ThEGodFaThEr103:
You're truly selfish. You rejected the guy and he opted for your friend and your friend accepted and now you're having issues with your friend over a guy you rejected his proposals. You cannot eat your cake and have it. Your friend made a wise decision knowingfully well that "man dey scarce for market".

Most especially serious man.

well lets think about it critically, was there a breach of trust in her scenario ?

Plut01:

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Sadly, this is what the OP failed to understand from the onset. Probably why she trusted the friend.

With this, she should be able to know that she is not as important to the friend as she thought and stop trusting who doesn't deserve trust. Life goes on obviously End of discussion.

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like1:


No I think it's more or less same feeling.

We are humans, imagine you have a pally pally, you have been telling him how you are in love with a girl and want her badly, but sadly for you the girl didn't agree to your advances and you let that slide, but then you now get to know that this your pally pally is now dating this same girl you have been wanting and discussing with him that rejected you. So you are telling me that everything and your friendship will still be the same with your Pally from your end.

Imagine hanging out with your Pally and he has to come along with his girlfriend who rejected your advances.

Omo tell yourself the truth oo. Even if you are so mature and god-like, you will still have 1 or 2 reservations about your Pally after that.

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I think you put it better than I did. No matter what, one will still have a part doubting the Friend. It's just human nature...... Once bitten, twice shy.

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I'm the man in question. Dating her is my best decision in life. Her love for me is genuine

You're naturally stupid. You have no atom of human dignity. Your friend is not you and you are not your friend.

Every chic is hustling. The commodity is very few. You reject one and the on watcher will grab it.

It's an animal kingdom. Dog eat dog. Baby I hope that you have learnt few lessons.

Be wise as serpent and better luck next time.

But op, you stupid o.

Why didn't you agree to date him... You were doing shakara now e dey pain you say your friend wan dey shine him kombo...com'n gerattt from here.. yeye dey smell.

LadyRosa:
Yes you're selfish and a very bitter friend. I wouldn't want to keep friends like you either, as you may seize a chance to dish off what you don't want because giving it to me might be of great help to me especially if it makes me more attractive. I know girls like you and I avoid them like plague.

Your kind are purely vile and egocentric and should be avoided at all cost.

The guy wooed you, you rejected him. Then he wooed your friend and she accepted. For me, if I was you(even though that's impossible because this heart of mine gat so much honey), I will be sure to tell her to be careful and be sure he cares for her and if she says she's sure, then I will support her wholeheartedly. I'm sure if tomorrow the dude puts a ring on her you will come here wailing that your friend stole your husband - to-be.

Apologize to her and be good. There are many fishes uncaught still swimming around.

You say this trash cuz its not you it haponed to....if it were you, you wouldnt even say this rubbish

Rozcol:
There's no game here I'm talking about the snakelike attitude and betrayal, this is someone she never said anything good about.

The problem you had from the beginning is you are not independent in making up your mind in the issue of relationship and that is why your friend could manipulate you. Most girls are always like this and they eventually cry fowl when they are in the clear. As someone has advised you earlier, always do background check on your own before making decisions. Cheers!

like1:


No I think it's more or less same feeling.

We are humans, imagine you have a pally pally, you have been telling him how you are in love with a girl and want her badly, but sadly for you the girl didn't agree to your advances and you let that slide, but then you now get to know that this your pally pally is now dating this same girl you have been wanting and discussing with him that rejected you. So you are telling me that everything and your friendship will still be the same with your Pally from your end.

Imagine hanging out with your Pally and he has to come along with his girlfriend who rejected your advances.

Omo tell yourself the truth oo. Even if you are so mature and god-like, you will still have 1 or 2 reservations about your Pally after that.

it depends on the kind of friendship you keep...it has happened to me before,even me and my friend joked about it and said since she knows I am a player she said NO to me..and truly at that time I used to be a player. Love know dey my dictionary...but my friend is a lover boy...infact when he wanted to ask the lady out,he told me and I said he should go ahead and after some months the lady saw him as a guy who is going to be faithful and she said yes to him....guess what??After three years both of them still broke up based on issue of genotype....it all depends on how genuine your friendship is with the person....we considered that our friendship is more important than any woman....well maybe it is because we have been friends from childhood sha...

Iceyjayz:
I guess you are married to her now

Hahahahaha.

Stevebamdex:
Ladies And Their Myopic Reasoning Sometimes..The Guy Approached You But You Turned Him Down.
He Wooed Your Friend And She Accepted Him.
Your Analog Mind Should Tell You That Guys No Dey Chase Women For Long Again..If You Keep Us Waiting For Too Long,we Moveeeee!! .
Sorry For Your Pain, But I Like Your Bestie Sha..She No Even Waste Time..

I think you r mad...

sis u no dy shame! if you are looking for a job at zenith bank and u didn't get the job but first bank offered u one , won't u take the job at first bank?

Rozcol:
You are not getting it,how can she secretly went to date someone she never said anything good about.Indeed she's a backstabbing person

You're only saying she never said anything good about him, it still doesn't mean she said something bad about him

I still don't understand why a lady will be vexed with her friend dating Someone that wooed her and she didn't accept.. you no accept no mean say your friend shouldn't. What's your problem? Nawa for some people sha

that I turned him down isn't enough reason for her to date him.

Now you shot yourself in the leg.

So you wanted him to continue following and calling you all day long, it shouldn't always be let him be chasing me before I can consider him.

So wisen up ehhh , next time

Most times, ladies are the cause of their relationship problem.
The guy proposed to you and you rejected.
Now he went to your friend and she accepted.
You dare not blame your friend because she is right and have taken the bold step of wisdom

Klass99:


WoW. This was an interesting experience, didn't the doctor ever tell you what your friend was doing? Did you ever get a chance to set her straight and clear your name? At what point did you find out your friend was bad mouthing you?

@ Rozcol, I think I understand how you feel. Would it have made any difference if she told you I like this guy and won't mind dating him since you are not interested?

You may have still felt the way you do now or even jealousy, because the human heart cab be funny and fickle like that.

The very day we left camp, I was having a rubber band phone with bad battery. I kept calling her all through, she wasn't picking .the guy took her to his relative and later summoned the courage to tell me his is sorry, that he wanted a doctor wife on phone.

Well, that was the last time I saw them but the guy kept in touch for some time but I wasn't buying any formats from him

While the wife stayed for about a year to call me but I ditched them both. It wasn't funny cos were always moving and planning every move like after camp life, work, improvement and all that. It is past though but this lady here is passing through same thing and I know how it feels, for someone you trusted and released your moves to. Right now, always keep your moves to yourself, let them see the results and ask you "THE HOW"?

Atink u don finish your shakara and now learn lesson ,u will also be a big fool for dissing that your friend, what's there ,pls shake it up jaree,no hard feelings .another is coming

bigpicture001:


You say this trash cuz its not you it haponed to....if it were you, you wouldnt even say this rubbish

Stop quoting trash.

iamdapsyj:


The problem you had from the beginning is you are not independent in making up your mind in the issue of relationship and that is why your friend could manipulate you. Most girls are always like this and they eventually cry fowl when they are in the clear. As someone has advised you earlier, always do background check on your own before making decisions. Cheers!

Bros, what is independent? I have found someone I clicked with and working towards post camp activities to accommodate her and push forward and all these I made my friend understand. I had a bad phone or more or less like no phone and I frequently use my friend whom I trusted and shared everything with being that we are from thesame school.
On the day we left camp, I didnt see him, I suffered to get my phone work so I can atleast reach my girl but she wouldn't pick only to find out he went away with her after lies and promise of marriage. It is totally wrong bro, if I didnt introduce and use his phone to call her , he wouldn't meet her but cos I freely trust people.

It is a past experience but it tells is not everyone is a friend, they are rather looking for a single opportunity to bite you.
My write up was to encourage her and tell her how to handle it, this particular guy in op article will still call her later but she should delete and block the numbers of both or give a ghost mode.

That's how one babe I wanted to wife was friendzoning me, I quickly switched to her friend. That one was saying she can't date me because I had shown interest in her friend. Fast forward four years later, both of them are still single. If only they knew all my ex's are all happily married today, them for allow me at least to chop small and tap into the grace

Rozcol:
There's no game here I'm talking about the snakelike attitude and betrayal, this is someone she never said anything good about.

Has she been saying good about other guys?
You keep on stressing she is snake like. Is she that bad, how many of your friends has she snatched.

New definition of WIZARDRY just discovered.

Rozcol:
Yes I had to end my friendship with my once very good friend because she saw nothing wrong in dating someone who used to be so interested in me, that I turned him down isn't enough reason for her to date him

There are so many other guys she can date and it shows the guy does not genuinely love her else he wouldn't have come for me in the first place.

I don't think it's cool for a close friend to go ahead and date someone who was once interested in her friend, its betrayal and also a sign that she doesn't know and respect boundaries and that's dangerous to me, such friends are not to be trusted. She can stab you at the back when you least expect.

Now she's telling people that I'm selfish and petty for having issues with her decision to date the so called guy. What do you think?

I understand your pain dear... You wanted the poor guy to keep chasing all year while you continue with your Hard-To-Get attitude.... Your friend saw opportunity and grabbed it and now you are in "sivia" pain

See this one....I like your friend.she is smart.real men no get time for plenty story.take heart you hear.

I have been following your comments here and there. I think � I like the way you reason and express your thoughts. You really do it bluntly.

LadyRosa:


No be say man dey scarce for market. Man no dey scarce AT ALL. Na money dey scarce for man hand. The thing be say she don see her kind of man, and she quick grab am before the food cold.

SirBunky85:
nonsense fabrication just to be relevant

You think so? I am not popular here and rarely quote ,so I am not seeking any relevant from anyone. It struck me because of my experience and how I felt then which is why I quoted her. There are many other worse articles here but this one struck me.

Enjoy your day bro.

My sister please look for better thing to talk about, despite all wetin dey happen for nigeria na your friend wey dey her own dey enjoy herself with her boyfriend u dey talk about. are u normal? afterall the guy wooed you and u said no so why are you now complaining, so you want to eat your cake and still have it.