My nairaland family, i jst want to bare my mind here.

Matured responses will be sincerely appreciated. I'll try to be brief & straight to the points.

Precisely in 2019, I helped my then boss who was transfered to Abuja to get a maid from the south south part of the country, calabar to be precise. She was 18yrs at that time. Later that year, my boss who was nursing a kidney ailment needed transplant urgently. Out of love, this girl opted to help donate one of her kidneys. Personaly I kicked against the idea when she told me, but she was strong-willed. I took the matter to her parents and they threatened to hold me responsible if anything happened to their daughter. After much persuasion from her, her parents gave in reluctantly. We carried out series of tests & she was certified fit to donate. My boss contacted a German hospital that later did the transplant. I work for a para-millitary agency as a cadet A.S.P & i call him My boss because he was heading the command i was first posted to. More details below...

James4358:
The transplant was successful. They both came back to Nigeria last year when travel restrictions was lifted. Since last year she has been sound & living a healthy lifestyle, i pay her visits regurlarly at my boss's house in Abuja. In january this year, my boss traveled for a course abroad, left her & the new maid he got at his residence.

My boss lost his wife 6yrs ago to an accident and his two sons are based in the south east. He practically lived alone. Last week i got a call from her that she was ill and has been rushed to a general hospital. I left makurdi where am based to pay her a visit. I was at the hospital when her mum called to inform me i'll marry her corpse if anything happens to their daughter. I was scared though because this is a practice common to the efik & ibibio part of the south. Well, i lost her yesterday at a hospital i transfered her to in lagos. Now my issues now are as follows...

James4358:
Should her family carryout their threats, Are they spiritual side effects to marrying a corpse? am already in a relationship that w'll tie the nots in no time. Does it mean i wont get to settle down if eventually i perform her marriage rites?

To be sincere,. Av seen comments here suggesting we forced her. We never did. I lived on my own while she was with my boss. She was certainly of a legal age when she accepted to do this. My boss took care of her parents and her salary was very impressive. She was given an appointment into the correctional service where we work as compensation. I never knew what went wrong because i work in the north central part of the country.

Currently am planing to travel with her corpse to her home town fro lagos. I already sent an advanced party to meet with her family to help calm their nerves. Am only 29yrs old and has never had such an experience before. Family men & ladies, how do i handle this situation?

Hmm. Hope no be African Magic series be this


Having read this story, I feel something fishy went down. I put it to you that you guys kept looking for naive and gullible house help until you got the perfect person who's kidneys matched. So you're trying to say that in all the 300million plus people in Nigeria, you just randomly picked one person as domestic staff and boom, you got a donor? Search yourself Mr man. What is even surprising me is that you sound so casual about a whole human life lost. All you're still thinking is yourself and what would happen to you if you do or do not perform the said rites.

How convinient for your Boss to run away and leave the mess for you to clean up.


Kai!!! God will punish poverty!!!
God punish poverty!!!
God punish poverty!!!

You're even lucky they asked you to marry the corpse of the girl. Instead of accepting the condition and paid for the damages you have caused already, you're here complaining bitterly. Who does that?


From your story i can say that the girl didn't willingly accept to donate her kidney, you guys forced her to by promising her a mouth watering amount of money hence she Ignorantly accept the offer to her own detriment.


Marry the corps and stop complaining.

let me sit down on this thread

The transplant was successful. They both came back to nigeria last year when travel restrictions was lifted. Since last year she has been sound & living a healthy lifestyle, i pay her visits regurlarly at my boss's house in abuja. In january this year, my boss traveled for a course abroad, left her & the new maid he got at his residence. My boss lost his wife 6yrs ago to an accident and his two sons are based in the south east. He practically lived alone. Last week i got a call from her that she was ill and has been rushed to a general hospital. I left makurdi where am based to pay her a visit. I was at the hospital when her mum called to inform me i'll marry her corpse if anything happens to their daughter. I was scared though because this is a practice common to the efik & ibibio part of the south. Well, i lost her yesterday at a hospital i transfered her to in lagos. Now my issues now are as follows...

I must watch this series to the end

Following

18 years old strong-willed for someone she barely knew ?
You brought her in 2019 and she gave her kidney in 2020 in an offshore hospital ..?
Your so called Boss even hired another maid then left all of them and traveled out..?
Wait.... you brought an 18yrs old girl to a male Boss whose wife died years ago...?
.... and in your statement you said the girl donated her kidney out of love ...?

Bros, go and sleep , you will be fine tomorrow morning.
Alcohol has 2 after effects .. the hangover and the withdrawal syndrome...
Like I said you will be fine tomorrow morning

Should her family carryout their threats, Are they spiritual side effects to marrying a corpse? am already in a relationship that w'll tie the nots in no time. Does it mean i wont get to settle down if eventualy i perform her marraige rites? To be sincere,. Av seen comments here suggesting we forced her. We never did. I lived on my own while she was with my boss. She was certainly of a legal age when she accepted to do this. My boss took care of her parents and her salary was very impressive. She was given an appointment into the correctional service where we work as compensation. I never knew what went wrong because i work in the north central part of the country. Currently am planing to travel with her corpse to her home town fro lagos. I already sent an advanced party to meet with her family to help calm their nerves. Am only 29yrs old and has never had such an experience before. Family men & ladies, how do i handle this situation?

[quote author=JudgeKronos post=100343547]18 years old strong-willed for someone she barely knew ?
You brought her in 2019 and she gave her kidney in 2020 in an offshore hospital ..?
Your so called Boss even hired another maid then left all of them and traveled out..?
Wait.... you brought an 18yrs old girl to a male Boss whose wife died years ago...?
.... and in your statement you said the girl donated her kidney out of love ...?

Bros, go and sleep , you will be fine tomorrow morning.
Alcohol has 2 after effects .. the hangover and the withdrawal syndrome...
Like I said you will be fine tomorrow morning
[/quote This is one of the advantage of a faceless forum! Av got people ur parents age working under me & are very respectful, i brought this post to the family section because am looking out for matured responses. A girl of 18yrs in this 21st century & computer age is considered matured & can take personal decisions on life matters.

If this ur write up is true then her family is very nice for asking u to marry her.

U people use that girl.

Why didn't ur boss check with his kids first.

God will punish all of you.



I really wish there is an NGO to take up this case. Make una own finish.
Awon oloriburuku gbogbo

Is like Seun is paying people to cook and feed us with cock and Bill stories.

A legally documented agreement between the parties involved would have saved you from all this drama.

Obviously you all took advantage of the lady,her God will fight you all

Foodqueen:
If this ur write up is true then her family is very nice for asking u to marry her.

U people use that girl.

Why didn't ur boss check with his kids first.

God will punish all of you.

i was present at university of calabar teaching hospital where test where carried out on his son, he was nt compatible. The other son is diabetic and was nt fit medically for a transplant. People donate kidneys even for free, u need to be exposed to knw this facts.

Matheusmartin:
Is like Seun is paying people to cook and feed us with cock and Bill stories.

Av got no business with the owner of nairaland. I earn well from my salary & i have a proffession as an architect.

Zzor:
Obviously you all took advantage of the lady,her God will fight you all

No one seems to understand my story. I was practicaly far away from them. I was working in calabar at the time when she was at abuja. But nt for respect for the dead, i would have uploaded her pics. This girl was jst too big for her age. She was 21yrs old this january. I was the one who approached her parents for her services, that's why the blame is upon me. As am typing, my boss is stil abroad & planning to return to nigeria this week. She was never used or forced.

No matter what happens stay where you are do not......I repeat do not travel to meet them...

Let them know you cannot make it but pay whatever is asked for her burial and let your boss sign an agreement of compensation to the family every month or a one time compensation

Please if you love your life as of present do not travel with them ....I beg you

E get why .....stay where you are and continue your duties to the people

No matter the pressure, no matter who tells you to travel

Do not, I repeat do not travel to pacify or see anybody

This is an instruction from Jesus

Righteousness2:
It is Painful and Unfortunate that the young lady lost her life.
If all you stated her is the truth, then I Admonish you to Reject and Refuse the threats of getting married to her Dead body.

Do not do it under any guise. The Living and the Dead have nothing in common.
Marriage is a Covenant. Doing that is Covenanting yourself with the Dead. It is a Dangerous Move.

Take note! You will need to be Strong, Fortified and Confindent in GOD before you embark on the Journey to the Village.

I Repeat! Do not succumb to any threat or Pressure to Marry the Dead..

Thank you sir. My family are going ahead of me to plead my cause. I'll definitely take ur advice.

I don't want to judge here, but officer your story is too good to be true. You've painted a picture as if you are saints here but you are not. Because of poverty you guys use this girl for exchange.

1) your boss have family extended family why can they not offer their own kidney why this young girl.

2) how much were you paid be honest.... why didn't you give your boss your own kidney since You've known him longer.

3) your boss probably killed his wife, now his secret cult need another head he used this ibiobio girl for exchange.

4) you come across like someone from ibiobio or efik, am going to be honest with you next time is going to be your head if God never destroy you.

God is going to judge you. Go confess to her parents how much you were paid.

johnpaschal:
No matter what happens stay where you are do not......I repeat do not travel to meet them...

Let them know you cannot make it but pay whatever is asked for her burial and let your boss sign an agreement of compensation to the family every month or a one time compensation

Please if you love your life as of present do not travel with them ....I beg you

E get why .....stay where you are and continue your duties to the people

No matter the pressure, no matter who tells you to travel

Do not, I repeat do not travel to pacify or see anybody

This is an instruction from Jesus

Noted sir! I appreciate.

James4358:
No one seems to understand my story. I was practicaly far away from them. I was working in calabar at the time when she was at abuja. But nt for respect for the dead, i would have uploaded her pics. This girl was jst too big for her age. She was 21yrs old this january. I was the one who approached her parents for her services, that's why the blame is upon me. As am typing, my boss is stil abroad & planning to return to nigeria this week. She was never used or forced.

That is your side of the story let us hear the parents side then we are gonna know the truth.

I am pissed right now. Cuz u took advantage of their poverty.

You need restitution your boss is evil esu satanic

Cutie09:
I don't want to judge here, but officer your story is too good to be true. You've painted a picture as if you are saints here but you are not. Because of poverty you guys use this girl for exchange.

1) your boss have family extended family why can they not offer their own kidney why this young girl.

2) how much were you paid be honest.... why didn't you give your boss your own kidney since You've known him longer.

3) your boss probably killed his wife, now his secret cult need another head he used this ibiobio girl for exchange.

4) you come across like someone from ibiobio or efik, am going to be honest with you next time is going to be your head if God never destroy you.

God is going to judge you. Go confess to her parents how much you were paid.

Stop being shallow minded. Not every happening u'll termed as being occultic or related to money ritual. Do u knw the salary structure of an Assistant Comptroller of correction? I bliv u dnt.

Cutie09:


That is your side of the story let us hear the parents side then we are gonna know the truth.

I am pissed right now. Cuz u took advantage of their poverty.

You need restitution your boss is evil esu satanic

Am not from your part of the country where money ritual is the order of the day. People earn as much as 400k plus monthly as civil servants in this country,. Keep ur money ritual thoughts to urself.

James4358:
No one seems to understand my story. I was practicaly far away from them. I was working in calabar at the time when she was at abuja. But nt for respect for the dead, i would have uploaded her pics. This girl was jst too big for her age. She was 21yrs old this january. I was the one who approached her parents for her services, that's why the blame is upon me. As am typing, my boss is stil abroad & planning to return to nigeria this week. She was never used or forced.

no one ever will, judging from everything that you just wrote. It all boils down to an ideal African mind that you killed their daughter for spiritual purpose. First her kidney, second she died after the boss traveled, third this wife died six years ago, fourth she agreed to do such a thing for someone she barely knows, fifth you don't know anything about it. It only takes an exposed family to understand all your explanation, but let me guess, they are not.

it's not gonna be easy there bro, but you just have to hold on tight.

Don't go immediately to see them or they'll put all the anger on you. Just find a way to calm them down remotely and remember a man's heart is deep, and people don't forgive easily.

James4358:
My nairaland family, i jst want to bare my mind here. Matured responses will be sincerely appreciated. I'll try to be breif & straight to the points. Precisely in 2019, i helped my then boss who was transfered to abuja to get a maid from the south south part of the country, calabar to be precise. She was 18yrs at the time. Later that year, my boss who was nursing a kidney ailment needed transplant urgently. Out of love, this girl opted to help donate one of her kidneys. Personaly i kicked against the idea when she told me, but she was strong-willed. I took the matter to her parents and they threatened to hold me responsible if anything happened to their daughter. After much persuasion from her, her parents gave in reluctantly. We carried out series of tests & she was certified fit to donate. My boss contacted a german hospital that later did the transplant. I work for a para-millitary agency as a cadet A.S.P & i call him My boss because he was heading the command i was first posted to. More details below...

To me this case is not that hard. The girl donated her Kidney out of love to her boss and to me the highest appreciation her boss should offer her at this moment is to perform her marriage right not you. He can also pay a one-time compensation to the family to show that he cares about their loved one too. Should he not perform the marriage right and you go ahead and do it for her, he is not a good person and I advice you distance yourself from him. For those claiming that he killed her for money ritual or occultic reasons ignore them for they are 21st century illiterates. No matter what happens from here, you did nothing wrong for serving as a middleman in getting her for your boss she is of age to make a decision for herself.

[quote author=James4358 post=100344499] No one seems to understand my story. I was practicaly far away from them. I was working in calabar at the time when she was at abuja. But nt for respect for the dead, i would have uploaded her pics. This girl was jst too big for her age. She was 21yrs old this january. I was the one who approached her parents for her services, that's why the blame is upon me. As am typing, my boss is stil abroad & planning to return to nigeria this week. She was never used or forced. [/quot

Use diplomacy and put money for pocket ooo...na u her family know ooo not ur oga

James4358:
Should her family carryout their threats, Are they spiritual side effects to marrying a corpse? am already in a relationship that w'll tie the nots in no time. Does it mean i wont get to settle down if eventualy i perform her marraige rites? To be sincere,. Av seen comments here suggesting we forced her. We never did. I lived on my own while she was with my boss. She was certainly of a legal age when she accepted to do this. My boss took care of her parents and her salary was very impressive. She was given an appointment into the correctional service where we work as compensation. I never knew what went wrong because i work in the north central part of the country. Currently am planing to travel with her corpse to her home town fro lagos. I already sent an advanced party to meet with her family to help calm their nerves. Am only 29yrs old and has never had such an experience before. Family men & ladies, how do i handle this situation?

It's just unfortunate

You recommend a house keeper who is a minor and out of pity, she took a decision to donate her kidney out of love and human kindness to her boss

Well you weren't the one that killed her

She didn't die of kidney failure as no prove of that

All you need is to plead with her family nit claiming any rights that she chose to do so by herself

Dobt go there to argue with another

Go with few elders who can talk for you

If they insist you marry her

During the marriage right, tell them that you meant well for their child but she died for reasons known to God

When it's time for burial, when they open her coffin, speak to her that you meant well for her and death came and too her away

You don't need to say am not responsible for her death because you can't even say what killed her

It has no effect on you if you do marriage rights

After every thing, yo to God in prayers to separate wgat you did and have faith in God

If this story is true you got to marry her... Because na una kill am

Is such a pity i must say...Rip to d dead

Cutie09:
I don't want to judge here, but officer your story is too good to be true. You've painted a picture as if you are saints here but you are not. Because of poverty you guys use this girl for exchange.

1) your boss have family extended family why can they not offer their own kidney why this young girl.

2) how much were you paid be honest.... why didn't you give your boss your own kidney since You've known him longer.

3) your boss probably killed his wife, now his secret cult need another head he used this ibiobio girl for exchange.

4) you come across like someone from ibiobio or efik, am going to be honest with you next time is going to be your head if God never destroy you.

God is going to judge you. Go confess to her parents how much you were paid.