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Help!!! I Caught Her Cheating A Second Time by LamiHandsome(m): 5:36pm On Jun 22, 2021 |
Hi good afternoon BI, So I caught my girlfriend cheating sometime last year and we talked about it, she promised never to cheat again, I forgave and moved on. Of course I’ve been unfaithful too, and on top of that she’s calm and virtuous. This is someone who I love and trusted dearly, someone I plan on settling down with. We’re both fresh graduates and we have our growing businesses. Fast forward to January this year, I found out yet again she’s seeing not only the same guy I caught her with last year, but also confessed she’s been with two other guys. She further revealed that she was cheating because of money, reiterating on the fact that she didn’t want to keep asking for financial support from me so as not to be a burden. Heaven knows I always do my possible best to support her whenever the need rises. Her family hasn’t been financially stable lately. This second time, I had to involve her mom. She (her mom) expressed disappointment and disgust. We thereafter talked about it and I’ve forgiven her. We’ve been staying together for a while now to ensure we work things out. Here’s where the problem lies; despite the fact that I’ve forgiven her, I’m having a hard time healing. I pay attention to every little thing she does now. I’m insecure and sometimes I feel like I may be doing too much, and I feel like I hurt her. Even though I try as possible not to, I see fault in every little mistake she makes now �. It’s like I see unfaithfulness in her footsteps every time she walks now. Please guys, what can I do to make this really work. How do I completely heal from this? |
Re: Help!!! I Caught Her Cheating A Second Time by NwaAmaikpe: 5:40pm On Jun 22, 2021 |
![]() She will never change. Just forgive her and forgive yourself for being dumb enough to believe she'd change after the first time. 56 Likes 7 Shares |
Re: Help!!! I Caught Her Cheating A Second Time by OlayemiAshraf(m): 5:41pm On Jun 22, 2021 |
.so she's cheating because she needs money .... Olosho wey dey disguise ..I sight you .... 41 Likes 1 Share
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Re: Help!!! I Caught Her Cheating A Second Time by Kriss216: 5:44pm On Jun 22, 2021 |
Please guys, what can I do to make this really work. How do I completely heal from this?It can not work and it will never work. How can you be comfortable dating an olosho? She claimed she cheated cos of money. Quest for money is insatiable, she will keep spreading legs for money till old age visits. It's in her Gene. Flee from such demon and enjoy unlimited peace of mind. 23 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: Help!!! I Caught Her Cheating A Second Time by TomiwaRay(f): 5:45pm On Jun 22, 2021 |
*smh* seriously... |
Re: Help!!! I Caught Her Cheating A Second Time by SportsHD: 5:48pm On Jun 22, 2021 |
NwaAmaikpe:I dey await your contributions boss. And to the OP, peace of mind matters. What if you guys get married and have a lil financial constraint. She'll go ffuck again be day na. And remember, Okafors law never disappoints. All I'm trying to say is, Ghost that beach. ![]() 7 Likes |
Re: Help!!! I Caught Her Cheating A Second Time by DDDEnterprises: 5:49pm On Jun 22, 2021 |
You not get police station for your neighbourhood? Anything that's making you restless and not to have peace of mind, go and report it there. ![]() ................ Okay.... It's very obvious that there are high chances that your girl will still cheat based on the account you gave. Because you said not only has she cheated several times but she does so for monetary gains despite all you've done to satisfy her. So she has the traits of a perpetual cheater and the truth is you cannot monitor her enough to prevent her from cheating. So if you know you can't trust her and she's draining your peace of mind, you can just let her go. Or you can just continue with the fun and not mind if she cheats. Because most relationships of today are just for fun; so what's the stress? ![]() And you said you've been unfaithful too. I hope you've changed otherwise there's no point in this discussion. 1 Like |
Re: Help!!! I Caught Her Cheating A Second Time by Nobody: 5:52pm On Jun 22, 2021 |
I'm just thinking, why can't this women think of being creative than always thinking of fucking a diff guy that's more romantic and last longer in bed. All they think now sexual satisfaction ![]() 1 Like |
Re: Help!!! I Caught Her Cheating A Second Time by Uncle93(m): 5:59pm On Jun 22, 2021 |
LamiHandsome: I'm glad you brought this up here. * You'll still love the girl regardless of the fact that she cheated, letting go will be difficult. * Girls from financial unstable homes are the worst to date. They are under a lot of pressure, financial related , so survival is mostly thier basic instincts. * She may love you so much but still cheat on you even though it's hard for her to cheat . * You can never do enough to keep her loyal to you alone unless you're super rich to give her all when wants in life. * She would be scared of her future and wouldn't want to fail or lose in life all because of love. * She will be impressed by rich guys many times. * Love is sweet, but with money love is sweeter, you'll keep yourself under a lot of pressure trying to keep her because you will want to keep her loyal by doing everything for her. * You'll have major financial set backs because you can never truly save her or give her all she wants. At the end of the day, ya'll might still breakup and move on regardless of all what you've done for her. * Try to let her go, it wont be easy, but secretly get into a new relationship, it's best for both of you. SHE will also end up with someone that can take care of her 10 Likes |
Re: Help!!! I Caught Her Cheating A Second Time by WowSweetGuy(m): 5:59pm On Jun 22, 2021 |
Money ehn The powerful god on/of earth. What Money cannot do on earth does not exist 1 Like |
Re: Help!!! I Caught Her Cheating A Second Time by BareFacedLies(m): 6:10pm On Jun 22, 2021 |
You have not yet wifed her therefore she's still fair game and has every right to sample other dicks ![]() |
Re: Help!!! I Caught Her Cheating A Second Time by Lucrativress(f): 6:16pm On Jun 22, 2021 |
"She is calm and virtuous" yet she cheated twice I wonder what the opposite will be... Wait for he third time na Father,Son and Holy Ghost 5 Likes |
Re: Help!!! I Caught Her Cheating A Second Time by MrSamsung(m): 6:21pm On Jun 22, 2021 |
You guys are made for each other. |
Re: Help!!! I Caught Her Cheating A Second Time by Nobody: 6:22pm On Jun 22, 2021 |
You must be the god of simps.. Keep taking her back and marry her then help raise other people's kids ode ![]() 8 Likes |
Re: Help!!! I Caught Her Cheating A Second Time by Nobody: 6:22pm On Jun 22, 2021 |
Lucrativress: Loolz 1 Like |
Re: Help!!! I Caught Her Cheating A Second Time by tolufase: 6:36pm On Jun 22, 2021 |
Guy why don't you just forget about this olosho and move on with your life as a fresh graduate? All what you could think of as a fresh graduate is to harbour olosho, given yourself unnecessary high blood pressure. Stop stressing yourself and focus on your life. I'm sure you're not financially stable yet except if your parents are rich. My 2cents!. Bye for now 3 Likes |
Re: Help!!! I Caught Her Cheating A Second Time by Powersurge: 6:46pm On Jun 22, 2021 |
1. You sound like those simp graduates (no offense). If a woman could take different dicks twice under you, there are chances she will take more, and the bond between you too is waning. 2. When a Woman has not exhausted her hoeing years, there is nothing you can do. Besides, from where I am standing, you sound submissive, unimpressive. 3. I can bet my balls that this babe doesn't see you as someone who would be ready for marriage soonest, among many other things. It will shock u to know dt "e fit be her mama dey clear am make she find person wey get money". wetin eye never see. 6 Likes |
Re: Help!!! I Caught Her Cheating A Second Time by Panacea278: 6:49pm On Jun 22, 2021 |
Bro just leave the girl alone. Tho it wld be hard initially but just try and move on. A leopard cannot change its spot. So give your self the necessary peace of mind by moving on. And focus on your career as a young graduate. The right one will come along the line. |
Re: Help!!! I Caught Her Cheating A Second Time by Savedday: 7:03pm On Jun 22, 2021 |
9ja girls are out to add more burden to your life instead of softening it. In mosdii voice: They are all useless..... All of them! 2 Likes |
Re: Help!!! I Caught Her Cheating A Second Time by Jimasun: 7:04pm On Jun 22, 2021 |
Move on bro, forget this lady. Secretly get a new girlfriend and continue till you won't feel a thing for her. 3 Likes |
Re: Help!!! I Caught Her Cheating A Second Time by MiaB(f): 7:32pm On Jun 22, 2021 |
I stopped reading at "of course I’ve been unfaithful too" 1 Like |
Re: Help!!! I Caught Her Cheating A Second Time by MiaB(f): 7:37pm On Jun 22, 2021 |
Panacea278: Jimasun: OlayemiAshraf: Lucrativress: Kriss216:Y'all don't read.He said he's been unfaithful too. Birds of a feather flock together 3 Likes |
Re: Help!!! I Caught Her Cheating A Second Time by totosucker(m): 7:44pm On Jun 22, 2021 |
Let this girl go. It's obvious that you don't have peace of mind in this relationship. Let me tell you this for free, you will never heal. You will keep suspecting her no matter how sincere and truthful she becomes tomorrow which will make the relationship toxic. So, start moving on. Time is a healer. I know you are afraid of what will become of you if you leave her, but the truth is that you will be fine. 1 Like |
Re: Help!!! I Caught Her Cheating A Second Time by ShawttySoFyne(f): 7:47pm On Jun 22, 2021 |
MiaB:They read, they just don't see anything wrong with the male cheating, it's only a problem when it's the female. 2 Likes |
Re: Help!!! I Caught Her Cheating A Second Time by Usmanzy(m): 7:50pm On Jun 22, 2021 |
U shouldn't have forgiven her the first time Just let her go,u deserve someome better And most importantly u need ubunja's miseducations 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Help!!! I Caught Her Cheating A Second Time by muller101(m): 7:55pm On Jun 22, 2021 |
Must you weep premium tears? |
Re: Help!!! I Caught Her Cheating A Second Time by kepstone: 8:01pm On Jun 22, 2021 |
Uncle93:This advice is the best for you. I have been in ur situation please let her go. U will regret it if you hold onto this girl. An insatiable girl can not be satisfied. Talking from experience, Nigerian girls from poor home look to marriage as their bail out system so they will do all it takes to secure a guy with money thinking their future is secured. Most men will know who there wives are when they loose the cash. Only few women will stay. |
Re: Help!!! I Caught Her Cheating A Second Time by Teeboy15(m): 8:04pm On Jun 22, 2021 |
I will advice you out of experience. Free of charge. That girl will leave you when you least expect. She will break your heart and it will lead to regrets and possibly depression. What you should do, as hard as it might be: take your mind off the relationship. Don't end it. Just know that your relationship is on a 50/50 scale. One last advice, get a side chick. You will thank me with prayers later for this advice. Know this know peace 2 Likes |
Re: Help!!! I Caught Her Cheating A Second Time by LandMann: 8:19pm On Jun 22, 2021 |
LamiHandsome I see you raising another man's children as your own if you continue with that girl. She'll never change even if you wife her and you'll be the biggest fool to think she will and continue living with and fooling yourself around her. What will you tell God if she infects you with HIV, SYPHILIS, HEPATITIS, HERPES or other incurable STDs? Because of the resources you have spent on her, time, money, etc, and because you're so used to her, your brain is beginning to malfunction and refusing to see the danger signs. I pity for you sha. I just hope we don't read how you locked yourself in a room upstairs with this lady after she has become your wife then tortured her to death and killed yourself too with her children downstairs. Count your loss and move on. |
Re: Help!!! I Caught Her Cheating A Second Time by kindlyheart: 8:43pm On Jun 22, 2021 |
she can't cheat on you since you guys are not legally married. |
Re: Help!!! I Caught Her Cheating A Second Time by MiaB(f): 8:47pm On Jun 22, 2021 |
Usmanzy:He deserves better? All you people commenting are a bunch of jokers. They deserve each other since they both cheat 3 Likes |
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