I will appreciate more of red-pillers and experienced married women to make comments for personal reasons. Thanks.

Background:
To relay this post, I created another moniker cos I'm very popular here with my usual moniker.
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I was due to marry this year. But due to a severe illness and some unforeseen circumstances that grounded me for like a year, I couldn't. I had to start afresh. I lost my job; but more importantly, I was only lucky to be alive and I'm grateful to God.
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The lady I was supposed to marry deserted me. But that's not the point. Today is my first date for like over a year after my misfortune. And I still can't resume job duty yet cos I'm not fit

Body:
While in the hospital a couple of young doctors were drawn to me cos they found me interesting and different, unknowing to them i'm also a doctor, but I din't reveal my status cos I was still hurting.
But somehow, I downloaded Tinder out of loneliness, and connected with a lady, she's like 24, in a private university. Cos of my issue, I din't follow up until last week, other than hi, hi
This weekend, we had a date, I told her all I've been through, and that I was in the hospital when I connected with her..I drove one of my Dad's car to go meet her in school, and afterwards we went out.
She was sweet. I like her. She was somehow cool. I spent like 5k...but the money isn't the issue honestly. And I dropped her back to schl after our outing.
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Conclusion:.
I was expecting her to call me, for like 24 hrs , she hasn't, I'm like isn't she supposed to call me? I don't want to fuck_ up or act clingy, so I haven't called her. I'm now so cynical and distrustful of ladies cos of my experience with my fiancee.
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I like this gal, I want to be serious with her..but I'm scared. What do you think ? Who's supposed to call first given the background story I related.
Thanks. Will appreciate mature and honest comments, as I don't want to start a new relationship on a wrong foot. Thanks.
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FTC
i dedicate the achievement to my secondary school french teacher who believed in me despite all odds.

Now to the topic at hand, charlie charlie told me that it will end in tears since you met her through tinder(inorganic date). Try to meet a lady organically ie without the intention of dating or relationship. Let everything thing develop naturally..

the spendie should call first to appreciate the spender..


but sim.ps would do otherwise

SmellySperm:
the spendie should call first

In a spender - spendie relationship

Elanqy:
In a spender - spendie relationship

eggxactly

Pretend:
I will appreciate more red-pillers to make comments for personal reason and experienced married women too. Thanks.

Background:
To relay this post, I created another moniker cos I'm very popular here with my usual moniker.
I was due to marry this year. But cos of a severe illness and some unforeseen circumstances that grounded me for like a year, I couldn't. I had to start afresh. I lost my job; but more importantly, I'm only lucky to be alive and I'm grateful to God.
.
The lady I was supposed to marry deserted me. But that's not the point. Today is my first date for like over a year after my misfortune.

Body:
While in the hospital a couple of young doctors were drawn to me cos they found me interesting and different, unknowing to them i'm also a doctor, but I din't reveal my status.
But somehow, I downloaded Tinder, and connected with a lady, she's like 24, in a private university. Cos of my issue, I din't follow up until last week.
This weekend, we had a date, I told her all I've been through, and that I was in the hospital when I connected with her..I drove one of my Dad's car to go meet her in school, and afterwards we went out.
She was sweet. I like her. She was somehow cool. I spent like 5k...but the money isn't the issue honestly. And I dropped her back to schl after our outing.
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Conclusion:

I was expecting her to call me, for like 24 hrs , she hasn't, I'm like isn't she supposed to call me? I don't want to Bleep up or act clingy, so I haven't called her. I'm now so cynical and distrustful of ladies cos of my experience with my fiancee.
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I like this gal, I want to be serious with her..but I'm scared. What do you think ? Who's supposed to call first given the background story I related.
Thanks. Will appreciate mature and honest comments. Thanks.
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She is supposed to call you first, at least just to let you know she got home safely. This is not a good sign bro, just be careful with her and keep searching you can't afford to experience heartbreak the second time.

SmellySperm:
the spendie should call first to appreciate the spender..


but sim.ps would do otherwise

This gal doesn't look wild, or crazy, she looks serious and moderate, also into medical stuff....I'm just trying to tread gently.

Pretend:

This gal doesn't look wild, or crazy, she looks serious also into medical stuff....I'm just trying to tread gently.

she doesn't look wild ke, medical stuff ke...

e go soon clear you for eye

If you're still deciding who should call whom first, then the first date wasn't really that successful

thesicilian:
If you're still deciding who should call whom first, then the first date wasn't really that successful

Truth is, I'm a bit confused....and wondering. Though everything went normal cos we both had fun

Pretend:

Truth is, I'm a bit confused....and wondering. Though everything went normal cos we both had fun

Well, continue wooing her. You the man and I'm sure she has other men who wants her as well. Simply give her a reason to be with u

SweetCunt97:
Well, continue wooing her. You the man and I'm sure she has other men who wants her as well. Simply give her a reason to be with u

Okay. So if I go by your prescription, and she fails to call for 3 or 4 days...when do you think I should call, and what shd be the content of my call?..

Enhance your skill today to achieve financial freedom

Pretend:

Okay. So if I go by your prescription, and she fails to call for 3 or 4 days...when do you think I should call, and what shd be the content of my call?..

You probably over thinking everything. I simply call to check if she got home safely makes u seem caring. Let down ur ego, remember you d one trying to convince her to be with u. So i see no reason why you'd expect her to call especially for a first date. It only becomes an issue when it turns into and habit and when that happens, you communicate.

SweetCunt97:
Well, continue wooing her. You the man and I'm sure she has other men who wants her as well. Simply give her a reason to be with u

@Pretend

The above advice is really cool.

To your question, you've not really create any memorable experience to warrant her emotions being engaged, you're a guy she's just meeting and you want her to be all over you?

When you go out with a lady on a date, if you drop her off at home safely, don't call her immediately, wait like for three to four days before calling her and fixing another date.

Serious guys use the phone to set up dates not give information, go out once a week, after the third date you'll notice subtle difference in her approach and attitudes towards you, and may likely consider a relationship with you.

however it depends on how you handle her as a man, and the kind of discussions you engage in. Ask questions that will indicate a sincere interest to know her.

More importantly after three dates and she's not reciprocating the vibe, leave her. Only deal with those who are willing to deal with you at your level. Peace

Tinder girls are not good bro. There are bunch of unserious girls in that place. Tinder is not a place to look for a girl.

Use Badoo. At least, you will see a few reasonable ones there who are looking to date. The usual normal girls.

Only runs girls full tinder. Use Badoo. I have met some reasonable good girls on that Badoo. I even met one lately, she is a banker. She works with one of the Banks. You will hardly see such on tinder. I have nothing less than 12 girls contacts from that platforms on my WhatsApp. Most of them are working. Anyone that write fun to be with, I do swipe left to unlike her.

I only chat those that write on their profile "here to date", "here to see what happens", then I check their pics. Anyone with leg chains or double ear piercing on their ears, I jejely swipe left to unlike.

The babe is supposed to reach out. But u can as well reach out to her. For instance, I went out with one babe like that I met on badoo. I took her to a bar and sit over some drinks. We spent like 2hrs there, hi over some drinks and all that. All throughout, I teased her and she was just laughing and all of that. After we left, she messaged me on WhatsApp with the content of the message that reads: "thanks for today. I really appreciate."

But if perhaps she didn't reach out, I would have still called her to find out if she got home safely. I usually do that for every lady I go on a date with. I must call u to find out you have gotten home.

Bro, sometimes ladies are like that. They want you to do everything. It is when they have developed love for you they will start doing the calling. But from the initial stage, u will be the one doing everything. Chatting her up, calling her. Today evening I just loaded my phone and started calling all my female friends one by one like a man with 12 wives.

So, if you like the babe, do the usual check up but make sure you tease her sometimes. Make her laugh on the phone saying funny things. Never underestimate the power of teasing and flirting with a woman. Those are the things that will make her start developing interest in you.

Why don't you just call her?

SweetCunt97:
You probably over thinking everything. I simply call to check if she got home safely makes u seem caring. Let down ur ego, remember you d one trying to convince her to be with u. So i see no reason why you'd expect her to call especially for a first date. It only becomes an issue when it turns into and habit and when that happens, you communicate.

Okay. I don't know ladies have a norm of not calling after a fun-filled date. I just want to know if it's normal..or some red flag.
I seriously don't want to waste my energy on anything that's not worth it. I'm still traumatised from my last experience. Thanks

Pretend:

Okay. I don't know ladies have a norm of not calling after a fun-filled date. I just want to know if it's normal..or some red flag.
I seriously don't want to waste my energy on anything that's not worth it. I'm still traumatised from my last experience. Thanks

Well, depends on d individual. Personally I'd call cos e no mean anything to me. I'll advice you to go for a mature lady who understands cos student still get young boys flocking around them.

With your experiences, you need a mature lady.

SweetCunt97:
Well, depends on d individual. Personally I'd call cos e no mean anything to me. I'll advice you to go for a mature lady who understands cos student still get young boys flocking around them.

With your experiences, you need a mature lady.

SweetCunt97:
You probably over thinking everything. I simply call to check if she got home safely makes u seem caring. Let down ur ego, remember you d one trying to convince her to be with u. So i see no reason why you'd expect her to call especially for a first date. It only becomes an issue when it turns into and habit and when that happens, you communicate.

Was confused when you made the above statement. nice you have another perspective

if you call her heaven won't fall
go ahead

I don't know about y'all.

But my date calls me after. If you don't call, well that's your bizwax cuz you ain't hearing from me again.

which one is "background".."body" nd "conclusion" again..
come..my friend is this term paper or something?

banjicom:


She is supposed to call you first, at least just to let you know she got home safely. This is not a good sign bro, just be careful with her and keep searching you can't afford to experience heartbreak the second time.

She doesn't like him.

@Pretend
Oga it is date and this thing you’re starting I hope you can finish it.
So answer me now, if she calls back and do all the dos and don’t correctly does that mean you will then start considering her for marriage.

If she didn’t call, then call if you need to.

The problem I see here is that you have started to build mountain on moll hills and simple reason is
You have start to expect more from her.

I know by now you have promoted her to a girlfriend and possible fiancé in your mind even when things are still causal.

I hope say you never go preach marriage talk for the date o

To who much is given, much is expected.
You have started to give her much of the attention and then you are kinda asking for a lot

My own concern here is a supposed responsible man about getting serious with a lady he met on a prostitute site (that's what I choose to call it because no responsible lady will be on the net looking for men).Foundation of everything in life matters,put your brain into active service and not your erection

Pretend:

This gal doesn't look wild, or crazy, she looks serious and moderate, also into medical stuff....I'm just trying to tread gently.

And you got her on Tinder. Even for abroad sef,Tinder get as e be. No to talk of Nigeria where we all know thats a Runz Girl platform.

On a first date, why shd u even be telling a girl a sob story, that u were sick and nearly died, hoping to get pity from her.

You funny o. They girls only want to hear soft stories, and sob stories as they are available, only for enjoyment.

Next time, keep your woes to your self. Share only the highs,till you are sure of her. Better not even share sef,cos they can constribute zilch.

As for me, though, once i take yiu out,drop you or uber you home and you dont call or text, thats the end. I aint ever calling you again. Her calling/texting is a gauge of interest.

coming2america:



And you got her on Tinder. Even for abroad sef,Tinder get as e be. No to talk of Nigeria where we all know thats a Runz Girl platform.

On a first date, why shd u even be telling a girl a sob story, that u were sick and nearly died, hoping to get pity from her.

You funny o. They girls only want to hear soft stories, and sob stories as they are available, only for enjoyment.

Next time, keep your woes to your self. Share only the highs,till you are sure of her. Better not even share sef,cos they can constribute zilch.

As for me, though, once i take yiu out,drop you or uber you home and you dont call or text, thats the end. I aint ever calling you again. Her calling/texting is a gauge of interest.

Cool

Pretend:
I will appreciate more of red-pillers and experienced married women to make comments for personal reasons. Thanks.

Background:
To relay this post, I created another moniker cos I'm very popular here with my usual moniker.
.
I was due to marry this year. But due to a severe illness and some unforeseen circumstances that grounded me for like a year, I couldn't. I had to start afresh. I lost my job; but more importantly, I was only lucky to be alive and I'm grateful to God.
.
The lady I was supposed to marry deserted me. But that's not the point. Today is my first date for like over a year after my misfortune. And I still can't resume job duty yet cos I'm not fit

Body:
While in the hospital a couple of young doctors were drawn to me cos they found me interesting and different, unknowing to them i'm also a doctor, but I din't reveal my status cos I was still hurting.
But somehow, I downloaded Tinder out of loneliness, and connected with a lady, she's like 24, in a private university. Cos of my issue, I din't follow up until last week, other than hi, hi
This weekend, we had a date, I told her all I've been through, and that I was in the hospital when I connected with her..I drove one of my Dad's car to go meet her in school, and afterwards we went out.
She was sweet. I like her. She was somehow cool. I spent like 5k...but the money isn't the issue honestly. And I dropped her back to schl after our outing.
.
Conclusion:.
I was expecting her to call me, for like 24 hrs , she hasn't, I'm like isn't she supposed to call me? I don't want to fuck_ up or act clingy, so I haven't called her. I'm now so cynical and distrustful of ladies cos of my experience with my fiancee.
.
I like this gal, I want to be serious with her..but I'm scared. What do you think ? Who's supposed to call first given the background story I related.
Thanks. Will appreciate mature and honest comments, as I don't want to start a new relationship on a wrong foot. Thanks.
.

she is supposed to call and say 'thank you for the time out'. well, I'd suggest you form busy by not calling her at all - and if she doesn't call to ask after you for a week or 2; forget her brother.