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Should I Confront My Brother's Wife? by CountVersailles(f): 6:47am On May 05, 2021
Maybe "confront" is the wrong word to use here, but let me explain.

My brother and I had been sharing an apartment for a few months before he got married. He recently left to take a separate place with his new wife, who I'm friends with. No issues between us. Since my brother left I have been staying in the old apartment alone and paying the rent all my myself. Now, my brother's wife who is quite sensitive about their finances thinks that my brother is still paying for the apartment. This is because he was the one paying before, since he had been staying there for months before I moved in.

Now, I can understand her concerns. The reason she is thinking this is because,
1. I am not working, and she knows. So, she cannot believe I can pay for the apartment which is quite expensive
2. she knows my brother was the only paying before I moved in.

She doesn't realize I have taken over the payment since last two months, and has been nagging my brother to stop paying for the apartment even after he insists he is no longer paying. Maybe, she thinks he's lying to him.

I hate that this is going on. Maybe it's my ego, but I feel like talking to her directly and telling her that her husband is no longer paying for the apartment. Is this something I should do?

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Re: Should I Confront My Brother's Wife? by niyiduke01(m): 6:58am On May 05, 2021
My piece of Advice.....1.How did you know that she has been nagging about your brother paying the rent..If it's your brother that told you, fine. Then you called everybody together I mean the 3 people involved. Explain to her and show the receipt of the last payment with your name written on it.Then you will save everybody a lot of headache.PEACE.

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Re: Should I Confront My Brother's Wife? by spinna: 7:06am On May 05, 2021
Just casually mention it in conversation..tell her you just came from seeing the landlord.Dont confront her

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Re: Should I Confront My Brother's Wife? by JagabanDesign: 7:08am On May 05, 2021
Let's wait for the elders

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Re: Should I Confront My Brother's Wife? by OmoOgunOriginal(f): 7:20am On May 05, 2021
spinna:
Just casually mention it in conversation..tell her you just came from seeing the landlord.Dont confront her


Gbam. Or just casually mention that you are broke because you just finished paying rent

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Re: Should I Confront My Brother's Wife? by OmoOgunOriginal(f): 7:21am On May 05, 2021
I would advise that you give her a wide berth afterwards. She clearly doesn't want good things for you. Does she expect that you should be thrown out and become homeless?

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Re: Should I Confront My Brother's Wife? by Pierocash(m): 7:25am On May 05, 2021
Why confronting or discussing the issue ? Forget it and move on like nothing happened.people like making issues out of nothing

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Re: Should I Confront My Brother's Wife? by donbachi(m): 7:37am On May 05, 2021
If u be her brother,she for no nag..i dont know why alot of women,thinks been a wife is have total control over a man.i will advice u neglect her.cos u dont owe her dat.also becareful.na her type dey accuse brother inlaws of attempted rape.

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Re: Should I Confront My Brother's Wife? by Michelle55: 7:49am On May 05, 2021
lipsrsealed Don't bother yourself with the woman's tantrums, na newly married life dey shack her. If it were to be her own brother, trust me she wouldn't mind in fact she will add more fuel just to make sure your brother keeps paying the rent.
Avoid her and act like you don't know what's going on, when she's through she'll calm down without being told. Some ladies Sha.. You never enter fully, you don dey misbehave already. True character don dey show small small, any flaws you can't show during courtship my brother/sister be careful with that person.

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Re: Should I Confront My Brother's Wife? by Kriss216: 7:51am On May 05, 2021
You owe no one any explanation!

Whatever she's thinking should be her business not yours. You're taking care of your bills, if she feels otherwise, that's her business!

Don't condescend too low to prove to people who are naturally created to be wicked and self-centered how you run your affairs.


I can bet my left ball, the only thing she's contributing to the family is just cooking and sweeping the house, nothing else. Daughters of Eve!

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Re: Should I Confront My Brother's Wife? by pyyxxaro: 7:51am On May 05, 2021
This type of issue happened to Desmond Elliot before he became a politician

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Re: Should I Confront My Brother's Wife? by madridguy(m): 7:56am On May 05, 2021
Evil wife. What's are business if it is your brother that is paying? Your brother has married a selfish wife that her only mission is to scatter your family.

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Re: Should I Confront My Brother's Wife? by CountVersailles(f): 8:00am On May 05, 2021
niyiduke01:
My piece of Advice.....1.How did you know that she has been nagging about your brother paying the rent..If it's your brother that told you, fine. Then you called everybody together I mean the 3 people involved. Explain to her and show the receipt of the last payment with your name written on it.Then you will save everybody a lot of headache.PEACE.
Yes, my brother told me. I already told him to explain to her that I'm now the one paying, but she doesn't believe him.

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Re: Should I Confront My Brother's Wife? by CountVersailles(f): 8:01am On May 05, 2021
spinna:
Just casually mention it in conversation..tell her you just came from seeing the landlord.Dont confront her
It's a serviced apartment, so there's no landlord. Maybe I'll mention I've been talking to the real estate guys. But the problem is that she may not even believe. She may think I'm just trying to convince her otherwise, because after my brother told her that he is no longer paying, she still doesn't believe him.

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Re: Should I Confront My Brother's Wife? by CountVersailles(f): 8:02am On May 05, 2021
Pierocash:
Why confronting or discussing the issue ? Forget it and move on like nothing happened.people like making issues out of nothing
Actually, I'm thinking of doing this. But maybe it's my ego. I hate that she may be looking at me like I'm dependent on my brother, which really I'm not. She is the one managing their finances.

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Re: Should I Confront My Brother's Wife? by spinna: 8:03am On May 05, 2021
CountVersailles:

It's a serviced apartment, so there's no landlord. Maybe I'll mention I've been talking to the real estate guys. But the problem is that she may not even believe. She may think I'm just trying to convince her otherwise, because after my brother told her that he is no longer paying, she still doesn't believe him.

F#@k whatever she believes.. just to let your own conscience be clear. As she no believe you or your bro she ma could be telling him various lies

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Re: Should I Confront My Brother's Wife? by Mariangeles(f): 8:04am On May 05, 2021
Don't tell her anything.
Just continue to mind your business.
Let the thought continue to torment her mind, since she doesn't want to give herself peace by minding her business.

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Re: Should I Confront My Brother's Wife? by Mariangeles(f): 8:07am On May 05, 2021
CountVersailles:

Actually, I'm thinking of doing this. But maybe it's my ego. I hate that she may be looking at me like I'm dependent on my brother, which really I'm not. She is the one managing their finances.

You don't have to prove anything to anyone.
Just live your own life and mind your business.
Whatever anyone thinks about you is their business.

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Re: Should I Confront My Brother's Wife? by adadike(f): 8:08am On May 05, 2021
My advice is for married women to treat their in-laws the same way they want their husbands to treat their family members

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Re: Should I Confront My Brother's Wife? by Nobody: 8:22am On May 05, 2021
Don't tell her shiit. Keep giving her the impression that your brother is still paying for the apartment, that way you would be able to know the kind of person she truly is.

They show their color after marriage, so she doesn't want your brother to support you. She is willing to see you live without a roof over your head

There is nothing bad in your brother supporting you when you are Yet to find your footing.

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Re: Should I Confront My Brother's Wife? by oluwafreshkid(m): 8:51am On May 05, 2021
This is a very sensitive issue. If you're married, you'll understand why his wife is concerned about finances.
Are you 100% sure you paid the last rent? Or you've just only agreed to pay when it's next due?
Do not take it up with his wife, cos you don't know the level of influence she has over him. It may cause a rift between you and your brother.
Emphatically tell you brother to make it clear to his wife that you're now in charge of the rent.
Device a means of "flaunting" or telling her how you're making money despite being jobless and connect it to paying the rent.
Shes a woman after all, if you know what I mean, so don't take up arms against her.

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Re: Should I Confront My Brother's Wife? by bestabigaelever(f): 10:40am On May 05, 2021
Resist the urge to shalaye
Ignore her in as much as she didn't confront you, don't confront her

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Re: Should I Confront My Brother's Wife? by johhbekeboh09: 11:25am On May 05, 2021
niyiduke01:
My piece of Advice.....1.How did you know that she has been nagging about your brother paying the rent..If it's your brother that told you, fine. Then you called everybody together I mean the 3 people involved. Explain to her and show the receipt of the last payment with your name written on it.Then you will save everybody a lot of headache.PEACE.
Re: Should I Confront My Brother's Wife? by Nobody: 12:08pm On May 05, 2021
No.
Re: Should I Confront My Brother's Wife? by Richy4(m): 12:15pm On May 05, 2021
I don't know your Gender but I still maintain you follow the way of Peace... Do not start burning any Bridge at the moment dear OP... It's too early also, put into consideration how you have been relating with your brother before she came...

Ignore every side talk, make your bond between you and your brother to be stronger... If she's the type that comes to the family to sow a seed of discord, prove to her that you were classier than that... I wish u a nice multinational company as you continue in search of a job...

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Re: Should I Confront My Brother's Wife? by Twelfthman: 1:43pm On May 05, 2021
Why bother yourself about whatever she thinks?
She is evil. Nah their way. Dey show true colors in marriage
My brother just live your life and if she stupidity confront you pls make sure u talk sense into her head to teach her a lesson she won't forget

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Re: Should I Confront My Brother's Wife? by Nobody: 2:06pm On May 05, 2021
See how vagina people break homes everywhere. This man and his brother have been living peacefully until a woman came into the picture. Now she has come to teach the man how to spend his money, the money she never contributed anything to make. Gld punish that your brother wife.

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Re: Should I Confront My Brother's Wife? by blazepascal(m): 2:36pm On May 05, 2021
what kind of woman is that .even if your brother is the one paying the house rent how is it her concern .

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Re: Should I Confront My Brother's Wife? by brownemmanuel43(m): 2:37pm On May 05, 2021
Sometimes I just wonder how a man will allow a woman to bring division in the family. I don't just understand the kind of men we have this days, no guts, no boldness to confront a woman.
Imagine living happily with your brother for months or years all of a sudden one useless woman will come and divide the brothers in the name of marriage
I don't blame the woman, I only blame that your simp brother, what were they discussing that could warrant such ranting from her.
I don't know why I no dey jam such idiot women me wey my head no correct u wan come separate me from my blood brother.
No woman born of a woman shall try that nonsense for my side, if u dare try that nonsense na straight to your papa house, I hate nonsense

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Re: Should I Confront My Brother's Wife? by whemmytopsy(m): 2:59pm On May 05, 2021
brownemmanuel43:
Sometimes I just wonder how a man will allow a woman to bring division in the family. I don't just understand the kind of men we have this days, no guts, no boldness to confront a woman.
Imagine living happily with your brother for months or years all of a sudden one useless woman will come and divide the brothers in the name of marriage
I don't blame the woman, I only blame that your simp brother, what were they discussing that could warrant such ranting from her.
I don't know why I no dey jam such idiot women me wey my head no correct u wan come separate me from my blood brother.
No woman born of a woman shall try that nonsense for my side, if u dare try that nonsense na straight to your papa house, I hate nonsense
God bless you.

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Re: Should I Confront My Brother's Wife? by ecomalchemist(m): 3:29pm On May 05, 2021
You can Never win with Vagina People, I suggest you just die the matter down and give her a cold shoulder.

Don't allow a woman break the bond you and your brother have, never.

She'd get the message.

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Re: Should I Confront My Brother's Wife? by Oizee(f): 3:48pm On May 05, 2021
no issue here now, just ignore her

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