[quote author=Joteq7 post=103694801]Thank you everyone for your responses. I'm still expecting more advices. I even accept the one that I'm gullible or na juju be this. So how do I remove the feelings I have for her. Its not easy for me. Trust me I have tried. She has broken up with me more times than I can count and I try to do away with my feelings but its been hard. Especially when she comes back apologising.

I'm so attached to her that even her parents call me when they want to tell her something, that its only me she will listen to because she normally has issues with them. I am very much involved with her parents[/quote Come make I hit hammer for ya head e go correct straight

Please, Send me a mail

Joteq7:
Once again. I would to say thank you to everyone for their input but I don't welcome insults. I posted this for advice because I know there are many experienced people in the subject matter here that can advice me. I have only fallen in love once in my life and its this one. I know many have had many loves. Experienced replies pls

Now I kindly ask that if your talk doesn't have any degree of sense in it then just keep ur fingers moving to the next post.

Thank you�

Joteq7:


Just like now that we are arguing about it. I told her I didn't believe her and next thing she told me was she was working all night to get money for us and I want to do this to her, just because I said I didn't believe her and she also said I am a wicked person and God will judge me and then blocked me. All because I told her I didn't believe that she went for any cooking.

bro I know you want to leave her but you are emotionally weakened you have conditioned yourself to think you can’t live or do without her and that is a bigger lie. you still want her deep in you if she admits she bleeped around and begs you you go still take am but if you wants her to want you so bad call her, tell her you are sorry for doubting her that you sorry you took it to that length
Do you have female friends hang out with them or female cousins very sexy ones and post it on your status with love emoji in fine places
Don’t call her like before
Don’t write her first
Be online everytime let her know you are online but don’t chat her
Ghost her post on your status
She will get drawn towards you
Hang outs meet another lady and don’t fall in love next time

There is large room for the suspicion. But, you really need to pray over this and be diligent with your decision to marry her.

[quote author=Joteq7 post=103693096]Please can someone help me understand this. I have been sick for days now and yesterday night, my girlfriend told me she had a cooking job somewhere and it was night time. I didn't want her to go because I was feeling really down but she said she needed the money and she would be back by 10pm. She left at past 7pm.

Around 10pm she sent me a message saying she is sorry that she has a lot of work that she will be back the next morning by 7am. I called her and I told her that I needed help, that I was feeling worse because I wasn't responding to treatment and she also promised to come back that night, she said OK she will come back. I waited for her but she never came.

Around past 11pm I tried calling her but her phone was switched off. I called numerous times but switched off. It rang once but my call was busied. I sent her a message it didn't deliver until later it delivered and she saw it but didn't respond. The so called job she went for is for 5k-10k. I didn't receive a message from her till this morning telling me she is sorry. We have been arguing about it and I've been telling her I don't believe her because why did she switch off her phone? She had her charger with her so low ba3 is not an excuse.

There are many other stories but if I go into them, it would turn to final year project. This one I explained here is just a recent one. I can't even count how many times she has broken up with me for no reason and come back saying she is sorry and she wouldn't do it again.

Mind u, this is a girl I've been sponsoring in her school. She is even older than me by 1 year. She is 28 and I am 27. The reason I am even broke now is because I gave her almost all my salary to pay for her school so that she could write her exam.

I am the one taking care of her in everything so I don't really understand what this is. Everything she needs is provided for her. I even borrow to give her just to make sure she has what she needs because she has no source of financial assistance. I do the things I do because I love her so much and I want her to have the essential things in life not just material things. She is actually my first love. We've been dating for 2 years. This is a girl I think of marrying but when she does things like this I get doubtful.

Please someone help me judge this matter and advice me. I am open to any kind of advice. Thank you![/quote

Simpson what will your mother do when she learns of your repeated foolery . You have sold all your sensibility and pride for sex in love's disguise
Repent or not the choice and consequences are yours

I'll rather tell you what to do to avoid being in the same condition in the hands of another woman. Before I go on, there is nothing wrong with love and being lovingly beneficial to anyone in your life - love remains a sign of strength, not weakness. There is, however, everything wrong with being a slave to your wants, or even needs, like in your case and situation. Strive to conquer yourself - you can achieve this by stopping being a slave to your needs and by having an altruistic interest towards whosoever you wish to get involved with and being conscientious in general always.

You've been in this unwanted place in the relationship because your core source of mental connection with her was your lust for her rather than from an altruistic interest. So, her strong hold on you has nothing to do about any juju; this is not about whether it's potent or not, though. There are just a few other things in this world that has the potency to penetrate a man's central nervous system than a woman whose physical beauty commands his attention - sweetness of a woman - worse if the woman is one who neither has an altruistic interest in you and nor is conscientious. The good thing is that, as a man, you can always squash this effect through the transmutation of energy and emotion. When you become successful in this, you will start loving rather than falling in love, and by extension, you will become the master of your fate and the captain of your soul, desire and destiny when relating with women, and vise versa, and in your professional calling in general.

The easiest and best way to transmute energy and emotion - the emotion of love, the most powerful of all emotions - is by inculcating a philosophy that places principle/inner beauty/immaterial things above expediency/physical beauty/material things. So, you must give - I mean give up greed/self-absorption - before you can reap - self-conquest.

Strive to conquer yourself. When you conquer yourself, even if you are not inherently discerning, you will be able to always tell to a reasonable extent what anyone in your life can do at any given time, subject to circumstances. Also, assuming that you have conquered yourself and relate with her in the same vein, she would have either consciously adjusted her ways and started to walk and work with you on your philosophy and lead in all honesty (except if her delight in vice was caused by a medical and or inherent condition, in which case, you will know that it is beyond her conscious doings and would have possibly consciously decided to tolerate her all things being equal) or you would have dumped her long ago for not meeting up to your standard.

Joteq7:
Please can someone help me understand this. I have been sick for days now and yesterday night, my girlfriend told me she had a cooking job somewhere and it was night time. I didn't want her to go because I was feeling really down but she said she needed the money and she would be back by 10pm. She left at past 7pm.

Around 10pm she sent me a message saying she is sorry that she has a lot of work that she will be back the next morning by 7am. I called her and I told her that I needed help, that I was feeling worse because I wasn't responding to treatment and she also promised to come back that night, she said OK she will come back. I waited for her but she never came.

Around past 11pm I tried calling her but her phone was switched off. I called numerous times but switched off. It rang once but my call was busied. I sent her a message it didn't deliver until later it delivered and she saw it but didn't respond. The so called job she went for is for 5k-10k. I didn't receive a message from her till this morning telling me she is sorry. We have been arguing about it and I've been telling her I don't believe her because why did she switch off her phone? She had her charger with her so low ba3 is not an excuse.

There are many other stories but if I go into them, it would turn to final year project. This one I explained here is just a recent one. I can't even count how many times she has broken up with me for no reason and come back saying she is sorry and she wouldn't do it again.

Mind u, this is a girl I've been sponsoring in her school. She is even older than me by 1 year. She is 28 and I am 27. The reason I am even broke now is because I gave her almost all my salary to pay for her school so that she could write her exam.

I am the one taking care of her in everything so I don't really understand what this is. Everything she needs is provided for her. I even borrow to give her just to make sure she has what she needs because she has no source of financial assistance. I do the things I do because I love her so much and I want her to have the essential things in life not just material things. She is actually my first love. We've been dating for 2 years. This is a girl I think of marrying but when she does things like this I get doubtful.

Please someone help me judge this matter and advice me. I am open to any kind of advice. Thank you!

You're sponsoring a girl in school.....what next after graduation ?

SmellySperm:
If i ever have a son like this one, I'd kick him in the balls and exchange him for weed.

Una no go kill me with laughter for this forum

This life no balance ooo....

Guy I would tell you this, and I tell you once, dump that girl, she doesn't love you. A girl who truly loves you would damn any money she wants to make just to be with you at your weakest state. Yeah you heard me right.
Good women are naturally caregivers ( mark the word "Good women" cos it's not all women that have such attribute).
Sometimes when I am a bit ill, I don't tell my girlfriend cos she would worry herself so much that she even fall sick as well due to worries. She leaves everything she is going to be with me when she hears I am sick, sometimes she even take days off just to be with me even though I tell her not to bother sef. So what I am saying in essence is that your girlfriend doesn't love you.....kapish.

Force12:
You are a bastard

SECONDED

Joteq7:
Once again. I would to say thank you to everyone for their input but I don't welcome insults. I posted this for advice because I know there are many experienced people in the subject matter here that can advice me. I have only fallen in love once in my life and its this one. I know many have had many loves. Experienced replies pls

Now I kindly ask that if your talk doesn't have any degree of sense in it then just keep ur fingers moving to the next post.

Thank you�

Lol. I might have been in your shoes before but I didn't let myself stay too long before I had sense.

You are finding it hard to let go of this girl because of the time and emotions you have invested into the relationship, right?

Joteq7:


USELESS response!! Don't need ur thought. Move on to the next

Assuming say you get sense enough, babe no go dey use you play draft.

Ewo Togo, no go get sense.

Sugardick:
God why?

Baba I tire. Make this one non go hang himself after they break him heart.

Femmyfestus:
My God, Simp everywhere .
Rule1 : Never sponsor any woman education whom you are not married to. Be it your gf, fiancee.
Rule 2: Never forget rule 1

Like our yahoo brother's slogan : Everyday a mugu is born- there is always that one person who would fall prey.

Hmmmm speechless but bros u even spent to the extent of borrowing and staying broke just to please ur woman i remove my cap for you Agape lover! Even jesus nor go do this kind ur sacrifice shuuu.
Small small shall thats all i gat for you and i hope ur younger ones also benefit from this ur selfless sacrifices too?

pregnantMan:
Sorry to say sir..but I think your babe na part time olosho

Even if she's a full time olosho she shouldn't have gone out leaving her sick sponsor not to talk of the fact that he is her boyfriend...i've observe that both gender misbehave when they notice that they're truely loved.

Simp simp simp everywhere I turn simps , you all need to die quick

Bro paying her bills when you are not married to her is not guaranteed she's gon be faithful to you.. She's acting up and if she's not making you feel secure, you end things with her.. There are still good girls out there.. Talking from experience

For the 1st time since 2010 when I knew what NAIRALAND was, I wanted to open another account to share my story. BUT MY GUY, why am I a Nigerian. Babe comout for wealthy background, suddenly she come lost the silver spoon so she became involved in runs...she dey hide do am but me code.. I just kuku do like say I no know wetin dey xup..I don't even think or talk about any of her suspicious stuff. Fear man wey dey keep something for mind cus d day way him wan choke her... I no Sabi find woman na money.. las las I get plans to roll relocate..if she like make she dey do hide and seek love me sef go dey follow her like mumu. Bros since my Uni days, d girl dey perform, so tey I come understand say women get power..It took time until I got to understand every move of the player..my guy most times u even need the help of guys to catch a smart girl.. now I'm free.. forming blind eye..
My advise to u..u don try,, u let love overtake u..But now it's either u quick marry her make ur mind rest or you bullshit her for ur sanity. Me I no sponsor person o.

NeeKlaus:

Lol. I might have been in your shoes before but I didn't let myself stay too long before I had sense.

You are finding it hard to let go of this girl because of the time and emotions you have invested into the relationship, right?

off course now.. him no get any other answer. No juju is involved here naim make I don advise am.. when I been dey abj my neighbor Mike been dey into dis cattle rearing bizness as a student...bros sponsored a girl tru poly...infact the girl parents dey call am day and night even before their daughter. Babe finish tell bros say him too local... Korokoro winch. As a boy I learnt from men's experience... I just dey look my babe dey laff.

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Mowii:
bro I know you want to leave her but you are emotionally weakened you have conditioned yourself to think you can’t live or do without her and that is a bigger lie. you still want her deep in you if she admits she bleeped around and begs you you go still take am but if you wants her to want you so bad call her, tell her you are sorry for doubting her that you sorry you took it to that length
Do you have female friends hang out with them or female cousins very sexy ones and post it on your status with love emoji in fine places
Don’t call her like before
Don’t write her first
Be online everytime let her know you are online but don’t chat her
Ghost her post on your status
She will get drawn towards you
Hang outs meet another lady and don’t fall in love next time

How I wish I can like this comment 1000 times. I go through all the comments and this is the best of them all.

NeeKlaus:

Lol. I might have been in your shoes before but I didn't let myself stay too long before I had sense.

You are finding it hard to let go of this girl because of the time and emotions you have invested into the relationship, right?

Yes! I've tried to let go but it's been hard for me

Azammmi:
Simp simp simp everywhere I turn simps , you all need to die quick

U need help! You're clearly mentally deranged. Na ur type wey problem no dey finish. Unwanted comment.

Take ur shit elsewhere. No dey talk death anyhow before na u experience first. Disgrace of a human

I dumped my boyfriend because $10000

In the world today, being poor is bad.. See how this beautify girl denies her boyfriend because of $10000

https://youtu.be/ZgNPxc8zANU

You caused it Kid..
You should have sold your two kidneys to buy her a Rolls Royce.. pls do that and she would stop giving you attitude..
Be a REAL Man and follow my advice..

Uncle93:


Bro, she is obviously rid*ing another di*ck those times her phone was off and ur line was busy, she blocked your ass. Why is it so hard for you people to be smart enough to know these girls are always a step ahead of you... and she couldn't even sacrifice 2 mints to call you at night where she was cooking ? Scam .. dey they've chewed her in all holes man. Know this and know peace

Guy.. why you go tell this Fool OP the truth nah..
Leave him with his folly nah..
I told him to sell his Kidneys and buy a Royce with it for his GF..
This Assholes don't need nor value sound advice..

pregnantMan:
Sorry to say sir..but I think your babe na part time olosho

This truth you are telling him is too big for him to handle ...

And some people would say sponsor the girl child

The day you give a woman a taste of what it means to liberal that is the day she would become unruly

Give a woman small power and watch how she turns out to be

Modern day should start becomming selfish because women wont do the same for you if the roles were reversed.

Start saying no

Rossy12:
Uhnnnn, we still hv some gud guys out there, I dnt really knw wat some girls want. Trade with caution!!!

You gender oo!

Your girlfriend is a runs girl specialized in cooking for men on bed

The thing is you've seen the red flag since all these days buh you keep having that thought "she'll change one day". A broken relationship is better than a broken marriage, if you don't want her to mess with you more, end the relationship. Block her everywhere if she'll proving hard to let go.