ZIMDRILL:


you are the stupid, your woman is pregnant you want her to follow you to the farm

when go through different changes when pregnant from mood swings or hating food they used to like to eating weird foods, or even hating someone for no reason

grown up

Thank you.

But calling me names was not necessary, I just pray that something like this should not happen to you or a relative cos it's not funny.

SweetCunt97:
You for kukuma drop account number make people send you money naw cos I'm sure thats what you want. You pretty learned for someone going through ur condition shaaaa.

Thank you, I would have love seek financial help too but i'm not new here and i know the bashing and insults that comes with begging on this forum. I don't have the emotional strength to handle such now.



As for been learned, I earlier pointed out that i was not born deaf, and i also went school.

SweetCunt97:
Rubbish. Na una dey tolerate d nonsense naw. Mtcheeeew

nah her 1st belle o, grandma told us say nah so hin dey always do woman, if not me sef nah mr no-nonsense

udoji2021:


Thank you.

But calling me names was not necessary, I just pray that something like this should not happen to you or a relative cos it's not funny.

its to get your attention

For real how do you expect a pregnant woman to be very active in the farm? i wouldnt treat my wife like the way you treat your wife

Pregnant wife needs help too, i would advice you to get some marriage councelling

ZIMDRILL:


its to get your attention

For real how do you expect a pregnant woman to be very active in the farm? i wouldnt treat my wife like the way you treat your wife

Pregnant wife needs help too, i would advice you to get some marriage councelling

Do you know how old is the pregnancy and when she stop going to the farm? why are you not saying something about her violent behaviour?

you are making me look like the wrong party here which is not fair. upon all this, I still love her more than anything.



As for the marriage conselling, I suggested before that we should visit someone that is older than us and share our problems for possible solution but she refused. And personally, apart from money, I can do anything to make her happy cos she is all i have for now

udoji2021:


Do you know how old is the pregnancy and when she stop going to the farm? why are you not saying something about her violent behaviour?

you are making me look like the wrong party here which is not fair. upon all this, I still love her more than anything.



As for the marriage conselling, I suggested before that we should visit someone that is older than us and share our problems for possible solution but she refused. And personally, apart from money, I can do anything to make her happy cos she is all i have for now

it doesnt matter how old is the preganacy its matter of how she feels as for the violence part it did see it and i dont promote it and finally even if comment on it because the person who is doing it is not here to answer for herself

ZIMDRILL:


it doesnt matter how old is the preganacy its matter of how she feels as for the violence part it did see it and i dont promote it and finally even if comment on it because the person who is doing it is not here to answer for herself

It's Ok sir,

I accept the blame. just pray for me so that things will get better.



Thanks again for your time

udoji2021:
Life is sweet generally but can be cruel to others.

I was once a happy guy with a bright future but marriage is practically killing me. it all started when I become sick and was admitted in a hospital. my aged mother was the person staying with me and was responsible for my everything. inside the ward, another patient was with this very beautiful girl that was very hard working, my condition was critical that my mother will have to bath me sometimes, this girl now started helping my mother and to a point, my mother will leave her to be taking care of me and go home.

I become close to her, but i use to think that she just pity my condition and wanted to help so I did not think of having any relationship with her. I was later discharge and went home but since we exchange our contacts earlier, we use to talk often. I asked her one day to visit me which she agreed. To my surprise, this girl brought some provision for me and slept over in my house. she continue visiting till one day, I told her that if i was strong and capable, I would have loved to date her. she confessed instantly that she was really interested in me and did not care about my condition. According to her, she was born in a poor family and can handle the pressure of been broke, that she will be the happiest person if I love her back the way she loves me. I was moved with her words and to cut the story short, we started dating.

Her parents were highly against the relationship initially but when they become tired of us, they allow us to do our thing but never involve them if something happened. fast to December last year, we got married.i was not even able to pay 1h to her parents. she just pack her things and join me in my house. we were the happiest couple on Earth till things started going north.


First, we agreed to do many things in the farm against hunger next year, we started with melon farm, then groundnut and yams. we were still on this and I must confess that she is hard working but pregnancy came and this girl started misbehaving, she will not follow me to the farm again and will not even cook for me. I dare not complain cos she will insult me seriously. sometimes, I will tell my sister to cook but this girl will not eat it because the food is bad.

One night, she sent me out of the room in the night that I must get bananas for her to eat. I suffered that night till I got it from one woman on credit cos I was not having money on me. last month, she was sick and visited one private clinic, I was to 10k for her treatment but did not have the money so I told her to give me 4days to look for it, there was no insult I did not receive that night. I have to sell my yam seeds and pay. infact, I'm tired of this life presently cos i use to think that she will help me but the reverse is the case now.


please I need advice on the way forward, I want to run away from home but she is pregnant, her people refused to help us too cos they warn her before.

pls advice me



cc: lalasticlala

Pregnancy symptoms is all I see here.

udoji2021:


The Cross is Very heavy, To carry it till that time fit break my neck

Bro,i bliv you have no problem.her,reaction is as a result.pls read up on changes that occur during pregnancy.dont let people mislead you o.she needs you more now

One common mistake we make is that we don't think ahead and plan ahead.
Why will you not take preventive measures so you both delay having a baby till you are financially stable?

If you put the thought down and followed with corresponding action, you won't be in this situation now.

There isn't much advise that can help you. Whatever damage control you can employ, do but know that you must face your responsibility to that baby.

Carry your load

Poverty marry penury.

Nawa o, send her to her parents house, if she can't develop good mindset and respect you

na pregnancy wahala

udoji2021:
Life is sweet generally but can be cruel to others.

I was once a happy guy with a bright future but marriage is practically killing me. It all started when I become sick and was admitted in a hospital. my aged mother was the person staying with me and was responsible for my everything. inside the ward, another patient was with this very beautiful girl that was very hard working, my condition was critical that my mother will have to bath me sometimes, this girl now started helping my mother and to a point, my mother will leave her to be taking care of me and go home.

I become close to her, but i use to think that she just pity my condition and wanted to help so I did not think of having any relationship with her. I was later discharge and went home but since we exchange our contacts earlier, we use to talk often. I asked her one day to visit me which she agreed. To my surprise, this girl brought some provision for me and slept over in my house. she continue visiting till one day, I told her that if i was strong and capable, I would have loved to date her. she confessed instantly that she was really interested in me and did not care about my condition. According to her, she was born in a poor family and can handle the pressure of been broke, that she will be the happiest person if I love her back the way she loves me. I was moved with her words and to cut the story short, we started dating.

Her parents were highly against the relationship initially but when they become tired of us, they allow us to do our thing but never involve them if something happened. fast to December last year, we got married. I was not even able to pay 1h to her parents. she just pack her things and join me in my house. we were the happiest couple on Earth till things started going north.

First, we agreed to do many things in the farm against hunger next year, we started with melon farm, then groundnut and yams. we were still on this and I must confess that she is hard working but pregnancy came and this girl started misbehaving, she will not follow me to the farm again and will not even cook for me. I dare not complain cos she will insult me seriously. sometimes, I will tell my sister to cook but this girl will not eat it because the food is bad.

One night, she sent me out of the room in the night that I must get bananas for her to eat. I suffered that night till I got it from one woman on credit cos I was not having money on me. last month, she was sick and visited one private clinic, I was to give her 10k for her treatment but did not have the money so I told her to give me 4days to look for it, there was no insult I did not receive that night. I have to sell my yam seeds and pay. infact, I'm tired of this life presently cos i use to think that she will help me but the reverse is the case now.

Please I need advice on the way forward, I want to run away from home but she is pregnant, her people refused to help us too cos they warned her before.

pls advice me

Hahahahaha. It's her hormones kicking in, most pregnant women are like that, rich or poor

udoji2021:
Life is sweet generally but can be cruel to others.

I was once a happy guy with a bright future but marriage is practically killing me. It all started when I become sick and was admitted in a hospital. my aged mother was the person staying with me and was responsible for my everything. inside the ward, another patient was with this very beautiful girl that was very hard working, my condition was critical that my mother will have to bath me sometimes, this girl now started helping my mother and to a point, my mother will leave her to be taking care of me and go home.

I become close to her, but i use to think that she just pity my condition and wanted to help so I did not think of having any relationship with her. I was later discharge and went home but since we exchange our contacts earlier, we use to talk often. I asked her one day to visit me which she agreed. To my surprise, this girl brought some provision for me and slept over in my house. she continue visiting till one day, I told her that if i was strong and capable, I would have loved to date her. she confessed instantly that she was really interested in me and did not care about my condition. According to her, she was born in a poor family and can handle the pressure of been broke, that she will be the happiest person if I love her back the way she loves me. I was moved with her words and to cut the story short, we started dating.

Her parents were highly against the relationship initially but when they become tired of us, they allow us to do our thing but never involve them if something happened. fast to December last year, we got married. I was not even able to pay 1h to her parents. she just pack her things and join me in my house. we were the happiest couple on Earth till things started going north.

First, we agreed to do many things in the farm against hunger next year, we started with melon farm, then groundnut and yams. we were still on this and I must confess that she is hard working but pregnancy came and this girl started misbehaving, she will not follow me to the farm again and will not even cook for me. I dare not complain cos she will insult me seriously. sometimes, I will tell my sister to cook but this girl will not eat it because the food is bad.

One night, she sent me out of the room in the night that I must get bananas for her to eat. I suffered that night till I got it from one woman on credit cos I was not having money on me. last month, she was sick and visited one private clinic, I was to give her 10k for her treatment but did not have the money so I told her to give me 4days to look for it, there was no insult I did not receive that night. I have to sell my yam seeds and pay. infact, I'm tired of this life presently cos i use to think that she will help me but the reverse is the case now.

Please I need advice on the way forward, I want to run away from home but she is pregnant, her people refused to help us too cos they warned her before.

pls advice me

Bro she is pregnant and as a result she has hormones capable of swinging her mood. Please bear with her, she is a good woman. When a woman is pregnant she can misbehave for Africa, I have being there before.

Have you never interacted with a pregnant woman before?

udoji2021:
Life is sweet generally but can be cruel to others.

I was once a happy guy with a bright future but marriage is practically killing me. It all started when I become sick and was admitted in a hospital. my aged mother was the person staying with me and was responsible for my everything. inside the ward, another patient was with this very beautiful girl that was very hard working, my condition was critical that my mother will have to bath me sometimes, this girl now started helping my mother and to a point, my mother will leave her to be taking care of me and go home.

I become close to her, but i use to think that she just pity my condition and wanted to help so I did not think of having any relationship with her. I was later discharge and went home but since we exchange our contacts earlier, we use to talk often. I asked her one day to visit me which she agreed. To my surprise, this girl brought some provision for me and slept over in my house. she continue visiting till one day, I told her that if i was strong and capable, I would have loved to date her. she confessed instantly that she was really interested in me and did not care about my condition. According to her, she was born in a poor family and can handle the pressure of been broke, that she will be the happiest person if I love her back the way she loves me. I was moved with her words and to cut the story short, we started dating.

Her parents were highly against the relationship initially but when they become tired of us, they allow us to do our thing but never involve them if something happened. fast to December last year, we got married. I was not even able to pay 1h to her parents. she just pack her things and join me in my house. we were the happiest couple on Earth till things started going north.

First, we agreed to do many things in the farm against hunger next year, we started with melon farm, then groundnut and yams. we were still on this and I must confess that she is hard working but pregnancy came and this girl started misbehaving, she will not follow me to the farm again and will not even cook for me. I dare not complain cos she will insult me seriously. sometimes, I will tell my sister to cook but this girl will not eat it because the food is bad.

One night, she sent me out of the room in the night that I must get bananas for her to eat. I suffered that night till I got it from one woman on credit cos I was not having money on me. last month, she was sick and visited one private clinic, I was to give her 10k for her treatment but did not have the money so I told her to give me 4days to look for it, there was no insult I did not receive that night. I have to sell my yam seeds and pay. infact, I'm tired of this life presently cos i use to think that she will help me but the reverse is the case now.

Please I need advice on the way forward, I want to run away from home but she is pregnant, her people refused to help us too cos they warned her before.

pls advice me

Poor man no suppose to marry

See eh, some women changed to bad during pregnancy but will be back to their senses after childbirth

Tolerate her for now and do everything possible to satisfy her

Btw, I'm not too happy that you get married when you are not financially ok

DaddyRochie1642:
See why people are always advised especially men to be always be Financially stable before entering into Marriage.

See how this man is Weeping and gnashing his teeth because he didn't listen to logical advise... He probably watched too much Nigerian movies where the queen falls in love with the carpenter or welder and the got married and the lived happily ever after .

Oga I hope that you've now realized and seen that Real life and movies are two different things.

And to make matters worse, the woman is pregnant, how do you plan on taking care of the baby, the woman and yourself?

. how about someone a man who is 50 years and not yet Finnancially stable ,He should still wait till he is 80 years when the hope to even becomes Financially stable is not their ..Abeg Park for one side Jare ..Some men dey pass beyond their Boundary ,once U notice ,a woman demand and taste is higher than ur Pocket quit immediately .Na manage be life

Pacesetter2021:
One common mistake we make is that we don't think ahead and plan ahead.
Why will you not take preventive measures so you both delay having a baby till you are financially stable?

If you put the thought down and followed with corresponding action, you won't be in this situation now.

There isn't much advise that can help you. Whatever damage control you can employ, do but know that you must face your responsibility to that baby.

Very true.

I didn't plan well for this, I acted too fast but the deed has been done already.

thank you

why did you go into marriage when you at not financially stable? beside woman gets to be irritated most times during pregnancy so bear with her on that..they can eat anything during this time, so learn to Cope and still pet her.

women will alway change so we humans, you knew her well before marriage sets in so no surprise bringing this up....why not sit her down and talk to her, let her reason with you n remind her of how you guys started and how the future will be if you believe.

don't start regretting anything,everything will be fine again for I believe marriage is one of the most beautiful gifts God Almighty gave mankind so you are lucky..cheers!

Some women misbehave when they are pregnant. Take it easy with her, nothing is wrong.

udoji2021:


It happened so fast.

The girl was also good initially, I don't know what went wrong. I did not force her to fellow me to farm but atleast she can help by cookin food

udoji2021:
Life is sweet generally but can be cruel to others.

I was once a happy guy with a bright future but marriage is practically killing me. It all started when I become sick and was admitted in a hospital. my aged mother was the person staying with me and was responsible for my everything. inside the ward, another patient was with this very beautiful girl that was very hard working, my condition was critical that my mother will have to bath me sometimes, this girl now started helping my mother and to a point, my mother will leave her to be taking care of me and go home.

I become close to her, but i use to think that she just pity my condition and wanted to help so I did not think of having any relationship with her. I was later discharge and went home but since we exchange our contacts earlier, we use to talk often. I asked her one day to visit me which she agreed. To my surprise, this girl brought some provision for me and slept over in my house. she continue visiting till one day, I told her that if i was strong and capable, I would have loved to date her. she confessed instantly that she was really interested in me and did not care about my condition. According to her, she was born in a poor family and can handle the pressure of been broke, that she will be the happiest person if I love her back the way she loves me. I was moved with her words and to cut the story short, we started dating.

Her parents were highly against the relationship initially but when they become tired of us, they allow us to do our thing but never involve them if something happened. fast to December last year, we got married. I was not even able to pay 1h to her parents. she just pack her things and join me in my house. we were the happiest couple on Earth till things started going north.

First, we agreed to do many things in the farm against hunger next year, we started with melon farm, then groundnut and yams. we were still on this and I must confess that she is hard working but pregnancy came and this girl started misbehaving, she will not follow me to the farm again and will not even cook for me. I dare not complain cos she will insult me seriously. sometimes, I will tell my sister to cook but this girl will not eat it because the food is bad.

One night, she sent me out of the room in the night that I must get bananas for her to eat. I suffered that night till I got it from one woman on credit cos I was not having money on me. last month, she was sick and visited one private clinic, I was to give her 10k for her treatment but did not have the money so I told her to give me 4days to look for it, there was no insult I did not receive that night. I have to sell my yam seeds and pay. infact, I'm tired of this life presently cos i use to think that she will help me but the reverse is the case now.

Please I need advice on the way forward, I want to run away from home but she is pregnant, her people refused to help us too cos they warned her before.

pls advice me

This weekend...sit her down
Tell her how she has changed
Tell her u are fed up
Twll her u are taking a 2nd wife

Stand up, go inside and lie down

See what will happen next week and henceforth

Why would you want a pregnant woman to follow you to the farm? that's wickedness, you cant even pity her condition.

when you were sick, she helped you, now she is pregnant you want to kill her instead of loving her and doing all the chores.

Oga please be considerate, pregnant women go through a lot, they need all the care and love you can give them, yes they have mood swings, bear with them, and they request for the most impossible things, provide for them, your wife is a lovely person, she just needs to be loved!!!!

Pregnancy is enough as an excuse for her swings!!!!

udoji2021:
Life is sweet generally but can be cruel to others.

I was once a happy guy with a bright future but marriage is practically killing me. It all started when I become sick and was admitted in a hospital. my aged mother was the person staying with me and was responsible for my everything. inside the ward, another patient was with this very beautiful girl that was very hard working, my condition was critical that my mother will have to bath me sometimes, this girl now started helping my mother and to a point, my mother will leave her to be taking care of me and go home.

I become close to her, but i use to think that she just pity my condition and wanted to help so I did not think of having any relationship with her. I was later discharge and went home but since we exchange our contacts earlier, we use to talk often. I asked her one day to visit me which she agreed. To my surprise, this girl brought some provision for me and slept over in my house. she continue visiting till one day, I told her that if i was strong and capable, I would have loved to date her. she confessed instantly that she was really interested in me and did not care about my condition. According to her, she was born in a poor family and can handle the pressure of been broke, that she will be the happiest person if I love her back the way she loves me. I was moved with her words and to cut the story short, we started dating.

Her parents were highly against the relationship initially but when they become tired of us, they allow us to do our thing but never involve them if something happened. fast to December last year, we got married. I was not even able to pay 1h to her parents. she just pack her things and join me in my house. we were the happiest couple on Earth till things started going north.

First, we agreed to do many things in the farm against hunger next year, we started with melon farm, then groundnut and yams. we were still on this and I must confess that she is hard working but pregnancy came and this girl started misbehaving, she will not follow me to the farm again and will not even cook for me. I dare not complain cos she will insult me seriously. sometimes, I will tell my sister to cook but this girl will not eat it because the food is bad.

One night, she sent me out of the room in the night that I must get bananas for her to eat. I suffered that night till I got it from one woman on credit cos I was not having money on me. last month, she was sick and visited one private clinic, I was to give her 10k for her treatment but did not have the money so I told her to give me 4days to look for it, there was no insult I did not receive that night. I have to sell my yam seeds and pay. infact, I'm tired of this life presently cos i use to think that she will help me but the reverse is the case now.

Please I need advice on the way forward, I want to run away from home but she is pregnant, her people refused to help us too cos they warned her before.

pls advice me

hmmm this matter require wisdom Bro

I would advice you to solicit for help from your church.

she was the best since slice bread according to you
don't leave her just yet.
talk to friends, family, church & NGO'S to see how they can assist you in one way or another.

she love you just that some negative forces are at work somehow .

be very prayerful as well you never can tell village people fit dey involve.

May the Lord whose name is I AM perfect that which concerns you in Jesus name.
shalom

This is the time she needs you most... everyone with wife at home will understand better. Stay with her and tolerate her. At least through her pregnancy period. She will beg you afterwards

Marriage is for men, you 're lucky you married a woman with such a good heart. Someone who goes to farm with you and even agreed to marry you knowing fully well you have nothing.
Bro, give your wife time, pregnancy and poverty is giving her stress, she will come back to normal after childbirth .. Chuba ego hustle wella, you will come back here for testimony

Marriage no be by Force oooo .No Money No better Marriage , Money is the oil that Lubricates the Vehicle of Marriage ,once the thing is lacking the Marriage go just stay where it reaches .Try get a woman whose taste and desires is not more than ur Pocket ,men notice something's yet they went ahead because of Blind Love .

Bros, women react to pregnancy in different ways. No need for you to run away. Please stay and care for her in your own capacity. Believe me she will change once she gives birth.

God bless your home

Romanoff:
How do I even respond to this.

You married her cause she was caring and hardworking.

Things changed when she got pregnant. You what a pregnant woman to be following you to farm?

You didn't know she was setting you up when she was showing you care at the hospital? You no know say she just dey find husband by all means?

You knew you weren't financially capable of being married, you still allowed her push you even against the advice of her poor parents.

You done enter am na, face it alone.

Good luck o.

he's the one who wants to kill his wife