Theben:
Bro, same thing is happening to me at the moment. I am not dating this lady though, but we had moments that almost led to sex.

She reports directly to me. I knew her to be hardworking and smart, but now she's displays unseriousness in the discharge of her duties. Unlike you, I can not even bring myself to querying her. It is really affecting my job.

Once you have sex with a girl it automatically means that you guys are dating
You better correct her where necessary and don't let her action cost you your job, this is the pure side effects of having anything to do with your colleague.

Shey you no sabi say once you lash any babe una two don become age mates, she go insult pepper comot for ya body only the few sensible ladies out there knows how to respect and adore their men irrespective of the sexual connection between them.

PlayMaker14:
My female boss almost made it happened between us but I just have to use wisdom to avoid any romantic affairs.

It all started when she noticed how calm and playful I am anytime I am talking with my ex during my lunch break. She came to meet me one morning and queried me for no making the flight reservations on time, I apologised and told her that it was due to the poor connection.

Then she asked if that's how I apologised when I did something wrong to my ex, (I knew she was driving at something) I told her not all the time and the her facial expression changed. "That's how you guys are" was her reply.

She has been having issues with her boyfriend, though she's the reserved type, but she decided to let me know about the little issue she's having as I was very close to her.

After resolving the issue with her boyfriend, she told me that they'll be getting married soon, but that was not meant to be as the guy lost his life in an accident.

She was devastated and almost ran mad during that period, I offered the little help I could as I was placed in charge of the office.

When she recovered fully, and back to work, I noticed she started giving me this "greenlight" which I don't find cool. I had to limit the way I chat with her and let her know that I was there to work and not to engage in office romance.

She's 3yrs older, so beautiful and young but I nor dey do office romance to avoid SEE FINISH.

HealerH:
Wrong title.

The problem is not the workplace. No. It is people being irresponsible... People mistaking business for courtship.

uc4uandc:

Sir, please don't!

uc4uandc:
NEVER DATE AT WORK PLACE
(A personal experience)

It was early August of 2020 when I got an invitation text to come for an interview in newly established entertainment industry here in the East.
We numbered over 300 who came for the interview and after much screening, 62 staff were selected.
The daily training was intense and interesting too because of the Manager we had, he was so detailed and funny also.
Amongst trainees were beautiful ladies of all shapes and sizes and intelligence.
The first day I saw my girlfriend, I didn't feel anything, she's very young and beautiful and opposing too (one of my likes about women). I realize she's a little opinionated, hence she got my attention.
We were all given appointment letter to our various positions. Mine was what I applied for but my gf didn't get hers, she was rather given something else. She came to me to complain since we are now friends and I told her that maybe the reason why she wasn't given the position she wanted was because she's short (Sarcastically, but I meant it)
She got angry and opposed me (I have a thing for women who oppose actions, especially when they have reasons). I apologized and we got along....... Boom we started dating.

#FASTFOWARD#
The next month, I got promoted to one of the managers, everyone was happy for me.
I have been a senior staff for like 8 months now and I must tell you that it has been a terrible experience.
My girlfriend is choking the hell out of me at work. She's very lukewarm in terms of carrying out her duties, when I confront her to do her work, she will tell me that I'm being too harsh on her. How can you litter your department like this and go home? she will tell me she's tired, I will have to assign someone else to do it, but it's her duty.
This keeps happening all the time, if I shout at her at work (when she gets on my nerves) she won't talk to me again for weeks and she won't greet me at work. If I ask her questions about sales, she won't reply me.
The most recent one was her and her colleagues misbehaving and I queried them, others replied my query, but she didn't. I wanted to let go, but one of the senior staff asked about her own reply to the query. I was forced to surcharge her N5,000 since she didn't reply, that means she's guilty.
After I served her the letter, she got angry and said "all the managers in this company are stupid" she said this to my face. Something she can't say to other managers.
Mehn! I was so furious and I was walking away when she threw her book at me, in front of other junior staff. OMG!...... I just walked away.
She's still keeping malice (her specialty) with me. I am not happy with her either.
I keep avoiding her so as not to get into more of what we are. But the work is suffering because of her dereliction.
Currently, I don't know how to tell her I don't want to be with her again, but I love her.

My advice
Never date at your place of work especially when you are bossing over her!

Sammy07:
Some of the things I don't do.

I don't date at my workplace
I don't date girls in my church
I don't date girls living around my hood.

daniel7328:
Well it happened to me recently when me and my ex gf were working in the same place, though she was a junior stuff to me because i was among those that trained her but along the line we started dating...

But trust me during working hours i treated her the same way i treated other staff, infact i feel i treated her worst to the extend that no one ever suspect us dating.. She do get angry most times but i do tell her that once we are at work then we must do work activities and am a different person at work and after work then am her bf, so she has to accept it that way not until she left... After she left, i was telling one of my close colleague that i dated her(my ex gf) but he didn't believe due to the fact on how i do treat her during work..

So don't allow any gf control you during working hours.....

Beloved3:


Wrong, even with your type of approach there is no guarantee you can always eat your cake and have it.

Different ladies have different personalities, and you may have met a soft one. Once a lady has receipts/evidences of your affairs she can manipulate you to have her way if she so wishes except you want everything you have done with her in secret to be exposed shamefully.

So as long as you are not the owner of the establishment, your approach of being strict to the said lady won't always work.

I'd advise everyone to stay away from office romance and focus on the job you went there to do.