We dated for good seven years, i have never seen her with anyone around, we both graduated school i was posted to serve my NYSC in kaltungo of Gombe state and she was sent to Ogun , since then we've not been making calls, we just chat on whatsapp and telegram, but nowadays she has not been online and her number has not been reachable, i decided to contact one of her friend, she told me that she has been with one Alhaji and he's gotten her a bank job. . . . i felt sick for that. . .and now i have moved on hustling hard, and i now realized that trusting women was a bad idea. . .

Trusting women in your life or the ones you have met may have been a risk.

Trusting humans is a risk. It's not gender based . Don't generalize.


Learn to understand that when you are starting out in your walk of life , not everyone believes enough in you to stick it out with you.

Not because they hate you or are untrustworthy but mostly it's out of survival.


We're all fighting to survive and may do some desperate things.



Even YOU !

Life's hard ,baby.

A woman that gave you 7 years of her life just for dating should be applauded.


Don't let Nairaland boys mess with your head.

Now u have learnt ur lesson....we move

Now you know.

Rule 1: Trust no woman

Rule 2: Don't spend a dime on any woman

Rule 3: Break their heart before they break yours.

princeiceberg:
We dated for good seven years, i have never seen her with anyone around, we both graduated school i was posted to serve my NYSC in kaltungo of Gombe state and she was sent to Ogun , since then we've not been making calls, we just chat on whatsapp and telegram, but nowadays she has not been online and her number has not been reachable, i decided to contact one of her friend, she told me that she has been with one Alhaji and he's gotten her a bank job. . . . i felt sick for that. . .and now i have moved on hustling hard, and i now realized that trusting women was a bad idea. . .

Before nko uncle. Maybe if she eventually lose d one alhaji helped her with and you offer to get her another one she will remember you. I don't know why people still disturb themselves with this imaginary love.

moriss33:
Now u have learnt ur lesson....we move

for sure, life wasn't easy with women

princeiceberg:
We dated for good seven years, i have never seen her with anyone around, we both graduated school i was posted to serve my NYSC in kaltungo of Gombe state and she was sent to Ogun , since then we've not been making calls, we just chat on whatsapp and telegram, but nowadays she has not been online and her number has not been reachable, i decided to contact one of her friend, she told me that she has been with one Alhaji and he's gotten her a bank job. . . . i felt sick for that. . .and now i have moved on hustling hard, and i now realized that trusting women was a bad idea. . .

She was only dating you then cos of what she was collecting from you.

Even if you were married to her if she sees another man who could service her needs better than you, she would divorce you for the man.

Some relationships are needs driven while some are affection driven.
As it is with some women, so also it is for some men.
Take heart bro. Better lady with love filled heart will come your way

Osebanjo:
Before nko uncle. Maybe if she eventually lose d one alhaji helped her with and you offer to get her another one she will remember you. I don't know why people still disturb themselves with this imaginary love.

this was my first experience , and now life goes on.

princeiceberg:
We dated for good seven years, i have never seen her with anyone around, we both graduated school i was posted to serve my NYSC in kaltungo of Gombe state and she was sent to Ogun , since then we've not been making calls, we just chat on whatsapp and telegram, but nowadays she has not been online and her number has not been reachable, i decided to contact one of her friend, she told me that she has been with one Alhaji and he's gotten her a bank job. . . . i felt sick for that. . .and now i have moved on hustling hard, and i now realized that trusting women was a bad idea. . .

As you said earlier this is your first experience, you know what next.
We move!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Life happened bro. It's a cold world out there. Move on. Never feel bad for losing a Whooore

princeiceberg:
We dated for good seven years, i have never seen her with anyone around, we both graduated school i was posted to serve my NYSC in kaltungo of Gombe state and she was sent to Ogun , since then we've not been making calls, we just chat on whatsapp and telegram, but nowadays she has not been online and her number has not been reachable, i decided to contact one of her friend, she told me that she has been with one Alhaji and he's gotten her a bank job. . . . i felt sick for that. . .and now i have moved on hustling hard, and i now realized that trusting women was a bad idea. . .

welcome to the club, you can never lose

Heyy guy, you should be ashamed of yourself,. Can't you see, she has seen the light? God has finally picked her call,. You should be happy for her,. Instead of trying to get back into her life.. so you can come in and pour sand sand into her golden opportunity.. so she's smart for blocking your number.. the period she was with you, was she able to get a good job? Only God when? just delete her number from your cell asap. and move on with your life.. you aren't for her. because you are rather selfish, stone hearted, insensitive and grossly irresponsible.. I'm sorry, buh it has to be said,. Because I highly doubt if you have a conscience. Jeez, I'm so angry rn.. how in God's earth were you able to date (deceive) her for seven good years without actually popping the question and turning her into a wife,. is beyond me . Maybe perhaps when she gets to menopause? Haba Op, fear God! Smh, well, I also have to blame her. For sticking with you for that long,. she should have actually told you to your face or communicated to you directly that it's over.. before proceeding to blacking you out of her life for good! I mean, Good riddance to bad rubbish, 7 years is not 7 months.. after all the sacrifices and commitment she has made and invested in the relationship.. what did she get in return? Wasted years.. you know what? you should be thrown into a solitary confinement for seven years,. So you know exactly what it really feels like to be held down for seven years without progressing or moving forward!! What nonsense!!

Na so the life be, lesson learnt. Move on and stop this noise making

doggedfighter:
.

my sister you are wicked for compounding this brothers problem for not saying anything

My guy why not focus on your hustle and make some money then you can bleep as much girls as you want and dump them when you are done.

Do you think it's love that small girl saw in Bed Nwoko that made her marry him. Girls are moved by material things.

Forget the Africa Magic love movies, no true love anywhere. Love na scam cos when better opportunity arises they will switch.

princeiceberg:
We dated for good seven years, i have never seen her with anyone around, we both graduated school i was posted to serve my NYSC in kaltungo of Gombe state and she was sent to Ogun , since then we've not been making calls, we just chat on whatsapp and telegram, but nowadays she has not been online and her number has not been reachable, i decided to contact one of her friend, she told me that she has been with one Alhaji and he's gotten her a bank job. . . . i felt sick for that. . .and now i have moved on hustling hard, and i now realized that trusting women was a bad idea. . .

Move on with your life bro, it's obvious she wasn't the one for you.... Take your Redpill and move on.

The funny thing is that if the case was reversed all our wannabe nairaland feminists would have flooded this thread shouting "MEN ARE SCUM"

that's normal based on the agreement coming from d gee who gave her d job...trust nobody my mann

Nigerian girls are useless

Cholls:
my sister you are wicked for compounding this brothers problem for not saying anything

Sorry I am not. . I have done so now. I got distracted.

Enjoy your day, dear

Imagine me suffering for 7 years and I see someone who wants to help me out and you want me not to take such an offer?

Imagine me being offering visa to leave this current Nigeria to a better country and you want me to reject the offer because I once "pledge to Nigeria my country, to be faithful, loyal and honest''?

Imagine me working for a company for 7 years with 100k salary and I got an offer from another company with salary of 500k and you want me not to take such an offer because of the years I've spent with the company?

Who no like better thing...?
Move on with your life, nobody like to suffer.
You'll meet someone else, I don't like hypocrisy in any form.

7 years no be beans, the best way of break up without hurting anyone feelings is the "Ghosting Method" of whom she applied because she doesn't want to hurt your feelings with words.

If Alhaji works for her, let her be... Alhaja might work for you someday and if Alhaji fail her in the future she'll count her losses and try Musa... Life goes on.

As long as you're not legally married to a lady or a guy, erase the entitled mentality of she/him being yours.

princeiceberg:
We dated for good seven years, i have never seen her with anyone around, we both graduated school i was posted to serve my NYSC in kaltungo of Gombe state and she was sent to Ogun , since then we've not been making calls, we just chat on whatsapp and telegram, but nowadays she has not been online and her number has not been reachable, i decided to contact one of her friend, she told me that she has been with one Alhaji and he's gotten her a bank job. . . . i felt sick for that. . .and now i have moved on hustling hard, and i now realized that trusting women was a bad idea. . .

That's ladies for u, Majority of them are into dating just because of wat u can offer at that time, once they see highest bigger they move without thinking twice. Move on and work on urself and ur future.

See, the way most men can do anything, including ritual to make money and survive this Nigeria is the way some women can also do anything (mostly with their body) to survive. They have needs too, you know.

Leave women matter and hustle with no seizing. If she is my sis, I will pat her in the back sef. Brokenness is a disease that should be battled.

Trust no one be it women or men if you dey street u suppose understand things like this.
Sorry shall but give ppl benefits of doubt so anything happen u nor go surprise not trusting totally per say.

Never make a hoe a housewife

You'd do the same if you were in her shoes. Take heart.

Shortyyy:
You'd do the same if you were in her shoes. Take heart.

Are you justifying that?

federal9:



Are you justifying that?

Yup.

princeiceberg:
We dated for good seven years, i have never seen her with anyone around, we both graduated school i was posted to serve my NYSC in kaltungo of Gombe state and she was sent to Ogun , since then we've not been making calls, we just chat on whatsapp and telegram, but nowadays she has not been online and her number has not been reachable, i decided to contact one of her friend, she told me that she has been with one Alhaji and he's gotten her a bank job. . . . i felt sick for that. . .and now i have moved on hustling hard, and i now realized that trusting women was a bad idea. . .

Trusting a woman is never a bad idea!

But not been able to execute a personal plan in life.is a terrible idea.

You can date a lady and at the time of temptation it means nothing because of choices that would be made.

Now how would you feel.if you found out that the new relationship she is in may probably fail in less than a year because of unfulfilled promises

Everyone is battling with one form.of.temptation or another.

So.forgjve,forget and move on with your new found freedom

Shortyyy:
You'd do the same if you were in her shoes. Take heart.

Exactly he will

Lol


When guys refuse to learn about the manipulative natures of those female gender easily,they learn it the hard way.


My own be say make u no go drink Sniper ooh


Next time you carry yourself enter another relationship with those manipulators

She hasn't been online,her number hasn't been connecting and HER FRIEND TOLD U she's with one alhaji

And u concluded. Well the friend MIGHT be right but I think u should hear from her first and not conclude with what her friend told u
Anyone can get anyone a job

If it were to be u and one alhaja promised u a job you'd be close to her

The country is hard, everybody is out here to survive