apatheticme:


Lol!

You get time.

Many of them here are simply haters, they do not wish to learn or face reality. Afterall it's easy to just hate women blindly and follow the bandwagon mentality of misogyny rather than accept the fact that people are different either male or female.

There are good people and there are bad people everywhere, regardless of gender!

Enjoy the rest of your day!

iLegendd:


Below is the part 2.

I want to tell you (men) something no one will tell you about dating...

There is nothing like "phone privacy" in relationship.

Don't date a woman who refuses you access to her phone at any time you want — only be her friend-with-benefit and don't ever invest emotion in the friendship.

It's an open relationship the moment she refuses you access to her phone. Something is fishy.

For her not to allow you access to her phone, she is either cheating on her main boyfriend with you or she's cheating on you, the supposed main boyfriend, with a cooler guy in the block or her ex.

Though, she may not have had sex with him yet, but they'll get to that soon, so she's hiding the buildup from you before you you catch her halfway.

Sometimes, it may be multiple admirers she doesn't want to sleep with, but extort.

Since the conversation she's having with them sounds like she likes them, she doesn't want you to come across them and think she's cheating. No, she hasn't cheated with him/them, but faking to love him to extort him.

Any woman who can do this is a scammer and scamming is cheating. What if she scams the wrong guy and he rapes her when he realizes she's playing games with him? So, trying to scam another man while dating you is cheating.

Or, she isn't cheating, but she doesn't want you to read her old chats with her female bestie and see all the nasty things they did or talked about in the past or present.

So, the moment

1. ...she refuses you having access to her phone chat, she's cheated, cheating, or will soon cheat

2. ...she deletes her messages after reading, she's cheated, cheating, or will soon cheat

3. ...she has too more than 2 SIMs, but you don't know about the rest of her SIMs, she's cheated, cheating, or will soon cheat

4. ...she causes drama, disrespectful, nags, and threatens to leave, she's cheated, cheating, or will soon cheat

The main purpose of this post is: the moment she doesn't allow you access to her phone, she is scared of something and it is one of the below

1. She has cheated (doesn't want you to find out)

2. She's currently cheating (doesn't want you to find out)

3. She'll soon cheat (doesn't want you to find out)

4. She isn't cheating, but there is a confidential information she doesn't want you to see and this may be a health issue, family issue, business deal, a dangerous or embarrassing situation she's in, or any other thing she doesn't feel comfortable showing you

As a man, be wise enough to make sure she's only your friend-with-benefit, not your girlfriend and use condom when you want to have sex with her.

Who knows, she's probably not your girlfriend, but another man's girlfriend who wants to cheat on her main boyfriend with you.

When going into a new relationship with a woman, go into it as if she's cheating on her main boyfriend with you — not as if you've got yourself a new girlfriend.

Your mission is to take your share of the pussy (if that's what you want) then silently investigate who her main man is.

This way, you won't see her as cheating on you when you accidentally read her chats with her main boyfriend as her cheating on you with the man.

This will help you not to experience heartbreak, but pride. It'll be like: "Oh, she cheated on that man with me, so I must be better than the man in her eyes," instead of, "Oh, she cheated on me with that man — he must be better than me in her eyes." And boom, you become depressed and heartbroken.

Save yourself from heartbreak by

1. Having strategies and
2. Principles

Failure to do this, you'll end up being heartbroken several times and end up hating innocent women who actually cheated on their boyfriends with you and not the other way round.

It's only the other way round if she calls him her ex, then goes back to sleep with him behind your back.

As I have said, have principles and strategies (even if you're not the most handsome or richest), else you'll regularly be creating heartbreak threads on Nairaland and we'll all laugh at you as we do to so many men on Nairaland front-page.

Be wise and don't let any woman you wish to marry hide her phone from you. The moment she does, take her out of "I want to marry her," group and put her in, "F*ck and go," group.

A word is enough for the wise. Unfortunately, some men have been rejected by women to the point they've lost their self-esteem, so when they manage to get a pretty women, they end up putting up with all her bad behaviors and secrecy.

Please, don't be that man. Even if women have rejected you all your life, don't lose your self-worth and settle for less — someone who will cheat on you, hide things from you, and do what she likes while being your girlfriend or wife.

Don't die before your time through heartbreak and depression. Prevent it now by having principles and strategies.

Cut off anything that'll lead you to heartbreak or depression early on.

Delay is dangerous. A bad woman never changes — it can only get worse after one month or two of pretending to have changed. A bad man can change, but a bad woman doesn't change totally.

I still like women more than I like men, but I don't side them in their evil doings — neither do I side men.

Be wise, and be ready for the journey ahead. Life is a cruise — catch it with a ship or a canoe — it's your choice.

Xilsbridalhouse:

Are you serious Like are you really really serious? You lay your filthy hands on a lady and still posted it here like it is a norm?

Who raised these boys

You need to be arrested and good you have your profile pic glaring for all to see. What sort of rubbish is that? That lady should get you arrested for your beast like attitude and you expect her to remain loyal to you? You think she is foolish? Who wants to marry a woman beater ?


Please free that lady!


Bitter truth is, she is only with you for the money and once she’s done with school...you are so not having her! She’d run!!!

Next time be a gentleman.

Zeal0000007:
Guys I need your help here, me and my gal have been together for 6 yrs now, I was convinced that she's the one for me, so I decided to engage her late last year, at least to show that her position in my life is not taken for granted , we have really been through hell for each other even when there was nothing she was there for me, but thank God today I'm working now.

Now for the past 2 yrs, It looks as if I have been struggling to keep her, cos we have been cohabiting since I came back from nysc. Since I came back over two yrs now she has been mishaving , she locks her phone constantly, something she never did before, even if its opened the apps are lock only her can open it, if complain abt that she will respond like why will I touch her phone, asking me who does that, to touch a woman's phone even to go to social media, and she has being subjecting me to that because I don't trust her, when we are about to sleep she put her phone on flight mode, and put it under her pillow and put her head on top. Her phone is constantly on silent mode during day time so if it rings she will determind whom to pick so I won't hear and know. We can't watch movie together as partners perhaps she afraid of who will call next ,because she knows I will give her hit.

If I manage to pick up her call she will be shivering,
We have had alot of issues because of her giving in to distractions , I'm tired of talking , I don beat her tire my hand don bend. I have told her if u don't want me again and you have seen somewhere better , open up and tell me instead of cheating that will be honorable thing to do. I don tire for this gal, if I drive her away she has no where to go. The school she's going I'm the one supporting her, her family is not giving her enough support because the don't believing in education all the know is business, and I'm the only one bearing her load and i'm not doing that because i want to marry her, i'm doing it because she needs help and she is my lover.
She doesn't want to loose me because we have really suffered together so she want to keep me as potential husband and still be playing games outside , what crime did I do to go for service so I can come back and make life better for us, cos that was when she got spoilt. I deflowered her and thats not how I left her.

I have resolved chasing her away, right now I'm in offshore , I never trusted her while I was on land is it now that I'm offshore I will trust her?

SimplyFacts:


This OP is werey o, saying una don beat her tire . Some girls dey endure anything sha.

Bigdre31:
who say make you beat her in the 1st place , mtcheew , see your long head , talk to her to one last time about what bothers you deeply & if still no changes , abort mission brother , taking care of her isn't your responsibility &who says she's keeping you as a future husband , what if she's just using u as a rebound ?? & prolly dump you on her grad .. bro affairs of relationships are like chameleons faces , Iv had my own fair share. ..

Zeal0000007:
Guys I need your help here, me and my gal have been together for 6 yrs now, I was convinced that she's the one for me, so I decided to engage her late last year, at least to show that her position in my life is not taken for granted , we have really been through hell for each other even when there was nothing she was there for me, but thank God today I'm working now.

Now for the past 2 yrs, It looks as if I have been struggling to keep her, cos we have been cohabiting since I came back from nysc. Since I came back over two yrs now she has been mishaving , she locks her phone constantly, something she never did before, even if its opened the apps are lock only her can open it, if complain abt that she will respond like why will I touch her phone, asking me who does that, to touch a woman's phone even to go to social media, and she has being subjecting me to that because I don't trust her, when we are about to sleep she put her phone on flight mode, and put it under her pillow and put her head on top. Her phone is constantly on silent mode during day time so if it rings she will determind whom to pick so I won't hear and know. We can't watch movie together as partners perhaps she afraid of who will call next ,because she knows I will give her hit.

If I manage to pick up her call she will be shivering,
We have had alot of issues because of her giving in to distractions , I'm tired of talking , I don beat her tire my hand don bend. I have told her if u don't want me again and you have seen somewhere better , open up and tell me instead of cheating that will be honorable thing to do. I don tire for this gal, if I drive her away she has no where to go. The school she's going I'm the one supporting her, her family is not giving her enough support because the don't believing in education all the know is business, and I'm the only one bearing her load and i'm not doing that because i want to marry her, i'm doing it because she needs help and she is my lover.
She doesn't want to loose me because we have really suffered together so she want to keep me as potential husband and still be playing games outside , what crime did I do to go for service so I can come back and make life better for us, cos that was when she got spoilt. I deflowered her and thats not how I left her.

I have resolved chasing her away, right now I'm in offshore , I never trusted her while I was on land is it now that I'm offshore I will trust her?

Queenserah26:
I stopped reading when you said you Don beat her tire your hand Don bend.

Maka why now? There are better ways to reset a woman's brain to factory setting without laying a finger on her.

That said, you deserve to be happy bro. Whatever you think will give you that happiness, go after it.
You sure say you stop reading ??
Forever is too long to be unhappy.

harjay1986:


Oil Money bag but why is it dat most people working offshore always has this same issue ..... the only set that dont have such are the one that have done the marriage right on the woman and also impregnate her..... before gaining offshore job ... by then naa shee go dey fear to loose you

Zeal0000007:

Her phone is constantly on silent mode during day time so if it rings she will determind whom to pick so I won't hear and know. We can't watch movie together as partners perhaps she afraid of who will call next ,because she knows I will give her hit.

maryjames9:
The Op should be arrested and locked up for battery. He is even stupid for saying it in a public forum. Someone should grab his picture from his profile and tag it a woman beater. Better report his atrocities to Police. Useless good for nothing hopeless insecure men.

You were dating a lady for 6 good years. Cohabiting with the lady. I blame the lady for making herself so cheap as to live with you without paying her bride price. I will advise the woman to dumb your ass. If you want to fight, why not face your fellow men or visit a hymn where you can exercise your punching skill.

Danzakidakura:
Dating somebody Daughter for 6 years you didn't pay her bride prize, cohabiting and choosing her and you want her to be faithful. May it happen to your sisters too. At the end if you have a daughter may some one date her for 6 years and dump her too.

What a wicked and selfish world we live in.

Zeal0000007:
Guys I need your help here, me and my gal have been together for 6 yrs now, I was convinced that she's the one for me, so I decided to engage her late last year, at least to show that her position in my life is not taken for granted , we have really been through hell for each other even when there was nothing she was there for me, but thank God today I'm working now.

Now for the past 2 yrs, It looks as if I have been struggling to keep her, cos we have been cohabiting since I came back from nysc. Since I came back over two yrs now she has been mishaving , she locks her phone constantly, something she never did before, even if its opened the apps are lock only her can open it, if complain abt that she will respond like why will I touch her phone, asking me who does that, to touch a woman's phone even to go to social media, and she has being subjecting me to that because I don't trust her, when we are about to sleep she put her phone on flight mode, and put it under her pillow and put her head on top. Her phone is constantly on silent mode during day time so if it rings she will determind whom to pick so I won't hear and know. We can't watch movie together as partners perhaps she afraid of who will call next ,because she knows I will give her hit.

If I manage to pick up her call she will be shivering,
We have had alot of issues because of her giving in to distractions , I'm tired of talking , I don beat her tire my hand don bend. I have told her if u don't want me again and you have seen somewhere better , open up and tell me instead of cheating that will be honorable thing to do. I don tire for this gal, if I drive her away she has no where to go. The school she's going I'm the one supporting her, her family is not giving her enough support because the don't believing in education all the know is business, and I'm the only one bearing her load and i'm not doing that because i want to marry her, i'm doing it because she needs help and she is my lover.
She doesn't want to loose me because we have really suffered together so she want to keep me as potential husband and still be playing games outside , what crime did I do to go for service so I can come back and make life better for us, cos that was when she got spoilt. I deflowered her and thats not how I left her.

I have resolved chasing her away, right now I'm in offshore , I never trusted her while I was on land is it now that I'm offshore I will trust her?

Zeal0000007:
Guys I need your help here, me and my gal have been together for 6 yrs now, I was convinced that she's the one for me, so I decided to engage her late last year, at least to show that her position in my life is not taken for granted , we have really been through hell for each other even when there was nothing she was there for me, but thank God today I'm working now.

Now for the past 2 yrs, It looks as if I have been struggling to keep her, cos we have been cohabiting since I came back from nysc. Since I came back over two yrs now she has been mishaving , she locks her phone constantly, something she never did before, even if its opened the apps are lock only her can open it, if complain abt that she will respond like why will I touch her phone, asking me who does that, to touch a woman's phone even to go to social media, and she has being subjecting me to that because I don't trust her, when we are about to sleep she put her phone on flight mode, and put it under her pillow and put her head on top. Her phone is constantly on silent mode during day time so if it rings she will determind whom to pick so I won't hear and know. We can't watch movie together as partners perhaps she afraid of who will call next ,because she knows I will give her hit.

If I manage to pick up her call she will be shivering,
We have had alot of issues because of her giving in to distractions , I'm tired of talking , I don beat her tire my hand don bend. I have told her if u don't want me again and you have seen somewhere better , open up and tell me instead of cheating that will be honorable thing to do. I don tire for this gal, if I drive her away she has no where to go. The school she's going I'm the one supporting her, her family is not giving her enough support because the don't believing in education all the know is business, and I'm the only one bearing her load and i'm not doing that because i want to marry her, i'm doing it because she needs help and she is my lover.
She doesn't want to loose me because we have really suffered together so she want to keep me as potential husband and still be playing games outside , what crime did I do to go for service so I can come back and make life better for us, cos that was when she got spoilt. I deflowered her and thats not how I left her.

I have resolved chasing her away, right now I'm in offshore , I never trusted her while I was on land is it now that I'm offshore I will trust her?