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Cutting The Connection Between My Wife And Her Male Besty by Nobody: 6:57am On May 25, 2021 |
Good morning everyone. I am a young man newly married to a 22 yr old lady. our marriage is just 2 months old. Before I met my wife in 2019, she has this male best friend who they have been best friends even before I met her though my wife is a social and jovial person always cheerful, she easily makes friends wherever she finds herself that's her nature and kind of personality. Right now her friendship with that her male friend is what am becoming uncomfortable with right now because of the so much attention she is lavishing on him. I have complained to her that I am not comfortable with her closeness with the guy but she is seeing it that am trying to cut her off from her friends. One interesting part of the whole thing is, since we got married the guy has been trying to distance himself from her a bit knowing too well that she is now married but my wife is even the one doing all she could to keep the friendship going the way it has been going. 2 days ago I and my wife were together she called the guy complaining bitterly how he has been distancing himself from her. My people what do you think I should do to cut down that connection or will the friendship grow week by the day on it's own? My wife is refusing to understand that in marriage there are things u will have to let go. 224 Likes 21 Shares |
Re: Cutting The Connection Between My Wife And Her Male Besty by Lalami3232(m): 6:59am On May 25, 2021 |
Lol ![]() 1. Maybe the guy and ur wife na just normal friends wey don share alot in common, though without sex sha. The friendship don too tight sotey ur wife dey find am difficult to leave the guy. 2. The guy na ur wife one time bedmate wey still dey bust ur wife head with he sex and friendship. So wetin u go na to talk to ur wife maturedly without any shouting or false accusation because u no get proof say dem dey do anything evil. Tell her say u no dey comfortable with the friendship cus preeq and toto matter be like bread and butter for this generation, very easy to eat. If she still no stop, then u go leave her alone cus if u use force, she go dey dodge dey go meet the guy for back. But my number 1 advise to u be say, OGA DO DNA FOR UR CHILDREN OOOO, E GET WHY. I don talk am before and I go talk am again "The day my wife go born girl pikin, I go cry like who dem say na Lai Mohammed be he papa". 868 Likes 79 Shares |
Re: Cutting The Connection Between My Wife And Her Male Besty by AntiWailer: 7:00am On May 25, 2021 |
Leave her and watch. When it is open, it won't be easy to change it to anything. Once she keeps that relationship secret and away from you, then anything can happen in the secret and in the dark. With time, she will outgrow him once that one faces his life squarely. 156 Likes 17 Shares |
Re: Cutting The Connection Between My Wife And Her Male Besty by Augla1: 7:02am On May 25, 2021 |
Just as you said if you leave it, it will grow 'week by day'. You know what Geometric progression is 44 Likes 9 Shares |
Re: Cutting The Connection Between My Wife And Her Male Besty by Sundrus: 7:02am On May 25, 2021 |
If u truly want make that friendship wane out naturally, become friend with that her bestie. 472 Likes 28 Shares |
Re: Cutting The Connection Between My Wife And Her Male Besty by Nobody: 7:03am On May 25, 2021 |
OK. Don't just assume anything funny. Your wife being naturally jovial and bestie being wise to know that some things such as their being too close for his comfort have to let go upon marriage. 9 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Cutting The Connection Between My Wife And Her Male Besty by Jeon(f): 7:04am On May 25, 2021 |
Nacoss25: hi don't marry you pple will not listen.. 102 Likes 6 Shares |
Re: Cutting The Connection Between My Wife And Her Male Besty by zeuss: 7:07am On May 25, 2021 |
Have a lady call you always......and let her complain also. 647 Likes 42 Shares |
Re: Cutting The Connection Between My Wife And Her Male Besty by hybrid11(m): 7:07am On May 25, 2021 |
The future is female Maybe that is the only male friend she trust but let me advice you if you want to live long , bro live your life,no d put eye for woman matter before bp go hold u, act cool ,drink water ,play,smile ,pray Remove the spirit of suspecting her or whatever if not guy na u go loose o 83 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Cutting The Connection Between My Wife And Her Male Besty by xpressionx(m): 7:08am On May 25, 2021 |
My girlfriend will never have male bestie. From Bestie pant go shift. The day my ex girlfriend confessed that she kissed her bestie when they were drunk.....the relationship ended in my heart that very moment. I cant comman kill myself by myself. 411 Likes 28 Shares |
Re: Cutting The Connection Between My Wife And Her Male Besty by sonofthunder: 7:11am On May 25, 2021 |
Nacoss25: Make it your fulltime job to replace him in her life. 17 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Cutting The Connection Between My Wife And Her Male Besty by Jeon(f): 7:11am On May 25, 2021 |
xpressionx: nah so your ex girlfriends and bodycounts take increase ![]() LOLLITTAA MY MENNY GOOD MORNING 7 Likes |
Re: Cutting The Connection Between My Wife And Her Male Besty by ChiefSosa(m): 7:22am On May 25, 2021 |
NEVER LET YOUR GIRL HAVE A MALE BESTIE. YOU SHOULD BE HER BESTIE; THAT'S WHY YOU'RE HER COMPANION. There's something your wife is definitely not telling you. Something must have happened. You married a 22y/o, bro that's very risky o. Make her jealous by getting your own bestie, watch how she'll react. There's been some sanity since we've not heard of Lovetha, by the way. 183 Likes 14 Shares |
Re: Cutting The Connection Between My Wife And Her Male Besty by Bigdik70inch2(m): 7:35am On May 25, 2021 |
see ehn........ Yo wife might love u Ooo......reason why she got married to you......but jux know she enjoys the big fat dick of her bestie and wouldn't let go easily .......... That's just it........ 28 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Cutting The Connection Between My Wife And Her Male Besty by Sunmolar(m): 7:38am On May 25, 2021 |
What are the sweet things she told you about her friends before & after your marriage? It will help one to know the nature of their friendship & the possible solution to pulling the plug. But you can pretend you don't care while getting your facts.....in the process you will know the truth about their friendship & you wouldn't act immature& erratical.....your journey is just two months. But pls while studying the situation,do your job in the other room very well. Don't pity her in that sector.When the office opened for work do it like you don't care & as if you're retiring after the day's job. 59 Likes 4 Shares |
Re: Cutting The Connection Between My Wife And Her Male Besty by Sammy07: 7:40am On May 25, 2021 |
Sundrus: I endorsed this 14 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Cutting The Connection Between My Wife And Her Male Besty by CheerfulGiver: 7:41am On May 25, 2021 |
So you knew she had a male bestie. And you did nothing to stop the friendship before you married her, now that you've married her what were you expecting? That she'll stop overnight? She has taken advantage of your nonchalant attitude and there's nothing you can do about it. 77 Likes 8 Shares |
Re: Cutting The Connection Between My Wife And Her Male Besty by Ejike07: 8:20am On May 25, 2021 |
ChiefSosa: meen! you said it as it is! he should just mirror her actions and see her reactions. I don't know why people make their fellow human being their source of happiness. Women project surprises any time any day no matter how good they seem to be, just be prepared 34 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Cutting The Connection Between My Wife And Her Male Besty by AmazonTopaz(f): 9:21am On May 25, 2021 |
You married a 22 year old that may not be mature for marriage and is supposed to be free living her best life. You said she is a jovial person so that is how she is and besides she knew that guy as a friend before meeting you so you gotta accommodate that.The only problem is that she isn't mature enough to know that there should be boundaries and she shouldn't over do it.It is a good thing that she is open to you about it. She is still young and don't cage her because of marriage or that she should let go of someone she has known for years because she married you. Just tell her to minimise it and draw boundaries. 62 Likes 7 Shares |
Re: Cutting The Connection Between My Wife And Her Male Besty by bukatyne(f): 10:33am On May 25, 2021 |
CheerfulGiver: ![]() Hopefully, the wife comes to her senses herself. |
Re: Cutting The Connection Between My Wife And Her Male Besty by afolarin60591: 11:01am On May 25, 2021 |
OK. Don't just assume anything funny. Your wife being naturally jovial and bestie being wise to know that some things such as their being too close for his comfort have to let go upon marriage. |
Re: Cutting The Connection Between My Wife And Her Male Besty by LadySarah: 11:49am On May 25, 2021 |
It will be a gradual weaning for her.It seems If her bestie was ready financially she'd have married her instead of you.They seem to share a lot of emotional history. So just ignore her and hopefully she gets the message. You can also watch warroom,try to look hot for her and win her affection. 23 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: Cutting The Connection Between My Wife And Her Male Besty by b3llo(m): 11:58am On May 25, 2021 |
This kind battle no be child's play. That besty must have shared a lot of common interest with her. You have to be intentional and deliberate in order to scatter that friendship. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Cutting The Connection Between My Wife And Her Male Besty by Rubbiish(m): 1:06pm On May 25, 2021 |
How can a boy be bestie to a married woman? The things some boys do makes me to wonder if we now birth female in male form these days. Any normal boy should cut every ties with a lady the moment she gets married! 99 Likes 8 Shares |
Re: Cutting The Connection Between My Wife And Her Male Besty by RightToReject(m): 1:18pm On May 25, 2021 |
You are obviously a disingenuous pseudo-libertarian because you cannot tell me that you did not notice during the dating or courting period that she has a best friend but feign comfortable with it because of your low self-esteem/unscrupulousness, which you obviously glossed with the garb of a libertarian. Anyway, one sure way to get her to put a stop to the nonsense by herself, provided that she is still interested in the union or you will not mind losing her in principle is by abhorring peace and togetherness achieved on servility with her. Put an ethical philosophy that is humane in place - one should always have this in place before going into any form of relationship - and let it serves as a bond to hold the both of you in the union, with far-reaching consequences against either of you who fails to live by it or within its limit. With that in place, everything with the relationship will be on autopilot without you needing to control her or dictate for her what to always do, and vice versa, while mutually enjoying peace occasioned from everyone doing what is right/taking delight in doing what is right at almost any given time. Her action has nothing to do with her age; it has everything to do with her weak ethical leanings. Until you reach the height where you will not feel perturbed losing anything or anybody on principle, no matter who and what, you have not conquered yourself and have not started living a healthy and worthy life. 40 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Cutting The Connection Between My Wife And Her Male Besty by farous(m): 2:12pm On May 25, 2021 |
My friend call your wife and tell her pointblank that you are not comfortable with it and that she should cut off with the guy as simple as that. If you leave this to grow,I bet you,you will regret it. Forget about jovial bla bla,there is every possiblity that the guy use to bed her. Let me tell you,some woman are smart. Do you know your wife can be calling him or talking about him in your present just to keep your mind off from suspicion but behind your back, they are doing something you can't believe. It's a game because she know when she starts hiding it, you will suspect her the more. This same game also applies to men. Act now before it's too late. It's better you speak out and she still continue and hiding it from you for one day you must catch her and sent her packing than for you to keep quiet and they will be taking you as mumu when another man is secretly connected and browsing your network 71 Likes 10 Shares |
Re: Cutting The Connection Between My Wife And Her Male Besty by GboyegaD(m): 3:27pm On May 25, 2021 |
Hmm...this is tough. Have a real discussion to understand why she still wants to keep him as a best friend. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Cutting The Connection Between My Wife And Her Male Besty by crackhaus: 9:02pm On May 25, 2021 |
Nacoss25:That's probably because you tolerated their closeness from the beginning... Some things are simply unacceptable in relationships, and one of them is having a partner who keeps a bestie of the opposite sex. You have made your objections known to her, that's all you can do. What now remains is for you to hope that you married a woman who has enough common sense to understand that peace in her marriage is worth a whole lot more than that friendship. 32 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: Cutting The Connection Between My Wife And Her Male Besty by frozen70(f): 9:12pm On May 25, 2021 |
Nacoss25: Hmmm this one pass me I think you too should get a friend and hook up with and communicate with, let's see who will surrender As difficult as things are now, you don't need man made induced depression 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Cutting The Connection Between My Wife And Her Male Besty by Mskrisx(f): 9:46pm On May 25, 2021 |
Lol baba be sharp. No ordinary friend anywhere. Make wifey see reasons. 9 Likes 2 Shares |
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