Ofadaman:
Singlehood is the only time you're free, enjoy it while it last, after marriage its a slow ride down to depression.

When u have the chance fire as much as possible, it's one life, time is our only commodity don't be the guy that regrets all the pzzy, he'd miss out on, enjoy it now, be it that you're old or in marriage ， you'd look back and say you enjoyed life.

Don't hold.back, pzzy, drinks, party, good life, music, hangout etc, it's the very essence of life..

What if u die doing does things ?

Dpaulie:
Useless post.. you must not be older than 14... must u showcase your stupidity

methusellah... leave insults and address his questions.
your age inspired wisdom might just educate him and others.
you just insulted him without addressing his questions.

JustforMen:

cant the so called lineage be continued without martiage?

Marriage institution especially having a male and female parent is the best form of raising children

You are very correct. Sincerely men gain less in Marriages, except you are Very close to God for Him to sort you out. A true Marriage must have God at its center and raise Godly children. It is better if Both partners already know God and are aware of their purposes on earth before getting married. Then ofcourse they can jointly take grounds, fulfill their destinies and make progress in life. Its no secret that very few marriages fulfill those points but are rather built on deceit, lies and plots. Often, its men that get entangled in marriages, of cousre women also do, but on the long run most men loose. Men must learn to be close to God as only Him can ensure all our efforts are rewarded before we leave.

Cerebrocrust:
Everything.




Don't you guys have work to do?


Just come online to talk about women. Seriously appalling

lol... Yahoo boy

Yes but for the last last generation when women of virtue was available, men dream and can’t wait to marry them cos they prolonged their lives, not nowadays daughters of Jezebel dominates the earth, men are running for their dear lives..

maureensylvia:
Alot
More money
Better sex
Good health
Less depression
Should I continue?


Meanwhile read my signature

DEMZEE:


Marriage institution especially having a male and female parent is the best form of raising children

you are absolutely correct... you clearly articulated the benefit of marriage to the child.
but what does a man gain in the marriage institution, especially in the context of present realities?
that is the elephant in the room

When you see a frustrated soul

Nothing, nothing I say nothing can satisfy it

DEMZEE:


Trash

So u will stop ur lineage and ancestry line all because u cant find a unicorn

Do u even understand women's sexual mating strategy and Women's nature

And what award do you get by spreading your DNA on the face of the earth! who awards you a trophy!

MrSamsung:


Look at who is quoting me. A very good and typical example of the kind of men we have now. Shockingly, many are adults and over grown up men who think they are matured. If women are sexual objects and they are not fvcking sticks or stones but men, then what do you truly called the men?

Anyways, when it comes to the blame game, do you really think that in any society or community that the blame should go to the women? Or shared, in which the female got the highest blame?

Think again.

Men are success objects because we are judged based on our burden of performance.

Women just are, they have inherent value for just existing.

Yes women must be shamed and blamed.

The thing is the gender that gets shamed the most in a society is the gender that's not in power and control in that society. Look at the western societies and see how they shame men and turned men to second class citizens. In Africa, women are shamed and are the second class citizens. And I love it like that.

The thing is both genders have been fighting a subtle war for centuries, check the Bible....which gender controlled which gender

question for people who will eventually end up getting trapped in marriage.. not me[/quote]

We move.... Who cares about marriage... Rubbish

NewSoul:

And what award do you get by spreading your DNA on the face of the earth! who awards you a trophy!

It's pride for such men

To dominate and multiply

Funkybabee:
When you see a frustrated soul

Nothing, nothing I say nothing can satisfy it

no, leave insults and provide some form of rational answer.
dont personalise the question.

Escabado:
If you say s. ex : currently s.ex is the cheapest commodity you can buy now as low as N500 to N1000

If you say a child : how can a woman have sex with a man give birth , and she seats back waiting for the man to bring money for feeding, clothing , house bills . Which is called financial slavery

If you say been responsible : how can only a man be responsible for the children, and a woman who is a grown up adult . We're as both of them are supposed to be responsible for there family expenses.

Have u noticed when a man takes up all the financial responsibility of his home till the kids grow they only buy gift and cars for there mom.

Have you also noticed when a woman bear financial cost for raising her child , she will spoil there minds towards there father and make them see him as evil .have u ever seen a single mother that speaks good of his baby dady ? We need to use our head here .think very well men



So tell me exactly what a man stand to gain in marriage .

Your huge misconception about marriage didn't allow you to be able to differentiate between their and there. The reason for your post is because you are either myopic, empty of God's word or naturally unable to understand what marriage is all about. Biblically a woman is suppose to give support to the man, the onus lies on the man to take care of his family. If you are a real man before getting married you won't be too stingy or close minded to take care of your family. The reason for your post may be as result of the many leeches, Jezebels, cheats, we have around who are getting married for the wrong reasons, some of them walk out of their marriage when the road gets dusty and pale. Don't allow what you see around deceive you into thinking marriage is a scam or all women are useless; No, they are not. They have their specific role to play, which is majorly not provision, so don't give yourself heartache looking for a working class woman to marry who will not demand anything from you, if that happens praise God, but rather man up and pray to God to lift you up to be the father and husband your wife and children will be proud of. Marriage has a lot of benefit, just pray to God and open your eye to the benefits and prayerfully ask God to give you a partner that's worth it and you'll come back here to edit this your post when that happens, not if, because it is possible.

DEMZEE:


Women love opportunistically

If u don't give her security especially financial security, she's going to leave ur ass. Women are hypergamous and are always looking for the best male mate to lockdown

which then begs the question...why tie yourself down to a woman of today when you know if you lose it all for any reason she'll be gone (if she can find a more financially secure man) and if she doesnt go because she isnt capable of finding one..she'' give you hell!!! Especially whn you know if you are financially strong you can get anything you want from a woman of today without being married to her.

I am not saying dont marry, I am married myself. if you feel good being married by all means. All I am saying is dont deceive yourself that is a better for worse death do us part situtation you are signing up for.

JustforMen:


you are absolutely correct... you clearly articulated the benefit of marriage to the child.
but what does a man gain in the marriage institution, especially in the context of present realities?
that is the elephant in the room

Men gain dominance, authority and responsibility in marriage

isthatso:


which then begs the question...why tie yourself down to a woman when you know if you lose it all for any reason she'll be gone (if she can find a more financially secure man) and if she doesnt go because she isnt capable of finding one..she'' give you hell!!! Especially whn you know if you are financially strong you can get anything you want from a woman without being married to her.

That's why I advocate for men to b polygamous, understand women's sexual mating strategy and womens nature and know game

Wetin pass SEX

Escabado:
If you say s. ex : currently s.ex is the cheapest commodity you can buy now as low as N500 to N1000

If you say a child : how can a woman have sex with a man give birth , and she seats back waiting for the man to bring money for feeding, clothing , house bills . Which is called financial slavery

If you say been responsible : how can only a man be responsible for the children, and a woman who is a grown up adult . We're as both of them are supposed to be responsible for there family expenses.

Have u noticed when a man takes up all the financial responsibility of his home till the kids grow they only buy gift and cars for there mom.

Have you also noticed when a woman bear financial cost for raising her child , she will spoil there minds towards there father and make them see him as evil .have u ever seen a single mother that speaks good of his baby dady ? We need to use our head here .think very well men



So tell me exactly what a man stand to gain in marriage .

From ur reasoning, I don't think u are upto 18 years. Period.

DEMZEE:


Men gain dominance, authority and responsibility in marriage

in the current reality, men dont have any of those gains anymore as the simp dominated society and the law has taken away all of that and you cannot honestly claim that men are still dominant.
so what dies a man gain in marriage today?

The social burden

Aside stereotype escaping of being tagged a "deadbeat man-folk" there is nothing that favours men in marriage.
Marriage is just a thankless weight of daily responsibility and toils for the man. And it's even worse wen d woman does nth but nagging and wail.

Abi brize I wee si gini??

dbaruwa:



From ur reasoning, I don't think u are upto 18 years. Period.

Methuselah,
give him some answer na.
you cannot know his true age from online posts.

with your old age, give a rational answer without insults na.

Escabado:
If you say s. ex : currently s.ex is the cheapest commodity you can buy now as low as N500 to N1000

If you say a child : how can a woman have sex with a man give birth , and she seats back waiting for the man to bring money for feeding, clothing , house bills . Which is called financial slavery

If you say been responsible : how can only a man be responsible for the children, and a woman who is a grown up adult . We're as both of them are supposed to be responsible for there family expenses.

Have u noticed when a man takes up all the financial responsibility of his home till the kids grow they only buy gift and cars for there mom.

Have you also noticed when a woman bear financial cost for raising her child , she will spoil there minds towards there father and make them see him as evil .have u ever seen a single mother that speaks good of his baby dady ? We need to use our head here .think very well men



So tell me exactly what a man stand to gain in marriage .

You gain everything!

Sex from olosho no be sex jor

itsRhamzy:
Nothing much..

You marry her and foot almost all bills including hers.

Both of you get children.

The responsibility of those children rests on your laps from school bills to feeding for at least 2 decades while your wife contributes almost nothing in those bills. she'll tell you it's your responsibility.

A man can survive alone but a woman can't.

She wants your commitment in raising her children in the best possible ways as you're the disposable gender.

You're just a workhorse tool to fulfil her most desired needs -money, commitment, children etc.


So when you look at these factors as a man, you figure the only thing you gain is kids.. feel free to delude yourself.

The biggest delusion is that you gained the kids.
You really don’t!

Uwa Nwoke!!!!!.... it's never easy being a man, sometimes I feel nature cheated men in diverse ways.....you wake up every morning,jump out into the street to hustle, sometimes even without breakfast,you encounter alot of insults,pains, rejection,anger and various painful emotions and yet you are banned from showcasing this painful emotions and agony.....you are meant to bottle them all up because showcasing them is tartamoun to being weak and men are not supposed to be weak......in reality all the struggles you go through every day is primarily for a family you hold no grantee that you will benefit from in the future....... you invest everything you toil for in your wife and kids,you make sure they don't go hungry even when you are hungry yourself,you make sure they have a roof over their head, pay for their hospital bills, school feels and clothe them even when you find it difficult to change your own clothes,your main concern is your wife and your kids.....in all these, many men who couldn't handle all this pains normally gives up along the way and why those who persevere towards the end would be watching their wife taking all the credits and rewards inform of material gifts when the kids have finally grown-up........IT IS NEVER AN EASY THING BEING A MAN.......

DEMZEE:


That's why I advocate for men to b polygamous, understand women's sexual mating strategy and womens nature and know game

I always say the biggest mistake Africans did to themselves was the abolition of polygamy by Christianity. It is also the reason why there are so many single women 90% of whom are dating married men secretly and who will never find a good husband and will be childless because the ones with any sense of shame left do not want the shame of having a bastard child wheras they would have been respectable wives with legitimate children under polygamy. It is the reason why women have become cheap playthings to married men of means and why women are no longer regarded or respected in society.

if you meet a single presentable woman of 30+ in Nigeria, 90% chance she is dating or has dated a married man, above 35yrs 95% chance, above 40yrs, 99.99%!!!! But these same women are still searching for husbands and dont want to share their husbands in the unlikely event they do find one...the irony!!! The other irony is that women who have been mistresses and sidechicks want to be treated with the respectability of a wife!!!

Excesslove222:
What a man gains? Let me list a few:

He gains coming back home everyday to a well prepared meal.
He gains children that bear his ancestral name.
He gains a prayer warrior.
He gains a listening ear to all his life problems.
He gains someone to brainstorm and plans his future with.
He gains someone to help him raise his children.
He gains a “home”

Even if you insist children are a woman’s gain...they still bear the man’s name, if they become someone in the future, nobody would remember their mothers surname.

I can go on and on...

hehehehe.... .u've listed d qualities of a sensible virtuous woman.
Btw u and me, in ur church mind, what's d ratio of d modern woman dt fits d list u've drawn?

gudvibz:
Truth be told same can be asked of some women. I mean if u truly are honest you'll see that there are homes where women are the financial backbone yet you don't hear them crying or screaming for the world to hear.

I have seen homes where the men where just figure heads ,the women do everything yet the man takes the glory and they aren't dead.WHAT DO U SUPPOSE THE WOMAN IS GAINING FROM SUCH OGA POSTER

You have seen? You mean where maybe circumstances change and he is not rich anymore and the woman have to be the bread winner.

There's no reason a rich woman will willingly marry a poor guy, so tell us what you seen again and this time the whole story not the 'end of life' version you cooked up.

There's nothing a man gains, this should be, what a man won't lose in marriage. Nothing, there's nothing you won't lose, you freedom, your appetite, everything! you will even lose weight.

There's a false notion about marriage that has been propagated for centuries, passing down an upspring (your name) as a mark of fulfilment, like you have an idea what happens after you are gone, sometimes the children change their names and the name he thought he wants to live forever becomes forgotten.

Ultimately if you are lonely and feels marriage will change that for you, then go ahead, but make no mistake, no amount of wives will change that.

simplesearch:


Your huge misconception about marriage didn't allow you to be able to differentiate between their and there. The reason for your post is because you are either myopic, empty of God's word or naturally unable to understand what marriage is all about. Biblically a woman is suppose to give support to the man, the onus lies on the man to take care of his family. If you are a real man before getting married you won't be too stingy or close minded to take care of your family. The reason for your post may be as result of the many leeches, Jezebels, cheats, we have around who are getting married for the wrong reasons, some of them walk out of their marriage when the road gets dusty and pale. Don't allow what you see around deceive you into thinking marriage is a scam or all women are useless; No, they are not. They have their specific role to play, which is majorly not provision, so don't give yourself heartache looking for a working class woman to marry who will not demand anything from you, if that happens praise God, but rather man up and pray to God to lift you up to be the father and husband your wife and children will be proud of. Marriage has a lot of benefit, just pray to God and open your eye to the benefits and prayerfully ask God to give you a partner that's worth it and you'll come back here to edit this your post when that happens, not if, because it is possible.

benefits that you need to close your eyes in prayer for God to open your eyes to see?
OPEN AND CLOSE or CLOSE and OPEN?
make that make sense, please.

we can see and enumerate the gains of marriage for women and children even without God and prayer!

abbey621:
The honest truth is when you look at it strictly from a business/risk viewpoint, men SHOULD NEVER GET MARRIED! However, when you look at it from the point of emotional connection, ability to secure a partner that shares a common goal with you, ability to continue enjoying her without fear of another man sharing her, ability to not only have kids but for those kids to have a stable home based on love, respect and family values. When you consider all these things, you would be MAD not to get married!

Let me be frank with you, life itself is a risk, if we considered all the bad things that happens in life, most of us would tell baba God not to send us down. So as a risk taker, did you do your feasibility study? Did you analyze the risks and what controls did you puit in place to ensure you married a good wife and she doesn't turn into someone that would bleed you dry? If you're wealthy, do you have a prenup? Religious consultations( Pastor, Alfa, Ifa & Google)? Background checks includinfg social media history? Did you analyze her family? Any generational or imminent curse?

Marriage can be sweet once you lay the proper foundation, build it on honesty and facts then watch it blossom, build it on lies and secrets then watch it implode and ruin you. The greatest factor is not why but who.....Pick the right who and the why becomes easy!

Which one is “without fear of another man sharing her” this is naivety at its peak.

abbey621:
The honest truth is when you look at it strictly from a business/risk viewpoint, men SHOULD NEVER GET MARRIED! However, when you look at it from the point of emotional connection, ability to secure a partner that shares a common goal with you, ability to continue enjoying her without fear of another man sharing her, ability to not only have kids but for those kids to have a stable home based on love, respect and family values. When you consider all these things, you would be MAD not to get married!

Let me be frank with you, life itself is a risk, if we considered all the bad things that happens in life, most of us would tell baba God not to send us down. So as a risk taker, did you do your feasibility study? Did you analyze the risks and what controls did you puit in place to ensure you married a good wife and she doesn't turn into someone that would bleed you dry? If you're wealthy, do you have a prenup? Religious consultations( Pastor, Alfa, Ifa & Google)? Background checks includinfg social media history? Did you analyze her family? Any generational or imminent curse?

Marriage can be sweet once you lay the proper foundation, build it on honesty and facts then watch it blossom, build it on lies and secrets then watch it implode and ruin you. The greatest factor is not why but who.....Pick the right who and the why becomes easy!

WISE MAN!!!