MikeofKd:
I once had a girl tell me the phrase "let's just be friends Michael" I told her it was suicidal to be just friends with someone you truly love ,called it a quit ,bitch was upset cause I started rolling with other prettier girls immediately she still stares at me till today in school.

But the d boy so brilliant he doesn't have a F to give . My grades on fleek ,no carry overs, insha Allah till I graduate ,still dey 300L , swagger on point ,account balance be like phone number ,my shoes super dope ,my drip they make girls wet ,got a fridge at my hostel and a plasma, with cartoons of Indomie and eggs ,drinks yakpa as well ,from whiskey to spirit ,weed sef dey from sk to loud to Arizona , lol bitch is truly regretting now but its too late .

MikeofKd:
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But the d boy so brilliant he doesn't have a F to give . My grades on fleek ,no carry overs, insha Allah till I graduate ,still dey 300L , swagger on point ,account balance be like phone number ,my shoes super dope ,my drip they make girls wet ,got a fridge at my hostel and a plasma, with cartoons of Indomie and eggs ,drinks yakpa as well ,from whiskey to spirit ,weed sef dey from sk to loud to Arizona , lol bitch is truly regretting now but its too late .

MikeofKd:
I once had a girl tell me the phrase "let's just be friends Michael" I told her it was suicidal to be just friends with someone you truly love ,called it a quit ,bitch was upset cause I started rolling with other prettier girls immediately she still stares at me till today in school.

But the d boy so brilliant he doesn't have a F to give . My grades on fleek ,no carry overs, insha Allah till I graduate ,still dey 300L , swagger on point ,account balance be like phone number ,my shoes super dope ,my drip they make girls wet ,got a fridge at my hostel and a plasma, with cartoons of Indomie and eggs ,drinks yakpa as well ,from whiskey to spirit ,weed sef dey from sk to loud to Arizona , lol bitch is truly regretting now but its too late .

doggedfighter:
How does she view you?

Agricaddict:




How do you know she's regretting it, it almost shows you still think about her very much

Jack005:
OP, you did the right thing.. A couple of weeks back a girl I like also tried to friend zone me, but I had to let her know that I'm not in for such albeit through my actions . I cant invest my time and attention on a fruitless journey.

doggedfighter:
How does she view you?

remedick:
what was her response or reaction when you rejected her friendship offer?

Jack005:
She became upset of course, I mean very upset because she started complaining bitterly and started hanging up calls on me. When she suggested we became friends ,I just said OK, but then I stopped calling or texting her, before then we speak and text everyday, although she calls me more than I do call her, but our communication was top notch, all the signs were there... This is a girl that couldn't stay a day without speaking with me.. In fact if I also do not call her for a day, she gets angry,all the green lights she showed, but when i popped up the question with high expectations she decided to friend zone me.. Like WTF!

remedick:


This is exactly what happened to me. She gave me all the lights. There was even a time she asked me if I am withdrawing. i asked why such a question and she said because I took time to reply to her texts. Do you see?

Another time she said she made her hair and would love to show me. I said okay, send me the pics and let me see.. and she did. You see again?

She has always known that I like her. In fact, she started saying someone is falling in love and called me loverboy for a while...

There are more that I could write but initially, she wanted my attention really bad and when I eventually gave it, she withdrew...

Like in your own case, she felt bad. She felt bad because she would have loved to put you in that friend zone for the mere fun of watching you give her all the attention and girlfriend treaties without touching her.

Rejecting that "just friends" offer breaks that power and reduces her options. It is like a table with two legs on the right and two legs on the left to give stability and balance. Those legs represent you and another guy in her pool of options. So when you reject it, you end up destroying the table legs on either the left side or right side... which will make the table lose balance and stability, and whatever was placed (her confidence, her pride, her guts, her control, etc) on the table will fall. This is why they don't like it when you reject the friendship offer.

It bruises their ego exactly the same way their rejection of dating you bruise your own ego. So It is fair.

In my own case, after I had written that I will not accept her offer and will respectfully grant her choice because it is her right, I said "I will sort myself out" she replied "Are you sure you will sort yourself out?" Why is that important and why is she asking?

Of course, she didn't like the fact that I was leaving as suggested by my messages or the fact that I rejected her offer. But I had to do that cos accepting her offer is of no value to me, absolutely none but it is more of value to her. It will boost her ego, boost her pride, her guts, it will make her feel so special about herself and makes her feel powerful but rejecting it deflates those emotions in her. It made her feel she too can be rejected and that I am I can actually do away with her, contrary to the idea I am all over her (I actually made her felt that way lol).

It may not sink in immediately cos pride is a powerful thing. But as days go by, she would start thinking : "so this guy really mean to leave me?"

What will I do next? I would move out and get other girls, not for dating but just friends, hang out more with them until I have completely forgotten about this current girl.

Jack005:
In a nutshell,Don’t beg for her to give you a chance, EVER. She made a conscious decision to not be anything more than friends with you. You must play with the irrational, illogical side of her personality. You’ll do much better if you start putting less focus on her and more focus on you. That's how it ought to be and I'm glad you are taking such steps. By the way, when last did you guys speak? Mine called some days back and before ending the call "she said she wanted to hear from me as I've decided not to call again.. I replied thanks for the call, lol.

Jack005:
By the way, when last did you guys speak? Mine called some days back and before ending the call "she said she wanted to hear from me as i've decided not to call again.. I replied thanks for the call,lol.

remedick:
What was the duration between when you rejected her "just friend" offer and when she made that call?

Jack005:
Three days after.

Privatepart00:
Yes I can be just friends with a girl if actually I want same. Not when I approached you for ministry kpanishing you telling me “let’s just be friends”
Funny enough, most times I am seeing a girl, no word comes from my lips about dating or not.Before she knows I have kpanish and on the road again.

remedick:
good sign... I don't expect mine to be 3 days lol.. it could be months later due to due impression i gave. but whatever it, I bet that I would have completely forgotten her sooner. So, It is all good.

Privatepart00:
Yes I can be just friends with a girl if actually I want same. Not when I approached you for ministry kpanishing you telling me “let’s just be friends”
Funny enough, most times I am seeing a girl, no word comes from my lips about dating or not.Before she knows I have kpanish and on the road again.

MikeofKd:
I once had a girl tell me the phrase "let's just be friends Michael" I told her it was suicidal to be just friends with someone you truly love ,called it a quit ,bitch was upset cause I started rolling with other prettier girls immediately she still stares at me till today in school.

But the d boy so brilliant he doesn't have a F to give . My grades on fleek ,no carry overs, insha Allah till I graduate ,still dey 300L , swagger on point ,account balance be like phone number ,my shoes super dope ,my drip they make girls wet ,got a fridge at my hostel and a plasma, with cartoons of Indomie and eggs ,drinks yakpa as well ,from whiskey to spirit ,weed sef dey from sk to loud to Arizona , lol bitch is truly regretting now but its too late .

Jack005:
it depends on the level of her pride, you know women always want to be on the winning side when it comes to matters like this. In furtherance to that, you went straight to the point, you hit the nail on the head by letting how know what you really want from her.. In my own case I just let my actions do the talking...Lets see how it pans out.

Executer:

The delusion...you won't fit into everybody's ideal.deal with it
Even the world richest man would still have a lot of ladies who won't fancy him.quit all this chest beating all because a lady told you no

remedick:
So recently a girl that I had something for tried to Friendzon me... but offering me the "Let's just be friends thing"

I told her NO... I can't be just friends with her and I don't do just friends with a woman I want something with, which she had known long before now. What I want is what I want and I know what I want.

I told her to stick to her decision and I will sort myself out...

She then asks me "are you sure you will sort out yourself"? Honestly, this question made me confused and I do not know why she would care about that. But I refused to reply to her after that. There was no reply from me and I considered everything should end, while I cut ties with her.

I deleted everything about her and chose to move on.

I know a lot of men would accept the friendship offer and some people might say I should have accepted to be just her friend but the truth is, accepting it means accepting to be friend zoned forever and you will NEVER get out of it. Being just friends means she selfishly just wants all the goodies you bring without you touching her.

It is better to walk away with your shoulder high than allow that.

Did I reject her offer because I didn't really like her? I actually do like it her but know that it is hard to convince these women about your intentions. the more you do, the more they think otherwise.

Would rejecting her offer turn the table in my favour? I doubt because I have never heard any man turned it after reaching this stage and that means I should move on forever and not look back. But if you know any guy or story in which the man successfully turn the table after rejecting the "just be friend" offer, feel free to share it here.

Also, accepting her friendship offer is of more value to her and none to me. It expands her options and grants me none. I would rather reduce that option by 1 than make it 2.

But what it does for me is, it will change how she views me for sure, even if she does not admit it. A girl telling you she just wants to be friends means, she views you in a certain way and me rejecting it would do justice to whatever she thought of me by reversing that image.

So, that is it...

stanliwise:

Yeah it’s cool you told her you don’t want just friendship but don’t show aggression towards it.