Zzor:
Go learn how to talk to a depressed person or you think we don't know how to scold him?be mindful of what you type as depression is already involved or you simply read and pass.sabi sabi

Ishilove:
Hiaaaaan!

Take this lesson home: you call her 'evening newspaper' and say she is desperate, but she is a lot smarter than you with your puny preek, puny brain and gigantic ego. How can you relocate to leech off a woman without a plan B?? Who does that?

BRATISLAVA:


He thought she's desperate and old, so he was dictating his terms. She agreed, but it seems he's unproductive and you know it's difficult to date a jobless woman, let alone a man.

The guy is an ingrate. What more does he want her to do for him?

Switchman:
Please I Need Your Candid And Long Term Advise, I Am Presently Depressed And Out

I have been reduced to a house help cos I am the one doing the chores, cleaning the dishes and even my laundry though she pays for her own, so many other insults and atimes it's with exchanges of words before I can take a walk just to acclimatize myself with the terrains of the area.

Aaaaarghmed:
You bleeped up,I know how you feel,I have being in your situation before.pack your load and go back to lag ..do uber in lag before you can get back on track,then get a job there since you know Lagos terrain,Abj no be moi moi,I stayed there before and I knw what am saying.its more of connections.go.back to lag,do uber,get a job there in lag,when your hand strong you can come back to Abuja to rent a place on your own terms and hustle with a free mind.the more you stay with her,the more issues arise.like I said I have being in your exact situation before,she even drove me out and put my bags outside and I had to drop it in one uncompleted building before she later come back to apologize.

dairykidd:

You said it all.. nothing to advise that man. Any man wey dey depend on woman money na there him failures start. Abuja wey hard pass rock.. I just only dey pity am because him no wise at all shi shi

Cc: Zzor

Richy4:
What you are battling with is nothing but superiority Complex.... In your mind/ heart you have lined up how a man should be... A man should not wash his own cloth, a man should not do chores etc... That is just nonsense...Someone that altered her simple life style of living in an apartment and foots majority of the bills just to meet your demand half way, you were not even grateful... For your information, A lot of married men do chores.... If anyone on social media tells you otherwise, he is lying to u...

Besides, You know very well that covid-19 disrupted a lot of things around the world including Nigeria.. and you should know the average time frame that one would look for job around the world has doubled because of the pandemic... Take it easy with yourself... Be a little humble and focus on your goal... Though I simply wish that Lady saw a better man who will love her in return instead of u... because your Ego is higher than Kilimanjaro...

bitingcool:


A jobless man that sees doing his laundry as a task. That calls washing the plates of food he didn't cook or provide money for a belittling. I can bet his furking isn't even premium or d dhick size. Tell me why the woman won't be frustrated and express it

Dear op, love your woman, help her before she asks. You will start experiencing honeymoon in that hot house. Heck. Your babe will even help you look for a job. Married men with money cook and Clean. Being a help meet is both ways. You got into cohabitation reality very fast and I xan tell you're in shock. Better wise up. No angel dey outside. Not even in the village talk less of the city.

yeme7:
All these set of myopic peole with their negative comments self..

See I have seen 4 guys who happened to be my friend that were invited by their online gf they had nothing when they traveled, their gfs fed them paid their flight money harbour them.... So what more to this lady helping this guy who happens to relocate from lagos to abuja... There's nothing wrong there... After all a woman can still help a man not only man helping a woman.... See guy sit down ur gf and talk to her if she can't help them go back to lagos and start a new life.

Bluntemperor:


So all this while,you don't know Abuja na polical place where you share or spend money and you left Lagos becs hussle and stress but now that you are confined to kitchen to clean,make food or pap for madam' no stress abi?
- please,rise up and shine,for men are born brave!
- women are to assist us,not to be burden by not this or that for the house.
- Women are born to maintain the home front and you are to provide for her and the whole family (children inclusive) and is even more apparent because of today's challenges in Nigeria and all over the World!
- Hope you are learned,got a Skill and look out there to change your situation!
-Money is a big source of quarrels in a Family since time immemorial ( no money no cry- Bob Maley-is a reality here)!
-The same woman that has changed her character may actually love you but may not know how to tell you that you can't constitute a financial burden and she will be happy with you.
Please,sit her down,talk to her and know her mood and if you need to reverse your steps to Lagos,do that fast!
Cheer Up bro and kill the depression!
It is well with you.

aroundtheearth:
Abeg, shift. Depressed ko. He got himself into the mess he's in. It's nobody's fault he moved in with her with no job and no money saved either.

The same way you should've read my comment and passed. It's not your place to police anyone's comment here, so keep it moving.

Zzor:
Go learn how to talk to a depressed person or you think we don't know how to scold him?be mindful of what you type as depression is already involved or you simply read and pass.sabi sabi

World16:

Nothing like depression here,it's his own selfish interest

doxijaw:


True but he's not adding any value by being an egotistical entitled partner who scoffs at rendering help because it's beneath him.

Personally I think he found himself a good woman, up to him to take advantage and solidify thing's by getting a job , whilst searching, help with d simple things.

Zzor:
Go learn how to talk to a depressed person or you think we don't know how to scold him?be mindful of what you type as depression is already involved or you simply read and pass.sabi sabi

MufasaLion:


Yeah you're right but irrespective of a man's situation be should always have other plans. This man's the type of guy that will travel out of the country for greener pastures without a job offer or something like that.

That woman I'm sure appears to be a reasonable and understanding woman, probably desperate as the SIMP guy said himself but she definitely doesn't want to settle for a clueless man.

How could you even decide to go to another location without a job offer, without any plans of setting up a business or something?.

He claimed he was working before leaving Lasgidi but had no other plans incase he couldn't secure a job in Abuja. An unreasonable parasitic SIMP going to meet a woman that's working already and can pay her bills!!!. I'm sure he couldn't leech on her hence one of the reasons for writing this on NL.

Alpha male is not about money every time. It's about you taking charge of your life and making things work!

Spits!

luminouz:


Wao...what a nice submission from you.
You are a prophetess now?

Didn't we agree to not judge blindly and keep an open mind?

N.B: the story smells false though. See viewers!!!

Switchman:
Yeah thanks for the constructive criticism and now it's really understable and I will make use of those points has highlighted by all. Thanks.

Switchman:
Please I Need Your Candid And Long Term Advise, I Am Presently Depressed And Out

This will be a lengthy one but I promise to summarize it as much as I can.

I met a lady in her late 30s 18months ago through an online friend. I was working in Lagos while she was based and working in Abuja.

We chatted for a while before she volunteered to come to Lagos for a visit over the weekend which doesn't seem a bad idea to me cos I believed seeing in person is better than 1 million pictures.

Due to her age and desperation, we met and she liked what she saw in me and intensive talks began on how I can relocate to Abuja and get better job. I actually haven't been to Abuja so I was excited to take that move with the hope of becoming a better person and getting a better job.

I resigned from my job due to some issues as at that time which could had been managed but so I can have more time to visit and see how things are in Abuja before making my final preparation to relocate. She supports financially during those time while I use my car for ehailing business pending when I will finally relocate.

Covid 19 lock down came and all plans were halted due to restrictions on vehicular movements. Fast forward to November last year I made final plans and I agreed to finally relocate but on the conditions that we will need to get a new apartment cos I don't want to move in with her to her former apartment which was a one room self contain, we got a 1 bedroom apartment and I moved in with her. She owns 90% stake on the expenses incurred but in the spirit of hope for a better job, I will upgrade the apartment to have an equal stake in the home.

It's been 3 months now I have fully relocated and we have been cohabiting but it's been hell for me and I just need help on how to get out of this mess I put myself. No job was forth coming and due to the fact that I am home always, I have been reduced to a house help cos I am the one doing the chores, cleaning the dishes and even my laundry though she pays for her own, so many other insults and atimes it's with exchanges of words before I can take a walk just to acclimatize myself with the terrains of the area.

It's really a bad experience for a man not to have a steady source of income cos in a twinkle of an eye the love will vanish.

I love the lifestyle of Abuja cos it is less stressful than Lagos and I will really like to get a good source of income so I can get my own apartment and be free from the shackles I put myself in the name of love.

I really need help now cos I know my days are numbered and it's a matter of time before she sends me packing cos I really don't have the right to the apartment. Please house, I need your candid advise on what to do and as always constructive criticism is allowed.

Thanks
Switchman

Switchman:
Please I Need Your Candid And Long Term Advise, I Am Presently Depressed And Out

This will be a lengthy one but I promise to summarize it as much as I can.

I met a lady in her late 30s 18months ago through an online friend. I was working in Lagos while she was based and working in Abuja.

We chatted for a while before she volunteered to come to Lagos for a visit over the weekend which doesn't seem a bad idea to me cos I believed seeing in person is better than 1 million pictures.

Due to her age and desperation, we met and she liked what she saw in me and intensive talks began on how I can relocate to Abuja and get better job. I actually haven't been to Abuja so I was excited to take that move with the hope of becoming a better person and getting a better job.

I resigned from my job due to some issues as at that time which could had been managed but so I can have more time to visit and see how things are in Abuja before making my final preparation to relocate. She supports financially during those time while I use my car for ehailing business pending when I will finally relocate.

Covid 19 lock down came and all plans were halted due to restrictions on vehicular movements. Fast forward to November last year I made final plans and I agreed to finally relocate but on the conditions that we will need to get a new apartment cos I don't want to move in with her to her former apartment which was a one room self contain, we got a 1 bedroom apartment and I moved in with her. She owns 90% stake on the expenses incurred but in the spirit of hope for a better job, I will upgrade the apartment to have an equal stake in the home.

It's been 3 months now I have fully relocated and we have been cohabiting but it's been hell for me and I just need help on how to get out of this mess I put myself. No job was forth coming and due to the fact that I am home always, I have been reduced to a house help cos I am the one doing the chores, cleaning the dishes and even my laundry though she pays for her own, so many other insults and atimes it's with exchanges of words before I can take a walk just to acclimatize myself with the terrains of the area.

It's really a bad experience for a man not to have a steady source of income cos in a twinkle of an eye the love will vanish.

I love the lifestyle of Abuja cos it is less stressful than Lagos and I will really like to get a good source of income so I can get my own apartment and be free from the shackles I put myself in the name of love.

I really need help now cos I know my days are numbered and it's a matter of time before she sends me packing cos I really don't have the right to the apartment. Please house, I need your candid advise on what to do and as always constructive criticism is allowed.

Thanks
Switchman

emmanuelewumi:


An Alpha male who wants to take charge of his life, make things work,, have his independence, have wisdom and power, will directly or indirectly have sustainable money as part of his goals. Although money is not everything. Quite a number of men with money, fame and power are simps