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Re: Family Of Four And Above In One Room, How Do You Cope? (photo) by NamelessOGBENI(m): 6:27pm On May 13, 2021 |
225 KataKata Street Blues... Experienced that phase but thank God the story changed along the way, it's no miracle though, I had to leave home as quick as possible so as to provide ample space for my siblings, taking our bath everyday was like a marathon, cooking wasn't funny too and we still had to cope with the heat in a room with no proper ventilation. 3 Likes |
Re: Family Of Four And Above In One Room, How Do You Cope? (photo) by Pavore9: 6:32pm On May 13, 2021 |
sevenhundred: Nigeria as a country will not be forever and "might" is a word too risky to base birthing and raising such number of children on. 4 Likes |
Re: Family Of Four And Above In One Room, How Do You Cope? (photo) by Nobody: 6:33pm On May 13, 2021 |
Yeah,... we once live like that,... we survived it and Alhamdulilah for today. We are under our own roof ![]() ![]() 1 Like |
Re: Family Of Four And Above In One Room, How Do You Cope? (photo) by Uncleodi(m): 6:36pm On May 13, 2021 |
Lazycapitalist2: I remember counselling a patient about birth control and contraception generally. She just looked at me like I was wearing the back of my clothes ![]() You can take a horse to the river, but you cannot force it to drink water 4 Likes |
Re: Family Of Four And Above In One Room, How Do You Cope? (photo) by Uncleodi(m): 6:38pm On May 13, 2021 |
Greystone: Your neighbour should have instead asked the gate man to assist him get a second wife ![]() ![]() ![]() |
Re: Family Of Four And Above In One Room, How Do You Cope? (photo) by Dicedpineappple(f): 6:40pm On May 13, 2021 |
I honestly can't deal.... But many families grow out of it and become better... But I won't vouch for it.. |
Re: Family Of Four And Above In One Room, How Do You Cope? (photo) by jchioma: 6:41pm On May 13, 2021 |
Such living conditions are not fit for a growing family. The inconveniences are too many. It becomes quite discomforting for everyone and privacy becomes an issue. The reality is there are millions of family trapped in this kind of arrangement and it's sad. 5 Likes |
Re: Family Of Four And Above In One Room, How Do You Cope? (photo) by mrwonlasewonie: 6:44pm On May 13, 2021 |
PuZZyNegro:you no add the cultural factors.you go see Okada man, gateman or vulcaniser wey no see Food chop go dey get mind to marry 2,3 wives,carry all of them pack for inside 1 room with over 12 children Na those poor people wey dey fertile pass and their konji Na non stop ![]() 3 Likes |
Re: Family Of Four And Above In One Room, How Do You Cope? (photo) by Greystone: 6:45pm On May 13, 2021 |
Uncleodi: My neighbour was still a single man then sef ![]() 1 Like |
Re: Family Of Four And Above In One Room, How Do You Cope? (photo) by hansomb: 6:46pm On May 13, 2021 |
Sebastine1994:em em, the one holding phone, link us. |
Re: Family Of Four And Above In One Room, How Do You Cope? (photo) by Puhrs: 6:48pm On May 13, 2021 |
They will |
Re: Family Of Four And Above In One Room, How Do You Cope? (photo) by PuZZyNegro: 6:58pm On May 13, 2021 |
xandy84: You said Sociologist but I stated in my submission, Economists. Geographers will have a different view, so will other disciplines 4 Likes |
Re: Family Of Four And Above In One Room, How Do You Cope? (photo) by PuZZyNegro: 7:01pm On May 13, 2021 |
mrwonlasewonie: Actually, what I stated is the model that affect fertility in Nigeria. If I should include other factors like culture, religion, social security, health system, insurance, family planning, education of the girl child, early marriage, mass media, etc. Those are the normal factors but I only stated the model child bearing is a function of the four factors where two of the factors are positively related to child bearing while the other two are negatively related to it. |
Re: Family Of Four And Above In One Room, How Do You Cope? (photo) by smogia1994(m): 7:03pm On May 13, 2021 |
I could remember vividly in ABUJA in the year 1994-2003, my dad mum and 4 children lived in a single room located at kubwa. We stuggled thru thin d thick to make sure we survived, me as a growing boy I saw fault in it. I wasn't happy if the situation den but wat can I do. We prayed and fasted for things to get better. Boom my parent had the last child making it 5 in a single room that is 2005. We were mocked by neighbor, laughed and make jest of. I was always blaming my self that why was I brought up in this type of life but then we strive and conquered. In 2005 obj the den president started selling govt houses to people in which we occupied. My dad was so fortunate to have gotten and applied for the said house. Out neighbors that mocked and make jest if us was vindicated from the 2 bedroom flat we are the only occupant. Things started getting better from there. Those houses were sold for abt 900k by fed govt to be paid for 35yrs. Now we are landlords in abj and the said house is estimated over 15-20m Never forget ur humble beginnings, don't ever accept failure if u fall stand. To rent hus in abj for a 2bed room in the said area it's estimated to 700k see how God does his thing. But not withstanding say no to too much children, 2 is okay. Even the rich have just 1 or 2. Be wise and stay good 10 Likes |
Re: Family Of Four And Above In One Room, How Do You Cope? (photo) by Lastmankc(m): 7:03pm On May 13, 2021 |
Sebastine1994:The skull slammer,you don slamm skull to the extent your forehead don turn black.Very soon, you will need a skull transplant. 3 Likes |
Re: Family Of Four And Above In One Room, How Do You Cope? (photo) by sylvez(m): 7:17pm On May 13, 2021 |
michlins: "Gone are the days you hope for a better tomorrow" so which tomorrow are you going to be "comfortable enough before getting married" or Which year are you going to have "financial strength to do it"? is it when you are 40 or 50? What happened to planning for the future? building together? You, the OP and every other person commenting are all making sense, but we all must understand that: 1. Poverty is relative 2. Being rich is also relative 3. Different people exist for different reasons 4. Money is everything but everything is not money 3 Likes |
Re: Family Of Four And Above In One Room, How Do You Cope? (photo) by Femsyn(m): 7:19pm On May 13, 2021 |
Another quiet but key reason people birth many children is mere competition. Mama Ejiro has 5 children, I must have more. Its just bragging rights, that even the couples don't talk about. Even now, couples, if not for restraint, tend to feel pressured when colleagues are having certain number of children. Strange, but this is reality! 4 Likes |
Re: Family Of Four And Above In One Room, How Do You Cope? (photo) by FatherCHRISTMAS(f): 7:19pm On May 13, 2021 |
Nice post op. The thing is that kind of setup isn't strange. Alot of people started like that. It's not as if father's and mothers want to start like that but..... We were 8 in a room before uncle Mikael joined us. Thank God things changed gradually |
Re: Family Of Four And Above In One Room, How Do You Cope? (photo) by Alicio: 7:19pm On May 13, 2021 |
[Chai! Only if I could give you a hundred like. You got the idea.quote author=PuZZyNegro post=101654989]In Economics, low income families give birth to many children because to them, children are investment goods while high income families give birth to fewer children because to them, children are consumption goods. To a rich man, children are substitute goods, to a poor man, children are complementary goods. Factors that affect the fertility rate in Nigeria are 1. Price (cost) of raising children 2. Income of the household 3. Taste and preference 4. Cost of other goods. Now, looking at the cost of raising children, a man that lives at Lekki will definitely want to have fewer children because the cost of raising one child is high considering the environmental factors like school fees, rent, etc. Unlike a man living at Ijegun that will only need to drop 500 naira at home for the lunch of 5 children. Now, you know why someone living in the low-brow area of the city will most likely give birth to more children? Because it costs him less to raise them. They can go to government school for all that he cares! Income of the household. Lower income should have mean fewer number of children but the reverse is the case in this country due to lack of education and exposure. Taste and preference. People with high taste will want to have fewer number of children so to maintain a minimum living standard. Cost of other goods. The higher the cost of other goods, the fewer the number of children should be. Nigeria has factors 2 and 4 to help us reduce the population boom but high level of ignorance rather made it to work against us. If you took your time to read this, please save the society by giving birth to no more than 3 children irrespective of the genders. Whatever 6 children will do for you, 3 children when properly trained can do it. [/quote] 2 Likes |
Re: Family Of Four And Above In One Room, How Do You Cope? (photo) by mrwonlasewonie: 7:26pm On May 13, 2021 |
PuZZyNegro:chaiii I don't see this antecedents stopping anytime soon plus the almajari system/culture has made it worse ![]() You go see 19 year old pikin wey be normadic cow rearer dey marry 3 underage wives.. Tufiakwa ![]() |
Re: Family Of Four And Above In One Room, How Do You Cope? (photo) by Saintinoo(m): 7:32pm On May 13, 2021 |
RealSolution001:In as much as these people live in poverty and cannot afford a comfortable house still does not mean they are losers, atleast you also live in thesame one room apartment as them. Some people have tried, worked, looked for job and just couldn't make it pass that level, so if they decide to bring up a family in that financial state it is their choice. |
Re: Family Of Four And Above In One Room, How Do You Cope? (photo) by Blueelf: 7:34pm On May 13, 2021 |
Sebastine1994: Lollll bro you're funny sha Pretty sisters by the way |
Re: Family Of Four And Above In One Room, How Do You Cope? (photo) by AuroraB(f): 8:00pm On May 13, 2021 |
Sebastine1994:Your forehead ![]() ![]() |
Re: Family Of Four And Above In One Room, How Do You Cope? (photo) by babsbolad: 8:03pm On May 13, 2021 |
jaszplus12:It sounds fallacious. |
Re: Family Of Four And Above In One Room, How Do You Cope? (photo) by labelle123(f): 8:11pm On May 13, 2021 |
CharisEleos:. So it is the women fault now? Thought it takes two to tango |
Re: Family Of Four And Above In One Room, How Do You Cope? (photo) by Olawalelead(m): 8:11pm On May 13, 2021 |
God knows tomorrow... |
Re: Family Of Four And Above In One Room, How Do You Cope? (photo) by Nobody: 8:18pm On May 13, 2021 |
BigYash: Imagine... How did he even find out the woman was using preventive measures? Her carelessness. That man is not normal. He's under influence of alcohol therefore will never be in his right senses to see the havoc he's causing himself and the society at large or even reason to stop. 1 Like |
Re: Family Of Four And Above In One Room, How Do You Cope? (photo) by Nobody: 8:20pm On May 13, 2021 |
It is stupidity to get married or be married to a man who lives in one room. It is not compulsory to live in the city, if you are reading this and you are living in one room with your family, you are very stupid. It is best to return to your village and till the land of your ancestors even if it is a mud house, at least for fucck's sake, build room to accommodate at least each person. Oxygen debt and asphyxiation kills. Poor people have the sharpest diccks I heard, it is not supposed to be so. 5 Likes |
Re: Family Of Four And Above In One Room, How Do You Cope? (photo) by Nobody: 8:21pm On May 13, 2021 |
labelle123: So if it takes two to tango, one person should now lose his or her sense of reasoning because the other person refused to have Sense? Spare me that weak line. Biko. 2 Likes |
Re: Family Of Four And Above In One Room, How Do You Cope? (photo) by BigYash: 8:26pm On May 13, 2021 |
CharisEleos:Very stupid man. There was a day I went to stop him from killing his wife. They ended the fight after they injured me. Come see as everybody dey beg me that night. Cux i be wan just call some boys,make them flog the man. I just overlook cause of my landlady who called me, to beg immediately on his behalf. He once used knife on a 100l student. He spent weeks in detention. He get stick for flogging is wife and another for his kids. The man funny no be small. 4 Likes |
Re: Family Of Four And Above In One Room, How Do You Cope? (photo) by jaszplus12(m): 8:28pm On May 13, 2021 |
babsbolad:Hmmm...so it seems.... when you hear the whole story it's like a fairy tale...but it's really true. If I didn't meet the wife I would have doubted myself, and my friend who told the story at the beginning isn't one to tell tall tales.... |
Re: Family Of Four And Above In One Room, How Do You Cope? (photo) by Nobody: 8:35pm On May 13, 2021 |
BigYash: Hmm... Pathetic! |
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