| Re: I Resigned From Work In Lagos, Relocated To Abuja To Be With My Girl & Get A Job by HRproxy: 2:20am On Mar 22, 2021 |
Switchman:
Please I Need Your Candid And Long Term Advise, I Am Presently Depressed And Out
Due to her age and desperation, it seems you are more desperate than she was. we met and she liked what she saw in me and intensive talks began on how I can relocate to Abuja and get better job. I actually haven't been to Abuja so I was excited to take that move with the hope of becoming a better person and getting a better job.
I resigned from my job due to some issues as at that time you really do have issues. what chased you from your job? which could had been managed but so I can have more time to visit and see how things are in Abuja before making my final preparation to relocate. She supports financially during those time while I use my car for ehailing business pending when I will finally relocate.
Covid 19 lock down came and all plans were halted due to restrictions on vehicular movements. Fast forward to November last year I made final plans and I agreed to finally relocate but on the conditions that we will need to get a new apartment cos[b] I don't want to move in with her to her former apartment which was a one room self contain, we got a 1 bedroom apartment and I moved in with her[/b]. She owns 90% stake on the expenses incurred but in the spirit of hope for a better job, I will upgrade the apartment to have an equal stake in the home.
It's been 3 months now I have fully relocated and we have been cohabiting but it's been hell for me and I just need help on how to get out of this mess I put myself. [/b]No job was forth coming and due to the fact that I am home always, [b]I have been reduced to a house help cos I am the one doing the chores, cleaning the dishes and even my laundry so after she paid for house, you want her to come back from work and cook, clean and wash your boxers, whilst you do what exactly??  though she pays for her own,
I love the lifestyle of Abuja cos it is less stressful than Lagos and I will really like to get a good source of income so I can get my own apartment and be free from the shackles I put myself in the name of love.
I really need help now cos[b] I know my days are numbered [/b] very true and it's a matter of time before she sends me packing cos I really don't have the right to the apartment. Please house, I need your candid advise on what to do and as always constructive criticism is allowed.
Thanks
Switchman
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| Re: I Resigned From Work In Lagos, Relocated To Abuja To Be With My Girl & Get A Job by Japhet1944(m): 3:52am On Mar 22, 2021 |
Switchman:
Three months pass and am already feeling the heat, for now just wanna play the fool and double my hustle without letting her know my plans and at the slightest opportunity I move. Nothing as sickening as having a nagging wife
Bro hit me up and let's talk over it probably at shop rite, bills on me.... Am also in Abuja and I experience this same issue when moving here as well But I thank God, he didn't fail me Even when it seems all hope was lost Lets talk bro. |
| Re: I Resigned From Work In Lagos, Relocated To Abuja To Be With My Girl & Get A Job by Japhet1944(m): 4:00am On Mar 22, 2021 |
Yusufisraelj:
You're entitled to your opinion no doubt, but a counsel was sort and you were not constructive in your depositions. Think about it.
@Switchman
Sincerely sorry for your situation, firstly you made mention on owning a vehicle, do Uber or Bolt you are guaranteed of 20K profit per week, I think I have someone to link you with, however just download the app and follow instructions, if you will need cash to Kickstart borrow from the lady with a payback time, but don't be too quick to give a deadline enter first and see how revenue comes.
Secondly I should suspect you have a skill, go somewhere where it's needed and probably work for small fee, the gist is this, you would want to build connections around that industry. You see money is largely a function of relationships, who you know and who likes you matters.
Thirdly go out and do conductor or something to get acquainted with abj and raise something for yourself. Don't stay at home 247.
But of Apex importance be a man with a regimented time of daily prayers minimum 30minutes if u re a Christian, blasting in tongues, you can't just come to a place and start succeeding, you must be helped and even more so you need divine ideas to succeed. Every money problem is an idea problem, you need to be inspired and work on connectivity. Cheers
God bless you for me bro Your contribution is very rare Nd timely Love u sir. 1 Like |
| Re: I Resigned From Work In Lagos, Relocated To Abuja To Be With My Girl & Get A Job by lightblazingnow(m): 4:28am On Mar 22, 2021 |
You better calm down and think this Through properly.
Truth be told, you have played selfish impatiently. Or it's due to the fact that you expected her to sponsor you through, why would you even contemplate keeping back your car, for plan B?
When you confessed openly how she spent lot's of cash and even has 99.9 stake in the apartment you two agreed to rent.
You have been very selfish, keep posing, you are thinking " better offer will come again". You are very wrong, very wrong.
Remember all she has done for you in the past and judge her for those, not what you are seeing right now, because you caused her to be frustrated. You are not contributing, you are too secretive, open up and wake up before you end up in the village for the evil you are paying back to your destiny helper.
Be wise and strong and act in love and appreciation, appreciate everything God Almighty has used her to do in your life. Such a good breed.
I need to call her and pray with her for strength, you really broken her down brother wake before you get judged please please please.
Thanks 3 Likes |
| Re: I Resigned From Work In Lagos, Relocated To Abuja To Be With My Girl & Get A Job by Yusufisraelj(m): 7:23am On Mar 22, 2021 |
Japhet1944:
God bless you for me bro
Your contribution is very rare Nd timely
Love u sir. Thank you, my pleasure brother. |
| Re: I Resigned From Work In Lagos, Relocated To Abuja To Be With My Girl & Get A Job by Baiser(m): 7:41am On Mar 22, 2021 |
Ishilove:
Hiaaaaan!
Take this lesson home: you call her 'evening newspaper' and say she is desperate, but she is a lot smarter than you with your puny preek, puny brain and gigantic ego. How can you relocate to leech off a woman without a plan B?? Who does that? Dumbo, you are the less smart one here. He came to NL for advice because he has realised his mistake not to listen to your whining and attempt to malign him. Advise or STFU, why waste so much strength in beating a dead horse. Hole-ass 1 Like |
| Re: I Resigned From Work In Lagos, Relocated To Abuja To Be With My Girl & Get A Job by Ishilove: 7:51am On Mar 22, 2021 |
Baiser:
Dumbo, you are the less smart one here.
He came to NL for advice because he has realised his mistake not to listen to your whining and attempt to malign him.
Advise or STFU, why waste so much strength in beating a dead horse. Hole-ass It seems like you are washing one woman's pant somewhere, which is why you are taking this matter to heart. E pele o, Honourable Member, Association of Houseboy Boyfriends. 6 Likes |
| Re: I Resigned From Work In Lagos, Relocated To Abuja To Be With My Girl & Get A Job by skj1377(m): 8:54am On Mar 22, 2021 |
I know a Dr that resigned from a government hospital to join his wife in lagos. Few years down the line she divorced him and married another man who also had to retire from university of Ibadan to join her in lagos. On one of my visits to their house they had a heated quarrel, the kind of words exchanged that day shaped my life. Fast-forward a few years I was to relocate to London to join my girlfriend because that was the sensible thing to do.. The relationship had to end because I was not ready to drop my life in Nigeria. Am doing fine in Nigeria so the moral of the story is Dont relocate for love period. Switchman:
Please I Need Your Candid And Long Term Advise, I Am Presently Depressed And Out
This will be a lengthy one but I promise to summarize it as much as I can.
I met a lady in her late 30s 18months ago through an online friend. I was working in Lagos while she was based and working in Abuja.
We chatted for a while before she volunteered to come to Lagos for a visit over the weekend which doesn't seem a bad idea to me cos I believed seeing in person is better than 1 million pictures.
Due to her age and desperation, we met and she liked what she saw in me and intensive talks began on how I can relocate to Abuja and get better job. I actually haven't been to Abuja so I was excited to take that move with the hope of becoming a better person and getting a better job.
I resigned from my job due to some issues as at that time which could had been managed but so I can have more time to visit and see how things are in Abuja before making my final preparation to relocate. She supports financially during those time while I use my car for ehailing business pending when I will finally relocate.
Covid 19 lock down came and all plans were halted due to restrictions on vehicular movements. Fast forward to November last year I made final plans and I agreed to finally relocate but on the conditions that we will need to get a new apartment cos I don't want to move in with her to her former apartment which was a one room self contain, we got a 1 bedroom apartment and I moved in with her. She owns 90% stake on the expenses incurred but in the spirit of hope for a better job, I will upgrade the apartment to have an equal stake in the home.
It's been 3 months now I have fully relocated and we have been cohabiting but it's been hell for me and I just need help on how to get out of this mess I put myself. No job was forth coming and due to the fact that I am home always, I have been reduced to a house help cos I am the one doing the chores, cleaning the dishes and even my laundry though she pays for her own, so many other insults and atimes it's with exchanges of words before I can take a walk just to acclimatize myself with the terrains of the area.
It's really a bad experience for a man not to have a steady source of income cos in a twinkle of an eye the love will vanish.
I love the lifestyle of Abuja cos it is less stressful than Lagos and I will really like to get a good source of income so I can get my own apartment and be free from the shackles I put myself in the name of love.
I really need help now cos I know my days are numbered and it's a matter of time before she sends me packing cos I really don't have the right to the apartment. Please house, I need your candid advise on what to do and as always constructive criticism is allowed.
Thanks
Switchman
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| Re: I Resigned From Work In Lagos, Relocated To Abuja To Be With My Girl & Get A Job by Organs(m): 8:59am On Mar 22, 2021 |
Switchman:
Thanks for the advise,
Due to her age and desperation, we met and she liked what she saw in me and intensive talks began on how I can relocate to Abuja and get better job. I actually haven't been to Abuja so I was excited to take that move with the hope of becoming a better person and getting a better job.
I resigned from my job due to some issues as at that time which could had been managed but so I can have more time to visit and see how things are in Abuja before making my final preparation to relocate. She supports financially during those time while I use my car for ehailing business pending when I will finally relocate. The bolded above tells a lot about you. I will say it straight hopefully you get it. You are not a MAN. You are what yorubas refer to as "Faworaja" a man that lives off of a woman. The only advice i can give you are 3: 1. You should have dignity in yourself and struggle to make money and spend money on yourself and on the woman you're with. That way, you are a MAN. 2. If you don't have money for your own bills, then keep washing plates, wash her pants and clean the house and stop complaining. That way, you are a mumu and a houseboy 3. Maybe your supposedly good looks can fetch you Dangote's (Any richman's) daughter, then you will have househelps doing the chores. That way, you are a mumu but houseboy no join. Choose your choice my broda. However, at the end of the day, i sincerely hope you learn. 1 Like |
| Re: I Resigned From Work In Lagos, Relocated To Abuja To Be With My Girl & Get A Job by Organs(m): 9:15am On Mar 22, 2021 |
kepstone:
Everything you said here is very very wrong. U are not in his shoes so u can't judge. I have been in this situation before, the issue is not the money but that the said lady lacks the character and qualities of been a wife marriageble for the long term. If she truly loved him she won't use subliminal languages to communicate to him, she is attacking his ego thereby killing his morale. She is not wise, oga u have not found a wife, move pick the piece of ur life and move. Ur wife they somewhere else waiting for u. There are rough times In marriage so if it happens this is what she will do lead him to his death. Any lady that her definition of love and respect is based on money is not a wife. Love transcend material things or benefits. Beside the money all na for this life we go leave am. Please money is important but find a woman who values you beyond money and what she can benefit.... Shaking my head for this generation. What nonsense is this @Kepstone saying? Even in your father's house you do chores, you wash your parents clothes and goto farm if youre on holidays from school. Now youre living with a lady lover and she is supporting you financially and you still have "mouth".... I wish i can stone that your "kepstone" mouth. Go and siddon somewhere abegiii, you sound like a lazy mumu man. If youre not working and living with a lady lover, the best thing you can humbly do to even show youre not lazy and worthy of husband material is to at the very least ensures she doesn't have to do anything. When i was hustling with no job, if i travel for interview somewhere and stay with family member, just cos they provide me accommodation, i will clean their house and do chores to at the very least add value. Trust me, no good woman wants to be married to you or the poster. If i am in @Switchman's situation, trust me, the lady will not want me to leave. She will be running home after work, cos i will clean the house arrange stuff and do the little i can do about meals and most importantly i will as much as possible avoid collecting money from her or having her pay my bills. 5 Likes |
| Re: I Resigned From Work In Lagos, Relocated To Abuja To Be With My Girl & Get A Job by KelChinon202: 10:10am On Mar 22, 2021 |
See how you were so quick to condemn a fellow young individual in need of advice. I pray you don't get the same when you are in dire need of advice too cos dis life na turn by turn. Mr. Perfect.... aroundtheearth:
You resigned from your job to move in with a woman you're not married to because you assumed she's desperate and probably a mumu you can take advantage of or mooch off on not knowing your actions could backfire. Well, you're not married, so you can leave if you can't handle the situation because it turned out she's no mumu afterall, but I'm guessing you ain't got no money to move out. Pele  |
| Re: I Resigned From Work In Lagos, Relocated To Abuja To Be With My Girl & Get A Job by Givemelove1: 10:18am On Mar 22, 2021 |
tunjijones:
Whats your educational qualifications and which part of Abuja do you reside.
You made a foolish mistake but that doesn't mean there is mo correction for this mistake. Please Abeg house don taya me ..Bsc HRM. ... I stay around lokogoma |
| Re: I Resigned From Work In Lagos, Relocated To Abuja To Be With My Girl & Get A Job by Dieuetla: 10:31am On Mar 22, 2021 |
Thank God this comes from a man.
You actually say my mind.
]What you are battling with is nothing but superiority Complex.... In your mind/ heart you have lined up how a man should be... A man should not wash his own cloth, a man should not do chores etc... That is just nonsense...Someone that altered her simple life style of living in an apartment and foots majority of the bills just to meet your demand half way, you were not even grateful... For your information, A lot of married men do chores.... If anyone on social media tells you otherwise, he is lying to u...
Besides, You know very well that covid-19 disrupted a lot of things around the world including Nigeria.. and you should know the average time frame that one would look for job around the world has doubled because of the pandemic... Take it easy with yourself... Be a little humble and focus on your goal... Though I simply wish that Lady saw a better man who will love her in return instead of u... because your Ego is higher than Kilimanjaro... [/quote] 1 Like |
| Re: I Resigned From Work In Lagos, Relocated To Abuja To Be With My Girl & Get A Job by Baiser(m): 10:37am On Mar 22, 2021 |
Ishilove:
It seems like you are washing one woman's pant somewhere, which is why you are taking this matter to heart. E pele o, Honourable Member, Association of Houseboy Boyfriends. There is no big deal in washing a womans panties. Its only on nairaland you can be forming Macho-man. Empty broke barrel. 1 Like |
| Re: I Resigned From Work In Lagos, Relocated To Abuja To Be With My Girl & Get A Job by Ishilove: 10:55am On Mar 22, 2021 |
Baiser:
There is no big deal in washing a womans panties.
Its only on nairaland you can be forming Macho-man.
Empty broke barrel. I knew it. Being the PRO of the Nigerian Bureau of Women Panties Sniffing and Laundry, you bring your emasculated self here to transfer the aggression to hapless internet users. Simpleton. 1 Like |
| Re: I Resigned From Work In Lagos, Relocated To Abuja To Be With My Girl & Get A Job by EvilNeedle(m): 12:25pm On Mar 22, 2021 |
Jaqenhghar:
Gbam! If I tell these fools here they start calling me names. You cant get the best of women and expect her to foot your bills. Its usually the expired ones and the ugly that will give you money
Evilneedle and co. Come and learn Simp Son. 1 Like |
| Re: I Resigned From Work In Lagos, Relocated To Abuja To Be With My Girl & Get A Job by vwede4trips(m): 1:55pm On Mar 22, 2021 |
Switchman:
Please I Need Your Candid And Long Term Advise, I Am Presently Depressed And Out
This will be a lengthy one but I promise to summarize it as much as I can.
I met a lady in her late 30s 18months ago through an online friend. I was working in Lagos while she was based and working in Abuja.
We chatted for a while before she volunteered to come to Lagos for a visit over the weekend which doesn't seem a bad idea to me cos I believed seeing in person is better than 1 million pictures.
Due to her age and desperation, we met and she liked what she saw in me and intensive talks began on how I can relocate to Abuja and get better job. I actually haven't been to Abuja so I was excited to take that move with the hope of becoming a better person and getting a better job.
I resigned from my job due to some issues as at that time which could had been managed but so I can have more time to visit and see how things are in Abuja before making my final preparation to relocate. She supports financially during those time while I use my car for ehailing business pending when I will finally relocate.
Covid 19 lock down came and all plans were halted due to restrictions on vehicular movements. Fast forward to November last year I made final plans and I agreed to finally relocate but on the conditions that we will need to get a new apartment cos I don't want to move in with her to her former apartment which was a one room self contain, we got a 1 bedroom apartment and I moved in with her. She owns 90% stake on the expenses incurred but in the spirit of hope for a better job, I will upgrade the apartment to have an equal stake in the home.
It's been 3 months now I have fully relocated and we have been cohabiting but it's been hell for me and I just need help on how to get out of this mess I put myself. No job was forth coming and due to the fact that I am home always, I have been reduced to a house help cos I am the one doing the chores, cleaning the dishes and even my laundry though she pays for her own, so many other insults and atimes it's with exchanges of words before I can take a walk just to acclimatize myself with the terrains of the area.
It's really a bad experience for a man not to have a steady source of income cos in a twinkle of an eye the love will vanish.
I love the lifestyle of Abuja cos it is less stressful than Lagos and I will really like to get a good source of income so I can get my own apartment and be free from the shackles I put myself in the name of love.
I really need help now cos I know my days are numbered and it's a matter of time before she sends me packing cos I really don't have the right to the apartment. Please house, I need your candid advise on what to do and as always constructive criticism is allowed.
Thanks
Switchman
Why don't you continue the cab services over there till U get a job. it even pays more than most office jobs |
| Re: I Resigned From Work In Lagos, Relocated To Abuja To Be With My Girl & Get A Job by MufasaLion: 3:05pm On Mar 22, 2021 |
Ishilove:
It seems like you are washing one woman's pant somewhere, which is why you are taking this matter to heart. E pele o, Honourable Member, Association of Houseboy Boyfriends. Damn! 1 Like |
| Re: I Resigned From Work In Lagos, Relocated To Abuja To Be With My Girl & Get A Job by mentored: 3:40pm On Mar 22, 2021 |
Switchman:
Please I Need Your Candid And Long Term Advise, I Am Presently Depressed And Out
This will be a lengthy one but I promise to summarize it as much as I can.
I met a lady in her late 30s 18months ago through an online friend. I was working in Lagos while she was based and working in Abuja.
We chatted for a while before she volunteered to come to Lagos for a visit over the weekend which doesn't seem a bad idea to me cos I believed seeing in person is better than 1 million pictures.
Due to her age and desperation, we met and she liked what she saw in me and intensive talks began on how I can relocate to Abuja and get better job. I actually haven't been to Abuja so I was excited to take that move with the hope of becoming a better person and getting a better job.
I resigned from my job due to some issues as at that time which could had been managed but so I can have more time to visit and see how things are in Abuja before making my final preparation to relocate. She supports financially during those time while I use my car for ehailing business pending when I will finally relocate.
Covid 19 lock down came and all plans were halted due to restrictions on vehicular movements. Fast forward to November last year I made final plans and I agreed to finally relocate but on the conditions that we will need to get a new apartment cos I don't want to move in with her to her former apartment which was a one room self contain, we got a 1 bedroom apartment and I moved in with her. She owns 90% stake on the expenses incurred but in the spirit of hope for a better job, I will upgrade the apartment to have an equal stake in the home.
It's been 3 months now I have fully relocated and we have been cohabiting but it's been hell for me and I just need help on how to get out of this mess I put myself. No job was forth coming and due to the fact that I am home always, I have been reduced to a house help cos I am the one doing the chores, cleaning the dishes and even my laundry though she pays for her own, so many other insults and atimes it's with exchanges of words before I can take a walk just to acclimatize myself with the terrains of the area.
It's really a bad experience for a man not to have a steady source of income cos in a twinkle of an eye the love will vanish.
I love the lifestyle of Abuja cos it is less stressful than Lagos and I will really like to get a good source of income so I can get my own apartment and be free from the shackles I put myself in the name of love.
I really need help now cos I know my days are numbered and it's a matter of time before she sends me packing cos I really don't have the right to the apartment. Please house, I need your candid advise on what to do and as always constructive criticism is allowed.
Thanks
Switchman
Make una dey read una bible naaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa haba if u no get bible give your life to Christ mbok |
| Re: I Resigned From Work In Lagos, Relocated To Abuja To Be With My Girl & Get A Job by HRproxy: 5:12pm On Mar 22, 2021 |
well said.... but he is not ready. lightblazingnow:
You better calm down and think this Through properly.
Truth be told, you have played selfish impatiently. Or it's due to the fact that you expected her to sponsor you through, why would you even contemplate keeping back your car, for plan B?
When you confessed openly how she spent lot's of cash and even has 99.9 stake in the apartment you two agreed to rent.
You have been very selfish, keep posing, you are thinking " better offer will come again". You are very wrong, very wrong.
Remember all she has done for you in the past and judge her for those, not what you are seeing right now, because you caused her to be frustrated. You are not contributing, you are too secretive, open up and wake up before you end up in the village for the evil you are paying back to your destiny helper.
Be wise and strong and act in love and appreciation, appreciate everything God Almighty has used her to do in your life. Such a good breed.
I need to call her and pray with her for strength, you really broken her down brother wake before you get judged please please please.
Thanks |
| Re: I Resigned From Work In Lagos, Relocated To Abuja To Be With My Girl & Get A Job by ahnie: 5:29pm On Mar 22, 2021 |
keenly following. |
| Re: I Resigned From Work In Lagos, Relocated To Abuja To Be With My Girl & Get A Job by descarado: 7:13pm On Mar 22, 2021 |
bukatyne:
Very annoying and ungrateful OP.
See his mouth like 'I cannot live in a small space' yet one kobo he did not have.
I blame the woman.
You know, this reminded me of one lady that was a tenant in my sis house. She met the guy where ever and they started dating. He was working in one govt establishment in a town while she work as a staff( sec) in shell Ph Lady advices him to quit cos there should be more job opportunities in the city for him than her quoting and going to that town. Easier said than done. Guy stayed 1 yr, no job. You know sec wear cover shoes and suits. Na so he dey clean, dust and air shoes, dry clean work clothes and what have you Sometimes this lady will come back, see him taking her shoes inside and she will start admonishing him. Please stop. You make me feel so bad. He said he knew how to do ice cream so she got all that's needed and he started. Supplying some places, and still searching for work. 2nd yr, they got married. Lady did everything, bought a car for him to use for his ice cream biz and was still on the look out for job for him. We go to their house to eat afang soup. Guy is the best cook I have ever known. Even my married sis will disappear to their house to eat from his pot( akwaibom), One day, when I came for holiday after a long time, I saw they now have 2 cars, guy has a job at shell courtesy of the wife. She bought a new car for him and took the first one. Even my inlaw one day said that this is a man. This guy would have enjoyed this lady to the fullest and she will press all necessary buttons to make sure he get employed but pride goes before a fall. He don't even like her. I pray better man come her way. Who knows the empty promises he made to her. How he had 10million in his account. Mbok 3 Likes |
| Re: I Resigned From Work In Lagos, Relocated To Abuja To Be With My Girl & Get A Job by crackhaus: 8:05pm On Mar 22, 2021 |
descarado:
You know, this reminded me of one lady that was a tenant in my sis house. She met the guy where ever and they started dating. He was working in one govt establishment in a town while she work as a staff( sec) in shell Ph
Lady advices him to quit cos there should be more job opportunities in the city for him than her quoting and going to that town.
Easier said than done. Guy stayed 1 yr, no job. You know sec wear cover shoes and suits. Na so he dey clean, dust and air shoes, dry clean work clothes and what have you
Sometimes this lady will come back, see him taking her shoes inside and she will start admonishing him. Please stop. You make me feel so bad. He said he knew how to do ice cream so she got all that's needed and he started. Supplying some places, and still searching for work. 2nd yr, they got married. Lady did everything, bought a car for him to use for his ice cream biz and was still on the look out for job for him.
We go to their house to eat afang soup. Guy is the best cook I have ever known. Even my married sis will disappear to their house to eat from his pot( akwaibom),
One day, when I came for holiday after a long time, I saw they now have 2 cars, guy has a job at shell courtesy of the wife. She bought a new car for him and took the first one.
Even my inlaw one day said that this is a man.
This guy would have enjoyed this lady to the fullest and she will press all necessary buttons to make sure he get employed but pride goes before a fall. He don't even like her. I pray better man come her way.
Who knows the empty promises he made to her. How he had 10million in his account.
Mbok
Cool story, but as it was said in the old testament: Amos 3:3 (King James Version) Can two walk together, except they be agreed?The lady in your story made it easy for the guy to do everything he did. She probably most certainly never made him feel less of a man despite.Descarado, note that my comment above is purely in response to your story... nothing to do with the OP. Personally, I am much too proud to live permanently with any woman that I am/was dating... in her own house... a house she's paying rent for...  Hah!!! I don't know how any of these men do it, I can't be comfortable lai lai. Any thing more than a month is even classified as "permanently" in my mind... yet some men are able to quit their jobs, drop their previous lives, and move in with a woman ( a woman) only to end up staying months, some staying years... It's not normal  3 Likes |
| Re: I Resigned From Work In Lagos, Relocated To Abuja To Be With My Girl & Get A Job by descarado: 10:19pm On Mar 22, 2021 |
crackhaus:
Cool story, but as it was said in the old testament:
Amos 3:3 (King James Version)
Can two walk together, except they be agreed?
The lady in your story made it easy for the guy to do everything he did. She probably most certainly never made him feel less of a man despite.
Descarado, note that my comment above is purely in response to your story... nothing to do with the OP.
Personally, I am much too proud to live permanently with any woman that I am/was dating... in her own house... a house she's paying rent for... Hah!!!
I don't know how any of these men do it, I can't be comfortable lai lai.
Any thing more than a month is even classified as "permanently" in my mind... yet some men are able to quit their jobs, drop their previous lives, and move in with a woman (a woman) only to end up staying months, some staying years...
It's not normal You are absolutely right. That lady is a gem. How I live my life today as an adult and a married woman is shaped by 3 ladies, her, my sis( cousin but I call her sis) and one of my cousin's wife. And I never regretted learning from them. People's annoyance wwith the guy was what he called her. Made him look like he was an opportunist. He may have lied to boast his ego. You know how it is and projected false identity. There is nothing He will say that will remedy the fact that he called her a desperate lady. Mbok. How you dey? Let me answer this. In Abuja, since bubu ascended the throne. Thousands of men are without job. Women can stop so low and manage any job but these guys can't. What they do is look for one lady who is of age and working or from a rich background and hook up. You play your card well, you will be balling. So so many of them. Attended wedding of one. |
| Re: I Resigned From Work In Lagos, Relocated To Abuja To Be With My Girl & Get A Job by lisa286: 11:44pm On Mar 22, 2021 |
Richy4:
What you are battling with is nothing but superiority Complex.... In your mind/ heart you have lined up how a man should be... A man should not wash his own cloth, a man should not do chores etc... That is just nonsense...Someone that altered her simple life style of living in an apartment and foots majority of the bills just to meet your demand half way, you were not even grateful... For your information, A lot of married men do chores.... If anyone on social media tells you otherwise, he is lying to u...
Besides, You know very well that covid-19 disrupted a lot of things around the world including Nigeria.. and you should know the average time frame that one would look for job around the world has doubled because of the pandemic... Take it easy with yourself... Be a little humble and focus on your goal... Though I simply wish that Lady saw a better man who will love her in return instead of u... because your Ego is higher than Kilimanjaro... God bless you |
| Re: I Resigned From Work In Lagos, Relocated To Abuja To Be With My Girl & Get A Job by Ilekokonit: 2:27am On Mar 23, 2021 |
skj1377:
I know a Dr that resigned from a government hospital to join his wife in lagos. Few years down the line she divorced him and married another man who also had to retire from university of Ibadan to join her in lagos. On one of my visits to their house they had a heated quarrel, the kind of words exchanged that day shaped my life. Fast-forward a few years I was to relocate to London to join my girlfriend because that was the sensible thing to do.. The relationship had to end because I was not ready to drop my life in Nigeria. Am doing fine in Nigeria so the moral of the story is Dont relocate for love period. Whenever a man ALLOWS his wife to feed him or pay the house rent, he is asking for PUBLIC disgrace in front of his children, family, neighbors and visitors. Thank your LUCKY stars and your creator that you did not relocate to London to join a woman. If you did, you will by now either be in prison, be dead or be destitute and/or frustrated after spending all your income and savings on that woman and your her children who she will turn against you sooner or later. NA GOD SAVE YOU O. I told a medical doctor who was about to relocate to the UK with his wife and kids from Nigeria some time ago on this forum not to do it as he would lose his wife and kids eventually but i think his mind was bent on doing it. I wonder how he is faring in the UK - A country that is the single parent capital of Europe with their Anti-man, Anti family laws where it is rape if your wife tells you to get up half way through the "act" and you don't and from the minute you don't get up it is rape and you will go to prison for 8 years. A country where the then Director of public prosecution was a lesbian and one of her agendas was to make domestic violence a hate crime with an 8 year prison sentence, A country where the single mother payments the Government gives to single mothers is so generous most of them do not have to work until their last child reaches 18 years old and these payments are on top of the part of the ex husbands income the government automatically deducts and gives to the ex wife and this is before adding that up to 65% of any profit on the sale of the house the couple were living in will be awarded to the wife even if the mortgage payments were made only by the man. The UK is simply an Anti-men / Gynocentric / Feminist country and God saved you that you listened to your better judgement and did not relocate to the UK to become a woman's slave as most men bow down to their women in the UK. If you see a man of marriageable age in the UK living alone without settling down, often times it is because he has a low tolerance for bullshit and he is not ready to bow down to ANY woman. 2 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: I Resigned From Work In Lagos, Relocated To Abuja To Be With My Girl & Get A Job by Tundex911: 2:24pm On Mar 24, 2021 |
See some people calling themselves adult behaving like a kindergarten kids...
Smh |
| Re: I Resigned From Work In Lagos, Relocated To Abuja To Be With My Girl & Get A Job by Cynocefaal: 2:51pm On Mar 25, 2021 |
Switchman:
Please I Need Your Candid And Long Term Advise, I Am Presently Depressed And Out
This will be a lengthy one but I promise to summarize it as much as I can.
I met a lady in her late 30s 18months ago through an online friend. I was working in Lagos while she was based and working in Abuja.
We chatted for a while before she volunteered to come to Lagos for a visit over the weekend which doesn't seem a bad idea to me cos I believed seeing in person is better than 1 million pictures.
Due to her age and desperation, we met and she liked what she saw in me and intensive talks began on how I can relocate to Abuja and get better job. I actually haven't been to Abuja so I was excited to take that move with the hope of becoming a better person and getting a better job.
I resigned from my job due to some issues as at that time which could had been managed but so I can have more time to visit and see how things are in Abuja before making my final preparation to relocate. She supports financially during those time while I use my car for ehailing business pending when I will finally relocate.
Covid 19 lock down came and all plans were halted due to restrictions on vehicular movements. Fast forward to November last year I made final plans and I agreed to finally relocate but on the conditions that we will need to get a new apartment cos I don't want to move in with her to her former apartment which was a one room self contain, we got a 1 bedroom apartment and I moved in with her. She owns 90% stake on the expenses incurred but in the spirit of hope for a better job, I will upgrade the apartment to have an equal stake in the home.
It's been 3 months now I have fully relocated and we have been cohabiting but it's been hell for me and I just need help on how to get out of this mess I put myself. No job was forth coming and due to the fact that I am home always, I have been reduced to a house help cos I am the one doing the chores, cleaning the dishes and even my laundry though she pays for her own, so many other insults and atimes it's with exchanges of words before I can take a walk just to acclimatize myself with the terrains of the area.
It's really a bad experience for a man not to have a steady source of income cos in a twinkle of an eye the love will vanish.
I love the lifestyle of Abuja cos it is less stressful than Lagos and I will really like to get a good source of income so I can get my own apartment and be free from the shackles I put myself in the name of love.
I really need help now cos I know my days are numbered and it's a matter of time before she sends me packing cos I really don't have the right to the apartment. Please house, I need your candid advise on what to do and as always constructive criticism is allowed.
Thanks
Switchman
Nigga how could you have been so stupid? You threw your whole life into the garbage can, all because of pussy? Have you even fücked this hoe yet? I swear I had to read this all over again You know the absurd part of all this is that she won't even marry you in your present condition. Fück you bro, you deserve a Darwin award but guess what, it's posthumous so you know what to do. |
| Re: I Resigned From Work In Lagos, Relocated To Abuja To Be With My Girl & Get A Job by Chivvy07(f): 9:10pm On Mar 25, 2021 |
Please dont sit at home..if u still have your car, register as a bolt driver and begin pls. You'd be amazed at what ypu can realise on a week if you sre consistent and determined. Please it will keep your mind busy and put money in your pocket. My 1 cent.. Switchman:
Please I Need Your Candid And Long Term Advise, I Am Presently Depressed And Out
This will be a lengthy one but I promise to summarize it as much as I can.
I met a lady in her late 30s 18months ago through an online friend. I was working in Lagos while she was based and working in Abuja.
We chatted for a while before she volunteered to come to Lagos for a visit over the weekend which doesn't seem a bad idea to me cos I believed seeing in person is better than 1 million pictures.
Due to her age and desperation, we met and she liked what she saw in me and intensive talks began on how I can relocate to Abuja and get better job. I actually haven't been to Abuja so I was excited to take that move with the hope of becoming a better person and getting a better job.
I resigned from my job due to some issues as at that time which could had been managed but so I can have more time to visit and see how things are in Abuja before making my final preparation to relocate. She supports financially during those time while I use my car for ehailing business pending when I will finally relocate.
Covid 19 lock down came and all plans were halted due to restrictions on vehicular movements. Fast forward to November last year I made final plans and I agreed to finally relocate but on the conditions that we will need to get a new apartment cos I don't want to move in with her to her former apartment which was a one room self contain, we got a 1 bedroom apartment and I moved in with her. She owns 90% stake on the expenses incurred but in the spirit of hope for a better job, I will upgrade the apartment to have an equal stake in the home.
It's been 3 months now I have fully relocated and we have been cohabiting but it's been hell for me and I just need help on how to get out of this mess I put myself. No job was forth coming and due to the fact that I am home always, I have been reduced to a house help cos I am the one doing the chores, cleaning the dishes and even my laundry though she pays for her own, so many other insults and atimes it's with exchanges of words before I can take a walk just to acclimatize myself with the terrains of the area.
It's really a bad experience for a man not to have a steady source of income cos in a twinkle of an eye the love will vanish.
I love the lifestyle of Abuja cos it is less stressful than Lagos and I will really like to get a good source of income so I can get my own apartment and be free from the shackles I put myself in the name of love.
I really need help now cos I know my days are numbered and it's a matter of time before she sends me packing cos I really don't have the right to the apartment. Please house, I need your candid advise on what to do and as always constructive criticism is allowed.
Thanks
Switchman
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| Re: I Resigned From Work In Lagos, Relocated To Abuja To Be With My Girl & Get A Job by zedegit: 11:18pm On Apr 26 |
Switchman:
I wasn't even thinking of becoming a parasite cos we both were doing fine when we met and she promised all the support she can give till I settle down fully but with the covid 19 lockdown and all the whole thing changed.
It was a genuine feelings I had for cos what she lacked in beauty and my taste she gave it back in being caring and love but the absence of money from end is not helping matters and the beast in her was so uncoverable no more.
Na the mistake people make in marriage be this. No dey too base your love on anything cos people no dey stable. How you even wan use her carry coverup beauty. You no dey attracted to her yet you wan marry abi na pillow you go use cover her face straff am? Wetin I know be say make you love for no just cause except commitment and God nobi human being o. |
