Simplyleo:
The house help must have been addressing so many things, including madam's "deficiencies".

CharisEleos:
Ok. But why not give to madam to do the or is he still single?

Her luck.

Kondomatic:
Why should he give to the madam?

Munzy14:
They are usually under appreciated...due to some certain reasons like the opinion of the BMC above...

But, then a real man defies all odds while maintaining boundaries...House helps should be treated as your own..

CharisEleos:


Because it's a disrespect to the madam. Why would he jump madam and go surprising the maid alone. Madam should be given some recognition too as she and her husband are one. Therefore every presentation should be jointly made.

That was a wrong impression about the madam to the maid if he's truely married. Tomorrow she'll want to disregard madam because oga has created that impression that madams position.doesn't count.

blizard44:


You seem to be leaving women aside.

Most of how maids are treated in any home is determined by the woman.

Try to correct that and you're called a name that isn't yours.

Women should treat their fellow women better.

CharisEleos:


Because it's a disrespect to the madam. Why would he jump madam and go surprising the maid alone. Madam should be given some recognition too as she and her husband are one. Therefore every presentation should be jointly made.

That was a wrong impression about the madam to the maid if he's truely married. Tomorrow she'll want to disregard madam because oga has created that impression that madams position doesn't count.

Kondomatic:
If there's anything I hate about you women of today, it's the fact that you people expect women to be be respected just because they're women.

If ma'am recognizes this maid as human and treats her accordingly, do you think Oga would jump her?

No, it doesn't matter, she just has to be shown respect because she's a woman.

Fvck that.

If ma'am knows her work as a ma'am, this whole thing would have been her idea but I am sure she's busy looking for where and how to maltreat the maid.

Day in day out, we read how women treat maids like animals and if oga stands by them, he will be accused of sleeping with them.

This man here damned all that and decided to surprise the lady and y'all are talking trash because he didn't go through his wife.

Why can't ma'am come up with her own surprise? Abi she's incapable of doing such?

If nah to torture with pressing iron, starve, beat etc the maid she she go wait for oga to have an opinion?

When respect is demanded, it's not earned and respect is given to who deserves it not who has a vagina.

CharisEleos:


Where are you drifting to with all these assertions?

How did you know Madams busy looking for ways to maltreat the maid?
Does the maid look like someone who's been maltreated? No, you tell me.

CharisEleos:

That's a grown up woman the boss is messing around with, going solo to surprise ( impress).

CharisEleos:

I'm not in any way against giving her a surprise. In fact I wish all maids and even non maids receive beautiful surprises everyday but my major concern is the manner of presentation!!!!

I still believe madam should have been fronted as part of the initiator and presenter of the gifts to avoid giving any wrong impression to her and to people outside.

CharisEleos:

Human beings are sensitive to such gestures. Before she begins to fantasize about the whole thing and getting the wrong message that oga is prolly interested in her. Or before people will begin to create ideas into her head that she should seize the "opportunity" to become madam number 2. I mean.. such things happen.

CharisEleos:

If there's anyone who should relate closely on a personal note with the maid, it should be the boss' wife, not the boss. It doesn't matter how you see it. IT IS NOT RIGHT!

Kondomatic:


If there's anything I hate about you women of today, it's the fact that you people expect women to be be respected just because they're women.

Originalsly:


Bro... hatred is like blinders ... it gives one tunnel vision ... the reason you can't see the valid points CharisEleos is making. If the man is single.... fine... no problem. If he is married... it's a can of worms he opened. This is not a matter of wrong or right ... it is inappropriate for him to present her with gifts. If she were a little girl... fine .... no problem ... but being matured like that?... just look at the first two comments ... there is a problem. Any marriage... doesn't matter how good it is ..... if the husband does this .... the wife will be wondering if there is more to it .... like CharisEleos said .... it is human nature. The wife should be playing the lead role in this case.... not the husband. This can be the beginning of the end of this marriage. The husband can do this with all good intentions and purity of heart .... but she the maid ... like CharisEleos said .... can see things differently .... as green light... then one day when madam is out ... and Oga is having his bath ........ Do you really believe Oga can resist busty she in all her glory? This can be the beginning of the end.

Kondomatic:
Same way you knew that madam was sidelined in the whole thing. Same way you knew that she wasn't part of the surprise. Same very way.
You know what, the problem is not in what the man did, the problem is living right inside your head.

A man is appreciating his maid and you said he's trying to impress?

What the fvck did I just read?


The problem is like peak milk, it's in you.

You assume too much, conclude easily and generalize recklessly.

Because some random men are interested in their house help doesn't mean every man is.
If she gets wrong message then to hell with her and the people outside. A man did what he did to satisfy his conscience, it's not illegal and he didn't break any rule. If you're the wife then beat him to it next time.
Your personal insecurities speaking on behalf of the ma'am.
IT'S NOT RIGHT BECAUSE IT'S NOT RIGHT OR BECAUSE YOU SAID SO?

Right and wrong in this context is relative, you've no idea what works for the family and how they relate with each other.

Or do you?


If you do then please tell me who employed the maid for that will explain a whole lot of things.


A man has every right to appreciate his worker that's doing what they're being paid to do, be it in the shop, office or house.

He should do what satisfies his conscience and damn what the outside thinks as long as his conscience is clean.

You marry someone after several years of toiling and boom, you can't appreciate someone, you can't call your mother, you can't send money to your family etc without fronting your wife.


Nonsense and UK medical trip.

Women should continue tearing house helps apart while men continue mending them the little way we can. They don't front us in their evil and they can't force us to front them in our good deeds.

If the whole thing sweet you then be the one to do it.
Surprise them instead of burning them.

You all can keep suspecting the good men that take care of every gender around them, nah unah headache be that.

CharisEleos:


Hello Mr, You're just rambling about without any concrete points or justifiable reasons for what the boss has done.

CharisEleos:


Mind you, This is a boss vs staff scenario, therefore protocols are expected to be duly observed by both you and your domestic workers. Anything short of that is questionable and every sane thinking person would cringe at the mention of such gesture.
I wanna believe you know even in an office, there are protocols and the chairman has no biz relating with a marketer or front desk officer, no matter the case. Not even on a personal basis.

I feel this just too personal...

CharisEleos:


how did he even get to know when about her birth date to be able to plan a surprise for her?

Have you even thought of that?

Rest abeg!

Ihulanu ihe bu isi okwu.


Bandits kidnapped 200 people in Niger.

Over 170 have been killed in Benue in the past one week.

30 people were killed in Ebonyi days ago.

South East is burning.

Sowore was shot on his bum-bum

Imo state is the new Maidugri.

Buhari is keeping malice with Nigerians

I am owing UBA N430

My girlfriend misplaced her period






And all you want me to sit down and do is think how a man got his workers birth date



Seriously

Kondomatic:
Is that even necessary?


Why should I try to justify what a man did in his own house and for his own staff when it's not illegal?

That's the problem with the world today, everybody wants to have an opinion in other people's life.

We all seem know how the other person should live his life and what's is good for them but have zero knowledge of how to do our own shits.

He's is a man, a complete adult.

He knows his wife.

He and his wife know their house help

I don't know how close/good she is to the family




So why should we tell him how to do things?
Are we having this discussion because of what you feel? Y'know, if you had stated in the first comment that "You feel" he was wrong, I for no follow you argue because you've every right to feel that way.

But condemning people's actions because of how or what you feel is really not right

Ihulanu ihe bu isi okwu.


Bandits kidnapped 200 people in Niger.

Over 170 have been killed in Benue in the past one week.

30 people were killed in Ebonyi days ago.

South East is burning.

Sowore was shot on his bum-bum

Imo state is the new Maidugri.

Buhari is keeping malice with Nigerians

I am owing UBA N430

My girlfriend misplaced her period






And all you want me to sit down and do is think how a man got his workers birth date



Seriously