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. by Nobody: 1:16am On Mar 26, 2021 |
Gotten all the advice I need and no further advice needed before it will land on FP I really appreciate all the wise and mature responses. Thanks everyone |
Re: . by dawnomike(m): 1:34am On Mar 26, 2021 |
Cannymama:All i will say is if asking for the money will not make you have peace in your home... Please, let it go. I can understand how it feels knowing he has the money but it is better to rest the matter to avoid the works of the devil. You will surely make much more than that flight money in coming months when you secure a job. NB: You have bot done anything wrong but, it would have been better if you had told your husband about the business class before paying for it since you mentioned transparency in your dealings with him. 1 Like |
Re: . by HacheNoire: 1:49am On Mar 26, 2021 |
I would have made a 3rd class in the university if I could read this write up. The length alone is scary. Can someone please summarize for me in 3 sentences. |
Re: . by Righteousness2(m): 1:52am On Mar 26, 2021 |
You are a Wonderful wife and your Hubby is a Great guy. Don't let Money break the flow of openness , Peace and transparency in your Home. Whatever he has is yours and what you have is his. Try not to ask him about it for sometime. Be the loving and wonderful wife that you are. In no distant time, you will come back here to give your testimony. He will by himself give u much more than your money. 1 Like |
Re: . by daddytime(m): 1:55am On Mar 26, 2021 |
It's often times difficult for a spouse to believe or accept that he/she is indebted to the other. It appears more like being indebted to one's self. You haven't done anything wrong madam and it is a good thing that you can do without getting the cash back. For next time sake I'm going to let you in on a secret on how to get your money plus an extra back from a spouse. When he/she might have forgotten about it all, just say : Honey abeg find me so so amount to complete so so thing I go give you back so so time. Make sure say the amount wey you request pass the amount wey him dey owe you small incase na spouse wey sabi price well well make e no go short pay you. When him go wan ask you back based on my above formula, una go come realize say FG no fit owe CBN and vice versa in the real sense of it and before you know it, e go become matter wey una go take dey tease each other and spice up una marriage. I wish you guys well. 4 Likes |
Re: . by DaddyRochie1642: 1:55am On Mar 26, 2021 |
I don't know your husband, i'll only say this,... From your write up there, I think your husband is one of those calm guys that doesn't believe in talking too much (correct me if am wrong), You bruised that man's Ego when you went against his wish and payed business class.... Men don't take it lightly when you bruise their EGO, that's why some Men react Violently when their Ego is bruised, while some like your husband prefer to deal with the person in a silent emotionally torturing way, ..... if you doubt me, why do you think your husband showed you his account balance and has still refused to Give you back your money . Oya tell us the truth, I'm sure you've been having Sleepless nights because of that money ,.... Go and Sincerely apologize to your husband about going against his wish via the Flight incident and watch the Magic happen. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: . by DaddyRochie1642: 1:57am On Mar 26, 2021 |
HacheNoire: Oga to Slap you dey hungry me |
Re: . by veave(f): 2:16am On Mar 26, 2021 |
The man seems selfish to me. Your husband is stalling because his children flew business class? 200dolls is not even up to half of the initial rate without the upgrade I'm not going to type what I intend saying because it would not be nice. Since you have no job in the abroad why is he still allowing you foot bills? I hate cheating seriously. No matter in what form it comes. I don't tolerate it. Please dust your CV and start job hunting, you can see that both of you are not on the same page. Open your eyes o 4 Likes |
Re: . by BigDick70inch(m): 2:47am On Mar 26, 2021 |
Madam...... I would have contributed/giving the best ear opening advice........if only u had created room to get bashed....... |
Re: . by cococandy(f): 2:57am On Mar 26, 2021 |
Seems like you didn’t read the story. He wasn’t against the business class because he didn’t even know about it. And that’s not the part of the fare she’s asking him to pay. DaddyRochie1642: 2 Likes |
Re: . by cococandy(f): 3:01am On Mar 26, 2021 |
OP stop asking him for the money. . Too bad he promised and changed his stance later but It’s money you spent on your family. I’d let it go if I were you. Also since you’re not working yet, shouldn’t the family expenses be on his income for now until you settle into a job? I would encourage that you guys go back to having a joint account like you did in Nigeria since that worked well for your family. If he says no, then you guys have to come up with a sharing formula as to who finances what . You can’t carry the same financial responsibility as him when you’re not working. 5 Likes |
Re: . by Shedrack777: 3:07am On Mar 26, 2021 |
see ehn, what i'm more concerned of is the fact you wrote that your husband is on nairaland and you created a new account so that he won't know you brought your family problems here. my question: is Your Husband That Daft To Not Know This Is His Family Affairs Brought To the Public? |
Re: . by Nobody: 3:42am On Mar 26, 2021 |
Thanks everyone for the wise responses. I think I now have the advice I need. |
Re: . by Nobody: 3:44am On Mar 26, 2021 |
Shedrack777: I have no response for you. |
Re: . by wizdomnzube(m): 4:00am On Mar 26, 2021 |
Na who go read this textbook you carry put for here?? Na wa oh. You for kuku write book begin sell to tell ur story na. See higher education kinda story |
Re: . by Nobody: 4:15am On Mar 26, 2021 |
He probably meant to refund it when he agreed to but for one reason or another, isn't able to. I know you said you've seen his account balance, but if you're not yet working, I reckon he's the one taking care of the bills in the home. You should stop seeing it as "your" money. When spouses start seeing things that should be "ours" as "mine", it creates problems. It was money spent on yourself and the kids you have together in order to be together as a family, so see it as such: money spent on your family/for your family, and let it go. |
Re: . by Nobody: 8:42am On Mar 26, 2021 |
aroundtheearth:the lady is selfish. The post is all about her self, her kids and her money. She’ll create problems for that man in Canada. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: . by veave(f): 2:32pm On Mar 26, 2021 |
Carchoice: You're not a truthful person and it's so sad that you can say something like this about a woman who has been more than a hundred percent supportive of her spouse and wants the best for them. Why are humans like this? So you're saying she shouldn't raise eyebrows when she noticed her spouse who she's been totally transparency with suddenly becomes shady and is trying to play a fast one on her just because he came first overseas? I bet if she was the one who stayed back abroad to work while the husband came over later with the kids she'd do a blueprint of her salary for him. You sound like an ungrateful entity who would not appreciate anything good someone does. I'd be watching your handle from henceforth. |
Re: . by Nobody: 2:46pm On Mar 26, 2021 |
veave:lol. Sorry my post didn’t go well with you. But you should know we all can’t think and reason the same way. Everyone to his/her opinion. That’s the same reason the OP and her husband are having this issues. Difference in opinion and idealogy. Also I don’t expect anyone to do me good. Higher Expectations from her husband is also the reason OP is here for advice. I hope you get it now? 1 Like |
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