Good people, what do you have to say to a young man approaching late 20's, who's head deep in love with a girl and in the process has gotten so vulnerable, so emotionally attached. When his instincts tells him something is going amiss in the relationship( when his girlfriend receives calls from a number of male friends and random text messages from them), he loses focus, concentration and in most cases loses weight. He has become a shadow of himself all because he's in love and doesn't want to lose the girl he's dating and in the process risk being lonely again.


Please your advice, opinions, suggestions, and even criticism is needed.

This is an acute case of the popular psychological disorder called Oneitis.
This ailment is the basic reason men are advised by elders like myself not to be emotionally monogamous.
Isn't the equation very obvious?
(The more people you share your heart across to, the less damage you suffer when one of them breaks the part they have)

A man's heart becomes softer than a jellyfish and unimaginably vulnerbale when he allows it beat for only one woman or leaves it's switch solely in her care.

He has made that lady the fulcrum of his existence and his world revolves around the security of her belonging to him.
Sadly, hos will be hos and there's no worse ho than the one who knows that under the rain or in the sun, her man's balls are firmly in her grip.

My only advice is that he emotionally distracts himself by getting attention from other females, accept the painful reality that this lady whom he has made an idol could be gulping preeks every now and then.

It will not work right away, but over time it will.
Never underestimate the heart's ability to move on. Time changes yesterday.

Yeah, sure.
That's one of the best ways to commit suicide.

NwaAmaikpe:

The situation is that severe I tell you, My good man.

Activate your shock absorber first before going through your partner's phone

IamYourNeighbor:
Good people, what do you have to say to a young man approaching late 20's, who's head deep in love with a girl and in the process has gotten so vulnerable, so emotionally attached. When his instincts tells him something is going amiss in the relationship( when his girlfriend receives calls from a number of male friends and random text messages from them), he loses focus, concentration and in most cases loses weight. He has become a shadow of himself all because he's in love and doesn't want to lose the girl he's dating and in the process risk being lonely again.


Please your advice, opinions, suggestions, and even criticism is needed.

You must be ready to exchange phones, while she's looking through yours you're looking through hers!

Love kili me shege I die.

To whom brain is given common sense is expected.

In the first instance why are you still in a relationship with someone you don't trust?

BedroomSecret:
Activate your shock absorber first before going through your partner's phone

Why is the present day relationship so physically, emotionally and financially draining. Most especially when you envisage a better future with the one you're dating.

Womanizer:


You must be ready to exchange phones, while she's looking through yours you're looking through hers!

For reasons best known to her, she doesn't want her partner to go through her phone.

Go through it. YOLO!

IamYourNeighbor

Vulnerability is fine in relationship, but getting possessive is not, people should still have their space, however if you find something odd, ask questions and demand honest answers.

More importantly na how you handle things day mostly determine your outcomes.

My 1 cent

Kobicove:
In the first instance why are you still in a relationship with someone you don't trust?

Just one question what do you think is the rationale behind your partner giving out her number to any male admirer that asks for it ? Deleting messages and call records thereafter.

Yusufisraelj:
IamYourNeighbor

Vulnerability is fine in relationship, but getting possessive is not, people should still have their space, however if you find something odd, ask questions and demand honest answers.

More importantly na how you handle things day mostly determine your outcomes.

My 1 cent

It's harder when 'the truth is laced with lies'

IamYourNeighbor:


For reasons best known to her, she doesn't want her partner to go through her phone.

That's her right cos the phone is her personal property!

NwaAmaikpe:



This is an acute case of the popular psychological disorder called Oneitis.
This ailment is the basic reason men are advised by elders like myself not to be emotionally monogamous.
Isn't the equation very obvious?
(The more people you share your heart across to, the less damage you suffer when one of them breaks the part they have)

A man's heart becomes softer than a jellyfish and unimaginably vulnerbale when he allows it beat for only one woman or leaves it's switch solely in her care.

He has made that lady the fulcrum of his existence and his world revolves around the security of her belonging to him.
Sadly, hos will be hos and there's no worse ho than the one who knows that under the rain or in the sun, her man's balls are firmly in her grip.

My only advice is that he emotionally distracts himself by getting attention from other females, accept the painful reality that this lady whom he has made an idol could be gulping preeks every now and then.

It will not work right away, but over time it will.
Never inderestimate the heart's ability to move on. Time changes yesterday.

Duly appreciated.
#Respect

IamYourNeighbor:




It's harder when 'the truth is laced with lies'

Then end the relationship, I don't do lies and I don't give lies, it's a faculty start, especially on issues of commitment. If you don't you will end up most hurt. Am dead serious.

IamYourNeighbor:



Just one question what do you think is the rationale behind your partner giving out her number to any male admirer that asks for it ? Deleting messages and call records thereafter.

Well personally as far as I'm concerned if you have not yet married a lady then she is not your property.

It is very unfair for a guy to tie down a lady and prevent her from keeping other options open especially if he has not yet made a serious commitment to marry her

Womanizer:


That's her right cos the phone is her personal property!

Whatever happens to transparency in relationships ?

In some cases, yes it is.

It's most hurtful when you'll do virtually anything to make her happy ! even with the little you have.

IamYourNeighbor:



Just one question what do you think is the rationale behind your partner giving out her number to any male admirer that asks for it ? Deleting messages and call records thereafter.

Three things

1. Either she thinks you wouldn't lead her to the promise Land or you ain't serious (committed).

2. She's naturally a cheat and double dates bkos of financial or material gains.

3. She has psychologically problems, thinking it's a proof she's beautiful and gladly loves attention.

Who knows if you're the only one in love in that relationship?

If a lady is really into you, she won't double date and even if she does, you won't get to know.

Yusufisraelj:


Three things

1. Either she thinks you wouldn't lead her to the promise Land or you ain't serious (committed).

2. She's naturally a cheat and double dates bkos of financial or material gains.

3. She has psychologically problems, thinking it's a proof she's beautiful and gladly loves attention.

It's hurtful when you know things aren't the way they ought to be.

Queenttoast01:
Who knows if you're the only one in love in that relationship?

If a lady is really into you, she won't double date and even if she does, you won't get to know.

She'd swear by the old gods and new that she's deeply in love as well.

IamYourNeighbor:



It's hurtful when you know things aren't the way they ought to be.

Well equally there are three ways to handle the situation. Depending on proper diagnostics of your situation.

Well am so much of an emotional fellow, so I may not understand your situation, but I'm very straight with ladies and exclusive as far as there's agreement for commitment, if I sense that's not reciprocated and I enquire to no avail, I will gladly walk.

There are alot of fishes in the water. How can you allow a fellow human like u put u thru such vulnerability and become a shadow of urself. Work on your psyche. I believe you shld reduce the attention u give to her and see how things change. At the end of the day what is the essence of a relationship where your emotional state is at jeopardy. The journey of a SIMP to a redpiller starts from one bold step. Take that step today and knw peace. Ciao

NwaAmaikpe:



This is an acute case of the popular psychological disorder called Oneitis.
This ailment is the basic reason men are advised by elders like myself not to be emotionally monogamous.
Isn't the equation very obvious?
(The more people you share your heart across to, the less damage you suffer when one of them breaks the part they have)

A man's heart becomes softer than a jellyfish and unimaginably vulnerbale when he allows it beat for only one woman or leaves it's switch solely in her care.

He has made that lady the fulcrum of his existence and his world revolves around the security of her belonging to him.
Sadly, hos will be hos and there's no worse ho than the one who knows that under the rain or in the sun, her man's balls are firmly in her grip.

My only advice is that he emotionally distracts himself by getting attention from other females, accept the painful reality that this lady whom he has made an idol could be gulping preeks every now and then.

It will not work right away, but over time it will.
Never underestimate the heart's ability to move on. Time changes yesterday.

May your scrotum live long

pregnantMan:
May your scrotum live long

Ojukwu is dead but his manhood still lives according to Mama Peace

There is a saying in my place that says, "a monkey that observes every thing, risks been hit by the bullet the most".

Go through your partner's phone at your own peril.

A finger that sticks into the anus will not fail to come out with either fart or faeces.

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