I was retrenched. I had a 3 bedroom flat that was 90% completed. I had to relocate cos I got another job of 68k monthly. I have a lot of debt hanging on my neck that my salary cannot even accommodate. I have been trying to sell the house for the past 10 months but could not get buyer, the only person that even want to buy it at a ridiculous price of 3m since November has not been able to pay. Presently, I have not been able to pay my 3kids school fees and exam will start on Monday 22nd of March. My debt is around 600k. Most times I felt like eending everything. But wen I remember my kids I backed out cos I love them. Thins are getting more complicated, I have not travelled to see my family for the past 2 months. I use to check them twice in a month bf cos I can't relocate them with me due to financial implications. I can't even call cos I have not been able to send feeding money to my wife. Am so confused and tired of this life. I just feel like ending it.
Anyone that sees me will think all is well. Already am 46yrs old.

It is well with you sir.

Damn Bro, its gonna be alright! I dont know how I dont know when but it sure gonna be alright.

She is assisting from the little shes getting.

KanwuliaExtra:
One question?

IS YOUR WIFE NOT ASSISTING?

I hope and PRAY I never catch my husband typing this kind of thing EVER and vice versa!
We must find ways sha-sha. . . . Make divine powers do their own work.

Lifeo3008:
She is assisting from the little shes getting.

Abeg. . . . do something. . . .ANYTHING. . . .

This situation is never funny o. . . . we must all go through it.
It will pass for sure.
Hang in there.

Lifeo3008:
Things a so hard generally for me. I was working in the bank before I was retrenched. I had a 3 bedroom flat that was 90% completed. I had to relocate cos I got another job of 68k monthly. I have a lot of debt hanging on my neck that my salary cannot even accommodate. I have been trying to sell the house for the past 10 months but could not get buyer, the only person that even want to buy it at a ridiculous price of 3m since November has not been able to pay. Presently, I have not been able to pay my 3kids school fees and exam will start on Monday 22nd of March. My debt is around 600k. Most times I felt like eending everything. But wen I remember my kids I backed out cos I love them. Thins are getting more complicated, I have not travelled to see my family for the past 2 months. I use to check them twice in a month bf cos I can't relocate them with me due to financial implications. I can't even call cos I have not been able to send feeding money to my wife. Am so confused and tired of this life. I just feel like ending it.
Anyone that sees me will think all is well. Already am 46yrs old.

God will make a way for you

U better throw back flip.

Lifeo3008:
Things a so hard generally for me. I was working in the bank before I was retrenched. I had a 3 bedroom flat that was 90% completed. I had to relocate cos I got another job of 68k monthly. I have a lot of debt hanging on my neck that my salary cannot even accommodate. I have been trying to sell the house for the past 10 months but could not get buyer, the only person that even want to buy it at a ridiculous price of 3m since November has not been able to pay. Presently, I have not been able to pay my 3kids school fees and exam will start on Monday 22nd of March. My debt is around 600k. Most times I felt like eending everything. But wen I remember my kids I backed out cos I love them. Thins are getting more complicated, I have not travelled to see my family for the past 2 months. I use to check them twice in a month bf cos I can't relocate them with me due to financial implications. I can't even call cos I have not been able to send feeding money to my wife. Am so confused and tired of this life. I just feel like ending it.
Anyone that sees me will think all is well. Already am 46yrs old.

You don't have problems nah


I see golden chance to become a multi million are in just 12 months if you follow this advice I will give.


But first how much do you want to sell the house?

Be strong sir, many people are facing the same problem with no hope of getting out of it. At least you still have an asset(house) you can sell to re-build your finance.

You will be fine.

Lifeo3008:
Things a so hard generally for me. I was working in the bank before I was retrenched. I had a 3 bedroom flat that was 90% completed. I had to relocate cos I got another job of 68k monthly. I have a lot of debt hanging on my neck that my salary cannot even accommodate. I have been trying to sell the house for the past 10 months but could not get buyer, the only person that even want to buy it at a ridiculous price of 3m since November has not been able to pay. Presently, I have not been able to pay my 3kids school fees and exam will start on Monday 22nd of March. My debt is around 600k. Most times I felt like eending everything. But wen I remember my kids I backed out cos I love them. Thins are getting more complicated, I have not travelled to see my family for the past 2 months. I use to check them twice in a month bf cos I can't relocate them with me due to financial implications. I can't even call cos I have not been able to send feeding money to my wife. Am so confused and tired of this life. I just feel like ending it.
Anyone that sees me will think all is well. Already am 46yrs old.

My brother the first thing you need is solid prayers before strategy and then execution can make sense. It is well with you.

Lifeo3008:
Things a so hard generally for me. I was working in the bank before I was retrenched. I had a 3 bedroom flat that was 90% completed. I had to relocate cos I got another job of 68k monthly. I have a lot of debt hanging on my neck that my salary cannot even accommodate. I have been trying to sell the house for the past 10 months but could not get buyer, the only person that even want to buy it at a ridiculous price of 3m since November has not been able to pay. Presently, I have not been able to pay my 3kids school fees and exam will start on Monday 22nd of March. My debt is around 600k. Most times I felt like eending everything. But wen I remember my kids I backed out cos I love them. Thins are getting more complicated, I have not travelled to see my family for the past 2 months. I use to check them twice in a month bf cos I can't relocate them with me due to financial implications. I can't even call cos I have not been able to send feeding money to my wife. Am so confused and tired of this life. I just feel like ending it.
Anyone that sees me will think all is well. Already am 46yrs old.

Sir,dont hurt yourself please.I know you are going through a very rough path.Many of us went through same except those that were born with silver spoon.

Please,dont sell that property for any reason.If you do,you will surely regret it in future.

You have a job that still pays you 68k every month.Try to manage it,cut all unnecessary expenses be it impulse or any other.

As for your kids,how much do you pay for them per term?Remember you are no more in the banking sector.Change their school to a cheaper one for now and let your wife create time to brush them up since you are not presently with them.

Banking job is so volatile.I hope people in that sector will learn not to relent on it and always have an exit plan.

Also sir,remember you are no more in the banking sector,I know how bankers live....Loan!Loan!!Loan!!!.
Only buy or spend on what is very important.

I pray help comes your way soon.

Cry no more, GOD still answers secret tears
I invite u to our covenant day of settlement service today at the living faith church winners chapel. If u are in lagos, come to faith terbanacle. U can holla at me so u can enter free transportation. Time is 6am, 8am, 9;50am and 11:45 am. Learn to advantage of opportunities..as u come with your anointing oil, solution will come for u this week. Congratulations

Survival in Nigeria is hard. God will make a way

Pls don't sell your property , one day you will see the value of it. Don't sell biko. How do you intend to start afresh with another one?

What you're passing through shall end one day. Never give up , God is in control.

if you've completed your house to 90%, then don't sell. Focus on how to move into the house which cuts cost. Find a job in the city where your home is.

Thanks for your advise. I have left we're the building is, I got a job in south south. While my wife and kids are in south west. The house was rented out but the rent in that area in not much. Am not sure of going back to we're the property is again cos am not from that state and am not sure of getting job there

spawnx:
if you've completed your house to 90%, then don't sell. Focus on how to move into the house which cuts cost. Find a job in the city where your home is.

Lifeo3008:
Thanks for your advise. I have left we're the building is, I got a job in south south. While my wife and kids are in south west. The house was rented out but the rent in that area in not much. Am not sure of going back to we're the property is again cos am not from that state and am not sure of getting job there

pls hang in there, you aren't the only one going through it.Also try to call your family,it isn't right to totally ignore them.

For Starters ,can you put your kids in a public school?forget ppls opinion and do what's best for your family.You and your wife can pull resources together and try to offset some of the debt and still have feeding money.

It doesn't always last.Your family needs you alive.pls live and be strong for them.One day you'll look back and smile.Amen.

Lifeo3008:
Things a so hard generally for me. I was working in the bank before I was retrenched. I had a 3 bedroom flat that was 90% completed. I had to relocate cos I got another job of 68k monthly. I have a lot of debt hanging on my neck that my salary cannot even accommodate. I have been trying to sell the house for the past 10 months but could not get buyer, the only person that even want to buy it at a ridiculous price of 3m since November has not been able to pay. Presently, I have not been able to pay my 3kids school fees and exam will start on Monday 22nd of March. My debt is around 600k. Most times I felt like eending everything. But wen I remember my kids I backed out cos I love them. Thins are getting more complicated, I have not travelled to see my family for the past 2 months. I use to check them twice in a month bf cos I can't relocate them with me due to financial implications. I can't even call cos I have not been able to send feeding money to my wife. Am so confused and tired of this life. I just feel like ending it.
Anyone that sees me will think all is well. Already am 46yrs old.

I shud be typing my story to encourage but i wont cos its a public forum. In christ , there is light . find christ early , he will give u peace and all ur problems will be over even before u know it. Fervent prayers and a purposeful life in christ will erase any thoughts of suicide. Since u have a job , hold on to it , pay ur tithe and make a convenant with Jehovah and see how things unfold for better. God bless u sir. Ur soul is precious in the eyes of God .

Lifeo3008:
Things a so hard generally for me. I was working in the bank before I was retrenched. I had a 3 bedroom flat that was 90% completed. I had to relocate cos I got another job of 68k monthly. I have a lot of debt hanging on my neck that my salary cannot even accommodate. I have been trying to sell the house for the past 10 months but could not get buyer, the only person that even want to buy it at a ridiculous price of 3m since November has not been able to pay. Presently, I have not been able to pay my 3kids school fees and exam will start on Monday 22nd of March. My debt is around 600k. Most times I felt like eending everything. But wen I remember my kids I backed out cos I love them. Thins are getting more complicated, I have not travelled to see my family for the past 2 months. I use to check them twice in a month bf cos I can't relocate them with me due to financial implications. I can't even call cos I have not been able to send feeding money to my wife. Am so confused and tired of this life. I just feel like ending it.
Anyone that sees me will think all is well. Already am 46yrs old.

Talk to people who you think can assist you financially no matter how small it is

You didn't mention what put you to such amount of debt

This is where you need your wife to rarry round her own family to assist you

Don't get depressed it leads to BP

Once you are gone others you are struggling for must survive

Life is fun if we can manage what comes around us

Sell your house and look for a better business or travel out...

Please am interested in the house