Guys I need your help here, me and my gal have been together for 6 yrs now, I was convinced that she's the one for me, so I decided to engage her late last year, at least to show that her position in my life is not taken for granted , we have really been through hell for each other even when there was nothing she was there for me, but thank God today I'm working now.

Now for the past 2 yrs, It looks as if I have been struggling to keep her, cos we have been cohabiting since I came back from nysc. Since I came back over two yrs now she has been mishaving , she locks her phone constantly, something she never did before, even if its opened the apps are lock only her can open it, if complain abt that she will respond like why will I touch her phone, asking me who does that, to touch a woman's phone even to go to social media, and she has being subjecting me to that because I don't trust her, when we are about to sleep she put her phone on flight mode, and put it under her pillow and put her head on top. Her phone is constantly on silent mode during day time so if it rings she will determind whom to pick so I won't hear and know. We can't watch movie together as partners perhaps she afraid of who will call next ,because she knows I will give her hit.

If I manage to pick up her call she will be shivering,
We have had alot of issues because of her giving in to distractions , I'm tired of talking , I don beat her tire my hand don bend. I have told her if u don't want me again and you have seen somewhere better , open up and tell me instead of cheating that will be honorable thing to do. I don tire for this gal, if I drive her away she has no where to go. The school she's going I'm the one supporting her, her family is not giving her enough support because the don't believing in education all the know is business, and I'm the only one bearing her load and i'm not doing that because i want to marry her, i'm doing it because she needs help and she is my lover.
She doesn't want to loose me because we have really suffered together so she want to keep me as potential husband and still be playing games outside , what crime did I do to go for service so I can come back and make life better for us, cos that was when she got spoilt. I deflowered her and thats not how I left her.

I have resolved chasing her away, right now I'm in offshore , I never trusted her while I was on land is it now that I'm offshore I will trust her?

"I have resolved chasing her away, right now I'm in offshore , I never trusted her while I was on land is it now that I'm offshore I will trust her?"


Your senses shall guide you.

Your instincts are correct. Follow it.

Zeal0000007:
I don beat her tire my hand don bend.

I think she needs to leave you before she cuts off you bent hand!

Never hit a woman you call your wife or wife to be, for what? That's a shameful thing to do. You even said it as if she's your younger sister or something, no remorse, no shame. You are an irresponsible man. Please stop that act immediately.

Back to the main matter. If your engaged babe locks her phone and she refuses to unlock it for you for any reason known to her, its a bad sign... Do the needful and dump her immediately.

I don't like nonsense.

Na wa!

Young man ! U better dnt KILL yourself cos of a girlfriend.If she act up/lock her phone,U too do d same.U can as well make a fake phone call to one Chioma like Hello cutie and use one eye watch her

The expo has been written by it self on your instinction

She's obviously DD


Copy her character's and sees if she would change.

JESUS IS LORD

Baba you have your answer already

No allow ur sympathy for her today,destroy u tomorrow. Since she no wan consider her family background,give u her all and get both degree and marriage certificates.let her go, cos she will cheat ur destiny out of u.

Naso my bro babe lock phone due to regular change of pin.she forget her pin.na park she pack the phone.

who say make you beat her in the 1st place , mtcheew , see your long head , talk to her to one last time about what bothers you deeply & if still no changes , abort mission brother , taking care of her isn't your responsibility &who says she's keeping you as a future husband , what if she's just using u as a rebound ?? & prolly dump you on her grad .. bro affairs of relationships are like chameleons faces , Iv had my own fair share. ..

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Zeal0000007:
Guys I need your help here, me and my gal have been together for 6 yrs now, I was convinced that she's the one for me, so I decided to engage her late last year, at least to show that her position in my life is not taken for granted , we have really been through hell for each other even when there was nothing she was there for me, but thank God today I'm working now.

Now for the past 2 yrs, It looks as if I have been struggling to keep her, cos we have been cohabiting since I came back from nysc. Since I came back over two yrs now she has been mishaving , she locks her phone constantly, something she never did before, even if its opened the apps are lock only her can open it, if complain abt that she will respond like why will I touch her phone, asking me who does that, to touch a woman's phone even to go to social media, and she has being subjecting me to that because I don't trust her, when we are about to sleep she put her phone on flight mode, and put it under her pillow and put her head on top. Her phone is constantly on silent mode during day time so if it rings she will determind whom to pick so I won't hear and know. We can't watch movie together as partners perhaps she afraid of who will call next ,because she knows I will give her hit.

If I manage to pick up her call she will be shivering,
We have had alot of issues because of her giving in to distractions , I'm tired of talking , I don beat her tire my hand don bend. I have told her if u don't want me again and you have seen somewhere better , open up and tell me instead of cheating that will be honorable thing to do. I don tire for this gal, if I drive her away she has no where to go. The school she's going I'm the one supporting her, her family is not giving her enough support because the don't believing in education all the know is business, and I'm the only one bearing her load and i'm not doing that because i want to marry her, i'm doing it because she needs help and she is my lover.
She doesn't want to loose me because we have really suffered together so she want to keep me as potential husband and still be playing games outside , what crime did I do to go for service so I can come back and make life better for us, cos that was when she got spoilt. I deflowered her and thats not how I left her.

I have resolved chasing her away, right now I'm in offshore , I never trusted her while I was on land is it now that I'm offshore I will trust her?

You have done very well..... don't condone any act of misconduct

Point of correction...you dint suffer together, stop deceiving ur brain that u did....
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Cos has she ever fed you for a month or few months?.....I'm not talking of transport fare or one day food u got from her...cos many of ur friends could have done that
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Has she ever paid your house rent for six month or one year when you had no where to go?...so which suffer did she suffer for u....
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.. Someone u feed, give money, sponsor at schl..lol...u get sense so? How did she suffer for u..abi na u dey suffer alone while she uses u as her support system......at least without u, she would have even suffered more...guys can fool themselves Sha...
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Maybe u want to say she gave u pvssy when u were suffering and u quickly equate it to mean she suffered for fvcking a suffering guy...lol.
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May God one day return ur sense...u suffer together kor..ozuor

Oh boy.

If e dey your mind to help her then do...but not because of all those we suffered together or i deflowered her crap.

Obviously she is see someone else don't let your weak heart deceive you.

Get yourself another girl... moreover she's still in her phase let her be.

Dem no dey force relationship.

Separate your emotions from your brain.

Dating somebody Daughter for 6 years you didn't pay her bride prize, cohabiting and choosing her and you want her to be faithful. May it happen to your sisters too. At the end if you have a daughter may some one date her for 6 years and dump her too.



What a wicked and selfish world we live in.

You don't ever lay your hands on a woman. Always remember your instinct will never lead you astray, open ya eyes my brother

You were wrong for hitting her, no matter how unfaithful a lady is to you do not hit her. Maturity demands that you let her go. Please stop this nonsense of supporting her for school and others. I have been there. Please walkaway and look for a matured reasonable lady to marry. You dont marry someone who does not have value and respect for you. The moment a girl start been secretive there is something she is hiding its very difficult this days to find faithful ladies very difficult. same thing 4 of my girlfriends did to me. please save yourself future heart break from this lady, you are only a means to an end not the end for her. with all this red flags i can tell you this girl will not and will never marry you. Be wise and fix your life in order, look for a matured lady who loves and cherish you, who knows what responsibility is, who knows the game of the street but not a street dog. There are good girls out there, may God lead you to your wife, this one is not your own If she can not listen to you she will never do it in marriage.
Have yor parameters and yardstick in relationship, please always know when a lady wants you for marriage i mean she truly wants to marry u and not want to use u.

Zeal0000007:
Guys I need your help here, me and my gal have been together for 6 yrs now, I was convinced that she's the one for me, so I decided to engage her late last year, at least to show that her position in my life is not taken for granted , we have really been through hell for each other even when there was nothing she was there for me, but thank God today I'm working now.

Now for the past 2 yrs, It looks as if I have been struggling to keep her, cos we have been cohabiting since I came back from nysc. Since I came back over two yrs now she has been mishaving , she locks her phone constantly, something she never did before, even if its opened the apps are lock only her can open it, if complain abt that she will respond like why will I touch her phone, asking me who does that, to touch a woman's phone even to go to social media, and she has being subjecting me to that because I don't trust her, when we are about to sleep she put her phone on flight mode, and put it under her pillow and put her head on top. Her phone is constantly on silent mode during day time so if it rings she will determind whom to pick so I won't hear and know. We can't watch movie together as partners perhaps she afraid of who will call next ,because she knows I will give her hit.

If I manage to pick up her call she will be shivering,
We have had alot of issues because of her giving in to distractions , I'm tired of talking , I don beat her tire my hand don bend. I have told her if u don't want me again and you have seen somewhere better , open up and tell me instead of cheating that will be honorable thing to do. I don tire for this gal, if I drive her away she has no where to go. The school she's going I'm the one supporting her, her family is not giving her enough support because the don't believing in education all the know is business, and I'm the only one bearing her load and i'm not doing that because i want to marry her, i'm doing it because she needs help and she is my lover.
She doesn't want to loose me because we have really suffered together so she want to keep me as potential husband and still be playing games outside , what crime did I do to go for service so I can come back and make life better for us, cos that was when she got spoilt. I deflowered her and thats not how I left her.

I have resolved chasing her away, right now I'm in offshore , I never trusted her while I was on land is it now that I'm offshore I will trust her?

Are you serious Like are you really really serious? You lay your filthy hands on a lady and still posted it here like it is a norm?

Who raised these boys

You need to be arrested and good you have your profile pic glaring for all to see. What sort of rubbish is that? That lady should get you arrested for your beast like attitude and you expect her to remain loyal to you? You think she is foolish? Who wants to marry a woman beater ?


Please free that lady!


Bitter truth is, she is only with you for the money and once she’s done with school...you are so not having her! She’d run!!!

Next time be a gentleman.

Zeal0000007:

I have resolved chasing her away, right now I'm in offshore , I never trusted her while I was on land is it now that I'm offshore I will trust her?

You already know what to do. Problem solved. You caused everything.

1. You don't have principles to checkmate your relationship (a woman that doesn't allow you have access to her phone should only be a f*ck buddy and NEVER make her look like your girlfriend, but friends with benefits)
2. You've cheated on her, but you didn't mention it (true or false? The answer is true)
3. You beat her (yes, beating do reset some women's brain, but I would prefer you reset her brain with principles, but you don't have them)
4. You don't pity humans for too long — those you pity for too long will hurt you for too long
5. Marry a woman that loves you, not a woman you love (the ones that love you will open up to everything and they'll be your partner in crime — they'll tell you about all the guys disturbing them and show you their chats)
6. Don't let a woman emotionally blackmail you
7. When ending a relationship, don't be the one to end it — make her end it; e get why
8. Also, not all relationships end with conversation and closure — some end by being absent and incommunicado for a long time (ghost them)
9. Be emotionally unavailable for all these silly relationship stuff, else you'll drain yourself — don't derive Joy from relationship, but your progress in other aspects of life
10. The less you care while possessing the qualities they need, the more they care and become open to make sure they don't lose you

Any girl who doesn't want to lose you and at the same time doesn't want to open up is a mini Devil in disguise — flee.

Look at how pretty and innocent Chidinma Ojukwu looks and how handsome the man she killed is. She couldn't spare him — she had lots of secrets she was hiding from him and the end is death.

Same thing for women. When a man hides too much, run.

When one partner has lots of secrets, death comes to one of them faster than their appointed time.

It's either the person with the secret will die, but most times, the person who doesn't know the secret is the first to die a premature death.

Zeal0000007:
Guys I need your help here, me and my gal have been together for 6 yrs now, I was convinced that she's the one for me, so I decided to engage her late last year, at least to show that her position in my life is not taken for granted , we have really been through hell for each other even when there was nothing she was there for me, but thank God today I'm working now.

Now for the past 2 yrs, It looks as if I have been struggling to keep her, cos we have been cohabiting since I came back from nysc. Since I came back over two yrs now she has been mishaving , she locks her phone constantly, something she never did before, even if its opened the apps are lock only her can open it, if complain abt that she will respond like why will I touch her phone, asking me who does that, to touch a woman's phone even to go to social media, and she has being subjecting me to that because I don't trust her, when we are about to sleep she put her phone on flight mode, and put it under her pillow and put her head on top. Her phone is constantly on silent mode during day time so if it rings she will determind whom to pick so I won't hear and know. We can't watch movie together as partners perhaps she afraid of who will call next ,because she knows I will give her hit.

If I manage to pick up her call shshivering,
We have had alot of issues because of her giving in to distractions , I'm tired of talking , I don beat her tire my hand don bend. I have told her if u don't want me again and you have seen somewhere better , open up and tell me instead of cheating that will be honorable thing to do. I don tire for this gal, if I drive her away she has no where to go. The school she's going I'm the one supporting her, her family is not giving her enough support because the don't believing in education all the know is business, and I'm the only one bearing her load and i'm not doing that because i want to marry her, i'm doing it because she needs help and she is my lover.
She doesn't want to loose me because we have really suffered together so she want to keep me as potential husband and still be playing games outside , what crime did I do to go for service so I can come back and make life better for us, cos that was when she got spoilt. I deflowered her and thats not how I left her.

I have resolved chasing her away, right now I'm in offshore , I never trusted her while I was on land is it now that I'm offshore I will trust her?

So u wanna kill someone's daughter because she's living with you? Who even said she's cheating? nawao

Opexzy:
Never hit a woman you call your wife or wife to be, for what? That's a shameful thing today. You even said it as if she's your junior sister or something, no remorse, no shame. You are an irresponsible man. Please stop that act immediately.

Back to the main matter. If your engaged babe locks her phone and she refuses to unlock it for you for any reason known to her, its a bad sign... Do the needful and dump her immediately.

I don't like nonsense.

Oh shut it. These are modern men now, weak at heart and weak in the brain. I can understand it is wrong to beat a human because it is a criminal offense. However, do not inject womanese and feminists talking points.

Imagine your statement - it is wrong to beat a woman, but it's fine for a woman to hit a man, or beat a child. It is equally right for a woman to emotionally and verbally abuse a man as well as a child.

These kind of men should be hanged and castrated. These are the men who push feminists agenda and erode the rights of men. These are the push over men who think curdling to women will make them more attractive. These are the pretenders in male body, but think like women.

Men - if you have these kind of people as friends, cut them off completely.

PS: I am for equal rights and justice for all human kind. A woman has not right to hit me or another other human whether a child or maid, just like I have no similar right to hit anybody, whether woman, man, child or servant.

iLegendd:


You already know what to do. Problem solved. You caused everything.

1. You don't have principles to checkmate your relationship (a woman that doesn't allow you have access to her phone should only be a f*ck buddy and NEVER make her look like your girlfriend, but friends with benefits)
2. You've cheated on her, but you didn't mention it (true or false? The answer is true)
3. You beat her (yes, beating do reset some women's brain, but I would prefer you reset her brain with principles, but you don't have them)
4. You don't pity humans for too long — those you pity for too long will hurt you for too long
5. Marry a woman that loves you, not a woman you love (the ones that love you will open up to everything and they'll be your partner in crime — they'll tell you about all the guys disturbing them and show you their chats)
6. Don't let a woman emotionally blackmail you
7. When ending a relationship, don't be the one to end it — make her end it; e get why
8. Also, not all relationships end with conversation and closure — some end by being absent and incommunicado for a long time (ghost them)
9. Be emotionally unavailable for all these silly relationship stuff, else you'll drain yourself — don't derive Joy from relationship, but your progress in other aspects of life
10. The less you care while possessing the qualities they need, the more they care and become open to make sure they don't lose you

Any girl who doesn't want to lose you and at the same time doesn't want to open up is a mini Devil in disguise — flee.

Look at how pretty and innocent Chidinma Ojukwu looks and how handsome the man she killed is. She couldn't spare him — she had lots of secrets she was hiding from him and the end is death.

Same thing for women. When a man hides too much, run.

I concur with this

I stopped reading when you said you Don beat her tire your hand Don bend.

Maka why now? There are better ways to reset a woman's brain to factory setting without laying a finger on her.

That said, you deserve to be happy bro. Whatever you think will give you that happiness, go after it.

Forever is too long to be unhappy.

Both of una deserve una self, you beat her she cheat on you! You are just as useless as she is if she’s cheating and you are beating her.
She no wan lose you because you are the atm and you no wan lose her cause she’s your investment
Una fit gan

SARSCoV2:
"I have resolved chasing her away, right now I'm in offshore , I never trusted her while I was on land is it now that I'm offshore I will trust her?"


Your senses shall guide you.

. Even a wife u stay with everyday still cheats...women are possessed these days. My brother like u said una dey cohabitate. Na trade by barter una dey observe. U pay bills due gives u kpekus. Be grateful u can still log on to her cpu... stop beating her. Grow up. Quench the idea of marriage cos she is not into relationship with you

Danzakidakura:
Dating somebody Daughter for 6 years you didn't pay her bride prize, cohabiting and choosing her and you want her to be faithful. May it happen to your sisters too. At the end if you have a daughter may some one date her for 6 years and dump her too.

What a wicked and selfish world we live in.

Don't forget to mention he beats her too!

You Bleep guy, your story becomes a poo and I stopped reading from the point where you said you don beat her tired, you are a bully no wonder the lady is cheating on you to find real affection with a guy that will respect her dignity. Who gave you the right to beat a lady for goodness sake and you have the mind to come to say it? I beg you don't deserve a real woman, your case is closed.

Zeal0000007:
Guys I need your help here, me and my gal have been together for 6 yrs now, I was convinced that she's the one for me, so I decided to engage her late last year, at least to show that her position in my life is not taken for granted , we have really been through hell for each other even when there was nothing she was there for me, but thank God today I'm working now.

Now for the past 2 yrs, It looks as if I have been struggling to keep her, cos we have been cohabiting since I came back from nysc. Since I came back over two yrs now she has been mishaving , she locks her phone constantly, something she never did before, even if its opened the apps are lock only her can open it, if complain abt that she will respond like why will I touch her phone, asking me who does that, to touch a woman's phone even to go to social media, and she has being subjecting me to that because I don't trust her, when we are about to sleep she put her phone on flight mode, and put it under her pillow and put her head on top. Her phone is constantly on silent mode during day time so if it rings she will determind whom to pick so I won't hear and know. We can't watch movie together as partners perhaps she afraid of who will call next ,because she knows I will give her hit.

If I manage to pick up her call she will be shivering,
We have had alot of issues because of her giving in to distractions , I'm tired of talking , I don beat her tire my hand don bend. I have told her if u don't want me again and you have seen somewhere better , open up and tell me instead of cheating that will be honorable thing to do. I don tire for this gal, if I drive her away she has no where to go. The school she's going I'm the one supporting her, her family is not giving her enough support because the don't believing in education all the know is business, and I'm the only one bearing her load and i'm not doing that because i want to marry her, i'm doing it because she needs help and she is my lover.
She doesn't want to loose me because we have really suffered together so she want to keep me as potential husband and still be playing games outside , what crime did I do to go for service so I can come back and make life better for us, cos that was when she got spoilt. I deflowered her and thats not how I left her.

I have resolved chasing her away, right now I'm in offshore , I never trusted her while I was on land is it now that I'm offshore I will trust her?

You guys need a break and the condition for going on break is for her phone to be unlocked permanently same thing with yours

Marriage is not an open secret game
Raising family can't be done with lack of trust
You can't keep backing an over grown child, who does unimaginable at your back while backing her

Lastly, trust no one

Boss13:


Oh shut it. These are modern men now, weak at heart and weak in the brain. I can understand it is wrong to beat a human because it is a criminal offense. However, do not inject womanese and feminists talking points.

Imagine your statement - it is wrong to beat a woman, but it's fine for a woman to hit a man, or beat a child. It is equally right for a woman to emotionally and verbally abuse a man as well as a child.

These kind of men should be hanged and castrated. These are the men who push feminists agenda and erode the rights of men. These are the push over men who think curdling to women will make them more attractive. These are the pretenders in male body, but think like women.

Men - if you have these kind of people as friends, cut them off completely.

PS: I am for equal rights and justice for all human kind. A woman has not right to hit me or another other human whether a child or maid, just like I have no similar right to hit anybody, whether woman, man, child or servant.

Your stupidity is amazing... Read what you wrote and what I wrote and now judge yourself... Now between me, you and Nairalanders as the third-party, you get sense so?

There is nothing you won't see on Nairaland this days... I will soon leave this place for shallow thinkers like you.
Ewu.

Regarding this phone thing, I'm wondering if you lot never kept a diary. I did, but my primary carer was very nosy so it was written in code. Aeiou was 12345 and the letters between were to powers. No way any damn fuqer was reading my diaries!

Same with phones. It's why we all got passwords. So nosy parkers don't know our business, but I guess I would not ever marry one who bends his hands to beat me.

Let this be a lesson to girls, and women, to raise the education of men because, we grow them, the quality of the tit we stick in the squiggly brats mouth makes it the man it becomes but sour milk breeds pigs.

If we are married and hence had regard and respect for one another I would leave my diary by our bedside and trust that you would not ever touch it not to talk of open and read it! And if we actually really loved each other, I would write in my diary and read it to you every night before you go to sleep.

I might post my diary code if I could recall it. I think I got to a point when even I couldn't decipher what I'd wrote, lol.

budaatum:
Regarding this phone thing, I'm wondering if you lot never kept a diary. I did, but my primary carer was very nosy so it was written in code. Aeiou was 12345 and the letters between were to powers. No way any damn fuqer was reading my diaries!

If we are married and hence had regard and respect for one another I would leave my diary by our bedside and trust that you would not ever touch it not to talk of open and read it! And if we actually really loved each other, I would write in my diary and read it out to you every night before you go to sleep.

The is so so sweet

I might post my diary code if I could recall it. I think I got to a point when even I couldn't decipher what I'd wrote, lol.

Heh. It happens to the best of us. There came a point when I had to do a general reset of all my passwords because I kept forgetting the codes