Please nairalanders I need your advice on something that has been bothering me for sometime now.

I am a young graduate who graduated from the university almost two years ago and am done with my youth service too but am still trying to get a job or put up something maybe a business that will be fetching me money considering the situation of our country in terms of availability of jobs.

Then there's is this girl I have been dating for three years and everything has been going well but recently she has been really disturbing me to come and see her people or get her pregnant, am someone that will do everything within my power to make sure my kids don't pass through the hardship I have passed through being someone that wasn't born with a silver spoon, and another thing is that I really love this girl.
Am really confused and don't know what to do.

Wish it was me and my ex.... Would have gladly obliged... But d gal is still in a fantasy world

get her preggy only if you have the resources to cater for the baby.



most times what these girls say in the morning is not usually what they say in the afternoon.



mouth don dey sweet her as she dey tell u to get her pregnant as if she has everything figured out.. but na same girl no go allow u rest when she finally get the belle.

Hello, Dont allow yourself to be put under pressure. Ask for patience on her path while you continue to look for job and start something.

Marriage or getting someone pregnant comes with responsibility and it is unfair to bring a child into the world when you don't have means to take good care of the child. I think you can visit her family but not good time for formal introduction.

Work hard and pray for God direction to settle before you venture into marriage.

Shalom

Great007:
Hello, Dont allow yourself to be put under pressure. Ask for patience on her path while you continue to look for job and start something.

Marriage or getting someone pregnant comes with responsibility and it is unfair to bring a child into the world when you don't have means to take good care of the child. I think you can visit her family but not good time for formal introduction.

Work hard and pray for God direction to settle before you venture into marriage.

Shalom

Thanks alot

Papertrails:
Please nairalanders I need your advice on something that has been bothering me for sometime now.

I am a young graduate who graduated from the university almost two years ago and am done with my youth service too but am still trying to get a job or put up something maybe a business that will be fetching me money considering the situation of our country in terms of availability of jobs.

Then there's is this girl I have been dating for three years and everything has been going well but recently she has been really disturbing me to come and see her people or get her pregnant, am someone that will do everything within my power to make sure my kids don't pass through the hardship I have passed through being someone that wasn't born with a silver spoon, and another thing is that I really love this girl.
Am really confused and don't know what to do.

its a trap bro

Papertrails:
Please nairalanders I need your advice on something that has been bothering me for sometime now.

I am a young graduate who graduated from the university almost two years ago and am done with my youth service too but am still trying to get a job or put up something maybe a business that will be fetching me money considering the situation of our country in terms of availability of jobs.

Then there's is this girl I have been dating for three years and everything has been going well but recently she has been really disturbing me to come and see her people or get her pregnant, am someone that will do everything within my power to make sure my kids don't pass through the hardship I have passed through being someone that wasn't born with a silver spoon, and another thing is that I really love this girl.
Am really confused and don't know what to do.

You simply wanna die before ur time. That her yeye love will turn into hatred when u cant provide. Better wait for the appropriate time.

Papertrails:


Thanks alot

She's freaking selfish! Money for pampers, cloths, baby wipe, baby bed and materials can she provide?

SweetCunt97:
She's freaking selfish! Money for pampers, cloths, baby wipe, baby bed and materials can she provide?

I concur

It's best to avoid sex with her. Don't try it and break up with her if she is that desperate for marriage.

I foresee the girl pressuring you till all your defenses are down
I foresee her manipulating you to get her pregnant.
I foresee the misery and agony in the family


This I have seen

Drsnives:
I foresee the girl pressuring you till all your defenses are down
I foresee her manipulating you to get her pregnant.
I foresee the misery and agony in the family


This I have seen

God forbid and I forbid it too.

Na wah for you oooo.
You no get job,
You no get money,
And you one become father.

I pity you.

Just talk to the girl and make her understand the situation of things.

Cos in the end, there's always a difference between pikin and baby.

Use your head oga.
There's no erection for a poor man

ogashman:
get her preggy only if you have the resources to cater for the baby.



most times what these girls say in the morning is not usually what they say in the afternoon.



mouth don dey sweet her as she dey tell u to get her pregnant as if she has everything figured out.. but na same girl no go allow u rest when she finally get the belle.

Dem don show u something

Papertrails:
Please nairalanders I need your advice on something that has been bothering me for sometime now.

I am a young graduate who graduated from the university almost two years ago and am done with my youth service too but am still trying to get a job or put up something maybe a business that will be fetching me money considering the situation of our country in terms of availability of jobs.

Then there's is this girl I have been dating for three years and everything has been going well but recently she has been really disturbing me to come and see her people or get her pregnant, am someone that will do everything within my power to make sure my kids don't pass through the hardship I have passed through being someone that wasn't born with a silver spoon, and another thing is that I really love this girl.
Am really confused and don't know what to do.

Its like she doesn't trust you, so she want a security with the pregnancy or perhaps a Baby self

Get her d fvck pregnant if u really want her in your life.. things don't always work out the way we plan but no matter what, we adapt. Wrong advice it might seem but wish I got my ex preg years ago, now I get d money I nor see better person. Choose wisely, if u don't want her then don't but if u genuinely want her then go ahead so long u have done your homework that she's not being self-centered.. four years time I'd look back and be happy u took that risk. Money ain't everything son

talk2hb1:

Its like she doesn't trust you, so she want a security with the pregnancy or perhaps a Baby self

Sometimes she used to say that she feels I might leave her for another girl.

playapayaski:
Get her d fvck pregnant if u really want her in your life.. things don't always work out the way we plan but no matter what, we adapt. Wrong advice it might seem but wish I got my ex preg years ago, now I get d money I nor see better person. Choose wisely, if u don't want her then don't but if u genuinely want her then go ahead so long u have done your homework that she's not being self-centered.. four years time I'd look back and be happy u took that risk. Money ain't everything son

As it is right now I can't even afford baby food Talk more of Pampers and other things that come with child birth.

Papertrails:


God forbid and I forbid it too.

Continue forbidding
What has been written is written.. I just wish you a safe landing

But brother, I see tears

This I have seen

Papertrails:


As it is right now I can't even afford baby food Talk more of Pampers and other things that come with child birth.

Except u are lazy, totally helpless and not motivated.. and except she's totally dependent on u too then don't. 9 fuckingggg months is a long time to fix up at least 120k. Thing is we worry too much about what we can't get while neglecting what's right in front of us.
Non of those fuckstards rulling us now went to private uni, d president don't even have a degree. But nowadays we kill ourselves to send our children to 500k schools which don't guarantee intelligence and smartness to that child.. do as ur hand reach while working for better, love yours and take risks. That's what makes u human, try or fail but don't stay stagnant. Ur choice bro

Drsnives:

Continue forbidding
What has been written is written.. I just wish you a safe landing

But brother, I see tears

This I have seen

Oga it seems your life has been filled with nothing but negativity and you also wish others will toil that same part with you, you lie.

Papertrails:


Oga it seems your life has been filled with nothing but negativity and you also wish others will toil that same part with you, you lie.

Am with you in my prayed bro

Drsnives:

Am with you in my prayed bro

Pray for yourself self young man

Papertrails:
Please nairalanders I need your advice on something that has been bothering me for sometime now.

I am a young graduate who graduated from the university almost two years ago and am done with my youth service too but am still trying to get a job or put up something maybe a business that will be fetching me money considering the situation of our country in terms of availability of jobs.

Then there's is this girl I have been dating for three years and everything has been going well but recently she has been really disturbing me to come and see her people or get her pregnant, am someone that will do everything within my power to make sure my kids don't pass through the hardship I have passed through being someone that wasn't born with a silver spoon, and another thing is that I really love this girl.
Am really confused and don't know what to do.

Focus on your mission in life.

Look for scholarships abroad.

Build your mindset and success.

Travel around..get busy.

Forget marriage for now...focus on your mission to accomplish and succeed, bro.


You can let a woman tag along later.

Is her father a politician or rich? If no, boycott.

Is she working and earning a good salary? If no, boycott.

Choose women the way CEOs pick workers..you will avoid lot of future problems this way. Love na scam.

She only wants to lock you down. Once you get her pregnant, it will only get tougher.

Take this as an advice of an optimist that is also a realist.

i926:

Focus on your mission in life.

Look for scholarships abroad.

Build your mindset and success.

Travel around..get busy.

Forget marriage for now...focus on your mission to accomplish and succeed, bro.

Focus on yourself, be obsessed with getting successful.

You can let a woman tag along later.

Is her father a politician or rich? If no, boycott.

Is she working and earning a good salary? If no, boycott.

Be very selfish, work hard and be relentless.

Love na scam. She only wants to lock you down. Once you get her pregnant, it will only get tougher.

Take this as an advise of an optimist that is a realist.

Thanks alot....

Papertrails:


Thanks alot....

You don't need to thank me. Just sincerely looking out for another brother.

One fool told you to pregnant her. Don't try that. that's what irresponsible men and mistakes boys in their teens make. As a man, be responsible for your actions. If you want to pregnant her, don't complain...be man enough to fend for your baby mama/wife and baby.

Please break up with her. She'll land you both in trouble. The fact that you've been dating for a long time does not automatically mean it's guaranteed y'all will get married.


To the babes;
If you like stay there and date him for 10 years, aunty does he look ready for marriage?

If
Ya

Wanna

Reside

For

Villa


Then Link-Up

EzegeNdiigbo:
If

Ya


Wanna


Reside


For


Villa



Then Link-Up

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My Guy you don't need to be confused is your girlfriend that is confusing you

If you don't have any source of income do not think of having kids o Are you out of your sense

Use your brain Love is not by force



If she really loves you she will wait until you will settle down before both of you can plan of having kids even up to 10 kids no problem


Don't promise her what you know you can't fulfill

providencia:
Dem don show u something

my brother, i have been an insider....i know everything