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Is Marriage To Cousins A Taboo In Your Part Of Nigeria? by aribisala0(m): 4:59pm On Jul 09, 2021 |
Recently I came across two Nigerians from different states who married their cousin. For now I will not disclose state or religion. We talked and they were both open about it. They said it is not unusual in their part of the country and that it is even actively encouraged and some people know who they will marry from childhood They mentioned "benefits" e.g strong family ties and "keeping wealth in the family" I asked about the risk of children with defects but they discounted this both claiming to have very healthy children In Yoruba land where I come from to the best of my knowledge it is taboo but I am told it happens in a few parts. What is the situation where you are from |
Re: Is Marriage To Cousins A Taboo In Your Part Of Nigeria? by babs18: 5:05pm On Jul 09, 2021 |
Let's wait for elders |
Re: Is Marriage To Cousins A Taboo In Your Part Of Nigeria? by Karleb(m): 5:09pm On Jul 09, 2021 |
It's unhealthy and a taboo where I come from. In the north, it's a normal thing. 1 Like |
Re: Is Marriage To Cousins A Taboo In Your Part Of Nigeria? by wunmi590(m): 5:10pm On Jul 09, 2021 |
My hand no dey |
Re: Is Marriage To Cousins A Taboo In Your Part Of Nigeria? by aribisala0(m): 5:11pm On Jul 09, 2021 |
Considering how life is these days it is expected that many people might have been tempted to have sex with their cousins but this is usually considered shameful if discovered but taking it to the level of marriage is frowned on. I know some communities/groups even forbid marriage from the same village Interestingly it is no forbidden in the bible or Quran. I hear it is very common in the Middle East e.g Dubai 2 Likes |
Re: Is Marriage To Cousins A Taboo In Your Part Of Nigeria? by aribisala0(m): 5:12pm On Jul 09, 2021 |
Karleb:Can I ask where you are from? |
Re: Is Marriage To Cousins A Taboo In Your Part Of Nigeria? by Karleb(m): 5:14pm On Jul 09, 2021 |
aribisala0: Yoruba. |
Re: Is Marriage To Cousins A Taboo In Your Part Of Nigeria? by aribisala0(m): 5:20pm On Jul 09, 2021 |
Karleb: I do not think it is a formal taboo. It is actively discouraged but taboo I am not sure I should point out that when it comes to marriage traditions /sexuality Yoruba do not have the same customs everywhere e.g Ijebu do not circumcise female Interestingly IN NIGERIAN LAW it is not forbidden 1 Like |
Re: Is Marriage To Cousins A Taboo In Your Part Of Nigeria? by Pierocash(m): 5:50pm On Jul 09, 2021 |
In my place,if you have sexual intercourse with your relative,and don't confess it ,both of you will die. It is a taboo. Not to talk of marrying each other. In Yoruba land,some marry like that. |
Re: Is Marriage To Cousins A Taboo In Your Part Of Nigeria? by aribisala0(m): 6:02pm On Jul 09, 2021 |
Pierocash: Where is your place? Do you have facts of those that marry like that in Yoruba land? Ladoja married his cousin? Can you give more specific details |
Re: Is Marriage To Cousins A Taboo In Your Part Of Nigeria? by food4tot: 6:03pm On Jul 09, 2021 |
aribisala0: Which Yoruba sub-group circumcise their females? |
Re: Is Marriage To Cousins A Taboo In Your Part Of Nigeria? by aribisala0(m): 6:05pm On Jul 09, 2021 |
food4tot:Historically virtually ALL except Ijebu . Though the practice is dying out now. The failure to do so by the Ijebu was a point of abuse by other "Yoruba" and a reason for fewer marriages with them In Nigeria virtualy all groups are engaged in the practice and there are many academic articles about this online |
Re: Is Marriage To Cousins A Taboo In Your Part Of Nigeria? by Youngvegetable: 6:56pm On Jul 09, 2021 |
Autism is real. Don't play with that sh!t |
Re: Is Marriage To Cousins A Taboo In Your Part Of Nigeria? by aribisala0(m): 7:16pm On Jul 09, 2021 |
Youngvegetable:Autism is caused by marrying cousins? |
Re: Is Marriage To Cousins A Taboo In Your Part Of Nigeria? by Pierocash(m): 7:19pm On Jul 09, 2021 |
[quote author=aribisala0 post=103539553] . 1 Like |
Re: Is Marriage To Cousins A Taboo In Your Part Of Nigeria? by aribisala0(m): 7:23pm On Jul 09, 2021 |
Pierocash:If that is true then it must be in the public domain/intternet There are many degrees of "cousin" . On this thread I am referring specifically to First Cousins i.e children of a Full sibling of a father or mother. Not second third cousin etc Though in my part of Nigeria if all of these are discouraged generally. Anyway you would seem to be the only one to have watched that interview and even if that were true it does not mean it is accepted practice in Yorubaland as you suggested. It is not |
Re: Is Marriage To Cousins A Taboo In Your Part Of Nigeria? by Pierocash(m): 7:39pm On Jul 09, 2021 |
aribisala0:the word cousin connotes family ties,whether 1st,2nd,or 3rd cousin, they are related by blood. In my place you can't date even your hundredth cousin not to talk of marrying them. 1 Like |
Re: Is Marriage To Cousins A Taboo In Your Part Of Nigeria? by aribisala0(m): 7:41pm On Jul 09, 2021 |
Pierocash:Where is your place? Are you ashamed to tell us? |
Re: Is Marriage To Cousins A Taboo In Your Part Of Nigeria? by Pierocash(m): 7:43pm On Jul 09, 2021 |
aribisala0:I am from the south south |
Re: Is Marriage To Cousins A Taboo In Your Part Of Nigeria? by aribisala0(m): 7:44pm On Jul 09, 2021 |
Pierocash:There is no place like that. Clearly you are not proud of your ethnic group |
Re: Is Marriage To Cousins A Taboo In Your Part Of Nigeria? by Pierocash(m): 7:46pm On Jul 09, 2021 |
aribisala0:did you tell us where you are from? You only said yoruba. Yoruba is south west |
Re: Is Marriage To Cousins A Taboo In Your Part Of Nigeria? by aribisala0(m): 7:49pm On Jul 09, 2021 |
Pierocash:I am actually not interested in place origin . Just the ethnic/traditional rules on endogamy whether among Yoruba Igbos Hausa Fulani etc You are the one that came here and made statements about "My place" second you are the one telling us Yoruba practise cousin marriage and Ladoja married his cousin but this would never happen in "My place" You have mentioned "my place" several times but are not proud of it So if you did not bring it up I won't ask but since it is a matter of shame for you let us leave it |
Re: Is Marriage To Cousins A Taboo In Your Part Of Nigeria? by Pierocash(m): 8:09pm On Jul 09, 2021 |
aribisala0:it is not a matter of not been proud or thing of shame. I do not want to divulge my ethnicity to you in a public space because it has got nothing to do with the topic under discuss |
Re: Is Marriage To Cousins A Taboo In Your Part Of Nigeria? by aribisala0(m): 8:13pm On Jul 09, 2021 |
Pierocash: Actually your ethnicity is important here BECAUSE YOU mentioned your place. No one forced you and you mentioned it TWICE so it is natural to question that if you do not want to disclose it fine but if you did then the purpose would be to interrogate your claim with regard to the topic . Your reason for not disclosing is not really believable because this is an anonymous forum The other thing is your comment about Yoruba I want to believe that you are just ignorant and were not being mischievous Cousin marriage is not approved anywhere in Yoruba land and your claim about Ladoja remains unfounded and unsubstantiated There are imported customs in Nigeria Christian and Muslim but here we are focussing on traditional practice |
Re: Is Marriage To Cousins A Taboo In Your Part Of Nigeria? by Pierocash(m): 10:33pm On Jul 09, 2021 |
aribisala0:suite yourself |
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