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Should I confess to My Wife And Kids because I feel dirty by Neverwill: 5:25am On Jun 11, 2021 |
I met a man here on nairaland that nearly or should I say took advantage of me and made me nearly commit an abomination which I nearly did. I wanted to keep this to my self till he sent me a message this last night again I would keep this brief and I hope I find closure with this as I have been so sad since Wednesday and I couldn't sleep I had to create a New moniker to post this because this is shameful I'm 29 and a very handsome man. I have a young family with a beautiful wife that I don't even think I deserve because she is an Angel and I have 2 beautiful girls that means everything to me. I lost my Job during the pandemic last year and it has been hard getting another Job and it's even harder watching my kids starve and my beautiful wife cry at night I know my responsibility as a man and top most is me providing for my girl's and their Mom. My wife have been shouldering the feeding responsibility at home since March because after i paid my girls school fee in February my account became empty Even though my wife does everything she has never been rude to me or shown me the normal "Nigerian" women attitude She has never denied me sex or spoke to me rudely since August of last year. She meets men, richer men that wants a relationship with her but this lovely woman tells me all, she even gives me her phone to chat with them In all of this I kept on looking for a job because I feel like I'm failing my girls On Monday I was in a thread here on nairaland and I made a post that I needed a job so badly and I got an email from here and I replied the email and I and the person started talking and he invited me to his office in the island I was excited, baby was excited and the girl's were excited as well and I got to his office the next day which was on Tuesday and I submitted my CV to him and he went through it and was impressed and we spoke even more and he said something to me 'what can you do to get this job' and I said anything because I need to start providing for my wife and the girl's as I was feeling the pressure from home and he said something again. 'You are very handsome and I would want us to be closer and if you agree to this you would get even more than a job Then he told me his office would get back to me and he gave me #15k as transportation and while I was heading home he texted me and said if I'm free tomorrow he would like to see me My mind told me something was off , I knew but I just couldn't imagine or believe something of that nature could happen to me, I replied his text and told him I would be free and he told me he would get back to me and Wednesday morning he sent me a text that we should meet in one of the biggest hotels in lekki I asked him why an hotel and he said he has an appointment with a client and he would want me to see the client with him so he accesses my ability In convincing a client to partner with us Then I got to the hotel by 10am and I called him I was there and he invited me to his room and when I got in it seemed odd There were 2 glass and a bottle of wine and we started talking and we spoke a lot while we drank and I actually felt comfortable around him and we started talking family and he told me his wife and kids are in America Then when it got to my turn I told him about Nike and my girls and I got very emotional and started shedding some tears because I'm failing my family even tho it's not my fault, even though I look for job everywhere and every day both on jobberman and LinkedIn and Twitter and Facebook Then he told me how much I want the job and I said so badly and he said what can I do to get the job I said anything and he said what can I do to get a job of #150k per month gosh that broke me and I said anything at all and right there he called his personal assistant to draft an employment letter in my name and add a salary of #150k We continued talking and he told me how much I had left in my account I told him just 3k because I gave wifey the rest of the money he gave to me to prepare something for the kids Some few minutes later he brought out a bundle of cash and told me it's mine and the employment letter in his email which he showed me if only he has sex with me Hmmmm I was stunned and astonished and didn't no what to do I needed a job so badly, my kids needed the money so badly, Nikky has carried the family enough and I needed to do something and there was an opportunity If it was you what would you do? I have never thought I would be in such a situation in all my life but I asked him if it would be painful and he Said no I'm so sorry for even considering it Then he showed me a video of how easy it would be Hmmmm May God forgive me I agreed guys I agreed I'm so sorry babe I agreed because I have been so broken and empty emotionally and mentally He told me to pull of my dress and I did and he did as well and I don't know what he rubbed in my ass , maybe a cream he said for easy penetration Then he kissed me and I kissed him back and in all of this I was just mute, confused, not knowing what to do I knew I hated what I was doing but I needed a job for my girl's and wifey Then he told me to give him a Mouth Gig and immediately I held his penis in my hands I remembered how Nike would always say no to other men And the Love we shared and I came back to my senses And I respectfully told him I can't and he was angry and DISAPPOINTED as I could tell from his look but he told me to leave and I asked him about the job and he told me he would get back to me I left and immediately went to the church to pray and when I got home babe asked me about it and I said I didn't get the job and at night she wanted us to make Love but I felt too dirty to do that yesterday morning she wanted to kiss me I felt too dirty to do that also My kids noticed I was different and asked what's wrong and I told them daddy was sick I'm confused, I don't know if I should tell her and I don't know how she would feel or if she would even forgive me My kid's are on midterm and I should take them out today but no money, I can't remember when last we had a family time together in an eatry I feel so sad right now I feel so broken right now God forgive me Please let's not take advantage of people in their down moment. I nearly fell for this and would have regretted it forever God help me Good morning 49 Likes 5 Shares
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Re: Should I confess to My Wife And Kids because I feel dirty by ncpat(m): 5:36am On Jun 11, 2021 |
Unimaginable 109 Likes 4 Shares |
Re: Should I confess to My Wife And Kids because I feel dirty by Nobody: 5:36am On Jun 11, 2021 |
This is funny and this is sad at the same time... Don't let them see you finish... Life na packaging... you no package yourself well, don't bring yourself too low when looking for a job... No tell your wife, it's a sin to you and your God, ask God for forgiveness and move on... You have any right to teach the man a lesson... But you are matured for this oga... Why you no punch him for mouth or beat the hell out of him.... I understand the kind of person you are, you are too quiet... Ahh this kind people no dey meet me... I will stab any gay man that reason me nonsense... I say make I warn some gay people for nairaland.... 354 Likes 14 Shares |
Re: Should I confess to My Wife And Kids because I feel dirty by ford101: 5:39am On Jun 11, 2021 |
I think nairaland is scripted just like WWE.cos I can't see any Nigerian who has a job to do that will start writing a long story.even if we do write, it will be to sale our product or service.the unemployed Nigerians will only use nairaland to pass time or begg for a job or for money.useless nairaland. 151 Likes 11 Shares |
Re: Should I confess to My Wife And Kids because I feel dirty by samso247(m): 5:45am On Jun 11, 2021 |
It is well, What a world we leave in, Thank God you were able to Overcome such temptation, I see no reason telling ur kids, but ur wife ought to know what transpired, and y u didn't get the job. You will discover that when you tell her, it will be as if a burden was lifted up from ur chest. Now get ready, a greater offer is coming ur way soon, one that is far better than this. Just be a father to your kids, a loving husband and serve God genuinely. I have never seen a man that serve God genuinely and God forsakes such a man.. God bless ur home 282 Likes 21 Shares |
Re: Should I confess to My Wife And Kids because I feel dirty by pennzo: 5:46am On Jun 11, 2021 |
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Re: Should I confess to My Wife And Kids because I feel dirty by Cutehector(m): 5:46am On Jun 11, 2021 |
All these fake stories sef. 158 Likes 8 Shares |
Re: Should I confess to My Wife And Kids because I feel dirty by mmadu5(m): 5:49am On Jun 11, 2021 |
this is fake has been posted before . Oga OP . GET BUSY WITH YOUR FUVKING LIFE DONT WASTE OUR TIME WITH NONSENSE 110 Likes 9 Shares |
Re: Should I confess to My Wife And Kids because I feel dirty by Neverwill: 5:51am On Jun 11, 2021 |
ford101:you think I would come online by 5am to write something for pity. Are you serious. You think I was awake from 1am crying in the bathroom to write a fake thread. For what reason, would nairaland pay me? I'm just confused and need advice on what to do. Did I beg for a job or money? Please never mock a situation you haven't felt. Good morning. If I see this Kind of comment again maybe I would just delete the thread 110 Likes 5 Shares |
Re: Should I confess to My Wife And Kids because I feel dirty by Neverwill: 5:52am On Jun 11, 2021 |
mmadu5:Jesus Christ. Why are we Nigerians so mean. Please show me a thread like this and I would delete this immediately and apologise. What do I gain by making a fake post. Please be mindful of what you say ok 53 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Should I confess to My Wife And Kids because I feel dirty by mmadu5(m): 5:56am On Jun 11, 2021 |
Neverwill: oga i read this same story last year here on nairaland . use your time and do something better .stop spreading fake stories we are not fools here . this was posted sometime last time . and when i read it then i knew it was fake . . GO FVCK YOUR SELF . 62 Likes 5 Shares |
Re: Should I confess to My Wife And Kids because I feel dirty by decatalyst(m): 5:56am On Jun 11, 2021 |
Cutehector: Op, you replied his text and said you wouldn't tell anyone. Why? Why? Why? Here you are telling the whole universe! You promised and failed. That's bad! Learn to keep your word under every circumstances. @Op, sorry about your experience. Genuine help will come soon. Dust yourself up and be in charge of your life again. As for the story being true or a fake tale, may God not allow us get into desperation that will allow another human being exploit us. As for those that offer help in exchange for whatever, just know you are not doing the will of God. 19 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Should I confess to My Wife And Kids because I feel dirty by WoundedLamb: 5:57am On Jun 11, 2021 |
First, taking advantage of people in thier moment of weakness is just terrible. If you can't help someone, just let them be. OP, you're desperately seeking closure and that's obvious seeing the number of times you apologized (though not to the person that needs it). It's almost as if you're pleading with the audience not to judge you, and that's understandable given the societal perception of homosexuality. You probably created this thread hoping to get some words that will make you feel better. I really hope you do cause this is hardly about the man nor about your wife; this is about your peace of mind. However, I'm afraid you might still not feel at ease until you've mentioned this to your wife. If you must, please spare her the details. There's no guarantee it'll turn out well, but the fact that you're not naturally into men leads to believe you didn't set out to cheat for the pleasure of it. Meanwhile, I don't know what you mean by "normal Nigerian women attitude". You guys meet and marry nice ladies but somehow believe only yours is great and others are terrible. So which is the normal Nigerian men attitude? Yours or that of the man who almost took advantage of you? 53 Likes 5 Shares |
Re: Should I confess to My Wife And Kids because I feel dirty by Cutehector(m): 5:57am On Jun 11, 2021 |
decatalyst:who is this one? Are you mentally ok? 22 Likes |
Re: Should I confess to My Wife And Kids because I feel dirty by Cutehector(m): 5:58am On Jun 11, 2021 |
Neverwill:abeg delete it.. 5 Likes |
Re: Should I confess to My Wife And Kids because I feel dirty by Neverwill: 5:59am On Jun 11, 2021 |
Kings999:bros you know when you are under a lot of pressure na. Normally the act disgust me even tho I'm learned enough not to judge anyone. I just feel so dirty. Babe Knows something is off with me, I'm in the seating room here just so filled with guilt. We promised never to hide anything from each other, I have never cheated on her with a woman and this. I have brushed my teeth More than 20 times, have had a bath since Wednesday more than 10 times even twice this morning but I still feel dirty and guilty 11 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Should I confess to My Wife And Kids because I feel dirty by SavageMaster: 6:01am On Jun 11, 2021 |
From your story, your wife is a good woman and has a good heart. Tell her everything as it happened. She needs to be there for you. I don't think she will judge you. As for the kids, leave them to your wife. She will know how to communicate to them that something bad happened to Daddy. That said, I think some good Samaritan here should assist Op get a good job with no strings attached. I may not be in that position right now, and I'm not in Lagos I wish you the best, man 55 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Should I confess to My Wife And Kids because I feel dirty by Neverwill: 6:01am On Jun 11, 2021 |
mmadu5:my God why mean, why the insult sir. Can you show me the thread from last year and I would apologise to you. But it's fine. Thanks for the insult. Bye Sir 6 Likes |
Re: Should I confess to My Wife And Kids because I feel dirty by Cutehector(m): 6:01am On Jun 11, 2021 |
You set yarnsh for doggy open am well, oga carry lubricant rub for your yarnsh, e dey sweet you, you allow fellow man dick enter your asshole... Na when you come dey hold him dick to suckk...na there your brain reset.. Lmao!!! Nairalanders sef ![]() 33 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: Should I confess to My Wife And Kids because I feel dirty by Neverwill: 6:02am On Jun 11, 2021 |
decatalyst:I meant I won't tell anyone to maybe embarrass him all I just need is advice if I should tell wifey that's it 1 Like |
Re: Should I confess to My Wife And Kids because I feel dirty by mmadu5(m): 6:03am On Jun 11, 2021 |
please no body should believe this story i personally read this same story last year 2020 i knew it was fabricated though i dont know if the op was expecting someone to say send me your acct let me send you something or he was expecting sympathy or job i dont really get his motive . no one should send anything or give him anything too many fake members on nairaland . with different fake stories . sympathy scammers everywhere . ... 419 419 419 46 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: Should I confess to My Wife And Kids because I feel dirty by Neverwill: 6:05am On Jun 11, 2021 |
SavageMaster:thank you bro. I would tell her, I know she would feel Disappointed but I know she would understand and no I don't need a job from nairaland please. I would sought my self and family out. Thanks and God bless 3 Likes |
Re: Should I confess to My Wife And Kids because I feel dirty by advanceDNA: 6:07am On Jun 11, 2021 |
Neverwill: What kinda guy refer to his clothes as dress?? Madam..be careful...ur egungun don nearly reach express 82 Likes 5 Shares |
Re: Should I confess to My Wife And Kids because I feel dirty by Nobody: 6:07am On Jun 11, 2021 |
Neverwill: Tell her say the work no get head... Don't tell her about this, she will start misbehaving.... The mistake is done already, with matter of time you be okay and happy again... Pray make gay spirit no enter inside you... Deal with the man, teach him a lesson he will never forget... 11 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Should I confess to My Wife And Kids because I feel dirty by Neverwill: 6:09am On Jun 11, 2021 |
mmadu5:I won't dignify you with a response again Sir. I only came here needing advice because my friends would judge me if I tell them this. I don't need a job, I don't need money from anyone. But it's fine. Thank you and enjoy your day. May you never be in a difficult situation and please can you show me the thread from 2020 and I swear I would delete this immediately and apologise. Can you please show me the thread from last year 2 Likes |
Re: Should I confess to My Wife And Kids because I feel dirty by dominique(f): 6:09am On Jun 11, 2021 |
How come the chat is from the guy that supposedly wanted to take advantage of you, or did he send you a screenshot of his chat with you? ![]() As the sender, your chat should be in green while the recipient should be in white but your chat is in the white corner. Verdict: certainly a fake chat and fake story. 233 Likes 18 Shares |
Re: Should I confess to My Wife And Kids because I feel dirty by mmadu5(m): 6:11am On Jun 11, 2021 |
Neverwill: dont worry im digging up that thread hopefully you are not the same person that posted it . i will surely see it . FAKE PEOPLE everywhere. 11 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Should I confess to My Wife And Kids because I feel dirty by mmadu5(m): 6:12am On Jun 11, 2021 |
dominique: you have a sharp eye . dont mind the fools that sympathize with him . they will believe anything 59 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: Should I confess to My Wife And Kids because I feel dirty by Graysons: 6:14am On Jun 11, 2021 |
What is the name of this movie? ![]() 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Should I confess to My Wife And Kids because I feel dirty by Nobody: 6:27am On Jun 11, 2021 |
Wetin person no go see for nairaland. Mtchewww..... 2 Likes |
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