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Re: Married Guys: I Need Your Opinion by vicksbaba(m): 5:56pm On Mar 31, 2021 |
Righteousness2: What are you saying? That man clearly knows exactly what he wants! He has specifications which most people lack. In as much as expectations usually ends in disappointments, the few that become successful thrive with bliss. 1 Like |
Re: Married Guys: I Need Your Opinion by Ishilove: 5:59pm On Mar 31, 2021 |
Lostchild:I'm not sure Nigerian babes want your type. 1 Like |
Re: Married Guys: I Need Your Opinion by iRepNaija1: 6:03pm On Mar 31, 2021 |
Lostchild: 1) You are Nigerian by birth. So that makes you Nigerian, OP. You're just not like the average/typical Nigerian. 2)Why does it bother you so much if a woman has had many sexual partners? You keep saying it's bad but don't specify why you think it is. 3) I get it. Nigerian society and culture can, at times, be very homogenous and if you are an outlier, then it may seem hard to fit in. But you need to create a space for yourself within the society/culture. The whole culture should not be thrown away in your thoughts and actions. You are Nigerian and you can't deny it so just find a space for yourself. Hence, going back to my original post about working on yourself instead of seeking a relationship. |
Re: Married Guys: I Need Your Opinion by Boss13: 6:08pm On Mar 31, 2021 |
You need a therapist and not a wife. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Married Guys: I Need Your Opinion by averageguy(m): 6:30pm On Mar 31, 2021 |
As many here have said, you should consider seeing a therapist, especially since it appears you could afford one. Respectfully, some of the information you typed comes off as ethnic self-hate and I think your idea of a western mindset might be flawed as well. Caucasians are not a monolith. Some actually enjoy African movies, some are not outdoorsy and don't care about nature. Many are in Europe and don't speak English, speaking their own tongues as well. You also seem to have a distrust of the marriage institution based on your past experiences, even though there are obviously success stories. I think a therapist could help you explore if there are really attributes you are looking for in a spouse (which could be present in any woman regardless of race), or if you feel inferior as a Nigerian and why that might be the case. Good Luck! 1 Like |
Re: Married Guys: I Need Your Opinion by MisterRuk(m): 6:35pm On Mar 31, 2021 |
You may be trying to find a perfect woman who will fit into the center of your universe. Please don't. The ideal women of our fantasies do not exist, sadly. Rather work on improving yourself, enjoy yourself. If you love western music, enjoy it!. If you love nature, enjoy it! I too suffered from this dilemma, I understand that many average girls that grows up in the conventional Nigerian society tend to be mediocre, plastic, religious and very materialistic. They know very little but are the highest consumers of the current Nigerian trashy pop culture. Again environment plays a big role. If you are an intellectual or have a sophisticated taste , and you live in a common, mundane Nigerian community comprised of lower and middle class citizens, weak power supply and bad roads, the kind of girls you'll meet won't meet your standards. It seems you live one of such places. Change your environment, go to highbrow places, go to where the big boys and high class roll, mix with them, worship in churches like House On The Rock, COZA etc. Go to places that exhibit your values, travel, INCREASE YOUR STATUS. And I tell you, you will meet lots of Nigerian ladies that meet your standards. You are not insane. The average, poverty ridden Nigerian environment doesn't fit your taste and western ideology. You can't be forming Yankee when you live in adjegunle, change your environment and broaden your horizon. Don't let women be the source of your worry, stop searching for them. Let your lifestyle attract them. Pls native tongue is not a sin, respect it. There are lot of cringey things nigeria has, but native tongue is not one of them, if you can't speak it, don't condemn another who speaks it. English is a borrowed language. Don't let the western mindset eat you doing inside out. 2 Likes |
Re: Married Guys: I Need Your Opinion by Lostchild(m): 6:36pm On Mar 31, 2021 |
Ishilove: Ishilove To Nigeria women; money and affection is their priority in a relationship. But To western women; affection and compatibility is their priority in a relationship |
Re: Married Guys: I Need Your Opinion by Lostchild(m): 6:38pm On Mar 31, 2021 |
Ishilove: Ishilove You want to kill me with laugh You must be right You are some how right. But the ones I dated in the past they still love my style. Some said to me that I am very rare and strange |
Re: Married Guys: I Need Your Opinion by soundOsonic: 6:49pm On Mar 31, 2021 |
First time I have heard someone soul is a white man. You are having personality disorder. Google it. It won't take you 30 seconds. You need help from a therapist. It is a mental issue. You know what people seem insane then is what people overlook to be normal. A man will create is own deception and then says he identifies as... And wants the society to accept his madness and will create a damn community of psychos who will later will be offended as people do not accept them. The society is going to perpetual chaos because everybody is offended about a particular thing. Look at this man for example a black man identifying as a white man in soul and spirit. God save you say you no talk this in the 19's lobotomy them go do for you 1 Like |
Re: Married Guys: I Need Your Opinion by Lostchild(m): 6:51pm On Mar 31, 2021 |
MisterRuk: Thank You Thank You What a splendid advice overall. I don't live in the ghetto, but your write and advice is splendid. MisterRuk. Bravo to You once more |
Re: Married Guys: I Need Your Opinion by Lostchild(m): 7:16pm On Mar 31, 2021 |
Re: Married Guys: I Need Your Opinion by Lostchild(m): 7:55pm On Mar 31, 2021 |
soundOsonic: I am sure you still don't understand personality traits. Do you think every one has a crazy Nigeria mentality as you? Common man, go fvck your wife. |
Re: Married Guys: I Need Your Opinion by Nobody: 8:00pm On Mar 31, 2021 |
Lostchild:I share some traits in your post but it seems you have some core Nigerian traits you are hiding. It’s glaring. Work on yourself first. |
Re: Married Guys: I Need Your Opinion by NaBanga: 8:04pm On Mar 31, 2021 |
Seun and these fake writers... Let me pretend. I am not sure what a "caucasian" heart is, but you haven't seen the level a white woman will go to finish you in the so called Western countries. One mistake and you will quickly land in divorce court. From there you may end up on 18 years of child support and possible alimony. It doesn't matter if she took on a lover and gave him doggy style, there is very little you can do. If you are an introvert in Nigeria, you will be an introvert in Germany or America. Western women do not "endure' marriage. Marriage is about happiness. The moment the happiness leaves be assured she will give her happiness to another man. Your heart would burst into flames if you know the things I know. Nigerian men should stick with Nigerian women, since they are too lazy for love. Always remember money=love, no matter if the woman is Chinese, Brazilian, Australian or Scottish. If your money is not coming forward, you will end up as a doormat for your Western wife or she will give her all to another man. Once a Western woman knows her man won't behave as a husband, it's called alienation of affection. She can use it mentally to justify getting it from the front, back and side form the man of her choice with no shame or guilt. 1 Like |
Re: Married Guys: I Need Your Opinion by Map1(m): 8:34pm On Mar 31, 2021 |
Lostchild:your sit is vacant at Shiloh 2021 |
Re: Married Guys: I Need Your Opinion by Villagedude: 8:36pm On Mar 31, 2021 |
In life, extremism is sometimes insanity. You life history will be needed for me to know what to say. Or better organise your visa next month. NOTE: Even in heaven women nag, so pray harder to go to hell 1 Like |
Re: Married Guys: I Need Your Opinion by Lostchild(m): 8:43pm On Mar 31, 2021 |
NaBanga: You are 100% right. I know a lot about western women. In the western world women are very powerful and the divorce rate is as high as the sky. The divorce always favors their women. Marriage that lead to divorce= alimony in the western world can devastate any man financially and emotionally. Child support is OK, but alimony is a pain in the ass But I still prefare western women than Nigeria women Me and Nigeria women with their naija mindset and tribal mentality no rhyme at all. One day, I may settle for a Nigerian woman just for the sake of having chidren but I will still find her incompartible if she doesn't have half my traits |
Re: Married Guys: I Need Your Opinion by Lostchild(m): 8:52pm On Mar 31, 2021 |
Map1: Laughing |
Re: Married Guys: I Need Your Opinion by Rules7: 9:00pm On Mar 31, 2021 |
Lostchild: Bummer!!! just found my other half, I feel your pain . Ignore the bush monkeys I can relate buddy, I can relate 1 Like |
Re: Married Guys: I Need Your Opinion by Lostchild(m): 9:03pm On Mar 31, 2021 |
Villagedude: Prayer can only take one to heaven and not hell. It is true that women nag but some are extreme. About my life history is a very tough one. I cannot suffer making money, then after making money I will suffer in the hands of woman. One issue I have when it comes to women is trust issue. I saw my elder brother suffer so much in marriage even though he is a good man and provider. My elder brother his life never remain the same again. I still feel for him when I remember him Organize a visa next month? lol |
Re: Married Guys: I Need Your Opinion by soundOsonic: 9:03pm On Mar 31, 2021 |
Lostchild:You are a psycho. Google the word personality disorder. Your persona is bullshit. White people don't behave like what you described. I diagnose you with personality disorder. I am serious dude please do well to google it. You might need a therapist who will help you. 1 Like |
Re: Married Guys: I Need Your Opinion by Lostchild(m): 9:14pm On Mar 31, 2021 |
Carchoice: I must tell you the truth I do not have any Nigerian trait. I did not even write all my trait here because if I do too many people will judge me harshly. Even your so called garri (eba) is making me sick anytime I eat it. Can you suggest any Nigeria traits you think I have that I am hidding? Waiting to hear from you in return |
Re: Married Guys: I Need Your Opinion by Lostchild(m): 9:23pm On Mar 31, 2021 |
soundOsonic: At first I never insult you but you are just being too foolish. Your brain is inside your temper. Like I said. Common man, go fvck youself |
Re: Married Guys: I Need Your Opinion by Pmedia7787: 9:56pm On Mar 31, 2021 |
Lostchild: I see...how unfortunate you are...not everyone on quara has understanding Its one thing to be very easy to live a stupid live wasting in hollow wisdom And its another to live according to divine principles..I speak of the later which is beyond your understanding.... Seun lost his mind to atheism reading quora...so I am not surprised 1 Like |
Re: Married Guys: I Need Your Opinion by Educonomist: 10:10pm On Mar 31, 2021 |
individual difference. there is no general or definite rule showing how an individual should live his or her life |
Re: Married Guys: I Need Your Opinion by Princeaniemeka: 10:21pm On Mar 31, 2021 |
[Oga travel abroad and never come back.....safe journey in advancequote author=Lostchild post=100367696] 1) I am not a Nigerian by personality that is why I find Nigeria culture and women very strange 2) Too many dick on a woman is very bad even though I will accept it as part of life. I just cannot trust my heart and re-ally on someone that is capable to change. 3) I just don't fit into Nigeria society, that is why I find it hard to merge with a typical Nigeria woman. 4) I must say that You are very right in your words I keep laughing[/quote] |
Re: Married Guys: I Need Your Opinion by Makaveli217(m): 10:25pm On Mar 31, 2021 |
Righteousness2: Oga righteousness go and sit down inside dustbin, are you his God? |
Re: Married Guys: I Need Your Opinion by Lostchild(m): 10:27pm On Mar 31, 2021 |
soundOsonic Let me gives you a digest version of myself I may be an introvert but I can still work and flow very well with everyone. I am faithful and true in my words and ways I am gentle I am tender. I am meak person I am very caring and respectful I am selfless and kind I am a professional in my work and field and what I do has to be well done. I am a lover and a genuine care giver. I love and help every I see. I always smile and I try to put smile on the face of others. All the hottie's I have dated in the past, they all wanted me to love them. To these women relationship is base on money and looks, but for me it is not Many women and ladies respect me because they know that I am not a walking erection. I am person of discipline. You said I have personality disorder because I don't behave like a typical Nigerian person It is only Nigerians that will insult a person because he is trying to seek opinion. What do you understand about personality disorder? What is the meaning of a psychopath? Can someone with all the personality above be a psychopath? I don't mean to boast about myself but this is why I see that Nigeria is an insane place for many guys like me to live. I may be a Nigerian by birth but I am not a Nigerian by personality You lack understanding because your fvcking brain is inside your hot temper |
Re: Married Guys: I Need Your Opinion by soundOsonic: 10:52pm On Mar 31, 2021 |
Lostchild: Don't quote me if you haven't read what personality disorder is. You are not a psychopath but you have personality disorder. You need a therapist you will be fine. No need to drop your CV here. And don't quote me again I am done oga. 2 Likes |
Re: Married Guys: I Need Your Opinion by Pweetyccee(f): 11:05pm On Mar 31, 2021 |
Lol wahala everywhere To be a Nigerian woman's z not easy ooo God no go shame us shaa Op pls find a way to create ur own country or u move out from d country biko 2 Likes |
Re: Married Guys: I Need Your Opinion by Villagedude: 12:01am On Apr 01, 2021 |
Lostchild:Sorry for ur bro. Trust and love are not the same thing, when go into relationships seeking trust first, it usually makes one restive and expectant. And when what you expect is higher than what reiceive, you;ll easily get disapointed. You have built barriers to help escape the harsh realities of this world. But it is important you undestand that there varius estraneus variables you can't control. So adjust! Pray work |
Re: Married Guys: I Need Your Opinion by JeffSiberstein: 12:54am On Apr 01, 2021 |
You are selfish, self centered, you are not an introvert but someone with developmental issues. All girls in the world love money not just Nigerians, take a look at DR DRE and his estranged wife to see what a western girl can do to you. Rural/village life they hungry you not being close to nature rubbish. The way you were brought up has a lot to do with the way you are reasoning today. A true lover of music knows that when it hits you feel no pain, so you don't have genres you listen to you listen to all. Find money and go to Europe or wherever you will meet your western girls because the Nigeria ones are not enough to go round. Most important thing here is that you need to see a therapist because you go still your western wife problems. |
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